Summary: There are 2 things I've observed: 1. A relationship rhythm that rises and falls with the seasons of the year. 2. Girls text you out of the blue sometimes years later and what it means and why they do it.
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Good evening everyone,
I’m a long time lurker here and just want to say thank you. The Red Pill has made me the man I am today and has been one of the single most influential aspects of my life. So thank you.
I wanted to write about a couple things tonight, things that I have experienced and I’ll bet most of you have as well. There are no terms that I’ve seen regarding these experiences yet, so I’ll coin my own terms.
The first one is what I call the “relationship rhythm” (a play on circadian rhythm).
It’s a trend that I’ve noticed annually. Let’s start with the fall season (since we’re in it now). This is a time when girls want a relationship so they can do all the relationship stuff with their guys. Pumpkin patch dates, hot cocoa and snuggle, Thanksgiving meals and Christmas gifts, Instagram pictures, etc. This is a time when a lot of people are in relationships and camping down for the holidays. This persists through the beginning of spring. Women hate being alone, especially for the holidays.
Then, with spring break and “party times” on the horizon, girls start breaking up with their boyfriends so they can jump back onto the CC on Panama City beach, drink, fuck around at the inevitable 10 weddings that are coming up, and make dumb decisions (that are fun of course). Summer rolls in, and this trend continues (summer parties yay!). Once summer ends and fall begins, this cycle repeats.
Of course LTR’s will last through the year, but I’m speaking more to short relationships, which most relationships are. You can definitely work this trend to your advantage. Game girls hard during spring and summer, then snag down a ‘girlfriend’ during the winter (fuck buddy). Some proof to this that I’ve seen are tinder and bumble LIGHT UP during spring and summer then magically die after that. And the number of Facebook couples start emerging during the holidays.
The second thing I’d like to discuss is the “fallback effect”.
It happens after you have had a run in with a girl, whether it be a one night stand, couple month FWB deal, or even a few dates that go nowhere. After the aforementioned run-ins, you go your separate ways, continue banging plates and lifting weights, until…boom. Out of nowhere, a number you don’t recognize sends a text that reads “hey”. It’s from the girl you split with months or even years before.
What does this mean? Well, it could be a couple things.
- One, she just got dumped by Chad, and you happen to be the # in her phone that she’s gotten to next to see if she can get some cuddles, free meals, and attention (most likely)
- Or two, you’ve been killing it at your job, the gym, and crushing life in general and she now finds herself irresistibly attracted to you (least likely).
What do you do? Well, my advice is to ignore them. After all, if you following “HumanSockPuppet’s Guide to Managing Your Bitches”, then she should have already been demoted to level 0 and therefore cannot rise higher than that ever again. If you weren’t following that incredible guide, then you still shouldn’t because you don’t want to be that beta fallback option (hence the name of the effect I’m discussing) she can rely on to get attention from. Besides, with your abundance mentality, a former plate’s attention should be the least of your concerns.
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Conclusion:
Takeaways:
- By observing the seasonal trend of relationships, you can plan and act accordingly to maximize your benefits. Whether that be sex or a relationship or forging new plates
- If a girl texts you after you have parted ways, it's either because you drastically improved your SMV recently, or she's just bored and got dumped by Chad. Either way, do not reciprocate with these girls. You should be too busy fucking plates and accomplishing your mission.
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Thanks for reading, please let me know if this is something you’ve observed as well, or if I’m just full of shit. Again, thank you TRP. This sub has taken my rubble pile and sculpted a David from the ruins.
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TL;DR - Relationships have an annual rhythm that flows with the seasons; girls keep your number as a backup option and will text you out of the blue sometimes years later.
Halitenina 5y ago
+1
I was reading this article with growing dread at where we would be by the conclusion of its crescendo, only to be pleasantly surprised. Good stuff.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
Wow that was unexpected, much appreciated
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
Nice to have something new in RP theory.
I never thought about it being seasonal, but I can recall examples of girls pushing for a relationship more in the fall. I never got the fall texts though - from what I can recall, the exes would be DTF in the Spring/Summer and then hold out for a LTR in the fall so I would have to drop them again.
123InigoMontoya123 5y ago
Great post. My brother and I were literally just discussing this a few hours ago. Last night, we went out to the bars and noticed an incredibly high amount of women who ACTUALLY had boyfriends. As in, I ended up shaking hands awkwardly with a lot of dudes after approaching their women. Normally, in the Summer, their boyfriends are either non-existent, or not present.
Also, just had a girl hit me up yesterday who wanted to tell me that I've been "popping in out of her head lately." It's sadly predicable and kinda sickening. Instagram is annoying as fuck this time of year too, what with all the couple photos.
MadSparty 5y ago
Who the fuck brings their girlfriends out to bars besides alcoholic couples?
Imperator_Red 5y ago
Um, normal people
Churningaway 5y ago
Goddamn cider Mills and apple orchard places making a killing. I bet the owners of these places are just dumbstruck at the amount of basic bitches that come just to get their pictures in
U-94 5y ago
Same with all the pumpkin farms. It's like moms with kids and basic women.
DavidEagle68 5y ago
Ex GF literally wanted me to go to a pumpkin patch with her two weeks ago.
123InigoMontoya123 5y ago
What blows my mind is the "Apple Hill" phenomenon. Betas and their bitches actually PAY farmers to go and harvest the apples off the tree, and then pay them again to take said apples home. All for the SM pictures...
guccigestapo 5y ago
I was thinking the same thing the other day! They’re literally growing money on trees lol
entrep4 5y ago
Careful with that word. They're LITERALLY growing apples on trees and trading them for money.
raadim 5y ago
I completely agree with everything said. Even my ex-plate was talking about spring time as being time of the year when she wonders what else is there outside for her.
It is a normal biological rhythm and goes back to ancient times. In the spring everything is blooming and world is rich in resources. With fall you get scarcity and you need to survive long winter. People keep forgetting that fridge was invented just about 100 years ago. Human biology didn't adapt to it yet. We're still pretty much animals which want to breed in spring and survive winters.
For the second case, go back to your ex only in case if she's changed for better. For example if you dated her when she was 18 and chubby and now she's 25 cross-fit freak with amazing body, then I would give her a chance.
KumonRoguing 5y ago
It's called cuffing season man. This ain't news.
LPSchneider 5y ago
And the spring/ summer is stuffing season ;)
[deleted] 5y ago
Thanks. I see we have some grown ass men in here.
KumonRoguing 5y ago
I think it's good to have posts about the basics like this every so often for those of us who are hopelessly behind. However, I'm in the helping our brothers out camp. It can get old to see the shit so much though.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
I didn't know that was a thing, neat.
KumonRoguing 5y ago
https://youtu.be/RpX6q4SJB34
PleezSitOnMyFace 5y ago
Reply 'who is this' THEN ignore
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
Literally said exactly that, cheers!
BurnoutRS 5y ago
From your writing I can tell you live in a country with 4 seasons and a climate that varies with the changing of those seasons. Id be interested in seeing if this relationship rhythm is something that occurs in countries where the climate is relatively the same all year round.
Taking an evolutionary biology standpoint, I could reason that the coming of the colder months sets off a biological alarm for all creatures to start getting their shit ready to survive the winter. For women, that means getting a man who can keep the fire going and keep her warm and fed. Its a security thing. When its warm enough outside that you could sleep in the woods and be fine, youre more confident in your survival, more sure of yourself.
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No, in hotter climates people fuck and break up all year. Any cuffing in these climates centers around major holidays where men give women gifts.
manonthemoon14 5y ago
I think at this point it’s also become something culturally. Being from LA, it’s sunny here all year around but I still notice this pattern
KeffirLime 5y ago
Partly to do with the fact that biologically winter was a much harsher season, having strong males close for warmth and protection would have been more necessary. Partly to do with the availability of prospective mates.
In summer, due to better conditions, society in general is far more active. There's many people out and about, revealing far more skin. The pool of prospective mates is far larger, making it much harder to settle for just one.
In winter, society is far less active. People stay in alot more, dressed in thick winter wear when out. The pool of prospective mates dwindles, making people far more lonely and desperate to settle for a partner.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
It really is amazing how many behaviors are directly tied to biological and instinctual determinations. People try to "act civilized" but in the end, nature wins.
HS-Thompson 5y ago
You're an idiot. When you get those months later texts it's because she's feeling lonely and wants someone to fuck her. It's almost always because something else happened in her life that makes her feel unwanted and she needs that feeling of being desired.
You just reply and say "come over" and then they come over and fuck you. At least that's always how it's worked for me.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
Well, you don't have to insult me first off. Second, yes it's because she wants someone to cuddle/fuck/validate her. My point is she's contacting you because you're on her "backup" list and she is feeling lonely because either Chad left her or she can't find anyone else. So yeah, you can have her come over and fuck her but you're just justifying her decision to contact you as a backup and are now subtly saying you are only worth her backup. Again, in a rare case she's messaging you because you've been seriously crushing it and she's reevaluated your SMV, but that's not the case for most men. But if you don't care about that and just want to pump and dump then by all means go for it. It's a hit or miss in my opinion. Most times I've done that in the past has not led to anything but a rant for me to listen to. Cheers!
HS-Thompson 5y ago
Or maybe she thinks you'll be a good fuck. That's been my experience.
Stop worrying about being outranked by "Chad" and be him.
Fucking escalate. Prequalify her if needed by texting "Come over, I'll fuck the shit out of you" if you're too much of a pussy to know what you're doing.
If you're getting girls into your apartment/bedroom and not fucking them it's your fucking fault, stop getting mad at them because you don't know how to properly escalate an encounter.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
Yes, I agree with you. Getting her to my place and not closing is my fault. She may indeed think I'll be a good fuck.
You're missing my point though, I'm just giving general reasons why she's texting you out of the blue. I also said this girl may not even be a former plate or girlfriend, but a girl who you had 1 date with or interacting with somewhere (without any physical actions happening). Besides, hopefully you will have a rotation of plates and an abundance mentality and won't really care about trying to hookup with her.
Personally I ignore them because I don't need them, I've got others I'm talking to. It's amusing if anything.
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