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Once you start catching on to the big RED picture, you'll find unexpected red pills in unexpected places- because, yes, this is reality and the pieces all fit together like a massive puzzle. I remember watching the Paradox of Choice TED Talk on a whim, and suddenly understanding why the Sexual Marketplace had changed so much over the last ten years.

The Paradox of Choice goes like this: People have too many choices in today's world, people like having choices but there are diminishing returns on excessive choice, and being offered too many options will ultimately make someone unhappy.

Sound familiar?

This was before I got to the point where I understood that women's sexual choices were intentionally limited in traditional societies to avoid the very problem we have today- women slutting it up with dozens of men until they hit the wall, and then living the rest of their days bitter and miserable.

Taking this idea to its logical end, it's why modern women love living in big cities- endless selection, endless choice, and ultimately a lot of unhappiness.

Does nearly limitless choice translate to a greater degree of personal happiness?

Do you spend more time picking movies on Netflix… or it Hulu? YouTube or cable… maybe your own collection, than you do… wait, did you even pick a streaming service yet?

The Paradox of Choice is a theory stating that when there is a dramatic increase in options the more difficult it then becomes to make a choice, and the easier it is to regret the choice made. The greater availability of excessive choice leads to an increase in expectation of how satisfying the options will be- this ultimately produces a less satisfying result, even when the result would have otherwise been adequate.

Connecting with fellow singles online is almost always more successful for women than it is for men.

This is usually how it goes…

Online dating provides women with a tremendous amount of perceived choice and option- far more than she would garner in her own real life. This abundance of choice creates a dilemma, and ultimately a paralysis, when faced with making a choice and sticking with it. This paralysis in decision making is met with the artificially elevated feeling of result-expectation that is inherent when the perception of infinite choice is available. The woman may make a temporary choice, regret that choice immensely, and return to the pool to enjoy the process of making further choices. This process can then repeat itself infinitely (even if the girl’s choices begin to decline in quality, some choices will still be there).

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[-] noPTSDformePlease 197 Points 8 months ago

this is why real life game is so important:

her hamster can justify riding your dick because "we met in real life instead of the through tinder". she didn't have to choose, rather, you chose her.

its a meaningless distinction, but it gains meaning because it differentiates you from the rest of the herd and she can brag about it to her family and friends: "I met a man in real life instead of tinder, so therefore i'm better than you other sluts"

gotta feed that hamster somehow

[-] LastRevision 84 Points 8 months ago

"I met a man in real life instead of tinder, so therefore i'm better than you other sluts"

No matter how normalized online dating gets- no matter how they all do it anyway- this sentiment of pretension will always matter; women see online dating as losery, and will always value a more "authentic" (lol) meeting over meeting online.

[-] UmbreFezz 45 Points 8 months ago

I would even argue that online dating has made it easier for those of us that don’t use it, simply due to the value that you mentioned. It’s a blessing for those that don’t use it. The same goes for social media I would assume.

[-] SpiritStatic 15 Points 8 months ago

I love that you're all in agreement on this, as I've operated under this notion for awhile now. Even as I've been rejected in-person (for one reason or another), women still seem to treat you a little differently merely on the basis that you're live and in front of them.

Not to mention that a heavy reliance on swiping apps for a few years sorely suppressed the development of my in-person game. I'm coming up on a year (in February) of being off of the app game.

[-] sanos7 9 Points 8 months ago

THIS. It relates to a more general principle; Men are failing and falling off (due to many factors). It becomes harder to be successful as a male. But once you attain success the rewards are actually increased. The whole games moves more towards "winner takes all".

[-] Ballosaurus 3 Points 8 months ago

Totally man. I have never seen successes like I am today, and while it would be nice to say that I’ve improved myself that much, I would be remiss to ignore the broader cultural effects of thirsty dudes online pushing girls my way.

[-] geo_gan 8 Points 8 months ago

Only women? I think men think online dating is for losers too.

[-] LastRevision 12 Points 8 months ago

The only men who think online dating is "for losers" are those who lose at it- the rest use it as a pussy vending machine. Come on now.

[-] NYCSPARKLE 2 Points 8 months ago

Yes when you realize AWALT, the source doesn’t matter.

I agree that day game girls will seem better and probably be more likely to stay in it for the long haul, but AWALT.

I actually seek out a certain type of girl on the better dating apps, and that’s the lawyer/finance chick type who is too busy for “traditional” dating. They see dating apps as a time saver and are usually very chill about more casual encounters.

“Free Meal Melissa” in the finance world:

[-] tchower 2 Points 8 months ago

They’re only losers if they’re actually paying money for it, especially with how many men these bitches have been with, you might as well have just paid a prostitute or went to the massage parlor for 40 bucks and then walk out without any games, and you’re more likely to be guaranteed sex in that case.

[-] TheStoicCrane 1 Point 8 months ago

What type of "massage parlor" have you been to? They don't like the ones where I live.

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[-] TheStoicCrane 2 Points 8 months ago

Time for me to start looking to leave the US. Most massage parlors like that in these parts are undercover sting operations. US cranks down because the Gov and the Corporations who buy off the Gov knows that sex sells.

If men were to get it that easy instead of being duped into marriage where chicks spend all his money and divorce raped or accidentally knocking up some chick to the point she collected child support that's less money for the both of them.

[-] tchower 2 Points 8 months ago

Yes, in fact, in Amsterdam, you can get the full on sex experience for only 40 euros. I think prostitution is illegal in most the U.S to maintain woman’s power in the marriage market, and the cucks in government go ahead and back them. Althouh the government is tying to crack down on it again over in Amsterdam now because they’re becoming blue pilled and do not like their young daughters seeing sex worker as an option for a career, even though marriage is pretty much a form of prostitution for most blue pilled men in America.

[-] TheStoicCrane 2 Points 8 months ago

Unfortunate about Amsterdam. About the US though couldn't agree more.

[-] geo_gan 1 Point 8 months ago

I wouldn’t know. I’m not on any online dating sites. Are you telling me Chad is on these sites too? Or only millions of betas who can’t get a woman in real life and try this as a last resort?

[-] Nicolas0631 6 Points 8 months ago

The thing is, online dating is always a second choice.

if you already found your mate IRL, you don't need online dating. The pool is bigger offline as you can literaly encounter thousand of people just by walking in the streets, you don't even need to sweep, you directly check if you like what you see, you try your approach and you know instantly if it is a yes or no.

Because you see the real person neither can cheat in the same way as online. No professional looking photo, no photoshopping, no old photo back from 5 years when he/she was fit and young. No removing 15lbs from the weight or whatever crap.

IRL, you have everybody and you can tune who you will encounter by choosing the location and time. Easy.

Online you either have the losers than didn't manage to attract anybody IRL (who really want to fuck theses ones ?), the one that are never happy and want the perfect partner that would never accept to stay with them if they found him/her anyway and the one that just want to fuck for one night.

Worse if you are a girl, at least most often you don't pay, but you know men most often pay. This mean you are only going to get the most desperate. Why would you pay for something you can get for free ?

[-] warlordchad 2 Points 8 months ago

This is why I don’t understand the trolls on this sub who hate on cold approach. Like, yeah, if you’re banging girls on Tinder, fucking awesome—but most guys aren’t so lucky, either because they live in a shitty market or because girls have gotten so picky even a pretty good looking guy can only match with land whales. With cold approach you immediately put yourself in another category.

[-] icecoldwhoknows 4 Points 8 months ago

For at least the short term (and possibly long term depending on a number of other red pill tactics), being mysterious is always advantageous. This obviously means that you game in REAL LIFE and aren’t blue pilling on validation seeking applications (see tinder, instagram, etc). You are different and girls will almost always get wet wanting to know more about “ThIs GuY.”

[-] Thisismybot8 2 Points 7 months ago

ITT: Guys that can't get laid off dating apps hamstering.

[-] Balea2019 1 Point 8 months ago

I will disagree, while there is a value of meeting in person the state of online dating is a pool of 70-80% extremely blue pilled that do not accept the fact looks is the only way to matches unless you have a high status that can be proved by pictures. So good pictures, your height and maybe a prove you have a carreer and thats all, but without good pictures is hopeless. Women filter a lot more online than in real life, it gives the idea that you are prequalified just because they also swiped right with you, and to justified it they would think other women did it as well. Is a self-made dread, if you can show you have your stuff together they think you are online for the fun and the massive pool rather than as a last option for dating. It basically prequalifies you a lot as they know they are a lot of hot women around.

[-] privili 63 Points 8 months ago

Women end up unhappy because they were not chosen and taken by the right male. Men end up unhappy because they did not take the right action. Just my two cents on the matter.

[-] Merica911 37 Points 8 months ago

You and the OP can be right at the same time.. I think with your statement when a girl, now, is in a LTR she'll get unhappy for that reason. Like..

" You only make $100k a year. My Co worker single friend makes $150k. So, why am I with someone when available single men out there make more money than you "


"You're only 6'3" and fit with big ears. A guy today was checking me out and he had to be 6'5", Muscular, and tan skin. So, why am I with someone like you when I can be someone like that "

You only get that from your girl when she's soon to be an ex.. Once the honeymoon phase is over and now time to put in relationship work, the girl is questioning should she with this TYPE of guy, even after a LTR is locked.

The OP post is about single girls. There's never in history been a time where we have so many single girls over girls being married back in the day. The good thing now is we now have hard core data on today's women and not just "well not every single women". Because a reason why a women was single 25 years ago is way completely different in why a different girl is single today. Like it was more alike together with all the single women back then.. And it's all alike together with the women today.. For much much different reasons

If you ask me, men today are talking massive action in the right direction. We are following in Tom Brady diet etc.. Where the average man back then, drinked, smoked, fast food, caffeine diet, etc... And where today the smart men knows better to not do any of that.

I only thing with some men.. Yes a lot are still stuck on video games and porn which wasn't the case 25 years ago. TRP is a great place to tell these people that you're just a fucking loser and you do have a choice in wtf you do with your day.. And now we're getting a awakening of what video games and porn does to someones mental

[-] Nicolas0631 9 Points 8 months ago

Just to say that people of great family advised for a long time their offspring to have great education and great body. We have proof of that from antiquity.

This isn't something new that we learned in the last 25 years. And we have known alcohol, tobaco and not doing sport to be detrimental for a long long time.

In most great family anyway, somebody that drink too much or consume too much of any sort of drug is perceved as a weakling.

Actualy the society as a whole was much more strict on that in the past than today. It started to change really with 1968.

[-] RedDeadlift 1 Point 8 months ago

This is spot on. Very well said.

[-] MrGreySD 1 Point 8 months ago

Women end up unhappy because they were not chosen and taken by the right male. Men end up unhappy because they did not take the right action. Just my two cents on the matter.

This is a great way to see it.

Think about it: it's impossible for men to "just take" women via the internet. This is what women crave.

Women are left with too much of the decision making process and can see things way too logically/objectively when looking at a load of pixels on a screen. In person she can "go with the flow" and "do what feels right" when a confident man seduces her and claims her. I had never thought about this before. It now seems so obvious.

[-] richasalannister 42 Points 8 months ago

This would explain a lot. You use the example of netflix. I have a very large list of things to watch on Netflix but rarely do I watch something new. The idea of having options makes us happy, and having some choice does, but too many options and we get more focused on collecting and making sure that I put things in my list than watching them. Same thing with youtube. Some.days I spend more time queueing videos than I do watching.

Good post

[-] DownyGall 15 Points 8 months ago

Yeah Netflix is a great example because it really is difficult to make that decision on what to watch and then a half hour’s gone

[-] jalapenotrp 1 Point 8 months ago

It's depressing, I do the same too.

[-] WarriorMonkMode 23 Points 8 months ago

Too much choice in a species that evolved over the last 10,000 years with little to no choices available will invariably bring about growing pains.

Humans are a need and opportunity driven species. The need is the wind in the sails of humans whilst opportunity is the direction we're heading.

Now, there's no wind in the sails meaning there is no imperative to be sexually successful for either gender. We're effectively in the calm before the storm. Western Civilization is essentially a Ponzi scheme borrowing from the young to pay for the old. Yet, not only is the new generation failing to even meet the bare minimum 1:1 in reproduction to create the future tax base, they're actually decreasing at an exponential rate.

The canary in the coal mine is Japan. An increasingly aging senior caste and an increasingly "celibate" young male caste who won't even leave their rooms, let alone participate in the job force to prop up the wealth redistribution scam to pay for the elderly.

There are actually talks about birth rates plummetting so low in the near future that, coupled with automation, we may see a mass die off and actually end up on the verge of extinction. If it's true that the sun and our position in the galaxy is a large driver of global warming, we could end up entering into a mini ice age which is theoretically only being staved off by "global warming" at the moment.

Basically, everything you're being told about our current circumstances through the MSM is exactly the opposite of what we'll likely be dealing with in the future. This is why it's important to always view all information with a critical eye, even information we receive in this sub. Hell, especially in this sub: good exercise to flex your mental muscles by walking back the conclusions derived from more senior members.

A glimpse into our future as a culture would be the "mouse Utopia" experiment where resources were "unlimited" and sexual access was unhindered and free of predation. At some point women just spawn and abandon their young, if not eating them outright. Homosexual mouse interactions takes the place of heterosexual encounters, whilst a subset of mice called "the beautiful ones" become celibate and proceed to become obsessed with grooming themselves. Eventually, the "behavioral sink" reaches its conclusion where the mice are born sterile and resort exclusively to cannibalism before wiping themselves out completely.

It spells a dark future for humanity as a whole, because it seems the seeds of our own destruction are embedded within us. Make things too perfect and the human condition seems to compel us to fuck it up. Without conflict, there can be no growth.

[-] thefilthyhermit 6 Points 8 months ago

The falling birth rates seem to only be an issue in first-world western cultures. Many other areas are not showing the same trend.

[-] TheStoicCrane 1 Point 8 months ago

The technology is creating these complications.

[-] specklemouse 2 Points 8 months ago

This is so dead on, have an updoot.

[-] Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 1 Point 8 months ago

World is not homogenous. Mice experiment happens in one place, struggling againts starvation happens in other in another place. All the between happens in other countries too. "Beatifull ones" will be replaced by neighbors.

Hard times make easy people, easy people make hard times.

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[-] MrGreySD 23 Points 8 months ago

Absolutely. Plus interacting via text removes almost all of the human element. Everyone becomes the same. How is one meant to make choices and begin to form connections when presented with thousands of people who have been reduced to a set of pixels on a screen?

I have experienced this from the man's side so I understand this well. Back in 2014 I was keen to date any Tinder girl I could find that was reasonably in shape. Now, after more years of building myself up as a man, there's just too much choice. Even narrowing options down and getting some dates: I never have any desire to follow through.


It's too much work and I have better things to be doing. I don't even know if we'll find each other attractive. I have sufficient existing supply (I get IOIs constantly from women in person and am already dating an 8 on the regular). In person = higher quality women (hotter, less mental health issues). In person = more fun and less bullshit, straight to the point, guy and girl know where they stand. In person = ability to form a unique and interesting connection. People who you've met via Tinder can be replaced with more Tinder matches. The girl you had a buildup of sexual tension with on your daily commute, cannot be replaced.

Online = communicating to the world that you are low value. You have enough free time and desire for random women to actually go on and set up a dating profile and compete with betas sending text messages to girls over the internet. I feel like a cuck using Tinder.

[-] peacemakerzzz 9 Points 8 months ago

Building the mystery is what builds attraction. Attraction is rooted from emotion. Being mysterious creates that emotion of curiosity.

Nice comment. Saving it.

[-] throwaway-chemist 5 Points 8 months ago

Online = communicating to the world that you are low value. You have enough free time and desire for random women to actually go on and set up a dating profile and compete with betas sending text messages to girls over the internet. I feel like a cuck using Tinder.

And people wonder why men have so much trouble dating online. Would Brad Pitt waste time sitting in his ass swiping?

EDIT: he said, in the gym, instead of doing something productive, lol

[-] someonesopinion6969 1 Point 8 months ago

would he waste his time? well if he knew that his profile would get him pussy, why not? it makes it easier to have the potential mates come to you rather than having to go out there and waste time on interacting with pussy.


for the sake of 10 minutes, he could open up his options

[-] MrGreySD 3 Points 8 months ago

You're missing a few points:

- You think and care about girls far less when you have so many options.

- Once you reach a certain level, you feel like a chump going online and actively trying to find girls. I don't care how "efficient" it seems. Psychologically you feel like you're trying way too hard. You are not much different to the hordes of thirsty dudes validating women on the internet. Not all online is bad though - being opened by girls on Instagram and merely replying to them, and perhaps casually saying "come out", would be fine.

- Online girls are lower value. Less hot.

- The whole process is unnatural, robotic and slightly awkward.


[-] throwaway-chemist 1 Point 8 months ago

Maybe. But how many dudes on here only spend 10 minutes a day? How many dudes here get way too excited about a potential match

[-] LightSkinKen 22 Points 8 months ago

I actually feel bad for women. They have to sit there and wait to be chosen. We control the game and who plays with us.

Try this. in a group of girls spot out the alpha. And purposely flirt with the 2nd or 3rd in command. Ignore the alpha. You’ll quickly have a huuuge scene on your hands. If your the alphas type of guy looks wise. You’re in for a show !!!

[-] throw_it_away_like 14 Points 8 months ago

I met a woman by chance, who is good looking, has a graduate degree, and is in her early 20s with great career prospects. Anyway, I'm 20 years older than she is. It's going pretty well. Anyway, she told me Tinder notified her she has had a total of 25,000 matches and she has 3000 messages in her ok cupid inbox. All her dates so far were through online dating. I probably wouldn't have met her that way if I had to get in line after thousands of other guys online to meet her.

[-] noPTSDformePlease 12 Points 8 months ago

Damn. 25000 matches. That's enough to fill a baseball stadium.

[-] EumenesOfEfa 1 Point 8 months ago

Sound like a girl I know from Seattle

[-] TheDevilsAdvokaat 8 Points 8 months ago

Something I keep thinking about is that we need to reemphasize virginity.

I kind of dislike the idea because it seems to contradict my notions of equality but there seems no way to avoid it.

Not being a virgin was a huge stigma for women and helped to an enormous extent to stop women slutting around when they are young and high value.

Sadly I think we need to reemphasize virginity - if she's not a virgin, don;t consider her for marriage.

[-] Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 7 Points 8 months ago

Pushing "be virgin" in a orgy culture will only open god's loophole. Front is closed, back door is highway.

Something deeper is needed. Culture need to change and it is nearly impossible at this point.

[-] TheDevilsAdvokaat 2 Points 8 months ago

God's loophole....never heard that before; is it original? It's actually pretty funny and apt....

Culture needs to change....yes.

Men need a new deal.

Women already got theirs.

[-] Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 2 Points 7 months ago

It is something old. Search it on google and watch the funny video.

[-] FormerBlueFool 1 Point 7 months ago

Hahaha "God's Loophole", I fucking love that!

Raised as a God Fearing Religious man, no longer practicing, I have encountered this many times IRL. At first it disgusted me, and kind of still does. Hypocrisy always will.

I do enjoy the decline now though.

[-] TheStoicCrane 5 Points 8 months ago

It's a biological fact that the more partners a woman has the less eligible she is for being a long-term partner for lack of pair bonding.

[-] [deleted] 1 Point 7 months ago

Yup. That’s why your first love is always the strongest. Each time it’s not as strong and seems less special than before.

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[-] Eslapole 6 Points 8 months ago

this is why monogamy and slut shame used to be so important for our forebears and society. When you required to spend a large amount of time with a girl in order to sleep with her (let's say that you were supposed to be her boyfriend for 1 year before having sex with her or even marry her) the most obvious thing that you would do after having sex is to stick with that girl since is vastly time consuming to dump that girl once you have had sex with her and wait another year to have sex with a different girl. The way sexual market used to work was pretty beneficial for long-term relationships as when you had girlfriend, you would remain with that girl, and usually you wouldn't hit on other girls, which can be translated into lower attention for girls, and therefore, less pussieinflation.



[-] Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 2 Points 8 months ago

A girl could marry a guy without having sex first. Then she had to have sex to marry. Then she had to have sex to be finance. Then she had to have sex to stay gf. Now she have to have sex(ONS) to be significant to him.

If she wont, he will go and find another girl who does.

Old system forced then to be prude, current one force them to be slut. If she dont be slut, system penaltise her: being akward, "everyone does it" "your future hubby will do", "go gurll!", "dont miss your youth" etc.

[-] sanos7 5 Points 8 months ago

Honestly, as a man I experience the same phenomenon. I never settle. Been in LTRs and even then I consider them "temporary". Committed. But not truly. I'm always keeping my options open.

And given the circumstances that the most rational thing to do. I'm young, my value as a man is still growing, there are endless options, costs of acquisition is low, there are no penalties for not committing.

I think the way out of all this will be new belief and value systems. Just like how followers of Abrahamic religions thrived. Because their beliefs and value systems caused them to act in ways that were better adapted to the times (start of large societies, lack of hygiene, infections, shift to agriculture and subsequent decrease of food nutritional value, weaker immune systems and mental health etc. etc.) and therefore they thrived and their religion grew.

You can already see this happening. Some people are pulling ahead, while others are being left behind and falling out of the gene pool. We think society freed us from natural selection. But society is as much a ruthless wilderness as the plains and jungles we once stalked.

[-] lala_xyyz 1 Point 8 months ago

You can already see this happening. Some people are pulling ahead, while others are being left behind and falling out of the gene pool. We think society freed us from natural selection. But society is as much a ruthless wilderness as the plains and jungles we once stalked.

Check again, the poor, dumb and degenerate have much higher fertility rates than the rich, disciplined and prosperous. African population quadrupled in half a century whereas European stayed almost the same. That shit has been going on for at least two centuries. The original eugenics movement was to make upper classes and aristocracy reproduce more, instead of enjoying life's pleasures. There is no natural selection today anymore, almost everyone lives long enough to reach reproduction age, and have kids (if they want). What you're describing is acquiring social status and material wealth, which in no way correlates with reproductive success and evolution. Centuries and millennia ago it actually did, but not anymore.

[-] sanos7 1 Point 8 months ago

You make fair points. What about incels, MGTOW, Japanese men. Aren't these examples of specimens not able to cope with pressures of the current world and getting weeded out?

[-] lala_xyyz 1 Point 8 months ago

They can be having families even 50 years from now. They can make a choice now, at any moment, to create economic value and attract a mate, out of global pool of 2-3 billion single women of reproductive age. It's not that hard. But they simple choose not to. The problem lies in women in their region, which have through generations ruined marriage laws, voted for excessive taxation and open borders. Until Western men grow back their balls they kind of deserve all this shit.

[-] Nicolas0631 1 Point 8 months ago

The #1 cost is no children.

The #2 cost is being poorer. Most people are in couple and make do with 2 incomes. For example all of my friends can buy a nice house while all the single or not sure to stay together have 1 somewhat small, not so great flat each. Typically twice the salary and sharing expense improve one wealth significantly. I am single and my income is much better than the average in my country, but because I'am single, I can only buy "average" things and for many things I am in competition with 2 incomes couples.

Of course, there high risks involved to go all in, but there also cost for not doing too. We tend to forget it too often there.

[-] EumenesOfEfa 5 Points 8 months ago

Ever lived with a women? Even my super frugal LTR makes me spend more money than I did living as a single man.

[-] Metallurg2 1 Point 8 months ago

Not if the bills are paid half and half

[-] aegambini 5 Points 8 months ago

This applies to guys with a good amount of success too then I’m guessing. I’ve noticed the better I’ve gotten the harder it is to be satisfied with any choice. Not sure how to fix this, maybe adopting a “perfect is the enemy of good enough” mentality might help? Not trying to sound like I’m jerking myself off here.

[-] stevecapw 1 Point 8 months ago

Yes, but marriage and child custody laws which favor women keep men in line.

[-] Imperator_Red 3 Points 8 months ago

women's sexual choices were intentionally limited in traditional societies to avoid the very problem we have today- women slutting it up with dozens of men until they hit the wall, and then living the rest of their days bitter and miserable.

This is so true and yet tons of men on TRP deny this reality and view sexual morality of the past as some kind of TradCon conspiracy to make everyone miserable.

[-] DownyGall 2 Points 8 months ago

How true. Traditional is a dirty word round these parts, but in terms of gender dynamics, things were done a certain way to keep a lid on very powerful forces, not to “oppress” people.

[-] Nikkozezim 2 Points 8 months ago

Women think they are better than they are, average men suffer greatly... the only response is to rise above.

[-] mette13 2 Points 8 months ago

I've actually struggled with this choice paradox quite a bit when it came to clothing when I was still dependent on my parents. Weird example, but they woukd give me a $200 budget to buy clothes new clothes for school and I remember myself wanting the other clothes at the store more than the ones I chose on my own free will after a week.

Good post OP.

[-] RedPilledGodEmperor 1 Point 8 months ago

It's like when you go to a restaurant where there are so many food options on the menu, that you have a tough time deciding what to order. You end up overwhelmed and even if the meal you got was delicious, you always wonder about "what if I order something different, would it have tasted better?"

Same thing with dating and the amount of choices women have.

[-] jonpe87 1 Point 7 months ago

The right way for a man to use Tinder is making a fake profile with a hot male model phto, in your name write "read my profile" and say that you are there for friends with benefits, say your age, that you have a muscular six pack body, and that you will send pics to those interested etc... than make the girl send some nude for you and send a pick of your body to her... game a little bit and close the deal.


EDIT - if you want show yourself don't waste time, text something like this

you: hey

her: *whatever*

after two days

you: I didn't see all your pics last time, kinda hot hmm? Lets grab a beer x day/hour


You should put zero effort, because you sould game irl, tinder is just a coin flip


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[-] Fraita 1 Point 7 months ago

Question: If the paradox of choice makes us more miserable, girls have more choices than men, but the men are still more miserable/depressed. How come? Have the girls found a way to never "choose" anything, just have the constant validation and men choose many/often that mostly result in a rejection?

[-] Nicolas0631 0 Points 8 months ago

This was before I got to the point where I understood that women's sexual choices were intentionally limited in traditional societies to avoid the very problem we have today- women slutting it up with dozens of men until they hit the wall, and then living the rest of their days bitter and miserable.

I don't trust this one second. There was no contraception back in time and there was the point of giving shelter to the woman in questions and her many babies.

Remember that social help was virtually non existant compated to today. Homeless childs would die in the streets. It was already hard to make enough for oneself.

Sexual disease were 10 time worse than today (you would die of it early, go mad before and so on) and other than that each baby was a high risk to the mother too.

So this was not the interrest of the woman in question to let random mens to fuck her. And this was not in the interrest of each family/clan/tribe neither.

Remember also that back in time most women (or even mens) where not independant. They earned their status, way of living and all only to their family and obedience to it. So nobody really care of the notion of men or women taking their time fucking each other for fun.

[-] lala_xyyz 1 Point 8 months ago

Remember that social help was virtually non existant compated to today. Homeless childs would die in the streets. It was already hard to make enough for oneself.

There was plenty of social help, it just wasn't government and tax-funded institutions, but from your family and extended kin. The only children who would die in the streets would be from those who had neither, which was a form of natural selection, to weed out bloodlines that weren't conducive to forming stable nuclear families with good relations to their kin. Yeah whores and single moms would be dirt poor, but it's only natural.

[-] Managicall -1 Point 8 months ago

People have too many choices in today's world, people like having choices but there are diminishing returns on excessive choice, and being offered too many options will ultimately make someone unhappy.

Intelligence is maximizing options so you don't get trapped and dead: F = T ∇ Sτ\_wissner\_gross\_a\_new\_equation\_for\_intelligence#t-314224

What you just described is suicide with extra steps.

A choice is different from an option because it requires physical intervention. Your example points out a flaw with commercial products not using appropriate curation for fear of marginalizing their offerings, that ultimately ends up in them committing corporate suicide. I call this trait neuroticism. I further propose its due to Machiavellian influences of mergers employing tactics of embrace, extend, extinguish in the form of a drama triangle. Sorry if my wording is difficult to read, but its really the same concept be it one person or 20 doing whatever the fuck they do, same pattern.

TL;DR always sanitize your inputs and never input where you output cause that's gay

[-] ZachMeadows 1 Point 8 months ago

That comment require so much thinking... I feel the need to get off mentally.

Anyway I feel like you make a point, but I'll re-read it to better grasp the concepts.