TL;DR -- Been vibing with a woman I met at a latin festival less than a month ago. Things seem to be going well, and she clearly wants to fuck. Its a matter of me getting her to come by, and us fucking.
You guys keep me grounded whenever I get desperate and turn beta and post here.
Well recently, I've been playing cards a bit differently with a woman I have been seeing for the last month. We'll call her E. E is someone I met at a latin festival at couple of weeks ago, and we hit things off.
Nothing in the moment, but me getting her number, showing her I am busy, and inadvertently letting her know she has to earn my time and respect. I took her to a dance social for salsa and bachata, and we mostly danced together, made intense eye contact with each other, and things progressed from there.
We kissed this past Tuesday, went on a date last night, she tried to kiss me when I first saw her, but I showed some restraint, but we kissed at the end of the night, and now she wants to come by my apartment and watch "bad horror movies."
I have no real intentions (yet) of bringing her over. She's off to Miami Beach, and the following weekend she WANTS me to come to NYC with her. She says "I already have the airbnb," and "I'm willing to stay an extra day if you come." Its clear she's into me, but now its a matter of me not pulling the trigger too fast, and taking my time.
We're doing a couples massage this Wednesday, and she's covering a portion of it, and I am tipping the masseuse.
I wouldn't necessarily call it a success story, its more along the lines of me focusing on myself, the process, and not getting attached too soon.
Its been a month guys, and I like her, its more of a matter of me not falling back into oneitis (previous posts), but going with the moment and not overthinking.
Morphs_ 5y ago
You're doing this "hard to get" thing way too much. You shouldn't need more than 2 or 3 dates. You're giving off mixed vibes, between wanting her and rejecting her. Think clearly what each of your actions convey to her.
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Robster25 5y ago
From what I read you have absolutely no clue how women work. Sorry to say that, but I'm just being honest. You don't want to fuck her, because you are afraid that things will progress too fast? You have clearly no clue how it works. If you don't fuck her soon, she will kick you to the curb, because she thinks you are a pussy without the balls to make a move, which you admittedly are. From what you've told us you fall in love with every girl who spreads her legs for you.
DavidEagle68 5y ago
Well! Time to get my helmet cleaned
trp1784 5y ago
She invited you to come to NYC with her, is DTF, and she's paying for the Airbnb? You'd be crazy to turn that down unless you have something really important to do. You don't want to get too attached after you fuck her, but if you wait around much longer she's going to quickly lose interest.
DavidEagle68 5y ago
Im going... and I'm not getting attached. Got out of a 7 year LTR
inarighas 5y ago
It s been a month and you already made out. Go invite her or accept to watch those horror movies or whatever. And do not miss your chance. Make her love it. Go get laid before being attached. Too much time develop emotional attraction which is not appreciated... If she refuses, move on. Nothing to regret.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Stop wasting time dude. You're spending too much time with her not escalating. Stop trying to "make her wait" or whatever. Just smash her already before she loses interest. You don't really know the girl and you're already falling in love, doing couple shit. When she was in Miami, you think she wasnt fetting fucked after her nights out?
Stop wasting time. She's not your gf.
DavidEagle68 5y ago
Smashing her not this weekend, but the following. She booked an Airbnb, and I'll be meeting her that Friday. I doubt she'll bang someone in Miami, but who gives a fuck if she does? I'll get my pipe cleaned this weekend hopefully.
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MostSolidFrame 5y ago
How much time have you spent with this girl? Remember Mystery's 7 hour rule (4-10 hour ideal timeframe before sex)
If it's been more than 10 hours you're fucking up by not sealing the deal with this girl
anvorob 5y ago
Do you mean total 7 hours? Cause you cannot just be with person for 7 hours straight.
Morphs_ 5y ago
It's 7 hours total, spread out over usually 2 or 3 dates.
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MrCongeniality1 5y ago
Reading that caused me literal pain.
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Tripletag 5y ago
You're overthinking it. You'll end up dissapointed if you don't bite soon. She is practically begging you to fuck her, so she's gonna think you're playing a cruel game or a pussy. Just dont get lost in Disney fantasies once you do seal the deal.