2 years ago, we had a new student in Russian class. She was cute, smart, out of a releationship and every other day she catched my bus. That was a time when I was just at the start of TheRedPill Path, looking for direction and purpose, how to be cool and lead a manly life(imagine how shitty it was if even I grew disgusted with the amount of time spent on video-games). After the introductions to this sub, I began reading posts on socializing, cold-approach, Game etc.
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One whole year I was her classmate in language class, one whole year I promised myself I'll talk to her the next time I see her on my bus stop, and every day of this year I failed myself. On the next year, I began lifting, confidence and status increased tremendously, and thus I was finally prepared to cold-approach my first girl once the weekend was over.
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Problem is, the Monday's end I awaited so much wasn't what I expected - she wasn't there. Neither on the next day; she must have changed places or something. On the 3rd day her class was nowhere to be seen, police was outside, it's a mess. I asked one of the girls that knows absolutely everything that happens in a kilometer radius, expecting to hear how some 12th graders stabbed each other again or broke their limbs falling on the stairs while fighting. Instead, she told me that a girl from the other class went missing, then her and her family was found dead at their house.
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The family was assassinated because the father was in feud with underground bosses over money. One night they just sent a hitman to their house, sparing not even the dog.
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Why do I tell you this? Because during my very short life I've seen how much a single action can change somebody's life. Months ago I would've been run over by a bus if it wasn't for a girl behind me that pushed us off the street in the last moment. A friend of mine would've been in a bad car crash with 3 other guys if it wasn't for me taking a very long piss and him waiting me. There are so many cases, positive and negative, where the small actions lead to something massive and totally unexpected. The thing is, though I don't really believe in gods and destinies, I strongly believe every one of us experiences something at least a week that determines whether he is improving, stagnating, or degrading. It's like you're having a normal day, when suddenly very specific circumstances appear, that you know won't happen again anytime soon, and both body and mind prompt you to take an action. It's up to you to remember the countless posts you've read on girls, finances, business, gym, and then act. Looking back, I think I would've been shot too if I had the "balls" to talk to a goddamn girl from my fucking class. Either that, or I could've accidently saved her by taking her on a date while her home was attacked(highly unlikely, real-life is, for good of worse, not a popular movie). It doesn't matter now though, the only thing I can do is say "May she rest in peace".
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TL;DR - The clock is ticking. You can die at any moment, a precious person can suddenly disappear, your crush might've been lonely the morning you were right next to her and now it doesn't matter because tonight she'll be dicked by the one who suggested a date for tonight. Time is always running out, things happen to everybody, both small annoyances and extreme examples like I've used for this post. You're waiting for the "perfect opportunity"? Life is a sandbox, and you never build your sand castles with the same grains; in other words, nothing happens the same way twice, and if you're training yourself to take the next "moment that was just like the one I failed to act on because I wasn't prepared properly", you're training for failure. Train to see what's in the present and act accordingly to your wishes, or you risk losing something, sometimes forever.
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Someone correct me about the flair if I've marked it wrong.
Fulltilt_Ronny 5y ago
see it this way: you might have got killed if u talked to this Girl.
BigAssSecret 5y ago
You call this a missed opportunity?
Imagine you would have approached her and was at her house that day... lol
That would have been an actual missed opportunity, not 1 potential pussy.
ThiccBoisClub 5y ago
"You're waiting for the "perfect opportunity"? Life is a sandbox, and you never build your sand castles with the same grains; in other words, nothing happens the same way twice, and if you're training yourself to take the next "moment that was just like the one I failed to act on because I wasn't prepared properly", you're training for failure. Train to see what's in the present and act accordingly to your wishes, or you risk losing something, sometimes forever."
This has never resonated with me more than now - for some reason, this quote is really sticking with me and is incredibly humbling and motivating.
DefinitelyNotaCoder 5y ago
Where in the world do you live bro? Time to move.
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That was a rather long and rambling way to explain the butterfly effect
Swami_of_Six_Paths 5y ago
I don’t believe this unless I see proof. Nice post nonetheless.
heeeytherepal 5y ago
Unrelated, but are you from Russia? If not, where were you taking Russian? I want to learn badly.
Marty30001 5y ago
From Eastern Europe; I'm taking Russian as second foreign language in High School. But it's just shitty education - use mobile apps to get started, then what I suggest is to play some video-games in Russian(preferably role-playing games with a lot of dialogue and talking). Use the Internet for words/phrases you don't know, and you'll be сука блять-ing much, much better than the average guy.
heeeytherepal 5y ago
That’s really cool man. Thanks for the advice! I have quite a few friends in Russia so I am very interested in learning. I’ve not learnt much though. I can sound only half the alphabet ahahah. So, you live in America now?
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RedPilledGodEmperor 5y ago
I never regret the shots I took and missed, but I do regret the shots that I wanted to take and never did.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
What about the shots that somebody else took in their own home from some mob boss hitmen?
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Ansec 5y ago
Opportunity is endless, women are everywhere. It is not finite. In your life you'll come across thousands of girls like this one.
From the story it seems as if you put this girl on a pedestal and you still are, even after death. Sure her murder was unfortunate, but if you are anything like how you come off in this post, that girl would never have ever agreed to fuck you. If her father was indeed connected with mob bosses to the point of having a hit on him, he's the top of masculinity. She had that type of man as a role model on who she'd end up fucking. You don't come off as that type of guy at all. Note to other guys. You have to be on par or a better man than the woman's father.
As for death, when it's your time it's your time. Some of us are luckier than others. If you think about it too much you'll be paralyzed by it. Instead you have to focus on yourself, your passions, and your purpose. Give 100% of your soul into that. That way when it is your time you know you didn't waste your life.
alt_account_6 5y ago
Caring about people isn't weak or unmanly. When you die, is that the legacy you want to leave? A cold, uncaring person disposing of others like used fleshlights?
Personally I don't have any intention of remaining single my whole life, I want to pair bond with someone who also can pair bond with me.
Op lost his chance at a girl he liked, and let the opportunity pass by. Life indeed does have limited opporrunity, there's only so many internships, jobs, girls that you can have.
I think it is important to realize that the end goal should be to be in your proper evolutionary place in a relationship as a male, which then creates satisfaction in that relationship.
Hookups and flings are not satisfying. Neither is being hopelessly attached to someone and acting like a complete beta male. I think op is headed in the right direction for a good balance down the line, his journey is there in his post.
Edit: I should say I do agree with abundance, and that there certainly are always other options. All that means is you should carefully evaluate every relationship and be willing to turn to your other options should you find someone unsuitable.
SpectacularFox 5y ago
Be grateful you weren't murdered by a hitman.
Freedom__Fighter 5y ago
What I was thinking; side note, that dick can get you fucked and it can also get you FUCKED.... recognize the difference and be careful with crazy
BloodSurgery 5y ago
There was no hint thought, if he had died it wouldn't have been his fault at all, nor the girl's.
red_philosopher 5y ago
This is a valuable lesson you learned in life, and one that TRP members who read these posts could very well learn it as well.
Carpe Diem
You had many chances, and you delayed, delayed, delayed, delayed. Now, you'll never have that specific chance ever again.
This applies to not only gaming women, but to lifting, working hard, improving yourself, expanding your social circle, learning something new, and all of the other infinitely myriad ways we go about our lives.
Fuck the people who think this shit doesn't belong here. TRP requires that we take command of our lives and seize the opportunities that are presented to us when they appear. If we do not, someone else will and all you'll be left with is hollow regret.
Your lesson was to realize that only we can take command of our lives and make it what we want to be.
mattyiceheretoentice 5y ago
Way too many hardos shitting on OP
Atheist_Utopia 5y ago
Wtf, imagine not having the balls to approach a specific girl during a specific timeframe and then find out she and her whole family got murdered in one night...
Marty30001 5y ago
Psychologists worked with a lot of the students about it. It's one thing hearing about it in the news, completely different when you knew the person.
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It's in the past now, and life goes on. I was in a mild depression while processing the event and learning from the horror. Sadly, I think that a person learns this kind of stuff about life and how short/unfair/chaotic it is only from personal experience. Probably my story holds no real value in such a case.
sogardnitsoc 5y ago
For real? In Eastern Europe it's something usual and you go on with your life in 2-3 days
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UnbreakableFrame 5y ago
This post is not good or relevant to TRP. For any potential new-comers reading this, I'll briefly explain why:
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You need to read the sidebar before you start posting advice for others. This is not a message board for half-baked platitudes. This is TRP. There are guiding principles here that you need to understand before you can participate in the conversation.
BloodSurgery 5y ago
Yeah, I thought the message was gonna be "I could have talked to her/kissed her/befriended her or whatever, but didn't. Now I lost my chance and will never find out what coulda happened" but for no reason his conclusion was that, you can die in any moment?
Marty30001 5y ago
Good points, but I don't belive we have the same point of view. I confess I had oneitis years ago, for a lot of girls. But this post isn't about her specifically - I use an event that made me rethink a lot of what I knew until that point, so that the readers can get the idea a bit better in my opinion. The sidebar has been read, as have been many of the suggested RP books. Theory time is over, and for quite some time now I've been only improving, taking short breaks from lifting and pulling chicks because wisdom teeth removals. This is a self-improvement resource, and while my post definitely could've been written better by more experienced RedPillers, I believe it has a place here.
UnbreakableFrame 5y ago
I'm not saying that the point you are trying to make is invalid; time is a finite, valuable asset. What I'm saying is that the context and method used to reach your conclusion is problematic and rooted in blue-pilled thinking. I'm glad you've done your due diligence of reading and lifting and you have a great attitude. You just need to learn more about what abundance really is. Men with abundance don't "miss opportunities" with women. Men with abundance have the sex they want, with the quality of women that they want, when they want it. Just like you don't overthink the fact that you didn't go out to get steak with your buddies 2 weeks ago, even though you had wanted it, you also don't overthink that you didn't approach that girl in class 1 year ago, even though you wanted to. This is not a natural state of being for most men, but the ability to suppress and ultimately remove that awkward yearning for what could have been with any given girl is the path to liberation from a blue-pilled life.
weezylane 5y ago
I think your post was very well aligned with message you were trying to convey. I don't agree with the original comment.
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mmishu 5y ago
Forget girls what about other things like male relationships friendships career opportunities showing up to events and such. I have a tendency to put these things on the back burner bc im such a perfectionist and it never feels like the right time to show up and show off.
How do i get over that
UnbreakableFrame 5y ago
Can you distill that down to a more specific question? That's kind of a shotgun blast of little open-ended questions.
mmishu 5y ago
I guess I have anxiety? Meaning everything needs to be eprfect before i make an appearance or “show up”. I have a tendency of attending outings once im in shape, got career gains going for me. Etc. and i like the ego boost i get
But once i take a break from lifting or lifes not gojng well for me or i havent cut my hair. Ill sort of avoid interaction til im not only good but way better than last time and everyone else im running into
UnbreakableFrame 5y ago
I only go to social gatherings when I have completed all the things on my personal development lists. If I'm slacking off then I don't allow myself to do fun thing until I stop slacking off and make progress. I honestly don't know what the solution to your anxiety is, but try using this quirk to get yourself to work harder on your mission/goals and then reward yourself with social time. Maybe your group is just hyper competitive. I don't think I've ever felt that way about any of my social circles, but most of my life-long friends are sort of complacent betas, so it's not hard to look good around them.
Xoramung 5y ago
You and your fear mongering.
Whats that about killing even the dog. Russian mafia. sounds familiar.
EL_Miore 5y ago
Interesting write-up. Haven't seen one like this on the sub.
OlofPalmeBurnInHell 5y ago
This. I just want to add Fuck this spinning plates attitude. Time comes and good girls get married and never come back to dating pool ever again. In your 30s you will be left with garbage left overs, that hardly worth effort of 'spinning plates'.
Atheist_Utopia 5y ago
are still biologically programmed to submit to hypergamy
Anonymous-O 5y ago
As has been said many times, red pill doesn't mean you have to be promiscuous. Red pill philosophy also works in exclusive relationships. Good girls are still girls and will act on the feminine imperative. Being red pill aware makes you knowledgeable on what her actions really mean. So that relationship can have a fighting chance.
This madonna/whore complex some of you have, you need to get rid of. All women will act in certain ways, just like all men act in certain ways.
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Lol, yep you're stuck buying cars that were manufactured in your birth year. Absolutely no chance of buying a new model.
Thunderbird93 5y ago
Well said. Not to mention income levels rise by the 30's that cannot be accomplished with little experience in the 20's. With more money and maturity, well its a no brainer for who can pull more hoes
LordTilde 5y ago
Why would you be trying to plate women in their thirties though? As a high value man, you should be able to attract women in their prime well past your thirties.
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Women in their thirties make decent plates. The former hot ones who feel their beauty fading are very susceptible to platitudes and flattery (in the same way a man crawling in the desert is susceptible to a glass of water).
SpectacularFox 5y ago
Yep. 100%. It's better to put all you effort into finding 1 decent girl to have a family with than fucking a load of sub par women and nothing of real value coming from it.
Thunderbird93 5y ago
Idk bro, do you think monogamy is natural? Only 3-5% of mammals are monogamous, that stat says something. Have you heard of the Coolidge Effect?
SpectacularFox 5y ago
I think it depends on the person. People don't actually fundamentally change that much in their life so if you really know someone fully and love them despite their faults I don't see why that would ever fade. There are many people who have decades long loving relationships so I definitely think it's possible. I'm not saying it's easy to find but IMO it's what people should aim for.
tempolaca 5y ago
Problem is, some things take time.
I was waiting for some months of no-contact to msg my ex, or better, that she msged me, and hopefully dicking her down.
Found out she just got a boyfriend last month.
Waited too long.
Thunderbird93 5y ago
If you hit it once, you could definitely hit it twice. Are you apprehensive to homewreck?
tempolaca 5y ago
Yeah maybe, with enough time. But I don't like fucking grannies
Not with an ex.
ShoushaJr 5y ago
wow 2nd blue pilled post in a day..gonna unsub if this keeps happening