I got asked this question the other day by a co-worker of mine. He’s that type of naturally Red Pilled person, maybe even knows about this place, but because of the hyper PC work environment were in... best he doesn’t bring it up.
We were talking about our statistics while we were criticizing online dating, Tinder and shit.
It really left me to reflect on what aspects of my life revolve around women. A lot of the things we do in life can solely be inspired by our desire to mate. Putting frame, abundance, and other theory aside, we’ll just categorize things by the following.
A) You do something to get women
B) You do something for another reason
I really started thinking about things I do and the choices I make. But not just that. What I found really interesting is how much I think about women. How much I am thinking about how to get women. How much I think about my lined up plates back home and bet on who’s gonna hop on another dick first.
Surely, some important aspects of my life don’t revolve around women. Like my job, or the car I drive, or the things I own.
Yet, how many times did I post a picture on social media thinking, “Oh this is cool. Girls will love it.”? Or how many times did I buy everyone a round hoping that the girls would see my flexing from the corner?
But that is only but once in a blue moon. Those day-to-day sexual thoughts are is the real indicator of how much my life revolves around women. That’s why I am trying to get off Bumble and other online dating. Too much attention being taken away, and emotions being stirred.
From this, I was able to identify that I have a serious abundance mentality that I need to work on. I don’t know if I’m feeling all cuddly because it’s winter, or my messed up workout schedules.
What are some of the smaller things you do in life that might fall into this category?
AriesAsF 5y ago
Our biology works against us every moment of every day. I have a cattle farm and raise purebred Aberdeen Angus and have a small, purebred bull I breed them with for easy birthing and docile calves. My neighbor has a bunch of crazy-ass mutt cows and his bull is a fucking monster. He's trashed the fence multiple times to get to my females, through barbed and razorwire, through electrified fences, and it takes three of us with cattle prods to get him back on his side. I told me neighbor next time I caught him on my land, I'd make hamburger so now he stays in a smallish pen at the furthest end from my land, heavily reinforced and electrified. He spends all day, every day, staring at the females, bellowing with rage like something out of Jurassic park. All day. Every day. There is literally no thought in his head other than getting some. We aren't livestock, but the principle stands, biology is a mother fucker. The intense, constant urge to spread your seed would exist regardless of your intelligence level. The more you get, the most satisfied you will be, but there will always be new females taunting you from the other side of the fence. (The irony is how utterly disinterested in mating the females are, their lives rotate entirely around acquiring resources and protecting their calves, the bull can fuck right off as far as they're concerned.)
warlordchad 5y ago
I just want to say, we should all get off online dating. All men. Swipe dating accelerates hypergamy and turns women into picky, entitled brats.
ExcellentStudio 5y ago
Men's lives revolve around women in the same way a hungry man's life revolves around food.
I remember being in basic training in the army and thinking about food constantly. I distinctly remember being given a granola bar and fantasizing about how many granola bars I could buy myself when I was out. I stashed food away in my locker, risking big consequences. I got exceedingly angry when I felt it was someone else's fault I was getting less to eat (they didn't go through line fast enough and I got two minutes to eat). I put a lot of thought into what foods to choose for maximum caloric intake. Then I got out, and was back to my normal never really thinking about food at all state within a day.
Basically, the lack of this biological necessity made me moody, obsessive, impulsive in seeking a remedy.
Sound familiar?
I think the more regular pussy you have, the less you think and worry about it and make bad decisions and sacrifices for it. This is probably why monogamous marriage seems to be necessary for civilized society... a wet hole for every man.
This is kind of common sense but I think the solution to this sort of problem OP is really a material one. Lift and crank up that SMV and fix the problem at the root, and then transcend to not worrying about it .
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togetherforyou 5y ago
The moments in life when I had a lot of different pussy all I could think of was more pussy. From getting all that pussy I got an insane selfesteem and I am a pretty realistic guy meaning my thoughts only expanded. Now suddenly threesome with two sexy girls were within my reach and I could finally think more and more about girls. Mostly I had sex with girls for the memories. I guess we are different.
Pooptrition 5y ago
I fast for 3-4 days sometimes. The overriding need to eat vanishes, returning only in occasional waves.
The pervasive rumination and focus on women, however, is a constant companion even when I abstain from sex and masturbation. Its actually annoying, as I am trying to improve my zen practice, yet this desire always pulls me down to the beast & human realm and like all desire, leads to unease.
jbpostv 5y ago
Understanding the human as an evolved primate like any other animal, one can reflect to realize all our actions are motivated by avoidance of death (health), competing for rank in terms of physical, resource and social capital (LMS), and cashing in on procreation with it. This fact is obscured by the incredibly advanced society we’ve made as hyper-intelligent animals and our conscious mind itself, but the limbic and reptilian parts of the brain, shared by all animals, drive the content of our “human” brain.
Male penguins are known for presenting shiny rocks to potential mates in exchange for sexual favors. Only difference with humans is they’re presented in velvet boxes. Hmmm ????
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
Try doing extended workouts at the gym... like 2 hours. I find that an hour workout leaves me feeling good but also horned-up. If I work out for more like 2 hours, I'm spent. I theorize that longer workouts use up my free testosterone. Obviously, eat and sleep enough to recover if you do long workouts.
Pooptrition 5y ago
Wow, you are right about this. I hadn't put the pieces together. I worked out today for about that long and my thoughts really haven't been there since. Good tip for the toolbox when it gets bothersome.
OldPeopleLeather 5y ago
I've been able to remove the desire entirely in the past by never letting my thoughts wander to sexual things, along with nofap of course. At around 60 days I got to a point where I could discuss and think about sex like one thinks about grasshoppers mating. I understood and comprehended it, but there was zero emotional affectation.
Pooptrition 5y ago
This is interesting and the opposite of what I would expect. My inner ascetic wants to try it out. Was your sex drive the same as before when you came back? I definitely am not ready to erase my desire altogether yet.
OldPeopleLeather 5y ago
It wasn't that my sex drive was lacking, I always had it if I wanted it, it was that I consciously controlled it and consciously turned it off. If I really wanted to I could think of a sexual thought and get a boner immediately. I was pretty much semihard 24/7, but it was never a horniness, just an awareness. I would 100% recommend, the only reason I stopped is because I relapsed.
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
My desire for women disappears when on nofap. I’m on it now.
Vikingcel 5y ago
But does your cock triple in size and starts to shoot laser beams?
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
Yeah. Did you not get that??
Vikingcel 5y ago
Nope. I get depressed cause I dont get laid, but my dick starts holding so much energy I could use it as a powerbank.
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
You need to go past a month
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RPSilverfox 5y ago
I think the majority of men occupy a large percentage of their thoughts on how to get women as this is a biological drive that we naturally possess. The difference between most men and men who have embraced TRP is the way we go about it. By starting with improving ourselves (our primary goal) we become more attractive to women and when we do pursue a certain woman we have better results by applying the principles we have learned or experienced.
thepanda37 5y ago
It's really simple, and what you're on to is why this place has to evolve (or why you have to leave after a certain point).
It's not about women vs not women, but ego vs not ego. Of course it's the sex drive that will be our, us being young (more or less western) men, most dominant selfish desire, and even if it is something else too (greed, gluttony, recognition, some sort of other obsession), it's in no way better.
So what's the other alternative?
For what other reason can you possibly do something if not to satisfy your egoistic desires?
Faith, belief, religion.
How many people here are from stable culturally advanced and christian homes?
I bet not many. Sure as hell not me... (and even if, it's probably the sort of effeminate grotesque parody of Christianity).
And this is why you can't be stuck in the "trp is amoral, it's just about how to get women....", it's self-contradictory.
Because sexual success ultimately comes from
Which ofc has already existed for thousands of years.
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GardenofBeden 5y ago
This was gearing up to be a solid post about focusing on your mission or re-evaluating life’s priorities. I challenge you to expand this post.
NightOuts 5y ago
Good thread. The above post and browsing mgtow really changed my mindstate.
Men put WAY too much effort into getting pussy to where i think it's unhealthy.
These bitches really do not matter. I'm not molding myself to be desirable to a broad.
TheGillos 5y ago
The single biggest thing that improved my ability to get women was "not caring if I got a woman".
Kratz177 5y ago
Almost nothing. Notice how in America most guys are obsessed with women either by hating them or by doing pua. Most guys around the world pay hookers for sex and have a wife that raises the children. The role women plays in their life is minimal. That is why I’m pro-legalization.
cafeitalia 5y ago
If you are 18 and all you care is pussy, and you don't know anything about abundance, or if you are a loser who only cares about lay count rather than self development and still know nothing about abundance then your life will revolve around women. Otherwise you will be who you are supposed to be and make your own life the priority not some bimbo's or a potential bimbo's. This op was more like an asktrp post rather than the rp.
Pillautomas 5y ago
If you apply Mgtow the proper way instead of being a fucking degenerate retard that beats his meat or never got play like a incel cuck. Then yeah... The hero's journey is beautiful.
True Purpose. The Ultimate Path to Self Mastery is amazing.
RP granted me this freedom with the power of knowledge. My purpose for life is R&D. Self funding my own projects and diving deeper into whatever I feel like learning or doing. That time energy resources no one can take from me.
God Bless The Bliss of Brachmacharya.
imtheoneimmortal 5y ago
I don’t know maybe some hours at week? I have to put my shit together with money status and lifting, than maybe womens