I'm literally watching the exact same thing happen with me. I had spent the larger part of the last four years hating my parents because they had no respect for me. I adopted red pill theories in October of last year, after having lived on a friends couch for three months that year, (which was hell). My mother (non biological) is now letting me do whatever I want. I mean, anything. My father is a pushover, and just lets her do what she wants. So now, I have her attention, and I get anything I demand. It's like I jumped into the life I always wanted, and it happened in the span of about five months.

Our parents are somewhat similar.

My relationship with my father has essentially evaporated. Frankly, I'm happy about it. He's a terrible influence who attributed to a lot of the dysfunction in my life and I'm doing better without him.

My relationship with my father has also evaporated but I am not happy about it. Although I am getting by in life and making my own path, I would have preferred a stronger father that put his wife and daughter in their places and taught his son how to be a man. I would have saved a few years wandering in the desert alone and would definitely be much more successful.

The benefits of patriarchal patronage are cumulative.

A few nights ago I had a relevant epiphany in my home.

Background info:

nuclear family, parents still married, we live at my grandfathers place (he lives elsewhere, but he owns and doesn't demand rent for this spot), middle class.

A few nights ago my sister (in high school) came home on Thursday at 10:45 pm, and my mother immediately spins up the guns and starts asking all sorts of questions. It was in this 20 minute interaction that I got first hand evidence (I haven't been in a conversation with more than 2 family members in around half a year) that my mother is redpill as fuck, my sister under the influence of the American hamster, my father beta as fuck.

My mother literally said "there is no equality: men and women are viewed differently for their actions. It doesn't affect [Cryocasm] at all if he goes and bangs girls, but it affects you a lot more and you depreciate in value quickly for being loose". Word for fucking word she said that, no lie. My father said "that's nonsense" and my sister was beginning to have a mental breakdown (guilt trip&emotional manipulation attempt), and I start laughing. As a matter of fact I was laughing during the entire exchange because my sister was desperately trying to defend "I do what I want to do and you can't stop me!!111!!!one1!" and my father kept trying to shoot down my mother who was saying the truth.

I was pretty close to disclosing hard truths, but all I said to my sister was "you're the type of girl to end up 30 and wondering where all the good men have gone as a result of your behaviour" after which she started sobbing. My mother agreed&laughed while my father went full on beta threatening to "physically remove" me from the situation, yelling at me that I'm an asshole, have no manners, douchebag, anti-social (with support from my sister). I responded with "that may be your opinion, but that doesn't change the matter of fact".

Fucking loved that once, laughed the entire way through and the escalation of it proved my point.

It's amusing that you still live with your parents. There are two options here:

1. You are still a minor who legally can't move out, which means you have zero life experience, and your contribution is therefore meaningless.

2. You are a grown man incapable of taking care of himself, and you therefore live with your parents.

The first 'anger phase', if you will, left me absolutely despising my father and turning to my mother. About a year later I understand why he is who is and I accept that. You don't choose your parents and your father is the result of this feminised society. Don't write your dad off completely just yet. My two cents.

There is a pretty common fallacy on here about mothers and their children, that there is unconditional love and all that. Its simply not true, atleast not that I've witnessed.

The biggest shit tests I've experienced are from my mother (and grandmother). They will pick you to bits and they want you to stand up to them and show you're above it.

The thing is its very difficult while you live at home, only once you support yourself and your parents want your company can you have that kind of respectful relationship. While you still live under their roof you'll always be looked down upon.

Its actually an element of the male-female dynamic that TRP never explores. Women test their children for fitness all the time and I do think to some extent they prefer their 'stronger' children to the weaker ones. You can sense it in other parents with multiple children, there is always one that stands out and they want to talk about.

It makes sense on many levels, parents want to focus on the child most likely to be successful in life. People accept it in all other areas of life and yet seem to be in denial that parents operate like that, seemingly true love is real there!

For me, TRP has helped me stand up for myself in front of my mom and she hates it. She hates I don't cater to her every single needs and demands. She also loves playing the victim card and has an insane sense of entitlement. She's the polar opposite of the kind of woman I want in my life.

Given the ludacris trolling we've had today, I was slightly worried this would turn into a FR... ;)

Good job, man. Glad things are going well for you.

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Dude. First you still live with your mom. Their is no alpha anything in your life yet.

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My parents are in a shit situation. My dad is slightly beta but onlyout of the worst circumstances. He smoked for 40 years (he's 75, so when he started they didn't know it was that bad). By the time he quit he had developed emphysema, so he physically can't take te lead in anything. Sex, house work, even playing with me when I was a kid.

He's still decidedly alpha in his attitudes most of the time. He sticks up for himself, and he tries to give me actual advice most of the time. He used to be a successful business man, so I trust his understanding of social dynamics. He always says "99% of people are followers. It's not good or bad, but if you're a 1% leader, you need to take full advantage of that."

My Mom, however, is a drunk. So when she gets really wasted she's an angry bitch of a woman. THe problem is: neither my Mom no my Dad have the financial means to get a divorce. They're kind of making it work in a weird way, and I'm happy for them. The main thing I've noticed is that part of my responsibility to the world around me is to keep ideal health unlike BOTH my parents. I wouldn't want a girl afraid to leave me because I'm an angry drunk, and I wouldn't want my son to have to teach himself how to ride his bike because I can't help him.

Still love both of them to death, but I can see my Dad's physical inability to act on his decissions and ideas slowly eating him away.

So... obvious PSA: don't get addicted to anything, fellas.

Sounds like you're emotionally fulfilling the role of husband with your mom which is very weird.

Excellent post. I can relate to this in many ways. Sounds like the gears are finally turning in your head. Keep it up.

Careful, brother... Don't be the man that fills your fathers role in your mothers life. It's not your job to fill that spot, and it can be unhealthy...

I don't know how old you are, but I recommend you move out ASAP.

Congrats on the self improvement.

See this is the kind of guy who needs TRP the most. A degenerate from a broken home.

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Good job, dude. Enjoy interacting with your parents while you can, it's one of the greatest things in life.

The feelings mother is giving you is called manipulation.. don't be fooled by women. The mother senses you are working towards self improvement, which means if you are successful, her improvement in life also goes up. She's looking for a branch swing, except not towards another man she couldn't possibly gain due to her faded beauty, but towards her child.

Your mother is as opportunistic as any women out there. Tread carefully, your feelings will lead you to supporting your mother for life and hating your father also for life.. don't fall into this trap as your feelings towards your mother will make you susceptible developing similar feelings towards your future partner. You will be a cockcolded man if you do not suppress or recognize what you are feeling atm.. you've been warned.

The rules of the game are set up against you. The game is rigged for you to fail.

Because of this, the only way to succeed is to cut out all the dead weight in your life. People, materials, bills, activities..

If it doesn't help you directly achieve your goals, its gone.

If your parents happen to fall into that category, that fucking sucks, but they dont get a free pass.

A lot of us have issues with our parents, and if you fall into that category, well, congratulations, you got a shit roll of the dice. What are you going to do about it?

You can put your nuts in your backpack and cut out the dead weight or you can compromise like a beta bitch.

Dont let anyone hold you down. No free passes, period.

TRP has helped me see all the flaws in my parents. They were great, much more mentally stable and strong than most parents. But not nearly as strong as I thought. While my father had some Don Juan characteristics (and I suspect he wasn't faithful 100% of the time before my parents divorce) he still is very blue pill and has now become very pussy whipped by his new GF.

My mother cuddled me very much. I achieved a lot of love. But I actually also achieved RP advice (mixed with blue pill). Most of it (RP advice) I did not absorb/understand until much later in my life. But the cuddling "you go son!" helped me believing in myself. But at the cost of getting a sort of entitlement issue and becoming lazy and thinking I would have it easy in life (because I'm "awesome per default").

Adult life started waking me up to reality and eventually I swallowed the red pill and have learned a lot since then. I no longer feel the need for validation from my parents. I feel sorry for my dad's BP mindset and just ignore his advice on relationships and I no longer try to change my mom´s mental issues. She will always have them and we can never connect in the way I would like to. I did get a lot of traits from her though.

Her philosophical part and her introverted side. Being a male however, got me more rational and less emotional and made me, eventually, able to see my weaknesses and improve on the. I also got my dads (higher than average) polygamous nature. But being more calm and idealistic about faithfulness I haven't throwed myself into relationships, promising commitment without thinking real hard about what I promise. I am not as ruled by my dick and my heart as my dad is. Therefore I will not be (verbally) dishonest about what I want. I will not enter a relationship untruthfully (because of pussy addiction). The partners I engage with I will never blatantly lie to. I might manipulate them but I won't tell verbal "big" lies. I will make sure nothing I have said can be used against me. If I haven't promised monogamy she can't demand it just "because social norms expect us to at this point". My fathers approach would probably be to deny his nature and "promise" it. While at a later stage "slip" and feel shame. Shame which could be taken advantage of by my mother or his later partner. That instead of accepting who he is and making demands that suit his needs. That way he could have kept his moral and confidence intact and avoided the pussy whipping he is experiencing now (without even realizing it).

He and my mom gives me advice on relationship as well as express their desires. But they are not in line with what I want. Trying to explain to them what I want and why is futile. And I don't care, any longer. I used to - but not now, I am not responsible for "unbrainwashing" them.

What can I do if my mother constantly bitches about me leaving shit behind or not cleaning my room? Most of the time it isn't even me, it's my dad or sister.

I mostly just ignore her.

Then I found the pill. I started taking care of myself.

Handling your mother's shit tests is a step in the right direction but lets be perfectly honest - you haven't truly started "taking care of yourself" until you obtain the financial security to not live at home like a dependent child.