Taking a stroll down memory lane and re-posting some classic content to finish out the year, it's fun to think about the process of becoming red pilled. Too many men thing it all happens at once- friends, no! You'll think you're all the way there and then something will jump out at you that seems so obvious now, but five years ago would have flown over your head. This piece is no different. Like most men, as a teenager and young adult, I was enamored with the cool girl. Whatever form that may take today- the "gamer girl," the "comic book girl," for some brahs the "sports fanatic"- it always seemed like the best of both worlds to date a girl who was "#badass" and could be a best friend too.
And then you learn the differences between men and women, and you get that the "cool girl" is as vapid as the rock n' roll t-shirt section at H&M- it's a pose, it's a fashion statement. What may look nice on the outside- her big fucking tits in a tight Metallica tshirt- is nothing more than a living room set-up at Ikea; don't look too closely and you'll be okay.
Which is when I realized... the cool girl is no different than the white knight- different forms of sexual strategy to hide their deficiencies and separate themselves from the pack.
[EXCERPT FROM "The Cool Girl and the White Knight: Sexual Strategy and Identity"]
Traditional sexual strategy for women involves those cursed beauty standards which keep feminists up at night. Girly hair and make-up, a charming feminine demeanor, and a sexually alluring body-type which may necessitate trips to the gym or a reasonably controlled diet. Not foul-language, not cigarette smoking, not beer swilling, nor an ego-obsessed girl bent on proving how cool and smart she is.
When women aren’t aesthetically gifted enough to attract high-value men they attempt to change the parameters by-which men are attracted to women through trickery and sophistry. They redefine attraction and attempt to sell the redefinition. Women assume that since authenticity and identity are important qualities which attract them to high-value men, in the name of universal equality, these things are at the forefront of what will attract a man to a woman- if only she can convince him that bikini-model measurements are embarrassing and unsophisticated.
Sex-positive women, or sexperts, attempt to swing their promiscuous behavior into the realm of intellectual sophistication. Of course, the difference between a dumb slut and a sex-positive sexpert is defined by the latter; a man should not want the unintelligent, unsophisticated dumb slut. Her promiscuity is inauthentic, she probably has self-esteem problems, or daddy issues; therefore the sex she provides is undesirable. Wait, what?
Modern female sexual strategy is intended to garner committed interest from high-value men, but end-ups only serving to coddle the woman’s ego and feelings; she’ll still have the same promiscuous sex with attractive men, have the same beta-male orbiters, and date men who exist somewhere between the two.
The white knight is the male equivalent of the cool girl, using a meticulously sculpted identity in an attempt to garner sexual interest. The white knight will rightfully understand that authenticity and identity are necessary for what will attract women, and like Christine, will consciously understand his own limitations and attempt to redefine the parameters of what women find desirable.
The difference between the cool girl and the white knight is that the white knight has to keep a keener eye toward what he thinks is reality whereas the cool girl could entirely dictate what she wanted reality to be. The cool girl can say outright that a high-value male should want an authentic girl with admirable interests, regardless of the reality of what actually interests him. She is able to do this because the cool girl will always garner partial results- as long as she’s just attractive enough, she’ll be able to receive some degree of short-term sexual attention from an attractive man while rationalizing his lack of continued interest (ie: “he was a jerk”), all while her beta-male orbiters console her (ie: “he was a jerk… but I’m not” [crickets]).
The white knight doesn’t have this luxury. While female sexual strategy is meant to capture the highest-value man, male sexual strategy is meant to capture the greatest number of women.
The white knight is a white knight because he cannot be competitive using traditional male sexual strategy- embracing masculinity, exuding confidence, exuding success, looking good, and understanding female nature; this is the way of high-value men. Since the white knight cannot compete on this playing field, he must attempt to redefine attractive as the converse of these attributes.
While it isn’t entirely his fault, trying to win by disqualifying the competition is certainly not honorable. The white knight is listening to the complaints of the cool girl who is upset that the masculine man only used her for sex. Since she isn’t able to emasculate him to his face (and likely wouldn’t want to if she were able to have his attention again), she blows off steam to the white knight. The white knight hears her complaints and takes them very seriously, and without experience or knowledge of true female nature, will come to the false conclusion that what she really wants is the opposite of the masculine man (“he was a jerk, but I’m not!”).
The white knight knows enough about women to understand the need to entirely buy-in to his persona as white knight; “authenticity” is necessary to a woman. This is why it may initially seem curious that men will white knight to one-another when there are no women present. Like Christine would use her cool-girl persona to coddle her self-esteem, the white knight will define himself, and derive positive self-esteem, through his white knighting.
The white knight is a misguided and failed attempt at sexual strategy. Like the cool girl, it is sexual strategy by-way of disqualification. Unlike the cool girl who is able to leverage her youth and easily-accessible sexuality to garner limited sexual interest, the white knight can only derive satisfaction from his lonely identity as white knight; he’ll then reach a crossroads where he’ll either angrily white knight even harder, like the broken gambler looking for that elusive big-score, or he’ll pursue a different sexual strategy entirely.
Sexual strategy is like that scene at the end of Wargames where Joshua the computer tries to launch nuclear weapons and start World War 3; the computer cycles-through launch codes quickly while keeping the bits of code that are a positive match. Most people unconsciously allow their brain to do this work, matching behaviors with their positive outcomes, and bookmarking those behaviors while discarding the ineffective.
The cool girl and the white knight mirror the end of the movie, where Joshua learns the futility of nuclear war as a zero-sum game through playing itself in tic-tac-toe, a similarly unwinnable game. Sadly, the cool girl will never learn this lesson by misunderstanding her limited sexual success and the white knight through a combination of willful ignorance and toxic social conditioning.
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MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Ah, but this isn't the wrong conclusion so much as the intended conclusion. He was supposed to reach this conclusion. It's a shit test designed to make beta men believe they should be beta as well as to find out who is beta (those that listen and believe) and those who are not (those that laugh and say "he sounds hot").
WOLFY-T 5y ago
Sometimes y'all just analyse way to much, personally I think when u have a purpose in life to impact and inspire others in terms if changing lives, women cease to be of any special value worth so much analysis. It's just pussy and we are just dicks.
exit_sandman 5y ago
There's a difference between the Cool Girl and the White Knight - being a Cool Girl works, being a White Knight doesn't.
Because, seriously, let's take a look at this:
So, in other words, a cool girl is a girl who loves (kinky) sex, doesn't shit test or get on my nerves, has the same interests I have, is into me, and is hot. Now of course I wouldn't suggest to pick a woman who is just pretending to be like that (i.e. who doesn't twist herself to fit the specific idea of a specific guy); but other than that: a woman who checks all the boxes for men and is reasonably attractive shouldn't want for their attention.
That's quite the opposite of a WhiteKnight or NiceGuy who, if anything, actively hurts his chances with women if he behaves like that.
TheObservationalist 5y ago
The cool girl doesn't exist. That's the point.
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dusara217 5y ago
This is an interesting take, but I would argue that the cool girl aesthetic goes well beyond superficial aesthetics and into the classic idea of the dandy. A dandy is a man that takes on feminine aesthetics, such as taking great care about how he dresses, moves gracefully, or tries to look pretty. He attracts a woman by making her, in a sense, see herself in him; there's something strangely seductive about the pretty boy.
On the flip side, you see the female equivalent of the dandy, the cool girl. It can all just be an act, but there have been many women throughout history that channelled the more masculine side of themselves, and made men go wild for them. Nietsche famously had his heart broken by a woman that basically travelled through Europe seducing philosophers and well-educated men with her incredible grasp on the classically masculine field of philosophy. They would see this beautiful woman with what was often described as the mind of a man, and would fall deeply in love with her. When you see a woman that manages to remain feminine while also engaging in classically masculine activities, it is extremely attractive.
Thus, the cool girl aesthetic can be nothing more than a superficial attempt at being attractive, but, if a woman genuinely engages in and enjoys masculine activities, she gains a massive leg up in attracting a man. Men should use this to their advantage as well; remain intensely masculine, while also engaging in feminine activities. A man that has a refined fashion sense or who is a good dancer will be a far more effective seducer than the man that shuns such feminine pursuits.
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TheGoldenLeprechaun 5y ago
Just remember the crazy / hot matrix. If she's a 10 hot and 4 or less crazy, it's a unicorn or a tranny. Check for the strap.
exit_sandman 5y ago
Quite frankly I doubt that traps with a crazy of 4 or less exist.
throwsdoor 5y ago
Excellent point. I think, however, you may be overlooking a premise laid out by the article about the level of difficulty in choosing the cool girl tactic over the overly feminine. I think it begs the question of wether or not taking the cool girl or dandy (for men) route like you mentioned is actually easier or not than to conform and compete with society’s feminine/masculine expectations.
I agree with most of your observations in what we as men find attractive in women when they can “hang with the boys”. Although, I would make the case for the post being more of a warning/reminder to the TRP community regarding tactics that can stray furthest from societal definitions of what is feminine/masculine. The articles wants to shed light on these often obscure tactics to show them for what they are, merely a variety of sexual strategies that many either rely on or have seen quite too often in our lives, and opens the curtains for us to see what the cool girl is all about: gaining a competitive edge.
Lastly, it’s seems that these strategies can be successful at times but to garner the highest productivity of this (or any strategy for that matter) one must commit and plunge deep into the rabbit hole of their chosen strategy. This idea would be backed by your last paragraph where you mention a woman who would genuinely engage and enjoy masculine activities has an gained an edge over her competition.
Overall, the post and your comments truly reflect teachings from TRP on learning your own way to game. But again I want to ask and am curious what y’all think, is choosing and using these strategies really easier than trying to be the best hot-cheerleader/Chad?
My guess is choosing these is definitely easier, but employing and mastering can be as challenging as the battle to be the biggest gym bro.
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278209AR948Q 5y ago
Everyone has their sexual strategy. The ones that win will keep the system going, while the ones that don't will try to redefine it to meet their qualilfications. They do this so they can win.
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The cool girl knows that, deep down, she is losing the battle against other, more conventially attractive women. She is playing this game to "be different" in hopes of winning her own sexual strategy.
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