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Hey guys, so in the past two days, I've had an eye-opening experience. I attended some exchange student event where people meet up at some bar and just chill over some beers.

The moment I stepped into the bar, I made sure to crack jokes about everything and everyone in the room. Even the cute bartender wasn't safe. I acted cocky, funny, was easygoing and everything went smoothly. I got IOIs from girls and it was time to hit on one of them.

And so I did. Not only one, but two (you can find further details in my previous post).

I got super kino close to them and spoke about sex and its aftermath with one of them. The other asked me if I had a girlfriend and was genuinely interested.

They both were wet af. I dodged their shittests and played the charming bastard by flirting with other girls who were present on that night.

Moral of the story is: I could fuck one of them on the spot on that night. But silly me, I asked them for a beer the next day and they agreed.

The whole thing went pretty sour from the beginning. They didn't show up on time, they went to the wrong bar, and when I met them, they were already kinda cold and the energy was drained somehow. That kind of excitement was gone which got through to me and made me a bit passive to them for the rest of the night.

They called their friends afterwards, and we were a big group and all of the sudden,I got self-conscious and realized that I'm not fucking either of them that night. So I grabbed my stuff told them goodbye and fucked off.

I'm still going to see other girls, but what I learnt from this is that if you kino a girl, you get green flags and she gets comfortable and your confidence is skyrocket. At least go for the kiss.

I have had multiple chances where I legit talked to them super close and could easily kiss one of them. But I fucked up.

EDIT: I didn't fake ibeing cocky like someone in the comment mentioned. I was in the mood to have some fun and I did. Usually I'm pretty aloof and distant from everyone. Those girls were attracted to me and attraction was built on that night and extinguished on the next.

Strike the iron while it's still hot means that when you build attraction with a girl and you get iois, go for the kiss or ask her back to your apartment. Don't wait like I did.

I agree the language used was pretty retarded probably because I was drunk.

Other than that, this post is about me fucking up. Not every field report should be a successful one where you get to bang the girl in question.

I didn't bang either of the girls, but hell did I learn something.

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majorbollocks 5y ago

Actually it's always better to get them to chase. You can push for the fuck on the first date but the girls will end up ONS-ing you. They'll never want to see you again because you handed everything to them all in a matter of hours.

Try playing it a bit slower. Give them small doses of attention when you see them doing something you like. Get them used to having to qualify to you and chase you. Then give them more and more attention until it leads up to the sex.

Do this consistently and you'll have a roster of fuckbuddies that you can keep fucking on and off for the long term.

Robster25 5y ago

I got autism from reading your post....You are proud of yourself, I get it and that's good.

But you are still an actor and you didn't internalize the principles.

I made sure to crack jokes about everything and everyone in the room. Even the cute bartender wasn't safe. I acted cocky, funny, was easygoing and everything went smoothly. I got IOIs from girls and it was time to hit on one of them.

You either are cocky or not, but acting cocky is fake. You are just an actor..just some PUA robot. And please talk like a normal human being.

I got super kino close

They both were wet af

Didn't you feel retarded when you wrote this stuff?

At least go for the kiss.

This is the only thing that someone can learn from your post. Rejection is better than regret.

Just keep working on yourself until you don't have to be fake anymore to impress someone.

ML_18 5y ago

someone people have the “Fake It Till You Make” mindset. Its not a bad thing tho, if you fake it well you can get a lot from it

Coolguy1699 5y ago

Cocky and funny is a good tactic.

Riversfomo 5y ago

Didn't you feel retarded when you wrote this stuff?

This isn’t too different from most of the posts here.

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I didn't fake it. I was in the mood to have some fun and I did. (edit: usually I'm pretty aloof and distant from everyone, that's why I said I "acted cocky") Those girls were attracted to me and attraction was built on that night and extinguished on the next.

I agree the language used was pretty retarded probably because I was drunk.

Other than that, this post is about me fucking up. Not every field report should be a successful one where you get to bang the girl in question.

I didn't bang either of the girls, but hell did I learn something.

Sir_Distic 5y ago

How is this not a successful one?

You flirted with, and could have slept with at least 1, if not 2, girls. You laughed, had fun, enjoyed yourself. gave no shits, flirted/got flirted with and generally enjoyed a night at a bar with no stress, drama or anxiety. On top of that you learned something that will improve you in the future.

That sounds successful to me.

[deleted] 5y ago

I like that you wrote something authentic and subject to crutucusm. That’s bolder than some of these “alpha” douchebags manage. learning is a process.

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[deleted] 5y ago

Well, I don't know why he made such a big fuss about it. If my cockiness was fake and was not that genuine, I'm pretty sure they'd have spotted it and eventually tell that I'm not who I am pretending to be. They wouldn't be attracted to me on that night and kiss me all over my neck when I hugged them goodbye.

He totally misread the whole post. The post is about me getting anxious when attraction reached a peak and not taking advantage of that. Something I'll try my best to not let it happen next time.

Robster25 5y ago

Dude...i didn't mean to offend you. You are delusional.

The whole thing went pretty sour from the beginning. They didn't show up on time, they went to the wrong bar, and when I met them, they were already kinda cold and the energy was drained somehow. That kind of excitement was gone which got through to me and made me a bit passive to them for the rest of the night.

Do you expect them to tell you to your face that they know you are faking it? Guess why they showed up late and why they went to the "wrong" bar. They went there because they were not interested in you, probably because they realized that you were faking it. It they were eager to see you they would've showed up at the "right" bar and on time. Just look at their actions...

Sir_Distic 5y ago

Actually....The reason they showed up late, they went to the wrong bar, were cold etc is that the tingles were gone. They were drinking, having laughs, flirting, getting flirted with, laughed and flirted with OP etc. They were riding that high. The next day was a date. They had to get ready to go to meet OP, They weren't riding the high of all the laughs and flirting. Tingles.

That's why they became flaky OP. At least you know now that you should have closed that night and not the next day. We are all here to learn.

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gigaStacySlayer 5y ago

Every new interaction you have to re-open, you cannot expect the same level of tension the next day. People live in the moment.

Meta-h 5y ago

Definitely rejection is better than regret.

Other lesson. Always continue to escalate if they’re feeling it. If they’re down, then start to lead them. Take ‘em to another bar or get them to your place. Take it all the way as long as they’re letting you.

My numbers are about a 15% conversion to fuck a girl the first night I meet her. That’s not the common path, but some will let you, so always lead them there. Don’t deal yourself out. Let them do that, not you.

ConservativelyRight 5y ago

Title should be changed to "Don't bite off more than you can chew."

I don't understand why you asked both girls out. Did you honestly think you'd have a threesome that easily? If you were gonna try to get laid, you should've asked only one so it could be more personal. Obviously they're going to be guarded if they come with a friend.

It sounds like you don't know what you're doing. Let's assume you were successful. Trying to have sex with two random women you just met at a bar? Oh sure, "there's condoms," but that doesn't change the fact that hooking up with bar sluts you just met is simply foolish, and condoms are absolutely not guaranteed to save you from whatever those human petri dishes are carrying. Just be careful.

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Needed this. Thank you so much. This couldn't get truer my friend. Thank you.

Giant-__-Otter 5y ago

Title should be changed to "Don't bite off more than you can chew."

or even better, just "ABC", that acronym is positive and drives you to act. But it's part of the learning process to fail before you develop that hunter instinct.