I want to at least put this idea out there because I've seen a growing contingent of not even AFCs, more like people who don't even make it to the average guy level. Remember that the average guy as BP as he may be, does get laid. Not as much as they'd probably want but it does happen. If we're honest that's who RP is actually designed to help.
I think the point I am trying to communicate came across well with the recent posts from users here urging people to shut up and lift. I agree with this, but even lifting would require a certain baseline of self-discipline that people may not have. You'd be surprised by the guys I see running around the university these days. Frankly, there are some men here who are sexually frustrated but are not really at the level necessary for the sidebar or RP theory in general to actually help them. As a rule of thumb, if you're not getting laid AT ALL, then you've got bigger problems to worry about. Lifting is what gets you from 50% to 80%, experience and RP gets you past that 80%. But let's talk about that first 50%. Honestly ask yourself:
Are you showering reasonably regularly (once every 3 days is not normal)? Did you attempt to shave or groom your facial hair to look normal? Is your room constantly in a state of dissarray? Can you hold a conversation with strangers that isn't about video games or anime (If you do these things, QUIT)? Do you wear the same clothes every day, and are the clothes of reasonable quality and cleanliness? Do you act like a man does? Do you know how to be a man? Do you surround yourself with people who are a positive influence on your life? Do you have a job or a direction in life? Do you actually try in school, if you are in school? Are you paralyzed by anxiety? Do you grapple with depression? Do you have any legitimate reason to be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished? Do you think you're worthless? Are you worried you won't be able to sexually perform if you had the opportunity? Who are you anyway?
This is by no means an exhaustive list and much of this is based on parts of RP, but really, ask yourself these questions honestly.
If you don't meet a normal baseline for hygiene, appearance, mental health, a good sense of self and masculine identity, and direction in life, then that's really what you should be working on first. By all means don't turn down pussy that comes your way but, please, don't come in here thinking that you're going to reach your sexual goals by reading up on some stuff alone. RP doesn't cover specifics on the first 50% and frankly I think what I've said is as much as needs to be said on this topic.
You're not different. You're not special. Sort out your shit. Respect yourself. Get a therapist, preferably male and older than you (you don't have to be crazy to benefit). Get that first 50% down, get to average. Then lift. Then we can have a conversation about optimizing sexual strategy.
will_berttttt 6y ago
Where should i look to improve my style. I wear the same shit everyday(tshirt, jeans, hat).
Incel_Executioner 6y ago
What to do if you can bench 2 plate for sets of 10, shave bidaily and shower daily? I hang out with chad and chadlite guys who get laid regularly. Good general conversations skills, often making conversations with whoever.
Dudes who don't do any of that get laid but women still treat me like a piece of shit on the sidewalk because of my face. Feels like I'm missing something obvious but it's likely just my ugly as fuck fucked up face.
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No. Start with lifting. And work on everything else at the same time.
truedemocracy3 6y ago
Agree but depends where you are coming from. Thin little incel soy body? Start lifting. Neckbeard lard ass fat fuck? Then your focus should be cardio and weight loss (lift too, but in terms of beginners advice eat less run more)
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A proper workout burns more than stupid cardio. As the guy already said, weight loss is about diet. Instead of doing cardio for an hour might as well eat one or two snickers bars less. No difference at all.
TheDialecticParadox 6y ago
This is the incorrect way of thinking about it. People tend to have this skewed perception that cardio = fat loss, lifting = gaining muscle. It is 90% diet. Yes you would lose weight faster running and eating less, but you will be miserable and lose quality muscle from being a bigger person. Slow weight loss (lifting/goof diet) is a lot more sustainable
truedemocracy3 6y ago
how do you do a muscle gain diet? I find it difficult to eat 3000+ QUALITY calories a day and no, dont consider peanut butter quality calories
TheDialecticParadox 6y ago
It doesn't matter what I do. For you all that matters is two things:
Your body (Do you blow up after one slice of pizza?)
Most guys want to do one of two bulks. A slow 'lean' bulk. Or a 'dirty' bulk. I always recommend the former as it is healthier and more sustainable. Yoyoing between fat and 'shredded'simply doesn't work in real life. But you seem pretty switched on so you probably already know this.
Follow this rule: If you eat until you're satiated and get adequate recovery; you will gain muscle.
Now remember this comment is just for you, i'm ignoring the usual quality calories and protein lecture cause you know that.
There's a lot of bro science out there and hitting some pre-defined number of calories isn't going to make your body magically put on more muscle. Your body puts on muscle very slowly.
So to summarize: Eat quality foods until you are no hungry and get adequate rest and you will gain lean mass.
There's no need to force feed yourself unless you want to get bigger in general for powerlifting or something.
truedemocracy3 6y ago
Can you define adequate rest? Is that sleep? Taking days off? Switching muscle groups?
TheDialecticParadox 6y ago
All of those things are pretty important for recovery man. At least 8 hours of quality sleep. Here's some tips: -Room pitch black
Don't underestimate sleep's importance for your health and especially for packing on lean muscle. Gh secretion happens during sleep.
For recovery have at least 1 day a week where you do no TRAINING. This means no hard exercise. You can still go for a leisurely bike ride/walk/run.
If you find your numbers not going up/time's getting slower incorporate another recovery day every 10 or 14 days. This will be your active recovery. A game of football or maybe a long run/stretching session. Or you can just choose to take a day off and reset.
If you go hard enough in your training you will need days off, lest you injure yourself.
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WIA20XX 6y ago
The average American
Is fat.
Works a job he doesn't like.
Has no money to show for it.
Is in debt.
Cannot dress himself.
Dreams of a better life.
Reads about improving but never improves.
Never talks to girls.
Does not engage with the people in his life.
Is apprehensive around strangers.
Prefers to do harm to himself, than take a chance to make his life better.
But he does take a daily shower you bunch of smelly bastards.
AuspexAO 6y ago
The mind needs to change before the body can. It's one thing to say "get to average" but "average" from "slovenly" is no different than advancing from "average" to "superior". If a person doesn't have the discipline to accept change, then change will not occur.
The baseline of everything that happens in this forum, in this philosophy, is the WILL TO IMPROVE. Lifting, talking to many, maaany women to get over awkwardness, learning to mingle and stay socially agile. But dressing nice, showering, and even being able to make baseline interactions with fellow humans is where that behavior begins. Let's face it, human nature is like inertia. It's very hard to start rolling that fat, loser boulder but once it starts you'll be more likely to keep it going.
I will agree that shooting for some kind of Chad form should be a long-term goal, not a short-term one. Setting your goals too far away is not only ridiculous, it's also self-sabotaging. When I was losing my weight I'd make sprints to 10 pound drops and then when I got there I'd fight to stay there. I didn't try for a nice body from being a giant fatass. Luckily, I didn't need much help with social skills, but even then it took me a long time to actually approach random women at the store or at a concert.
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Almost all of this was me about a year ago.
At least now I'm no longer fat and my debt has almost been fully repaid.
I wasted way too much money on shitty food and drinks.
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Women don't base their perception of average on statistics though.
altlegend 6y ago
Growing up with post communist polish parents I would spot the smallest imperfection in presentation and hygiene. God forbid I left the house with a wrinkled shirt, even to run to the store.
WIA20XX 6y ago
I've only heard good things about Polish girls
altlegend 6y ago
You’re telling me lol. Polish girls aren’t inherently easy they are just extremely responsive and don’t act like their shit don’t stink because they are HB 9. In my experience I get the same response from a 7 just as I would from a 10. Only Polish girls though, since I can sweet talk with vodka and pickles ;)
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chachaChad 6y ago
While it's great that this guy cared enough about his image to put some effort into his clothing you have to remember that guys that are ripped look good in rags. The best shirt in the world won't make up for being a fat slob.
altlegend 6y ago
That’s kinda an extreme example, alpha or not it’s pretty elite that that’s what came to his mind
bsutansalt 6y ago
Fine, get to what average SHOULD be.
For example, instead of being fat like most, get to the recommended average of ~20% body fat. From there 12% isn't that far away. It's a hell of a lot easier doing that and becoming exceptional in a sense, than trying to get there from 35% body fat. You'll arguably see a bigger difference in yourself going from 35% to 20% than from 20% to 12%.
This sort of "getting to average" applies to all of the other facets as well, but it really comes down to where you're starting. If you're already better than average in some way then obviously don't slide back to being average. Stay exceptional in whatever facet of life you are.
As another comment stated, you have to learn to walk before you can run.
gaythroway69 6y ago
I was lurking here out of curiosity and thought id say this; i don't know if this subreddit has any good advice, but this certainly is an exception.
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crowscountingspades 6y ago
I guess I'm winning. I'm none of those things -- save for the last (I don't shower daily -- non workout days never plus, workout days, I often finish off with a few laps in the pool and call that clean.)
ReadyPlayer15 6y ago
U don't even shower off the cholorine?
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crowscountingspades 6y ago
Nope, I frequently don't. After a workout I sit in the hot tub/spa to stretch for 10 minutes then I leap in the pool for 8-10 laps and then I go home (I'm 3 minutes from the gym).
It's usually a midday workout so time is a factor -- I try to be done in 90 minutes or less, door to door. So when I leap out of the pool, I towel off and head home, usually getting home to a handful of 'urgent' emails or calls...
So an hour later I'm dry as can be... And unless we're going out to dinner or something, that could be it! No shower!
ReadyPlayer15 6y ago
Can't be good for your hair/eyes/ skin
crowscountingspades 6y ago
Eyes? They have their own cleaning system. You may have heard of tears (not to mention, swim goggles -- though I don't bother with them unless it's half-mile 'lap' day).
Hair? Women love my hair -- it's long these days and I get compliments nearly daily. At the festivals we attend regularly, where we hang out all day, women are often fondling my hair and saying 'wow, I wish mine was this thick/silky.'
Skin? Not a blemish. Just the occasional cut or bruise from sports or woodworking.
So many know-it-all's... I guess that's to be expected in an alpha forum. (But IRL, other alphas cower.)
Sumsar01 6y ago
Clorine fucks with your skin and hair. You might not be swimming enough or have done it long enough to see this.
Ask any swimmer and they will agree.
crowscountingspades 6y ago
I'm a swimmer...since age 4. No problems.
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rojevaq4 6y ago
If this redditer isn't the greatest ever than my Name isn't Grandpa
Metalgear222 6y ago
I disagree in that lifting doesn't require anything but a gym membership and a base level desire to improve. If they can't get to the gym to lift, they don't care enough about changing their life for the better. Lifting is the first step imo. Always.
EscapeTheGoat 6y ago
I agree that lifting is critical but a lot of guys I've seen in person have such conflicted feelings about masculinity that they never make it there. They complain about the gym being full of "toxic manliness". When I heard that one, I almost died from the sad hilariousness of it all. I guess perhaps what I was trying to communicate is the notion of a getting to the mindset and functioning level of being just another guy. And then working to become more masculine. Just getting that desire to improve is a quite a challenge for some.
Going to the gym itself can come with baggage beyond the obvious. It really shouldn't but people have problems. I get what you're saying though.
truedemocracy3 6y ago
If you are a fatass you are better off running/jogging and losing weight. I know burly lifters - that wont help you with women
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Ok, I'll answer your questions.
Yes, usually twice a day.
Yes. Got complements from people I barely know, including a woman.
Yes, it's a mess.
Yes, but I live around a lot of post-millennials who mumble and look down at the floor when you talk to them.
I wear the same two pairs of jeans all week (because no money) and a different shirt every day. Some of the shirts are meh, others are quite nice.
I try...and no I don't know how.
I cut off the negative people and now I am alone.
A vague direction, yes.
Yes.
Yes, I take Zoloft so I can get out of bed.
I think so.
Dad told me I was. But I'm going to prove him wrong (he dead).
I'm a virgin, so I'm afraid I would act like an obvious virgin.
A late bloomer with a lot of obstacles to overcome.
Swagasauriusfromhrvd 6y ago
You still have a lot to learn, but you seem average. Why shower twice also?
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I work in a kitchen five days a week and work out three days a week. Then I put on my normal clothes and go to college and walk around a lot.
Also, I find them somewhat therapeutic and when I was an adolescent I figured out I could get away from my chatty mother by taking a shower.
nobodyinparticu1ar 6y ago
Just a guess waking up, and after the gym? That's what I do.
Swagasauriusfromhrvd 6y ago
No man you seem pessimistic, I guess "depressed". You gotta let your problems go, meditate, read and have a more simplistic mindset. I used to be like that things are much easier now.
nobodyinparticu1ar 6y ago
Huh? Very confused right now. I was talking about taking showers.
Snazzy_Serval 6y ago
Is it possible to reach average if you're short (under 5'7?)
That's a problem I've been dealing with my whole life. Unfortunately I don't have the step stool called confidence. It basically feels that women can't see me.
old5spice 6y ago
There is nothing you can do to change your height. If she only wants height she can go fuck a giraffe. Find something you can improve and do that.
no_face 6y ago
Mark Wahlberg is 5'7"
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ddbsirt 6y ago
Height is a factor you can’t change. You should seek to be at least average amongst guys who are 5’7 before worrying about the whole pool of guys.
scissor_me_timbers00 6y ago
Don’t take this advice of wearing lifts. Just soles that give you 1-1.5 of an inch. The big thing is lifting to have a top 5% physique, and being excellently groomed and dressed. Gotta look like a winner and exude a killer instinct.
NotMyBestEffort 6y ago
I know two brothers who are each about 5'6" or '5'7". Between them they have nearly a billion dollars of self made wealth. One has a smoking hot 2nd wife... I don't think "short" when I think of these guys.
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DidUBringTheStuff 6y ago
What does TRP offer someone who has never had issues having sex?
ddbsirt 6y ago
Always room for improvement.
havazm 6y ago
Yeah I'm like you. And I've proper frame, but it doesn't count quite as much as it does for taller guys here.( Honestly though I think a shorter frame is more efficient) But I've seen that mental frame can just change everything. Like the bald guy from before, everyone can stand out. Short guys definitely get laid. It's just that it more for personality. And can definitely get above average, meeting this blessed posts arguments!
Snazzy_Serval 6y ago
I think so too. We require less food to run and we're also less prone to injury and our body falling apart.
That really is the key. When a guy is short his personality has to make up for the difference. Lots of men just don't understand that. I'm naturally a soft spoken guy and I don't have the highest confidence, so it's no surprise that I rarely get laid.
havazm 6y ago
Don't forget low centre of gravity. Thats how leo Messi kills everyone else
circlingldn 6y ago
Shoe lifts and thick soles....if you get called out...say its for calf /foot issues..dont try and hide that you wear them if they are obvious or you cant effectively hide them
Snazzy_Serval 6y ago
I actually wear "elevator" shoes every day. They look just like normal shoes. 2-3 inches of extra height, and now I'm 5'8 in them. It's at least some improvement.
TheDialecticParadox 6y ago
This isn't much different than wearing a toupee.
ddbsirt 6y ago
No different from push up bras.
Snazzy_Serval 6y ago
And makeup
The only time a girl would notice is when I'm barefoot at my place and by then it's too late for her to care.
Tenth_10 6y ago
Interesting topic. Cold hard truth, I like that. Thanks for posting.
So... Let's play, shall we ?
"Are you showering reasonably regularly (once every 3 days is not normal)? Did you attempt to shave or groom your facial hair to look normal? " Shower twice a day (because sports), shaved everyday, hair is trimmed and combed.
"Is your room constantly in a state of dissarray?" Both office and house are 90% clean. With house perfumes.
"Can you hold a conversation with strangers that isn't about video games or anime (If you do these things, QUIT)?" Even if I work with video games technologies, I seldom play video games and it is not my primary topic. Nor pop culture.
"Do you wear the same clothes every day, and are the clothes of reasonable quality and cleanliness?" I change clothes every three days, I have better things to do than laundry but I always try to be clean.
"Do you act like a man does? Do you know how to be a man?" Please defines "To be a man" means for you? I'm someone with responsabilities and who tries to be the best me and the best father possible, so I guess at least I'm not a child anymore.
"Do you surround yourself with people who are a positive influence on your life?" Yes. Toxics are thrown out quickly. Better alone than with negative people.
"Do you have a job or a direction in life?" Yup, build a company to create my dream. Huge goal and I hope I'll die with my hand still clenched around the computer mouse.
"Are you paralyzed by anxiety?" I'm paralyzed because I can't choose a topic to talk about when I don't know the people around. So I prefer to stay quiet until I have the right opportunity.
"Do you grapple with depression?" Fuck no.
"Do you have any legitimate reason to be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished?" People tell me so, as I always look for excellence I'm more focused on the things I could do better next time. I'll be proud later.
"Do you think you're worthless?" I think I could be way better, so much potential still untapped.
"Are you worried you won't be able to sexually perform if you had the opportunity?" Yes. And I'll check that this very Sunday.
"Who are you anyway?" I'm a guy who's 40, a proud father of two, recently divorced, never been lucky with women and often way too stupid to go and talk to more women, who also has a huge dream to make a reality and is working his hardest to do so. I've had only five women in my life, but I'm working on myself to fix that and finally enjoy this part of existence.
Hence, I'm not "average" and should not be here. Too bad, that was interesting. :)
Ga5zilla 6y ago
I get what you're saying, but I saw the message from the previous post 'just start lifting' as a building block to reconnect with your biological masculinity. Lifting will increases your testosterone and balance your other hormones aswell, which will help you answer many of the questions your ask.
Great post, thanks!
purifash 6y ago
Yeah, fuck average. Be better, then better, then best.
neso225 6y ago
Sadly i still havent kissed a girl and im 18 (yeah sad i know) i was like that zero hygene showing no love to myself but this year i decided to improve in those basic stuff you mentioned and i hope that i will be a better man then i was before im slowly learning from the red pill great post btw have a nice day
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gmangini 6y ago
My friend is about to turn 23 and has yet to kiss a girl. I’m no master around girls either by any stretch of the imagination, but perpetual improvement on oneself is imperative not for kissing girls, but for yourself and the quality of life you want live. Keep it up.
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truedemocracy3 6y ago
bro it gets better. My first kiss was drunk with a fat girl Sophomore year of college. A few years later and I am rotating between college cheerleaders, dance team members, athletes, etc.
It's not easy - but it is worth it. Let me know if you want any advice because I literally went known from being 'that friend' who is awful with girls in the group and got quiet whenever talking about sex came around to the guy who has the most success with ladies. IT IS POSSIBLE
neso225 6y ago
Thanks man i apreciate it how can i contact you for advice except comments cause im pretty new to reddit
BurnoutRS 6y ago
One day in elementary school I grabbed the last blue crayon so I could colour in the oceans/lakes on my map of north america. Another child, with many a landmass left to colour in, threw a tantrum because he wanted to do his oceans too.
If you arent getting laid right now, then its not your turn with the blue crayon. Go colour the provinces and states like a good little boy. Go lift, improve your game, work on your mission, get a good job, get a better job. Otherwise if you stand and whine like a bitch, its your own damn fault
redisthetruth 6y ago
Good reminders.
Learn how to crawl before trying to walk, and definitely before trying to run.
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I tried to implement TRP without learning the basics like socialising, grooming. Now I got that under control and starting to see internal rewiring through habits.
flowrider00 6y ago
Sports and Martial arts were a massive part of instilling grit in my life. Particuarly fitness for martial arts.
Many people do not know what it feels like to reach a point where they thought they would break, then push through it. Being so tired you don't want to do another pressup, to the point your arms are shaking but pushing for two more.
People hate what they are but are equally afraid of shattering that version of themselves.
GoldenTobaggin 6y ago
Are you showering reasonably regularly (once every 3 days is not normal)? One every 2-3 days desu. Did you attempt to shave or groom your facial hair to look normal? Only if I have an event. Is your room constantly in a state of dissarray? It's badd Can you hold a conversation with strangers that isn't about video games or anime (If you do these things, QUIT)? Yea I can talk about mathematics. Do you wear the same clothes every day, and are the clothes of reasonable quality and cleanliness? Yea same every day. Wore same pair of jeans for like a month, different shirt tho so it's okay desu. Do you act like a man does? Do you know how to be a man? What is a man by your standards? I do mathematics so that is certainly not a woman's game (at least if you are to ask Hardy, but he ded). Do you surround yourself with people who are a positive influence on your life? For the most part. Do you have a job or a direction in life? PhD student Do you actually try in school, if you are in school? No but school ezpz, focus on research. Are you paralyzed by anxiety? Not anymore Do you grapple with depression? Used to p good now Do you have any legitimate reason to be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished? Maybe to someone, but I'm not a self indulgent faggot desu. Do you think you're worthless? To the extent of my contributions to society more or less yes (theoretical math doesn't result in much real happenings esp in my area) Are you worried you won't be able to sexually perform if you had the opportunity? No the few girls I have been with gave me props desu. Who are you anyway? College made me fatt :'(
Did I pass?
rad_dynamic 6y ago
Wonderful and something that needed to be said.
Lifting isn't going to do shit if you are a weak person(less than average, like you said). I know plenty of gym bros who are terrible with girls and confidence issues. They get a lot of IOIs, but I'm normally able to outperform them when it comes to game simply because I've worked on myself to get to the 50% mark and then slowly improve.
Also, if you're improving by 1% each day, week month, whatever, you're still improving and gaining an advantage. All you have to do is to be better than AVERAGE to do well, you don't have to be in the 80%+ group to be able to see results.
circlingldn 6y ago
The most important thing is having women surround you...being a incel or chump that barely meets any women...not amount of gym will help
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How does having women surround you support you life goal? If having women surround you is your main motivation in life, that is insanely pathetic.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
you can have a life goal but if you don't get laid, you will burn out very fast.
that is what happened to me. i worked a lot towards my goals and didn't have anymore women then when i wasn't. eventually, i crashed and burned because getting laid consumed my mind.
ch10011 6y ago
abundance dude. thems just beautiful bitches, flirt with them all, even the ones you dont fancy
circlingldn 6y ago
Who said its the main motivation...its certanly better than just lifting and not talking to girls at the gym...no amount of muscle will beat autism or lack of experience
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RPers make the fatal mistake of making women essential to their universe. They are a commodity, not a necessity. So you should lift/be in the gym for your health gains and gtfo, not to "talk to girls". There are better places for that.
fromthecrypt8 6y ago
The point being made in this post is actually a major one. No point in acquiring tools if you’re unable to utilize them.
Also, as a sidenote: get any experience that you are able to get when you are below average. Even if you are able to fuck a NSHB4 (Yes new term: not so hot babe), do it, get the feeling of your dickie hitting vagina walls again (or for the first time).
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VinterBot 6y ago
Going from 0 to 1 is harder than going from 1 to 10, so when you're at 0, you'll feel like getting to 1 is impossible, but it's not. It's all about habit, discipline and confidence. For someone who lacks the balls to go out and talk to people, or approach that girl, or set up a tinder account weight loss and lifting will help.
As for the specifics of the post, I have to say that I do play video games daily. Mostly because some of my income depends on it (RMT) and because I do programming oriented around them. Scripting, apps related to it, etc. to make money off of it. I do think that at one point I did have a severe problem with video games. I lost a year in high school because I skipped school to go to a cybercafe to play my favorite mmorpg. That was dumb, and it has had an impact in my social life. But it can also be healthy to play videogames or watch anime. The key is moderation and priorities.
zyqkvx 6y ago
adding to list...
If you started to dress nicer, would your friends take notice and ridicule you?
Do you know haw many calories you eat a day? and how much of them are carbs?
Do you drink 44 ounce sodas with corn syrup/sugar?
Do you wear shirts that can be read?
Do you have large amounts of caffeine past noon?
Do your fingernails, or toenails (wear sandals) look so bad people think you are retarded?
Do you sport the same haircut you had since you were a child?
As you tackle these things you will experience a sense that it's too late, a lost cause, and be disoriented. That's normal. Plow through. Go in to 4-6 hour 'disoriented' sessions plowing through it if you can. You might find yourself driving to a place you just left an hour ago to get some fingernail clippers. Just do it. Rinse and repeat. You might feel gay (you aren't, at least I'm not) buying finger nail clippers, picking better clothes, and googling mens facial hair and looking for facial hair that would work for you. You might have feeling that it's 'unacceptable' to throw away a perfectly good shitty looking shirt. Just do it. Jeans and decent shirts are a good way to make your transition. There's even an art to transitioning clothes, facial hair, haircuts, over weeks and months. So keep doing it.
anabolic92 6y ago
I also think that this sub spits the 'just lift' too fast. Yes def a thing to do but not the only important thing, you might want to take care of some things before that.
I got the physical part that it's on my hand: Good gym body, trim daily, shave daily,etc..:
Yet, one of the physical aspects I can't control (balding) has completely taken over the psychological part, I feel cursed because of it.
It doesn't matter that you come here and tell me that you're bald or you friend is and he does well, that it doesn't matter, be confident, lift, some chicks dig it, etc..:
I can see a clear difference, for example, regarding how women look and treat me when I'm wearing a cap.
It seems to me that it doesn't matter being over the top 20% physique if you don't have a solid mental frame.
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anabolic92 6y ago
How can you help me?
I pretty much accepted it already, unless you can still help me with that part I appreciate your help but I refuse to use Fin, RU and those products.
Sumsar01 6y ago
Lifting matters because it easier to get people to vare about than stuff like eating better. But make a bro vare about his total and suddenly he fix the rest just to get more prs.
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Yes it does.
Having a good physique gets you in the door, period. Without getting in the door, you have no opportunity to perform. No matter how good you are mentally, if you a disqualified from the jump because you have a shitty body, your mental skills mean nothing.
AuspexAO 6y ago
Agreed on the shaving thing. Bald men can look physically imposing, powerful, and aggressive if you market your look right. I have a few late thirties buds who look like they're sixty because they're hanging onto their bullshit strands.
nadolny7 6y ago
I always try to be vigilant of what I'm worrying about. If I can do something to fix it, then by all means stress over it and try to fix that thing; but if I can't do anything about a certain issue like balding,which is mostly genetic, I try not to worry about since it's out of your control.
TheDialecticParadox 6y ago
My brother (30) started thinning in his crown and lost his hairline years ago. He constantly wears caps and is obviously very self concious about it.
All I can think about is why give people the opportunity to discover your weakness? If your own brother is judging you for not wanting to show your head what would women think when the cap eventually has to come off?
Just accept it for what it is, or do something about it. To his credit he tried hair loss therapy and had decent success, but it was very expensive. He came off it and lost all his hair again.
People can't damage your frame and your ego if you see your baldness as a strength and not a weakness.
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danoranika 6y ago
Shave your head dummy
throwaway-chemist 6y ago
Last line is key. Whatever you are - bald, short, white, black, purple - own it. Guarantee women will treat you less shitty if you rock the bald like Mr Clean than if you try meekly to hide it with headware.
anabolic92 6y ago
Guarantee women will treat you less shitty if you rock the bald like Mr Clean than if you try meekly to hide it with headware.
Bolded words are key.
The issue is when even less shitty isn't enough to be a sexual option.
As a relatively young man, mid 20's, there is nothing to do that can overcome the turn off of balding. Traning, dieting, tanning, growing and grooming a beard, wearing fit clothes.
Da_RectumWrecker 6y ago
One of my wingmen is bald and that guy slays. It isn't so much about looks for women. It does help, but it's all about confidence and a nice physique. Hold a strong frame and give her tingles. Stop making excuses and you will see results.
insanity_wow27 6y ago
Anecdotal evidence I know but my buddy is balding and he rocks it. Very successful with women because he takes it in his stride. Don't let it defeat you. In a few years your peers will be balding too.
truedemocracy3 6y ago
Agree that owning it will get you more respect from women AND men than hiding it. In fact, it even looks damn good - but you need muscle here
Freenorthman 6y ago
Fly to Turkey get a transplant. Done
anabolic92 6y ago
HT are not a final solution, hair can fall still unless you take some well-known pills that can cause trouble with ED, hormones and scary stuff.
if you get off those you lose your hair again.
Freenorthman 6y ago
Nothing is for free. Kg you Cant Take it leave it ne get to grips with your bald head. Stop whining bro there is far worse than being bald believe me
throwaway-chemist 6y ago
So what? Some dudes are born without legs. Are you gonna give up?
anabolic92 6y ago
Not necessarily, but to get my priorities clear. As much as the dude without legs will never to be able to play with his favorite NBA star I might as well save some time and stop thinking of reaching some goals because of my specific conditions.
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anabolic92 6y ago
I meant to compare the guy with no legs , not being bald. Comparing to athletes/actors to the average dude makes no sense
AuspexAO 6y ago
Interesting. How would you describe the way other people think of you? Not family, but friends and associates.
anabolic92 6y ago
Well I know you said "not family" but anecdotally my mother is telling me to grow it out, even if I'd be obviously thinning which makes me think bald isn't a good look overall.
The two other group of people you mentioned, friends and associates, obviously doesn't care because there is no sexual attraction between us.
AuspexAO 6y ago
I asked about how your friends and associates view you as a person. As far as your hair goes, you shouldn't listen to your mother. It's a mother's job to nuture and protect her children. She's not trying to get you laid, ha ha. When I was 380 pounds of fat nerd, my mom told me I was handsome and would totally find a nice girl who appreciated me for my wit and brains. I was not handsome, I was revolting. I would not have found a girl, because my wits and brains only helped me to hamster all my obvious self-inflicted problems, they were not committed to achieving any kind of greatness. Be good to your mom. Smile and nod. Get that hair off.
The reason I want to know what your friends and associates think of you is that how they treat you and see you in their social hierarchy will help me diagnose what exactly is "wrong" with you. If you're ripped and sporting some nice tats and a cleanly shaved head, you're gonna be fine on the looks front. But if you have a problem with being submissive or cloying in social settings, it won't matter.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
Yes there is. I am 25 and started losing hair around 21 (at least when i first noticed it). What you do to overcome it is: get jacked and shave your head (a skinny guy with a bald head looks sickly - a jacked guy with a bald head looks like he made a stylistic choice) and get some tats. Make yourself look like an angry viking.
truedemocracy3 6y ago
Really is true. A rail thin guy with hair can be attractive if he has that baby face look some girls are into. A bald guy really cant. But a bald guy and buff (doesnt have to be shredded, but needs muscle) is intimidating as fuck
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Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
True. Guess I'm SOL though.
fromthecrypt8 6y ago
Interesting: are tats more likely to get a pussy wet than not?
truedemocracy3 6y ago
Dont get a tattoo for the reason of improving your pussy odds, for the love of god
AuspexAO 6y ago
Tats are also fantastic cold openers because women can't fucking stop asking about them. Treat the question as if it were an IOI. Do some flexing (accidently, riiight) to show of the tats and if you're lucky they'll show you theirs which is a kino opener without being creepy.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
Yup. Studies show women think dudes with tats would make for a good fuck
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verytastycheese 6y ago
Hard YES
anabolic92 6y ago
No there is not.
I shave my head ED.
I have lifted for years and I’m on steroids.
I tan, because even if I’m not pale naturally, I don’t want to look like I have cancer.
It doesn’t fucking work, I can prove all of my points sending you a PM.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
If u r jacked, with tats and a bald head, you should have no problems getting laid
no_face 6y ago
Location could be an issue. Move to a big city.
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1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 6y ago
Well, if you believe you are doing everything right, and it still isn't giving you the desired results... why don't you post some questions on the asktrp sub. Seriously.
(this sub is not for questions, and since almost everyone should be able to follow TRP advice, I suggest you start asking what you can change or just do better)
Obviously you are missing something... and guys here can help.
anabolic92 6y ago
Because deeply enough I know the answers, I am just too afraid to execute.
I just think that getting some IOIs would raise my self-esteem and diminish my fears, but even with all the efforts made I don’t get them even from 2HBs
SuperCrazy07 6y ago
Girls smell fear dude. This is your problem, not that you're bald.
1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 6y ago
Let me tell you a short story. Two years ago a good friend was diagnosed with cancer and died shortly after. But before he died, as he laid on his death bed, he told me these words... "Don't live with any regrets... do everything you can... now... because you never know when the grim reaper will come knocking!" (He was trickster right to the end.)
He was right. Tomorrow never comes for some people. You only regret the things in life you never do... So i changed my life to not delay and not push off till tomorrow what I can do today. And my life has never been better.
Someday we will all be like my friend. We will all have to look death in the eye... and I will know that I did the best I could, everything I could, and I will be content that I can leave this place knowing that I will have no regrets...
If you know what you need to do... then do it. If you need help... get it. If you don't know how.. then ask. You can change you. Today. Here. And now...
Don't ever be afraid of the future my friend...
I used to live in fear. For like 30+ fucking years I was so afraid of life that I only made decisions based upon the potential consequences... Today I make decisions based upon the potential rewards... not the fear.
If you have the plan... and know what you need to do... then just execute. Press the button, bro. Trust me, it will all be different when you are done. And it will be better, if only because you did it.
Your future life is depending on you... today.
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You clearly are afraid of something. If you know what it is work on it or go see a psychologist. If you're deformed try dating blind girls. They'll still love your muscles and are often great conversationalists.
anabolic92 6y ago
Lmao that blind girls line made me laugh at least hah
NotMyBestEffort 6y ago
How can you see an IOI through that gray haze that you wear by thinking the way you do?
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LibertyIsNotFree 6y ago
Mother fucker quit your bitching, get a loan and get your fucking head fixed. What the fuck is this. This isn't 1980. You got a problem? Fix it.
Unless you're saying your life isn't worth 20K and/or you're incapable of funding 20K for yourself
anabolic92 6y ago
HT are not a final solution, hair can fall still unless you take some well-known pills that can cause trouble with ED, hormones and scary stuff.
if you get off those you lose your hair again.
LibertyIsNotFree 6y ago
Who said it was a final solution or that you wouldn't need more done 5 or 15 years down the road?
The issue is you can fix it if it's important enough to you.
NotAllThatDifferent 6y ago
This is the awful truth I have to face. Thanks for the post.
forbesno1 6y ago
As some on who is below average in these departments, this was a very welcome post and necessary and I've saved it. Building that discipline to begin with is key.
The only part I disagree with is "then lift". While I'm not lifting now, I am working out, reading the sidebar, and building a better life for yourself can be a simultaneous process. Just don't expect it to be a magic bullet or work immediately; make yourself better. An year of dedication later you'll be surprised where you are, and two years too, but you need to put in those two years and work on yourself. You can't skip it, mate. You just can't.
Highly recommend seeing a psychologist. The brain may need some work. Your attitudes and moods.
ManlyB860 6y ago
What do you mean about "don't turn down pussy that comes to you" ? i mean if there's a 3 coming the advice is to smash even if you smashed 8's years before ?
I'm not sure about all of this.. I think it's good advices but all of this won't help getting sex. I never really been broke in my life, always had cool cars to drive, quite in shape (a bit skinny i admit but muscular), always a job, and didn't pound pussy as much as i wanted when i was young because of confidence and fapping too much probably.
Today i'm 30, i lift regularly my physic is getting better and better, no fap no porn since 7 months, i have a good job (will end soon), my own house, and because of travelling for work my social life is not so good, i didn't get laid since my ex girlfriend (6 months, ex girlfriend with hot body and ugly face, i didn't wanted a LTR at first). I can attract girls i would rate 5/10 maximum (not fat at all but the face..) under this rate they're usually "fuck yes" above there's simply nothing or maybe they don't show interest as frankly. Decided to leave game for a while and improve. Even if game is the key, cold approach is very low ROI, bars and clubs for easy preys is the way for guys in the beginning maybe.
I'm stuck at the point where i don't feel no pride in myself at the moment.. and don't know what it is to be a man, a part raise kids, work to bring money home and take car of the loved ones. But i don't want long term relationship anymore, and will probably think to adopt a kid later alone so i guess i'll get stuck for a while.
EscapeTheGoat 6y ago
This post isn't really targeted at men who have met a certain baseline of function. The fact you've had sex in the past year pretty much takes you out of the equation on this one. The lifting and RP combo is meant for people like you.
ManlyB860 6y ago
I'll focus on this then. Thanks for the answer. Good job trying to helps others dudes.
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Iwalktheline2006 6y ago
Great post. I would also like to add that our culture kind of portrays life from 0 -60. One day, your a mess the next day, you should be a master PUA. Life does not work like that. Life is a process, you have to plan, work hard, tweak constantly to achieve your goals.
Most importantly, you have to put yourself out there- I think you'll definitely be ahead of 50% just by engaging people and trying to get laid instead of reading the sidebar or sitting at home.
AlQWEffos239 6y ago
If your not taking 3 showers a day (especially for big guys), not lotion your body, not grooming, using roll on after showers, not washing your ass with water and not cleaning your personal space your definitely losing.
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This is total horseshit. To be frank, this post is total horseshit.
These are all limiting beliefs. You’re patting people on the back and saying it’s ok to be average.
Look, any progress is good. You’re correct in that showering and shaving are necessary steps.
But, dude - assume people are better than that and they will be.
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I have been lifting the past 9 weeks. My strategy was to lift 3 days a week. The intention was to build. The discipline to lift without burning out. I now look forward to lifting everyday. I am trusting in the Process and building the self-discipline. I'm loving the results.
wholewheatdirtydog 6y ago
Anime is cool but I do agree that everything in moderation is the key to success. Good post ????
Casanova-Quinn 6y ago
This is the average American male body. If you're below average, then you need to get your shit together because the average is pathetic. Not being chubby is above average. And if you're above average, keep improving, because you'll eventually look like a Greek God compared to the average guy.
I_BET_UR_MAD 6y ago
I have a decent physique but shit facial genetics(weak ass jawline). Is there any way to improve the jawline besides plastic surgery?
Casanova-Quinn 6y ago
Surgery is the only option for any real improvement. Otherwise you could grow a beard to cover your jawline.
PutItAllOnRed 6y ago
Grow a massive beard?
truedemocracy3 6y ago
What's your body fat? Some people are blessed with a jaw and some are cursed. Try getting your body fat % to single digits first if it isnt already
I_BET_UR_MAD 6y ago
My body fat has never been above 12% lol
CC-c 6y ago
Great post. Very very good, thanks man!
Why? I'm thinking to get a therapist but I'd prefer to go to a female therapist. I don't know why, I'm thinking I'd find myself more comfortable to speak with a woman.
Morphs_ 6y ago
Last year I went to a psychologist to sort out stuff like depression and some sexual issues. I got paired with a mid-20s female. Talking about sexual stuff and masculinity which a pretty nice chick 10 years younger than me wasn't going to work, AT ALL.
So I requested a different therapist and having studied psychology myself, I knew that wasn't a problem. So I got a male guy a bit older than me and it was so much better. It was more 'guys talk', which was what I needed because frankly, a woman knows shit about masculinity and the male side of sexuality.
Red_Faust 6y ago
I am... kind of a therapist. Can't say more without risking being doxxed.
I have met few, very few female colleagues of mine that have good insights on the mindset and beliefs of a masculine male mind.
Most men in my niche are beta men too, but at least there are a handful that are masculine and know how to transmit and help you develop it.
Females? Maybe one or two that I've met in my whole life.
Sin-Silver 6y ago
You need to learn to develop meaningful relationships and communication with other men. A lot of BP’s are programmed to seek the approval of women in all forms, it’s why you probably prefer speaking to a women.
‘No more Mr.Nice Guy’ goes into it in detail, and is worth your read
EscapeTheGoat 6y ago
This exactly.
CC-c 6y ago
I suppose I'd find more comfortable with a women because I'd feel less pressure and less competition speaking with a female than with a man.
You know, speaking with an older guy about my lack of expertise with women could be hard. I don't know, I'll give them a chance
EscapeTheGoat 6y ago
I mean you're paying them money. Why would that be difficult? It's literally their job to care.
Sin-Silver 6y ago
I use to feel that way too, but not feeling competitive with other men is an essential part of developing meaningful relationships with other guys.
You need to have positive male role models in your life. These guys need to be older and more successful than you so you can learn from them,
If you feel intimidated by another guy, change your frame and think ‘How can I bond or become more like this guys’, rather than be competitive.
Captain_Save_A_Hoe_ 6y ago
Biologically women dont like "weak" men. Might not be the best idea.
CC-c 6y ago
what has this to do with a professional psychological support? Just asking..
Wycked_x 6y ago
You get better support if someone cares and can sympathize with your struggle.
tomic888 6y ago
Good post.
The issue I am having is I skip average looking girls (who are still doable though). I look good and I implement the TRP way so a lot of average (and above average) looking girls are interested in me, and even though I may occasionally get on with a 8 or a 9/10, it is not often and therefore I'm having long periods of not getting laid at all.
The reason I skip average looking girls is since I'm at college all those hookups are immediately known to everyone in my social circles and subconsciously I think it diminishes my chances with the hotter girls. Its like other hotter girls will think 'why is he getting on with her when he could get on with someone better looking'. I know, its a retarded situation and mindset.
Is the best solution to just hookup with all those average looking girls?
ch10011 6y ago
pussy is pussy. you will feel better about yourself if you just fuck dem hos
Casanova-Quinn 6y ago
Go ahead and have sex with the average girls, but don't get into a relationship with them (friends with benefits at most). When you're having sex regularly this will create an abundance mentality, which will help your attitude with the hotter girls.
PutItAllOnRed 6y ago
This. Also let them be your advertisers. You know these hoes gossip so let em brag about you and bitch about not being able to lock you down. This is preselection. If that doesn't work , keep a plate and fish outside your social circle.
nebula79283 6y ago
Well first off, who gives a fuck if other people found out you smashed, it’s not like you’re a woman. And secondly, if you think smashing average chicks diminishes you then idk what to tell you. Get to be a 10 so that 8s constantly fuck you i guess. Or just stay where you are, tell your ego to stfu and fuck average girls... OR.. the best solution would be to do BOTH
tomic888 6y ago
Good words. I wouldn't say its an ego thing, I don't personally think smashing average chicks diminishes me. For some reason I thought there is a trade-off between doing average chicks and really hot ones. Its like if I did some average chicks the hot ones would be less inclined to have sex
nebula79283 6y ago
Nah, you wanna open a lot of locks so that you become a valuable key
nebula79283 6y ago
lol on a serious note, that may or may not be true. however, i cant imagine an average chick ruining ur rep with hot ones (unless she’s a landwhale... which means she isnt average). If you’re alpha enough, strong social circle, game, confident, the hot ones wont deny you. (The fact that u smash alot makes other girls want you more usually)
Cmdrj-nice 6y ago
The thing I dont like is that this sub assume that most guys that don't get laid are neckbeard. Am a college student I would consider myself high value. I do very good in school (I have some scholarships). I know how to talk to people. I am active i love playing basketball.I started lifting in high school. The reason why I don't get laid is I don't try at all. Not because am a neckbeard
Chaosender69 6y ago
I needed this.
RedwallAllratuRatbar 6y ago
I got my first 40 notches while having almost zero in the first 50%, zero in lifting, but nailed the rp philosophy that came out of my experience, not reading The moment you have 4 plates, you can fake 80% of things you "need" to do
PatsFever 6y ago
Fitness question on this topic. So getting into lifting lately, but there’s this yoga studio that is awesome and ~1 min walk from my house while the gym is ~15 minutes. Live in North East so in winter that’s a huge difference. As a result I’ve been doing yoga ~3-4 times a week and cut down on gym to ~2 times. Is this going to have a significant impact on fitness and gains or not that big a deal since still doing something active? Newer to yoga too, but the flexibility and cardio aspect feels great, it’s certainly a different type of workout though. Goal to pass average and get into 20% overall male fitness tier.
NotMyBestEffort 6y ago
Let's look at this from a different angle than usual. The likelihood of you going to the next day's workout is important.
So, yoga (with an instructor), 1 minute away or 2 minutes total travel versus Gym (Self directed) 15 minutes away or 30 minutes total travel.
OP does not mention it so I am going to speculate. There are attractive women in your yoga class. Very likely, more women than men. I have been in a 20/1 women/men ratio class. In that class is at least six reasons to return to class.
As far as the workout goes, you are going to gain in proportion to your concentration and effort. In some yoga pulling is a bit neglected. To make up for this add in some bicep curls and upper chest exercise or just add pull-ups.
You can gain mastery of breath, balance and flexibility through yoga.
What is missing here is the element of strength.
Enjoy the yoga. Take all the benefits you can from it. Dedicate the time you save for that extra day of the week and go to the gym and lift some heavy shit.
Do whatever it takes to dedicate yourself to the healthy effort of healthy effort. Enjoy!
Gearski 6y ago
So...not very far at all? lol
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
I love Yoga but it doesn't make up for lifting. Just find your balance. I have another 20 classes i need to use up in the next two months because i fucked up my balance.
PaulAJK 6y ago
2-3 times a week is all you need as a new lifter to get those sweet newb gains. After 7-9 months you'l benefit from lifting more frequently.
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draculux 6y ago
Are you actively learning game?
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Remembering this would solve the vast majority of people's problems in the world.
GuruDev1000 6y ago
Suggestion: if you're aiming this at the lowest section of men, then you need to make the questions of the third paragraph even clearer. Structure them in such a way that a yes to all questions is good and no is bad. Currently they require a mixture of yes and no to realise one is at least average.
jasperleejr 6y ago
How would you improve yourself if you were worried about not performing sexually? I, per se, am not too worried as I have made girls orgasm plenty of times (many times before I get a chance to) and I was intrigued on how one would improve this? Is it a mental/physical thing?
draculux 6y ago
Your question about sexual performance is pretty vague. Since you can make them orgasm, I assume you know how to go down on a girl, finger her, properly foreplay, etc. Therefore, I assume your problems are either premature ejaculation or ED.
If you're worried about premature ejaculation, take kratom (preferred) or a weak opioid like tramadol an hour before sex. You'll go for however long you want.
If it is erectile dysfunction, then 90% of the time it's mental - as I assume you're a healthy 20-40 year old male. However, taking kratom or another intervention will help with ED because you will be at ease, mentally, knowing you can last however long you want. ED also wanes with sexual competence and familiarity with a girl.
If the issue is penis size, there are ways to increase size by 2 inches. The process is long and tedious (between a year or two) but worth it, and I can go into more details on that if needed.
re-delle-scorreggie 6y ago
Would you expand (heh) on the last point?
draculux 6y ago
Sure thing.
Penis enlargement (PE) is real, however much like lifting, or practicing game, or anything else, there are no magic pills for it or any of that. What PE involves is a bunch of manual stretching of the penis, with different techniques used for increasing the girth and length. It works in much the same manner as working out skeletal muscle. Same same but different.
For length, there are manual stretches - as in literally holding the flacid penis outstretched for 30+ seconds, and there are extension devices that hold the penis in a stretched state for hours at a time (sizegenetics, etc) and doesn't allow it to retract. There are routines for manual stretching, ranging from 10min to hours a day.
In terms of girth, you can do jelqs (again, there are routines) or use a pressure device such as the bathmate to get a vast and quick increase (+1 for bathmate, things the shit). I personally opt for BM and sizegenetics, (one for length one for width) because I can't be fucked taking an hour out of each day to do PE. I let the devices automate that shit for me. The downside there is cost, but they're legit. Shits painless and easy.
Typical gains after 6 months are .5 inches and an inch after a year - depending on consistency and dedication.
Additional resources include any PE forum (notably pegym, matterofsize, or goodlookingloser)
re-delle-scorreggie 6y ago
Is sizegenetics a discreet device to put on? I live with other people.
draculux 6y ago
It can be done but I find it uncomfortable under clothing. If you live with others I'd say do manual stretches as opposed to SG.
jasperleejr 6y ago
No, I was just wondering how it would be improved. Frankly, I have rarely experienced premature ejaculation (at most 3 times in my last relationship, but it never stopped me performance wise other than that). What's the science behind kratom and premature ejaculation? As someone who frequents the drugs sub, I haven't heard this before.
draculux 6y ago
Yea pretty much bigger dick, lasting longer, and DEVI (see Sex God Method) would leave any girl coming back for more.
I've been unable to find any science on the matter so I don't want to butcher it. I've only found anecdotal evidence (and extensive testing myself): take kratom (bout 5g) before sex and you last forever.
I got the idea from the common knowledge that taking opioids (percocets, etc) make you last a while too. I figured kratom would act the same, while being healthier in the long run, and it turned out true.
jasperleejr 6y ago
Interesting. Any strain of Kratom?
draculux 6y ago
I use green malaysian, although I'm 95% sure most strains will work the same for this purpose. I chose green malay because of the headiness/speediness as opposed to some other sedative strains.
jasperleejr 6y ago
What about Bali? Do you get yours from a smoke shop or online?
draculux 6y ago
I get mine online and I haven't tried bali strains. Try it and report back though
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
This really bummed me out lol. Made me realise how out of the loop i actually am.
Celicni 6y ago
Above this the best thing to improve is: You have to actually fucking get out of your house sometimes.
I was pretty good on hygiene and was able to talk to people, but I just never did anything except play video games. That resulted in me having pretty bad luck with chicks, even though I'd rank myself "above average" (basically OCD hygiene, reasonably tall, excellent in school, lifted a little bit, knew to not talk about video games and anime).
AceofRains 6y ago
I fuck up with the gym a lot. I do have a naturally muscular frame, but at the end of the day I’m still fat. This year I decided to have my barber maintain a skin tight Mohawk every two weeks, get a tatoo and wear more tanks, drop all social media, enter a masculine orientated industry (think cars and trucks) and have a booked schedule of work and school. Among these things, without lifting a single weight, I’ve increased my value exponentially. I get stares in the grocery store like I’m being undressed with the eyes. Adults love the fact that I’m “bad at being a millennial.” My job doesn’t have all the drama that women tend to bring in the work place so I can seriously enjoy what I do because I’m just workin with my hands and tools. The haircut and tatoo was the deal maker though, because now I get hit on way more than not having these things. You don’t need to lift to start looking and feeling good.