For a while, it worked good enough for me. My changed attitude gave promising results. I put in a conscious effort 100% of the time to put up an act. So much so, that by the end of the day i would exhaust myself mentally.
“It’s been worth it,” I told myself. Not to toot my own horn here, but yesterday I learned that it indeed has been. The four stages of competence, a subject touched upon on this sub already, goes like this:
Unconscious Incompetence. The stage in which we AFCs find ourselves in before we find TheRedPill and before we figure out what we’ve been doing wrong. BPs fall into this category. This is where the avergage corporate diversity hire drones find themselves in as well.
Conscious Incompetence. The stage in which I and I’m assuming many others were when we first came across this sub which is hushed away by 90% of our media, academia, and our society. Once I read the sidebar, I fell into this category. I knew what I was doing wrong, I knew why it wasn’t working, all I had to do was correct myself. This is a huge stage that unfortunately most of Western men aren’t able to reach, to the delight of our elites.
Conscious Competence. The stage where I’ve spent the better part of a year in. What I’ve been doing is “tryharding,” so to speak. Faking it before I made it. That sounds like a criticism, but I believe for most people faking it is a necessary step to do for yourself to rise up in society. Over the past year with all my effort, every now and then i would still say something autistic, still fail a shit test occasionally. By faking being cooler than you actually think you are, (dont overdo this) you put yourself in situations that a “cool” person would be in. People around you will respond to this energy, and in turn you’ll gain experience putting yourself in situations that me as an conscious incompetent would have dreaded. More game oppurtunities, expanding social circles, etc. Showing up to that stuff is a necessary step needed to progress to the next stage, even if you aren’t the sharpest or funniest. Being around people will become natural to you.
Unconscious competence. The stage that describes what happens when something you previously practiced for the longest time to perfect comes out of you with little effort. This is making it. This is where you want to be at the end of the road of all of your efforts. To put the change of my mindset in words, it is this: Conscious competence me would ask myself if I should approach a girl, and worry about the outcome. Unconscious competence me asks myself how I am going to approach that girl, and then no further questions are asked. I look forward to conversations instead of dreading them but forcing myself into them. The group at the top of our society do not want men to become like this, especially in white countries.
This seems like I’m saying I’m done progressing, which isn’t even close. I’m 16, FFS. I’ve yet to recieve adult responsiblilities. However, once again i want to help our brothers on this sub. 99% of us can improve ourselves to the top 20%, but 70% of us don’t do it or don’t know how.
For the future of our nations we have to grow and lead. Become the best versions of yourselves, not only for you but for your people.
Starfuckingman 5y ago
Boy, you're 16. When I was 16 I didn't even know to how to speak english.
ArdAtak 5y ago
You write well for a 16 year old. My son's 13. I can't imagine him being as enlightened as you in 3 years.
memer935115 5y ago
Thanks. 3 years ago I was nowhere close however, he’ll be fine.
AlmightyPhoenix 5y ago
These are some pretty good thoughts for a 16 year old, there just might be greatness in your future... the fact that you're 16 and focused on bettering our nation, instead of bettering your ability to get vagina like a lot of the men who think they're the alpha male here, is quite a good sign. You're prioritizing what this nation needs over what you need to get a chick to slobber on your cock, you're prioritizing the people over your boner, splendid.
moltenw 5y ago
Why does prioritizing the nation over chicks mean it's a "good sign" ?
To me, this sounds like an ego thing for you. As in, you seem to be standing on a highground over others.
"Bettering the nation" is not more prestigeous or "better" than chasing chicks.
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apost54 5y ago
I’m 17 and I’ve gotten with a girl before and have several plates. However, I’m not pursuing pussy at the moment, because that is not something that will make my life fulfilling. I want to try to reverse the decline of Western civilization instead of enjoying it, and pussy distracts me from my goals.
lvanden 5y ago
There's nothing you can do to change western civilization, are you serious? I thought we were on TheRedPill
virusofthemind 5y ago
Something strange is afoot on TRP....
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dr_warlock 5y ago
A 16year old talking about the future of nations. Yea, sure thing buddy. Quit with the dramatic click bait titles. You're too young to be posting about anything other than some chick you shagged. When you do, then come back.
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BurnoutRS 5y ago
"the group at the top of our society does not want people to become like this"
or is it only through them not wanting the people at the bottom to rise up, that those at the bottom are even afforded the opportunity to venture into the flames that would temper their mettle and thus, see them rise?
Legit question though because on the one hand I can see how using power, to ensure others cant have power, is a means of expanding your control and thus growing your power. On the other hand I can see how, the more ruthless and powerful you are, the harsher the vitriol held by those who would seek power for themselves so as to move against you.
It seems like the world is largely set up to keep you down. What if thats the only way to lift you up? What if theres some god being somewhere tearing his hair out like "all they fucking have to do is face the obstacles I put in their path, why the fuck do they keep running away?"
The more I do to better myself, the more conservative I become in my efforts to help others. Am I becoming more self important? Or am I also becoming more aware of what it actually takes to become something? Am I more reluctant to help others because I see less and less that they are willing to help themselves? If I were running a household, and suddenly stopped going to work because my youngest child missed me terribly whenever I left, the suffering the child would eventually endure as we lost the house and slipped into poverty is far greater than having to miss his dad for a few hours a day.
As it currently stands, we cant have everyone at the top. To have it be a human decision who gets to be at the top is very flawed. It shouldnt be political. For the benefit of society it should be a question of merit and qualification. The game should be challenging but not unwinnable
Dawnguards 5y ago
What does this has to do with "the future of our nations" ? Its soo misleading as if this is the main problem we men face.
The red pill people acknowledge women behavior as toxic and dangerous to mens' lives literally.
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VolatileEnemy 5y ago
This is basically proper socialization at a young age.
But unlike a bike, you can actually forget things and sound more and more autistic just because you haven't had social practice for some time. Maybe you've been alone for a while. Maybe you haven't had the social network or interactions that many others might have had.
Also the kind of autistic "temporary fits" you might have (what I mean by this is occasionally saying something silly that EVERY MAN has done), could even be just a symptom of anxiety or nervousness that you may have because you have inner guilt or inner doubts or external validation requirements.
This is why it's important to be outcome-independent. You don't care about outcomes. You don't care what other people think. You just do you. Like that stupid ass Hotels.com Captain Obvious, clearly it's silly but not awkward.
There is a guy I know, he is very dorky and sometimes I cannot even describe to you, the weeeeird things he says and how annoying it sounds when he says it and people just kinda ignore those things he says. But you can tell he has accepted his own weirdness which kinda alleviates the act of people trying to stay away from him. They still are okay with him being around and find him entertaining in an innocent way. They find him disarming and friendly (because he's happy and smiling all the time). All because he accepted it and laughs at himself. He has congruence. What he lacks is maybe some smarts, confidence, humor, and knowledge to speak and socialize better (or merely shutting up more). A lesson can be drawn from that.
Yeah it's good to learn these things early. Some people may get that proper socialization in the beginning where people just kinda boost their ego from the start and so they always can just naturally be confident. But this happens because they've always been treated well. Not because they are smarter than you or anything.
That's why people born rich or to powerful people are so dangerous, because sometimes they're oblivious to how stupid they are, but they have the confidence and ego and power to actually impose their stupidity on others. It's like meeting those hot princesses who think they own the world and every stupid thing they say is irritating but no one says anything critical.
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