Hi guys. Cultural differences apart, which is a huge aspect of course to consider, but it's needy to put aside in this case, I just want to know if you think is there some behavior stereotype about girls \~20 or \~25 years from megacities, some pattern different, compared to girls from medium-sized and small-size cities.
I am brazilian, and lived in a 100k nice city, but with the limitations which a small city always have to offer, like few places to hang out and high degree of existing mutual friends with people you just knew tonight. Then I started to explore and moved to a large city next to mine, with 1 million, Campinas, which is pretty good btw and became fascinated by the number of places, clubs and people. Always something new, but with a country-side mentality in the air of this city (and focused in make a new and awesome redpilledversion2.0 life), I am moving next year, in february, to São Paulo (moving to make college there), which is 100km from here (not that far), and one of the largest cities in the world, bigger than NYC itself.
B-but, in a city where you find people from the entire world, every country, every culture, all places to hang out you can possible imagine, all types of clubs you can imagine, girls and ppl in general can become anesthetized to new stymulus, because I presume they have saw everything. If you say you study in a 5-star college (my case) in a small city, the girls would become very excited and you have already won the night. You say so in a 20M city and 'meeh' will be your answer. You traveled to Paris last year (not my case haha), girls from a 50k city would spread out their legs at the same time, because no one she knows probably did that. You say so in a fucking large city and they will laugh at you because she knew 3 people that did that in this week only. If you have a pretty-unique style, you become different in a fucking rural city, but in SP you will just be a anonymous in the street. In a city where you are just a invisible cell it's more hard to shine, i think.
Do you get me? I am afraid of that. There is someone here from New York, London, Chicago, or alike, anyway, which can orientate me about the crucial differences that girls from large cities have and the harder it becomes in matching and gaming?
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Hi, older guy here (40) who travels nearly constantly (for work) to major cities in US and Europe.
I've found that girls (yes I bang 20-somethings, it's easy when you're older) in big cities are lonelier and less happy than in smaller more rural cities where they tend to know everyone and have a more tight knit set of friends. If anything, you will get way more ass in a big city by default.
You're right in that girls from smaller towns are more impressed by worldliness but that's beta mentality anyway. She should be impressed by your physical animal prowess and envision how you're going to beat her into the mattress and make her do freaky shit the other boys are too timid for.
This is a common trap young guys fall into, especially guys (and girls) from smaller cities. Do NOT try to appear more worldly than you are. #1 People who are worldly know the difference. #2 It's a waste of time and money and unless you're a millionaire you won't win that game. There are too many trust fund kids running around who can go anywhere in the world at the drop of a hat. You'll bankrupt yourself (morally and financially) trying to pretend that's you.
Instead just be that hot guy they met at the bookstore/coffeeshop/day drinking/etc... who has good game, knows how to have fun, doesn't put up with her shit like the orbiters, and beats that pussy like it owes you money.
Honestly I've found cities are full of weak ass men and the more of a monstrous flared nostril asshole you are the wetter they get. In Washington DC, New York, and London, three of the most worldly and prestige oriented cultures in the world for young women I smashed an unbelievable amount of ass by just adhering to basic red pill truths.
It's a target rich environment and she doesn't want to fuck that rich worldly lawyer, he just takes her to nice places, she wants YOU to fuck her brains out and have HER pay for some quick street food.
Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
the hard part is not running game on the girls in big cities, the hard part is getting the girl to give choosing signs.
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Ansec 5y ago
There are huge differences in each city from Vegas, Chicago, New York, Minneapolis. Bigger the city the hotter the women and the hotter the men. I find Minneapolis and Chicago to be good for middle of the road. A lot of easy HB7s and your competition is low. New York and Vegas you get a lot of HB9s and it's much harder to get their attention.
The more liberal the city the harder it gets too. New York is thinking about putting forth a law that will criminalize men for approaching women.
It's easier the more status you have. I suggest networking and being someone that's top of your field. That way people talk about you and do most the work for you. Social proof. That way when you go to a party people know you before you speak to them.
1v1crown 5y ago
Check out the mice utopia experiments. Will answer most of these questions.
44361066 5y ago
The more people, the more competition you have. Everything gets consumed quickly in big cities.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
And the more competition the girls have. A girl who was “Miss Apple Blossom” at the autumn fair in Dumpsville, Wisconsin is just another pretty girl in NYC or LA.
44361066 5y ago
Quality flourishes in big cities as you’re exposed to “what can be” and become more competitive, but results don’t get appreciated in all that hustle. Like getting used to new dopamine highs and needing more.
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CaiusBard 5y ago
It's not that hard to get laid in the big city, there's just more people. What you're saying is true when talking about 9 and 10's. You probably won't get any attention from them as you maybe would if you were in the country. But as long as you're decent looking, have game, personality, and a good job, you'll be fine.
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lol I went to Los Angeles a few months ago, and I got laid by hardly doing anything. Just staying out late enough until some girl came along and randomly chose to be interested in me for some reason. She was about a 7. Of course, there were hundreds of girls I passed by in the street who didn't even notice me but all you need is one.
pepe_silvia18 5y ago
The way you tell this even seems that you married her hauhuaha. That's a true about this life, always some girl will break the rules and simply like us by no reason. We just can't forget that this have 0,001% probability of happening and keeping the girl for more than one day is other matter and other game. But this also happened with me with no explanation (I was a weirdo "bluepilled" /r9k/ browser at the time) before, and a pretty one..
Getting a 10/10 is out of my range btw. Probably you can if meet her in a normal place and work for weeks showing high SMV, but achieving that in one night/one hour no, at least for now.
And I can't imagine going for a city where I already spent 200+ hours there on her virtual sibling on GTA hahaha
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phibetared 5y ago
I've lived in San Francisco, NYC, and Paris. There is SOME of what you are talking about that goes on (example in a moment) but there are also any benefits to a bigger city.
A big city has more women.
A smaller town has fewer people, which means a woman must be MORE careful of who she has sex with. Everybody knows everybody - which is not the case in a big city.
The demographics of a city matter. NYC has more women as a percentage than San Francisco (and not just because of the gay guys - it is because of the engineering companies in Silicon Valley). So it is easier to meet good women in NYC than in SF (for many other reasons, too).
However, in NYC I met a cute young eastern european girl. She liked me... but soon was jetting around the world with a billionaire. He had his own airplane, I had a monthly subway pass. Oh well, next.
On the other hand, being in good shape and making her laugh will go a long way... further than boring her to death with simple money.
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packetdata 5y ago
Women in SF are these multi colored femenazis,pound about on hiw they are underrepresented in software.
yanngg 5y ago
Primeira vez que acho um brasileiro aqui, bacana isso
SirKromsu 5y ago
Normalmente as pessoas falam de forma mais generalizada aqui, não citam detalhes específicos. Isso faz com que pareçam europeu/americano mas tenho bastante certeza que essa comunidade atravessa o mundo todo.
pepe_silvia18 5y ago
Acho que tem vários man, a gente só passa batido um pro outro porque aqui não é o 4Chan também onde tem uma bandeirinha do lado no nome. De qualquer jeito tem muito br na causa, geralmente concentrados em torno de canais do Youtube como do Copini
bemore_ 5y ago
In Sri Lanka the leopard is the apex predator - at the top of the food chain. In india the leopard must compete with the tiger. In Africa the leopard must compete with the lion .. so yeah your environment will probably change the game for you but western women themselves behave the same
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redpill77 5y ago
I live in sort of a big city, about 1.5 million, and here it is very easy to lose her attention.
On the other hand, girls have their defenses up more for the constant inundation of thirsty guys, which means that if you approach with a value-giving attitude, they are pleasantly surprised. Oftentimes they can be almost hostile at first (some will be straight up hostile), but if you show that you don't need their validation they will open up (sometimes now, sometimes you need to reapproach).
It's also great for generating social proof on the fly. Groups will be more open to socializing with strangers, so you can meet and befriend guys and girls and have more and more social proof as the night goes on.
pepe_silvia18 5y ago
Some laws about 'sort yourself out and becoming the alpha male' never change I note.
Understanding that before us thousand guys tried, so it's all the question to have something really relevant to show. The filter just got more restrictive, but don't become exactly harder, just selective. It's just follow the 20% manual.
That observation is niceeee! That's my strategy generally, as I use to be a lone wolf.
Variasvezes 5y ago
Theres also a stereotype of women in Brazil being easy is that true for natives or just gringos??
Also even tho its ilegal do you think going to prostitutes in Brazil isnt a big deal?? Like nobody Cares if they see u go fuck with one
Sorry for the off topic just curious
pepe_silvia18 5y ago
90% br international stereotypes ----> Rio de Janeiro
But, it's like US. It's very like other countries in this aspect. You know, sluts all places have, and if you go in a "party" in the middle of a favela, yes, it will be easy for everyone. But in a normal party, normal difficulty level. I don't look for sluts and easy sex with potential STD holders so for me it doesn't matter.
No, not illegal. You have clubs for this or just searh at google and send a WhatsApp message to them.
Nocryingok 5y ago
It's easier to be top 20% in Campinas than it is to be in São Paulo. Simple answer: you'll have to fuck down. And why do us brazilians always need to mention it?
Midwest master race checking in
pepe_silvia18 5y ago
1000x more places, shops, services
1000x more nightclubs
1000x more Tinder girls in a 10km radius
1000x more job and entrepreneurship opportunities
Well, I have to pay some price for this after all. And also man, look the top of the hierarchy always, and when achieve the 1%, no city will be hard for me.
Also, carrer and myself in first place. And I am moving for college
Nocryingok 5y ago
sure, there are many upsides and I'm happy for you if it's really the best choice
Foobyx 5y ago
Yes, of course.
Huge cities means higher level of education, income, culture. But usually you date in your circles: you probably not gonna meet models if you are not in the fashion industry or have enough money to take a vip table at a club. As you pointed, most people travel too cause they have the money and by education are curious about the world. Not a big deal though, travel is a personnal experience and at your age, few people travelled outside their country.
Nicolas0631 5y ago
If you go out with other people from your new college and get chick from there, for sure everybody will be part of it, so that's nothing special. You could go to Cambrige, England to study, that's a very small town but the problem would be the same, you be together with other people like you so you are no longer special. Everybody there being extremely smart and studying, likely to grow their own carreer and likely more people have a wealthy family and actually have visiter the whole world already, have a boat/plane/big villa.
And there are big chances that for LTR, you may much prefer someone like that actually. You may prefer to be with somebody that is smart and motivated like you. So yes you'll need to up your game because basically you'll be into the next level. But it doesn't mean that just by going out in the right place you couldn't find some easy pick too. As there many more clubs, bars, restaurants, places and activities you have more choice and if anything they are more specialized, quite likely. You could choose what is interresting you more and change often.
Andgelyo 5y ago
Yes, this happened to me. I am from metro NJ and close to NYC, so when I moved to Massachusetts my style and attitude was very different from the country folk there. I was very popular in school because of it.
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