http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/908697
Have a read of this one my fellow RP'ers, this is the worst example of female behavior I have read in a while.
Contains;
Cheating
Lying
Attempted cock trapping
Epic hamstering
It's just flat out brutal to read..
Archwinger Endorsed Contributor 9y ago
Remember, men, the measure of your relationship is desire. Not length of time. Not cuddling. Not I love yous. Not money or furniture or trips or a nice house. Not even children. And not even sex. The measure of your relationship is desire.
If your woman does not desire you, as evinced by enthusiastically seeking out sex with you, and passionately engaging in the activity, then your relationship is circling the drain.
If you are not fucking your woman on an extremely regular basis, with her enthusiastic participation, then your woman is one weekend or girls' night and a few glasses of wine away from another man's cock. Because she doesn't respect you. She may like you, treat you nicely, even love you (in her own way), but if she doesn't respect you as a man, then she's not sexually attracted to you. You've set the bar really low, and a few drinks and a night away from you, next to a man she perceives as slightly better than that low bar you've set, and she'll be riding his cock. Especially if she's pretty certain you'll never know.
robesta 9y ago
This should be it's own post. Your contributions are pure gold, Arch.
DankPanties 9y ago
This is the kind of no bullshit cold hard truth that I love about TRP. Thanks man.
gekkozorz 9y ago
And that's why we link to Briffault's law in the sidebar. Once she runs out of uses for you, you're dead to her.
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A great reminder and refocus point for a lot of us. Thanks
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Archwinger Endorsed Contributor 9y ago
You're the man. Initiating sex is your job. That doesn't mean she'll never initiate or that there's anything wrong if she does.
There's a difference between her being an enthusiastic and passionate participant in sex and her being the one who initiates.
If you initiate sex, and she grudgingly complies because it's been six weeks and you're married and she feels obligated, and she lays there like a cold starfish and lets you use her body for friction against your penis, and when you catch her eye, you can tell how badly she doesn't want you inside of her and how she just wants it to be over, and as soon as you finish, she runs to the bathroom to sit on the toilet and expel as much of your semen out of her as possible, you have a problem. If you try to move her to a new position, and she resists your touch and asks you what you're doing and why (e.g., she doesn't trust you or let you lead the sexual encounter and wants you to quit wasting time and hurry up and finish), same deal.
If you initiate frequently, and she's receptive to it most of the time, actively participates in sex, clearly enjoys it, is open to most positions and acts within reason, and most importantly, is happy and fulfilled when she pleases you, and enjoys the act of you being pleased rather than feeling used and put upon when you achieve sexual gratification from her, you're probably fine.
A woman who respects you feels fulfilled, satisfied, by you getting off. She's excited to see you get erect and know that you're getting erect for her and that you find her attractive. She's thrilled to satisfy you sexually and know that she was the cause of your orgasm. It makes her feel fulfilled to know that she is attractive enough to draw that level of interest from you. She feels good about getting you off. Satisfied. She gets off to the fact that you got off.
A woman who doesn't respect you is repulsed by the infrequent occasions that she tosses some duty sex your way. She considers it a favor. Pleasing you definitely isn't high on her priority list. She'll do it once in awhile, 'cause she's supposed to, but she clearly doesn't enjoy it. The fact that she got you off after you pestered her into it makes her feel used, dirty, and manipulated.
BluepillProfessor 9y ago
Been there, done that. It is a simple (if indescribably VICIOUS) shit test. Blow it the fuck up or leave is your only option. How could ANY man put up with a life like this? Oh yah, I did for more than a dozen years before I unplugged. I think this post triggered my PTSD.
Please read and re-read this for all that talk about the "weaker" sex. Women are often more verbal and can browbeat a man into submission over the years. They can make you think down is up and right is left. Linked poster did everything he could to inspire his dead bedroom but it is HIS fault he was not romantic enough so she had to cheat. No agency, no responsibility.
Then don't. But don't hide at your parents house numb nuts. Go out into the world and build a new life. At least get a new girlfriend, pretty please.
sniperhiding 9y ago
Men, let this sink in. OP is speaking truth here. Becoming more of a suck up, needy, beta bitch does not fix dead bedrooms.
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A woman will have sex with someone she desires. Giving her flowers or buying her things will not make her desire you. I've noticed quite a few women complain about the 'gross' gifts given them to by men they did not desire.
BluepillProfessor 9y ago
We should send a brigade or at least a peaceful representative to Dead Bedrooms and tell them the truth. I can't even read that sub it is so horrible.
mordanus 9y ago
I go in there a lot. I lay down RP as much as I can. I got into an argument with one of the mods there about something and she actually backed down. I swore I was going to get banned.
Misteralcala 9y ago
Figures. A woman modding on Dead Bedrooms! LOL!
Edit: Yes, this is me being a sexist pig. :D
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Funny because women are usually responsible for dead bedrooms!
26ounce 9y ago
That post is an absolute doozy and a warning signal for men everywhere.
I read a similar post on that sub quite some time ago. A guy having gone through a similar dry patch with his wife suddenly found her jumping on him whenever possible for two weeks, then as suddenly as it started it stopped and things went back to normal.
I was honestly scratching my head about what was going on until some wise redditer filled us all in, she had barebacked some guy on the side and was creating plausible fatherhood case against the OP. Once she had her period and the pregnancy scare was over it was back to normal.
Be aware boys.
TheWindyCity 9y ago
This is why you ALWAYS GET A PATERNITY TEST. Doesn't matter if you've known the girl for 10 months or 10 years, even seemingly loyal women will cheat if the circumstances are right. In a world of cheap and readily available DNA testing there's no excuse not to. Better to fork over a few hundred for the test then to be stuck paying 18 years of child support for some other dudes bastard.
CyberFi 9y ago
That isn't exactly the reason. It was actually a far more psychological response hardwired into her mind. Read the book 'Sperm Wars' by Robin Baker, this exact scenario is actually explored. the female reasoning for this kind of behavior is so irrational because it reverts back to our animal nature.
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
Women are VERY turned on by male intrasexual competition, and what competition is more important to her sexuality than sperm competition?
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trias_e 9y ago
It very well might be instinctual. It would certainly make sense that women would be naturally inclined to fuck their provider for a short period after fucking an alpha who may have gotten them pregnant.
[deleted] 9y ago
This. The worst part is she was trying to get her on his side by saying the guy was 'harassing' her at work.
87GNX 9y ago
I'm with you. The evolutionary shit programmed into women is fucked... up.
chimpichanga 9y ago
Nah. She had a long plane ride to figure out her next move.
Im calling trickle truth right now. This isnt the first time she has cheated. It probably isnt the first time she fucked that guy. Her phone came up clean which leads me to believe she was an experienced liar. This is just the first time she had a pregnancy scare and wasn't able to trick her husband into sex to cover her bases.
YouDislikeMyOpinion 9y ago
I know that you said that you are calling trickle truth, but for the other guys reading this:
Trickle truth doesn't have to be called, it's literally written on the wall, floor, and ceiling in Bold.
mordanus 9y ago
To me this sounds more like a long standing affair that she fucked up and didn't use protection on the trip. She deliberately told him that she would be going on the trip alone which shows that she was planning this out. If she was planning on the fucking this guy then most likely she has had previous interactions with him and probably others. This was the first drop of the trickle truth
Archwinger Endorsed Contributor 9y ago
Agreed. Her "accident" wasn't the affair itself. The accident was the one time she got drunk and forgot contraception. The affair was no accident.
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ShitLordXurious 9y ago
Indeed - she's portraying herself as the victim in all this; none of it is her fault, she had sex "by accident" and now the asshole that did it to her is "harassing" her at work. All bullshit.
bertstare10 9y ago
here we have a poster who clearly thinks of what they are reading and analyzes the situation accordingly, good job.
deville05 9y ago
Yup. Im pretty sure those two planned to take the trip together. A fuck vacation. Something went wrong and now we are here
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Zephyrel 9y ago
Instinctive, or learned and shared freely among friends?
colovick 9y ago
Who cares which it is? When you corner a cat, it'll show it's claws. Learned or taught, she was cornered, she acted, be aware it can happen to you if you let it.
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Spreadsheet for the win. /s
ultimatebacon 9y ago
Is there an app? It would be better than a spreadsheet.
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Clauderoughly 9y ago
That's gas lighting, and every guy should be familiar with what it looks like.
Telling you up is down, left is right, and that you're getting loads of sex, when your dick is dryer than the Sahara
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Clauderoughly 9y ago
Gas lighting is an abusive behavior where in someone makes you doubt the truth through lies and manipulation
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
It comes from the movie "Gas light".
A simple example of gas lighting would your partner moving your stuff (chairs, tables, plates) around your house, right before you got home from work every day, then denying they had done anything, and that it had always been that way.
So you know the truth is that they have been moved, but because they are someone you trust, you're conflicted that they are telling you it has always been that way and you're just forgetful.
Does that help?
leftajar 9y ago
Being gaslighted by someone I loved is one of the worst fucking experiences I've ever endured.
Fuck her to the deepest depths of hell.
Asoka11111 9y ago
Thank you so much for this reply. I never understood my mother until after looking into what gaslighting is.
ForYourSorrows 9y ago
Can I get a clear example of gas lighting? Still don't quite understand it
enticingasthatmaybe 9y ago
A good example of gas lighting, and one that women commit almost every day, is when they begin yelling something insulting at you; then after you bite back at them they say something like "I'm not talking to you until you stop yelling at me".
Baylien2 9y ago
Well I might be able to provide an example. My ex enjoyed going out and getting drunk with random acquaintances. One night she ended up drunk and alone with some dude at his house. I was very suspicious of this and questioned her judgment. She made me believe that I was being controlling and that it's normal behavior for a woman to do this Shi t on the regular. Turns out that she was probably cheating
leftajar 9y ago
Sure. Gaslighting is when someone attempts to convince you that your perception of reality is wrong. You should follow their interpretation of reality.
For instance, I had a "friend" who I later learned was a true sociopath. He would convince me that I'd said things in the past that I hadn't. He would even encourage me to think I had a poor memory, and then try to convince me I'd agreed to shit.
It's pretty dark, evil shit. If you ever find yourself arguing in that way, and it feels really weird, trust that feeling.
nicethingyoucanthave 9y ago
That's not quite it. After all, I'm not gaslighting a 911 truther when I tell them there is no vast government conspiracy.
Part of the definition is that your perception of reality was accurate, and they're telling you it's wrong. But even that isn't enough. The 911 truther isn't gaslighting me when he tells me there is a vast government conspiracy.
Actual gaslighting requires that the gaslighter intentionally tricks the victim. The gaslighter purposefully does something, and then when the victim notices it, the gaslighter denies - not just that he did it, but that it was done at all. "I didn't move your pen" is not gaslighting, even if I did move it. "Your pen wasn't moved, it's been there the whole time" is gaslighting if I moved it.
In this specific case, where the couple isn't have sex, but the wife claims they are, I wouldn't go so far as to call it gaslighting. The simpler explanation is that she's just dismissing his needs. Part of is too is that the couple probably does have sex whenever she gets horny, which isn't often because she's not attracted to him. In her mind, every time she's wanted sex, they've had it, so her perception is 100% success.
Schrodingersdawg 9y ago
Jesus fucking christ. My cousin does this when we argue. It's not even restricted to non-family anymore.
Grocery-Boy 9y ago
http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/gaslighting-definition-techniques-and-being-gaslighted/
Here you go, bruh.
mattomondo 9y ago
Interesting. I was trying to figure out where the term came from.
YouDislikeMyOpinion 9y ago
I had the same experience, she was just doing what was in her interest and I can't at the very core blame someone for that.
Company prices goods to make highest profit, can't fault the company for doing exactly what it at the very core exists to do.
esco_ 9y ago
Right, in many cases, gaslighting is just a biproduct of covering their own ass. It's not always that they've set out to cripple you mentally
Not that this makes it any better
rattamahatta 9y ago
But you can run very fast if her best interest is to shit all over yours.
whatsazipper 9y ago
That sounds nice but it's what really changes the ball game. Resolving how you must behave with women because of how they are guaranteed to behave toward you. There's something deeply adversarial or conflicting in the bare state revealed.
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Ill_mumble_that 9y ago
Women by nature are irrational and immature. Sure we want them to be better, but they aren't. Got to learn to deal with it or give up women (mgtow). With hindsight after reading TRP I think mgtow until you're a millionaire and then just serial date 18 year olds for 20 years is the best route
nsummy 9y ago
Worst idea ever. You would end up like this guy: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2571388/How-wily-hermit-rent-controlled-New-York-City-apartment-managed-squeeze-17-million-dollars-real-estate-developers-built-skyscraper-home-stars.html
leftajar 9y ago
I get you. I guess a part of me still resists the idea that a sweet, loving woman is capable of such evil.
Honor is a male abstraction.
SenorPuff 9y ago
Sweet loving women don't exist. Interested women who have something to gain from being with you do.
LukeMooney 9y ago
Women have no honour. I've said it before and I'll say it again.
batfish55 9y ago
I can't tell you what it's cost me to learn that.
And....it just really, really sucks that you can be brought up to believe the Disney lies, when the truth is so different. Even if/when you do manage to fully swallow TRP, it still feelz wrong.
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[deleted] 9y ago
accepting facts like this is what this subreddit means when it talks about taking the "red pill" versus the blue pill. it's a tough pill to swallow (I'm still working on accepting it myself)
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nsummy 9y ago
You could say the same about men. No on enters a relationship unless there is something to be gained.
SenorPuff 9y ago
That's exactly what I'm getting at. You should look at every social interaction as an investment or an exchange. It's not a bad thing to have self interest. And this applies to friends too. If they don't offer your life anything, then find new friends.
The simplest Red Pill philosophy can be made is that all persons are just self interested people doing their best to look out for themselves. Even those beautiful princess, couldn't hurt a fly, sweet, down home girls. That's the essence of hypergamy.
huoyuanjiaa 9y ago
Never heard of that term before.
RPModulator 9y ago
Man that was a fucked up story. She might just as well have green lighted him . . .
[deleted] 9y ago
Yes...learned about gaslighting here at trp.
Is it also considered gaslighting if they believe their own lies?
The girl in the linked article knew she was lying.
But is it gaslighting if someone suffers from severe cognitive dissonance?
squishles 9y ago
Cognitive dissonance; they have to, or accept they are an awful human being. Everyone is the good guy in their own story.
Maximus_Sarcasmus 9y ago
Someone in that situation needs to believe that they are in the right, because the alternative is basically the end of their life as they know it.
The woman might have been so involved in her lies that she was effectively manufacturing "truth" for herself, but it is still certainly gaslighting.
Clauderoughly 9y ago
Gas lighting is more about getting someone to completely question their own judgement and mind.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
It's something sociopaths do to get someone to question their own judgement and sanity.
You can't gaslight yourself, it's something that is done to others.
Ill_mumble_that 9y ago
Not true. Women rewrite history in their minds ALL THE TIME. They don't so it on purpose, its because of a change in feeeeelings. They aren't sure of anything once the emotions kick in they blindly follow them.
juanqunt 9y ago
Damn the feels... fortunately I've never experienced this with a girl, as I tend to hold my frame pretty well or I just end up moving on to the next girl. But I swear my parents gaslight me every few days. So many lies they use to try to make me behave the way they want me to. In a way, I'm almost glad that I get shit-tested by my mother every damn day that it's easier for me to deal with other girls (no Oedipus).
[deleted] 9y ago
Gaslighting is usually done by people close to you. It's pretty awful.
My mother had me pretty old and as she got older she began to put things away, which really meant she lost shit. Whenever I asked her what happened to something she would flip out and say that she never touched it, and that I was the one who lost it, and then proceed to give me the silent treatment for days.
One time she threw away an envelope of several hundred dollars from my shitty under mininum wage job. It was about a month of work and she swore up and down she hadn't gone through my stuff.
I went into the alley and dug through the trash for about half an hour. Guess what I found? All of my money...
esco_ 9y ago
you seem to be confused about what cognitive dissonance actually is
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I think I understand what cognitive dissonance is.
I know that it wasn't cd in this case. She gaslighted him with clear intent. She knew that she was lying when she said they had loads of sex.
I was thinking of a different scenario where a woman hamsters the day away. He is a good beta bux, but she loathes him for his lack of alpha qualities. She has a distorted view of reality, of what he does for the relationship and what she does for the relationship. She talks herself into being the victim when she is none. She talks to her friends about how shitty her husband is, leaves important details out. Her friends tell her that her husband is really shitty because of her stories and she starts to believe her own skewed narrative.
Now she should know that her husband is not evil, she should see how he invests everything in the relationship and she doesnt. But she hamsters it away. I think that would be classic cognitive dissonance.
(I have seen this in some abusive relationships.)
And I was wondering if this kind of woman confronted her weak beta husband and she is convinced of her lies and distorted views of the marriage...if this could be considered gaslighting. It will hit him like a wall of bricks. He will ask himself if she is talking about the same relationship. And perhaps even feel guilty, because she delivers her view of reality effectively. (Like the guys at /relationship who think they are to blame for being cheated on).
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You never saw the classic movie Gaslight?
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Is it worth watching? The wikipedia article sounds interesting.
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YouDislikeMyOpinion 9y ago
This is what I remember from my ex relationship, pure selfish actions from the female side.
As a rational, logical person, it completely blew my mind that people can be that entrenched in themselves that they literally make every move and take every step with complete selfish intent, under any means necessary.
It was the most fucked up thing that I have experienced in my entire life. And it was really important for me to have lived it, because I am that type of person who needs to know what is possibly on the other side of that fence.
I'm going to say something that I consider deep, and maybe someone can take something away from it. I like to map things out and learn where the limits are so that I can see the boundaries of human behavior. Once I eliminate unknown unknowns , it becomes much easier to understand known knowns and known unknowns.
Its like piecing together a puzzle and you piece the edges together and you see that there is a 98% chance that the picture on the puzzle is not one of a lake. And I go on that information.
This is literally the reason of why I crawled /r/relationships and other internet places like it for a long time. I can now make out the limits of female behavior and it is extremely hard to surprise me.
Devvils 9y ago
I have a sister who is a malignant narcissist. Got the parents to mortgage the family home & give her the money, stole their pension money as well. Pure evil, and I suspected nothing most of the times because "human beings never behave like that" - well some do.
You may find this enlightening https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXrHSjCfRc0&list=UUU9xNc-P8GWAdafmAcNVi6g
squishles 9y ago
It's an endless mindfuck; and prone to you're own idealized biases. Better to watch general direction and set boundaries of acceptable outcome. Being told sex is "ruining" a vacation should have been subjects drop it hard now line. Fuck knows how much other stuff lead up to that before she starts using wording like that. It should have probably been dropped sooner, might have been savable if he'd put a hard no up when it started to deviate too much. You can be happy with a gas lighter, just have to realize willingness to lie and fall into cognitive dissonance on that level toward you means the relationship is volatile. It's a horrifyingly difficult task to contain an explosion with another explosion.
RPModulator 9y ago
We got you now, Rumsfeld . . .
srehtamllahsram 9y ago
hhhehehe
teeelo 9y ago
And women fucking hate that
colovick 9y ago
God forbid men act in their own best interest
Edit: accidentally a word
busior 9y ago
the point is that we should
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cover20 9y ago
Partly because it's something they cannot do. This curious mindset (I have it too) is essentially masculine. A man who can understand them can surpass them, because they cannot overcome their (vagina's) need for dominant men.
Especially intellectually dominant men who see through them, who empathize without sympathizing.
detector01 9y ago
Can you give an example of that?
teeelo 9y ago
The best example would be your own experience.
nicethingyoucanthave 9y ago
I'll take a stab at it. Empathy is understanding. Sympathy is pitty.
Imagine a soldier with a "dead inside" look because he's seen some crazy shit. It's easy to sympathize with him, but you probably can't really imagine what that's like, so you can't empathize.
Now imagine a guy walking down the street and a cop yells at him to stop. Instant fight or flight response, right? He decides to run. We've all experienced that fear - maybe not specifically from a police officer, but from something else, so we can imagine it. We can empathize and understand why being surprised and yell at by a cop would cause him to feel that way. But it's still illegal to run, so he deserves no sympathy.
Most of the time, we do both of these things.
In the case of this woman, I think I do understand her. I understand how attraction works. I can explain her behavior, but that doesn't mean that I'm excusing it - she gets no sympathy from me.
blazingcopper 9y ago
Excellent fucking post sir
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whoops_fap 9y ago
I realllllllly hope that guy gets the fuck away from her and stays away from her. It's crazy to think it's more likely he will stay with her one way or another. Sad shit.
forgetful_storytellr 9y ago
Poor fella.
Alright, which one of you did this?
incraved 9y ago
This guy:
His gf is 3 years older at 34
No wonder she has 0 respect or interest in him.
RebootedMale 9y ago
A few months at the gym can result in very major changes, especially in your T levels and attitude/confidence.
SupaPineapple 9y ago
I can practically TASTE the pill going down his throat.
arinot 9y ago
What are you doing with your tongue down his throat?
generic_name 9y ago
I loved the original thread, where everyone was telling him she was probably just really turned on by being around other men that were interested in her. That he should be thankful for her wanting to get on him at all and that he was being paranoid for no reason. No concern that this woman basically forced him to go bareback. No concern that she didn't want to take the morning after pill the next day. She was quite obviously trying to trap him into thinking he got her pregnant.
Contrast that with this post http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/919369 All of the advice - all of it - tells the girl to run away, that she is being abused by a man that wants to get her pregnant (not that I'm arguing, this guy sounds nuts). But it's interesting to see the differences in how people treat a man vs a woman in basically the same situation - a controlling S.O. trying to trap the other person into a pregnancy situation. The woman is being abused, the man is lucky to be getting sex.
tylerdurden100 9y ago
Forgive me if I say something stupid. i'm relatively new here and usually only comment on ask trp but I want to add something.
"In my case, two months ago I spent upwards of £1700 taking her on a surprise long weekend visit to Rome. A great hotel, a wine tour, all the bells and whistles, I'd spent a clear month planning and executing it like a military operation in order to keep it under wraps. From sneaking her passport number out for the plane tickets, her driver license information for the hire car, making sure the bank statement was hidden so the surprise wouldn't get ruined, the whole thing!"
Is this an example of men rationally trying to understand a break up. I remember reading about how for women love/sex cant be bargained. Is this an example of this principle?
psi_storm 9y ago
The whole "i fucked up but you're the one to blame" thing
After the man gets denied sex multiple times he basically gave up completely and then she spews this "im the victim" bullshit. This is the go to line whenever a woman tries to rationalize cheating with her hamster brain. Where are these cunts learning this from?
Gladly I know this shit at 20.
cover20 9y ago
Women condemn this too. Of course they know it's wrong even if they may do something like it themselves.
The first few comments on /r/relationships seem like they're from women and they are entirely on his side. No solidarity with the bitch. Actually women are moralistic with each other, from what I've observed. And the more you let your girl go out with her girlfriends, the more she'll want you at the end.
But they keep doing shit like this. Not as a team, but individually. And they they have to blame you for it, because there is literally nobody else they can even talk to about it. Their girlfriends won't help, and might rat them out to you. That's good. It means if you attack them about it, they'll eventually crack.
JP_Whoregan 9y ago
Isn't it amazing? After TRP, I feel like I could write these stories myself, that's how often they come up, how predictable they are, and how tragic BP behavior and thinking is.
ss_camaro 9y ago
Theory is pure.
Practice finds...
living monsters.
Spearing wooly mammoths
in the dark;
Or when your ship
hits the rocks
off
a far shore.
All this
constitutes
the memory
of survivors.
johnnight 9y ago
There are only so many moves to this game.
ExamplePrime 9y ago
Just going through this post I could see him slowly peeling away the layers of blue pill lies.
He was saying No this isn't my fault, she cheated, she left the bedroom dry, she is blaming me, she tried to trap me and she lied.
He has only been kind and consenting and she has used him. Now he knows it.
mordanus 9y ago
It honestly makes me question whether or not someone from trp is just writing stories based on stuff here. These things are so perfectly textbook its crazy.
FiveRows 9y ago
I think there has to be some of that - but I've had life experiences that also closely resemble some of these stories. The absurdity of most male-female interaction in the western world makes it almost impossible to separate reality from fiction.
colovick 9y ago
There's a lot of it that gets posted here that are reposts and show up fake elsewhere, but I've stopped caring. I refuse to be drug down to their level by arguing with them or giving them agency by treating them like my equal in discussion.
If this is fake, who gives a shit. You're only detracting from your own journey and development by paying attention to trolls. The real learning happens in the comments anyways and those are much harder to astroturf.
puaSenator 9y ago
I'm a huge moderate when it comes to TRP, but if there is one thing I've learned is that you need to expect the unexpected; This shit is unfortunately routine for women.
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Expect the unexpected, sure. But the point is that this kind of behavior and these stories have become so expected for us that it's suspicious how predictable they have become.
frazzleddd 9y ago
Yes. Generally when you see 1+1 added up enough times you'll be able to predict the outcome wise one.
puaSenator 9y ago
Exactly. Sure, sometimes you may get an exception. But if I'm going into a situation completely blind, I only have my past experience to go off. And when (terrible example) 1+1 = 2 90% of the time, I'm going to go into the situation expecting that. If it ends up not being that, and is instead within the 10% of exceptions, well then that's great and I'll readjust my cards for that situation. But until then, let's not kid ourselves, expecting this sort of behavior is only beneficial because it's overwhelmingly likely.
tallwheel 9y ago
That lends credence to the theory that some of these are actually written by RP trolls.
[deleted] 9y ago
Doesn't matter. Because these events keep happening and will continue to do so.
The truth will out itself even if all the feminists join forces and expend 10X more effort in denouncing TRP. It's weird how you read something on TRP, give no special attention to it, or even think, "Really?", and then go find your gf / spouse do the exact same thing as if SHE read TRP and is trolling you!
Or, as we like to say here, hamsters gonna hamster.
A_Roasted_Peanut 9y ago
It'll out itself even quicker if they do that. Like many, I found this sub through others denouncing it.
tallwheel 9y ago
Agreed.
Please don't delete my post, oh great and mighty bot!
1independentmale 9y ago
You might think so, but I've seen women pull worse shit than this in real life.
My buddy's wife talked him into refinancing his house to pay off her extensive student loans. Notice I said his house, bought long before he met her. A few months after the refi she was gone. He just woke up one morning to his car "stolen" and his wife "missing." Turned out the car was repo'd that night, savings empty, dozens of maxed out unpaid credit cards in his name that he didn't sign up for. None of the bills had been paid in months. House was in the final month of foreclosure. She'd been cashing out both of their paychecks every month. She took the key to the mailbox with her, took him a couple of weeks to unravel it all.
When he found her she was shacked up with some guy she met and fell in love with.
WAFC 9y ago
Did your buddy get life or is it a death penalty state?
1independentmale 9y ago
Sadly, his drinking became a full fledged lifestyle after it all went down. He drinks like a fish and we rarely hang out anymore. I did everything I could for him, got zero progress to show for it.
He did man up and won custody of his daughter. So there's that.
Rpillacc 9y ago
So his daughter is now in the custody of a bitter alcoholic? She's not going to grow up messed in the head at all.
1independentmale 9y ago
Better than her heroin junkie mother, sadly.
Misteralcala 9y ago
...And the circle of life continues...
tallwheel 9y ago
Oh, I'm definitely not saying these things don't happen all the time, or that this post or ones like it are definitely trolls. I'm just saying that it is within the realm of possibility that they are trolls, and there is just no way to know for sure on the Internet.
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[deleted] 9y ago
Dump her ASAP.
If she has any thoughts about carrying the baby to term, she must be clear in the moment that you want no part of it.
If she tries to make this out to be your problem, you must get a paternity test. Don't sign anything.
In fact, everyone should get a paternity test in every circumstance.
If there is doubt, note that there are possibly prenatal paternity tests that can be don just using a blood draw from the mother -- the tests isolate fetal cells from the moms blood for testing. e.g. https://www.google.com/search?q=prenatal+paternity+test&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=sb
thegman84 9y ago
Agreed. Paternity tests are very inexpensive in the US these days. There's no reason to ever not get one.
Believe it or not, in some European countries (France for example) paternity tests are illegal. If every man started getting paternity tests, I could easily imagine the feminist ham-wagons tried to have them outlawed here too.
shifty4321 9y ago
Someone get that man a red pill stat!
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Your gut is always right. remember this.
Denswend 9y ago
This kind of stuff should be flagged as NSFW. Seriously.
Do not get married.
(Offering to the TRPbot of long posts)
TestosteroneFilled 9y ago
I swear I slapped myself like 5 times reading this. How does a man get into this fucking shit? How does a girl act so evil and selfish and instantly try to engage sexy time just because she's scared she's gonna get pregnant from cheating when she made him feel like a piece of shit every time he tried to do it? There is a place in hell specifically for this bitch, I assure you.
Maximus_Sarcasmus 9y ago
Hypergamy does not care. You cannot negotiate desire.
VelociReactor 9y ago
No amount of negotiated pussy will ever be worth losing frame for. It’s always better to fuck a woman who accepts you as her authority than some half-assed lay with a woman who’s only fucking you out of a sense of obligation.
RealHumanHere 9y ago
I will tell you: by having low value himself.
He should have had:
The moment your GF starts costing you much more than an escort, you should start worrying.
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VelociReactor 9y ago
Yep, the moment he realized she was un-interested, he should have left, or at least done mega dread game.
Instead he got on his knees and begged for sex, and even when she refused he spends thousands on parading her around the world!
$1700 trip to rome and she won't even fuck him? It's obvious she saw him as nothing more than a beta provider.
PLATO_IN_MY_ANUS 9y ago
Just to make it worse the cost was in GBP so it was closer to $3000.
mordanus 9y ago
Sad thing is he isn't even married. He was stupid and bought a house with her and the economy shit itself so he was stuck with her because he had negative equity on the house.
1independentmale 9y ago
He's not stuck. He can walk away from the mortgage. People do it every day. Just quit paying and let them repossess it. It's not admirable, but it is sometimes necessary.
a_tes_soulhaits 9y ago
You should have nothing in your life you cannot walk away from.
demoneyes905 9y ago
Correct me if I'm wrong but letting them repossess it is considered as going into default and would fuck up your credit.
That would just cause more headaches down the line when you go to buy anything. I would say that this is a nuclear option and should be exercised if he has no other choice.
1independentmale 9y ago
Default on an upside down mortgage and fuck up my credit, or continue living with a heartless, manipulative soul eater who despises me, uses me and thinks I'm so stupid she can play me for a complete fucking fool?
Easy choice.
Overkillengine 9y ago
A takeaway people should be getting from this is that you cannot directly negotiate with or change this behavior. All you can do is refuse to reward it and for fucks sake do not propagate it by either breeding with them yourself or helping raise their spawn.
CrustsRemoved 9y ago
I cringed at the part about him trying to buy his way into her pants. Lust can never be negotiated.
Misteralcala 9y ago
Lust can be bought. Hookers would have been cheaper.
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You don't know what lust is if you think it can be bought, even from a hooker. They'll spread their legs for more, but they are not lusting after you if they don't fuck you for free.
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YouDislikeMyOpinion 9y ago
Easy. Mentally for her, it is the best decision to make. Not only does it make sense for her in her mind, but the positives literally outweigh the consequences. Even with the guilt added in there it makes sense for her to choose to do that.
She cannot at this time reconcile(resolve) her feelings towards him. She "loves" him and wants him, does not want to lose him, and is looking out for herself and what is good for her. From there spawns what you see in front of you.
I bet you that if I would be in that situation where I lost interest and treated someone like a chew toy thrown away by a rabid dog and pissed on by Satan himself, then got what I wanted on the side, fucked my chances with what I would only then realize to be what kept me in such a good place in life. Realized that no fucker in the next month would provide me with that high quality of life, and that I would now again have to start from anew, looking for new mates,potentially taking years, feeling new feelings and potentially very substandard feelings (guy who does everything for you and makes you feel stable and good vs. Someone that makes you feel a bunch of different things like jealousy and not being your bitch). I would see my world falling apart and try to hold on to it knowing that I already screwed it, and maybe I can salvage it for a little bit, maybe a year, and then after a while be in a good enough place to move to something else.
It's all selfish, solipsism.
chimpichanga 9y ago
All aboard the Hamster Train. CHOO CHOO!
I had to so my child had a good father. Im a good mother for doing this.
My husband will love this child and it will make him happier.
Coming clean would only serve to cause pain. I want to protect my husband ftom getting hurt.
My husband had unprotected sex and a baby came. He knew that was a possibility when he fucked me.
I was drunk. I shouldn't be held accountable for one accident that wasn't my fault.
Once my husband falls in love with our child, it would be wrong to take that joy away from him.
iluminade 9y ago
why is real life so depressing
VelociReactor 9y ago
Real life is reality. It's only depressing because we were sold on a fairy tale and our realities were shattered when we realized it wasn't true.
But there is hope. Now that we have swallowed the pill we can understand the world for what it really is, and take advantage of it.
BluepillProfessor 9y ago
Are you a woman? You have a unique insight into the female mind and the differences between the male and female variety. I could not even conceive of some of these and I am pretty imaginative with my excuses.
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
You should read "I am Charlotte Simmons," by Tom Wolfe. He writes the female POV like nothing I've ever seen from a man. I read that while I was first ingesting TRP back in January, and the parallels were un. Fucking. Believable. I'd read TRP here, and then read it again in Wolfe. AFBB, hypergamy, the whole nine yards.
spicy_fries 9y ago
They are pros and we are rank beginners.
It's amazing when you realize that women have had a lifetime to master the hamster.
Could you imagine what it would be like if they put that kind of devotion into something that benefited both parties.
colovick 9y ago
You'll get there eventually. It really comes down to how well you understand their point of view.
cooledcannon 9y ago
Women dont have morality. In evolutionary history it was(most likely?) a bad idea.
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I called it on the first post that she was trying to cuckhold the beta. I was correct; my alpha senses are becoming stronger..
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bsutansalt 9y ago
I've noticed a trend that most of the threads where the guy is on the shit end of a bad relationship, the women are almost always a few years older than the guys. That says a lot about the guys in question (resd: overly beta so they couldn't get as younger, hotter gf/wife).
throw8way0 9y ago
bsutansalt, this is throw8way0. Enjoy the orangered. It makes a nice change to the red.
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mordanus 9y ago
I caught the first posting of his and tried to warn him what really happened and have been waiting for this update.
Notice how much gaslighting is going on in this post. She is blatantly lying to him about how sex was fine and that he should have been fine with it. She lied to him about the cheating for days, she lied to him about him being at fault and lied about everything. This was a wonderful insight into the mind of a woman trapped with a beta bux.
Notice how she constantly shifts blame to him that he wasn't there for her or didn't make her feel loved. The problem is that he tried but he tried as a beta. He did what society has told him to do. Be a supplicating wimp and always put her first. He always tries to make her happy and that makes her miserable. She wants a man who thinks highly of himself instead she realizes that he is lower than her. Don't ever put a woman above yourself or she will react just like this.
Make sure to note that the whole truth isn't out yet. There is tons that she isn't telling him yet.
She lied and told him that she was going alone. This wasn't an act of omission. She deliberately told him she would be alone because she was planning on fucking this guy. She most likely has been fucking him and other guys for a long time.
Part of a man's program is the desire to protect and provide for women. Women know this and use this to manipulate us constantly. So when a woman wants you on her side she will always play the victim so that every man has to come out and defend her. This happens in almost every single case I can think of. The ex husband was abusive or she didn't feel safe or any number of bullshit reasons just like that.
The vast majority of this is just seeing a monster hamster at work. Remember that women hold no accountability for anything they do unless you knock their hamster down. They will do anything in their power to play the victim and be made to look like they didn't do anything wrong.
When she talked about the one time it happened (which I know is bullshit) she says it was an accident. She claims no responsibility for her actions. She was drunk. One thing led to another. Millions of other excuses.
bleh321 9y ago
This is like a text book Sperm Wars scenario.
I honestly sometimes wish I never read that book. Being in a mono relationship, it is extremely difficult to swallow what is said....
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
You what's weird? I had read Sperm Wars when it came out decades ago, but still didn't get TRP. It took http://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/ to finally wake me up.
socio_j 9y ago
wow, some women are such trash its unbelievable. I believe you could even consider it psychopathic behaviour.
Clauderoughly 9y ago
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder
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the thing i have trouble with is arguing with women. what do i do? how do i defend myself and turn her from "me me me" to "oh shit, this guy knows his shit, i better suck his dick."
theozoph 9y ago
You don't argue, that's the point. Anytime a woman is arguing with you, you've lost frame. If she gives you shit you either mock her, ignore her, or qualify her ("why so negative?" etc.).
If you do lose frame, just eject from the situation. Better to come off as an asshole than a supplicating beta.
The only times you don't do this is when either you truly fucked up and you admit it and apologize, or she's gone too far, publicly disrespected you and you exert the nuclear option.
instaswole 9y ago
From what I've read on here, I am pretty sure it's not even worth trying. MGTOW.
Dimsml 9y ago
I'd rather say you just don't. She will actively try to blame you / manipulate you / make you feel sorry etc.
That's why you shouldn't just react to this shit and shoot all the beta-preachers on sight.
FallenHighSchoolJock 9y ago
She is probably pregnant with an alphas child. Do not underestimate the importance of genetics and offspring, it's all that women care about at the end of the day. I just saw a 60 year old guy working at 7-11 with tremendous natural forearms that dwarfed my pathetic, artificial 185 lb at 5'10 bodybuilding physique. He also had a Norwood 0 juvenile hairline full of grey hair. Dude is probably nailing hot 19 year olds based on that alone.
CrimsonIgloo 9y ago
I'm so glad the top comment for once, isn't "She made a mistake, take her back you heartless shit!".
[deleted] 9y ago
A blatant attempt by her to engage his protective instinct. No doubt the other guy at work is avoiding her.
JewSupremacist 9y ago
How did he put up with the lack of sex? They werent even married
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Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Rough shit. He's still blaming himself, too...
I think he deserves some amount of blame, but not for her actions. He deserves blame for thinking the advice of other failing betas in /r/deadbedrooms is worth the time (hint: it's not). She deserves blame for her "accident" and for trying to pin him as the baby daddy.
Standard reddit advice. Lawyer, gym, cut contact.
GC0W30 9y ago
That's standard redpill advice. Standard reddit advice would be to blame himself for being part of the patriarchy, be super nice to her, get her that new car and raise the other guy's kid well.
[deleted] 9y ago
Exactly, getting advice from men in dead bedrooms is the blind teaching the blind how to see. It's like asking a homeless person about personal finances and investment advice.
26ounce 9y ago
Not sure I agree DT, trying to apportion blame here seems inappropriate. Sure the guy committed your usual blue pill mistakes and took a lot of mistreatment he should not have, but her behavior is horrific.
colovick 9y ago
His behavior allowed and caused hers. Even if there was nothing he could do to change her, leaving should have been on the table as soon as she started holding out and acting like a bitch. She'll either change her tune as she reevaluates you or she'll disappear for good.
YouDislikeMyOpinion 9y ago
Her behavior is normal in the environment that he fostered.
Theopaulson 9y ago
That is some next level shit right there
Throwaway811122 9y ago
Heh standard Reddit advice seems also to be (sadly): Get counseling and inexplicably don't do a fucking thing besides that. I swear to God some of the people who suggest that shit for situations like this are just trying to throw kerosene on the dumpster fire...
A_Roasted_Peanut 9y ago
But don't you know, it's a communication issue. Why aren't you communicating? You suspect her of cuckolding? Talk to her. Communicate! /s
It is interesting to note that you can go over to the relationships reddit and post TRP advice, and it'll usually get a fairly good reception... as long as you avoid the words "the red pill" at all costs.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Such a delightful panacea that really completely avoids any indication of how one should try to behave.
niczar 9y ago
Well cuckolding is a legitimate fetish, so you should t that from her! Also she told the truth so she can't blame her for what she did!
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cover20 9y ago
No it's worse. A doctor or a lawyer has specialized professional knowledge and ability that you may need. You may need a prescription, or legal filings.
A counselor is there to get you to talk about stuff. With women this is probably not a good idea, because when things get this bad, she's just trying to see how far she can go and keep you around. By talking you reveal your exact boundaries. Think of a battle, you don't want the enemy to know your positions.
You want to have good clear standards, but you forgive some fuckups. How much of a fuckup how often? Even if you know, you don't want her to know. And if she crosses that line, then she loses in a way that you decide, from some payback up to breakup, even public humiliation. You don't want a counselor eating into that unknown area, that she respects and actually excites her.
nsummy 9y ago
If anyone read his first post they shouldn't say that. The title is wrong, this is his girlfriend, not his wife. Here is what he said in the first post:
Honestly it just sounds like they are roommates at this point. Its shitty what she did to him but I think they both should face the music and move on, its not working out.
cover20 9y ago
And besides, he's younger than her and can do better now. He's 31 and entering his prime, she's 34 and at the wall.
borderline_sociopath 9y ago
Most likely north of the wall at this point. It's cold up there.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Yeah, sometimes I wonder if the people advising counseling have actually gone for any. You sit down and talk with some random person in the feedback chamber, and they give you their profession's prescribed point of view for your generalized situation, and schedule you in for next week's session.
You can, and in fact many people do, come out of a session like that with completely useless advice you can't directly apply to anything. It's certainly not going to be even remotely similar to RP advice, or even the better BP advice from someone who knows you.
Should save that kind of crap for 4chan, because anyone asking for advice there with the intention of following it actually deserves whatever /b/ will throw at them. Anyway, it shows the value of crowdsourcing advice from multiple disparate hiveminds. If you read only one all the time you'll end up in a bad place.
dreauxx 9y ago
I wouldn't sound so sure of myself with those words.
No doubt you have a point, some counselors probably aren't worth the visit or listening to. It's a weird business, but there's folks out there in the field that are doing good things and helping people make the right steps they need to make to be more independent; some folks don't get that kind of guidance from a parent (divorce, deadbeats, etc.). At least, the counselor I see does a great job of offering me input that I wouldn't think of on my own; however that doesn't mean that their words take control of my life. It's simply input that I can observe to get a different view of things, and there's never anything wrong with being aware of what's in front of you, as well as the different options you have. And that's quite important in the context of this post, in waking the fuck up and realizing when and how you're getting fooled over (and how to avoid getting played like a fool in the first place).
However, counseling SHOULD NOT BE a time that you go into a room to complain and whine about where you're at and how bad things suck. You're right there man, folks walk into those rooms and go on about how bad things are; they aren't going to get anywhere without rationalizing that they're being pitiful first, sometimes a counselor can help bring you out of that, sometimes not. Ultimately, it's on you.
For me, when I go in I've got something to say, and it's usually something good. I used to be in a real bad, blue pill place. I wouldn't say counseling fixed me, but it definitely helped me open my mind and accept that I was working against myself. Now, I'm in charge and call the shots without needing permission or some sulky bullshit.
Sorry to rant on like that, just wanted to throw out that counseling (when approached correctly) doesn't necessarily yield bad or blue-pill results. It sounds like you've gone at least once yourself though, and I definitely understand where you're coming from.
Haha, I was never able to tell if those cry-for-help posts were real or trolls. Either way, someone sat there and typed it out for /b/ browsers, and that's enough to make me cringe.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Could be that you have a point. I'm running purely on anecdotes here.
JewSupremacist 9y ago
Strongly disagree. A good therapust is worth their weight in gold. At couples' therapy the therapist facilitates difficult communication and keeps both parties in line. Terrible communication habits can develop between people and a disinterested third party can do wonders in setting people straight.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Sure, but how do you know you're getting a good one, or just one that talks a good game? How can you know they're not biased to one side or the other? I'd sooner pick someone I know is biased in my favour or against than play the odds...
noblepaladin 9y ago
People will always conclude that a good therapist is the one that favors his/her side and get the other side to concede or compromise.
Clauderoughly 9y ago
Yeah that happens when you have been gas lighted that long in an abusive relationship. I have had a mate I had to rescue from a BPD nutter woman, who was like that. They fuck with your head so bad, you blame yourself for the sky being blue.
Time away from that noxious woman will clear his head no end.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
I've got a buddy in this situation who thinks that getting married is going to fix everything. I started to explain that it's going to be an $20,000 party and a legally binding contract and then life will go back to exactly the same way it was before, but I could tell from his expressions and outright rejection of even listening to me that it wasn't worth the effort.
He can do that if he wants...
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Dick-Tracy 9y ago
I know, but I've brought up TRP to a few betas and been met with male-feminist crap in reply and lowered myself in their eyes. I must be doing it wrong.
demoneyes905 9y ago
You're not doing anything wrong. You can't save those who don't think they need saving.
I have personally have seen this with friends and it ends with a result the same as yours.
Mistakes that a man commits on his own and realizes the error of his ways is far more effective in changing him than learning from other people's mistakes...unfortunately.
ButterMyBiscuit 9y ago
Talk about certain Bill Burr skits. If you're familiar with him, you'll know which ones. Arnold, Gold Digging Whores, Man on Woman Violence, etc. They're not overtly red pill, but everything he says is obviously true. The humor of his skits comes from saying things that most people find outrageous or offensive, but are undeniably true.
Dick-Tracy 9y ago
Hahaha, I spent two hours yesterday watching him. He's like an older, angrier Joel McHale. Love it.
Invalidusers 9y ago
You can't force feed the red pill. Guys gotta want to know the truth.
pTymN 9y ago
I have force fed the truth before, and it is indeed a great way to lose a friend. The shame when I don't even have to say "I told you so"...
GC0W30 9y ago
It's like warning someone their husband or wife is cheating. In an ideal world, you tell them, but in reality... you're fucked for a good deed.
pTymN 9y ago
Family member began dating my friend's live in girlfriend behind his back. Told best friend, and was guilty by association. Then I had to deal with my ex-wife who was best friends with the girlfriend, the girlfriend, and family member harshly berating me about breaking the news for them. According to them, my only good option would have been to give them shit until they chose to come clean with him.
I know how I would want to be treated, and I would like to imagine that when told, I would not shoot the messenger. Since that time, I've taken the red pill, and chosen not to tell friends how overtly their current or future wives were hitting on me when they weren't around. It is sad to watch a whole marriage begin and end and know for sure it will fail, but whatever, fuck getting into the middle of that kind of mess again.
chimpichanga 9y ago
I just can't get passed the part where he has zero friends that aren't mutual. She had him by the absolute balls. gotta have a safety net for when it turns out your wife is just another woman.
Jswiizle 9y ago
Sounds like my old girlfriend... She somehow managed to blame cheating on me...
Gabe6678 9y ago
I hate how everyone in the comments in that thread dismiss her behavior as just her being an unnapreciative cunt. Anytime there is a RP example in front of them, they claim the girl is just immature. None of them even consider that her behavior can be explained.
DTDtwopoint0 9y ago
Please do me the honour of explaining her behaviour for us..
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she had the instinctive biological desire to get herself a man who is stable, safe, reliable and capable of providing recources to raise children. after she got that, she instinctively desired a different man to mate with. at first she used protection but over time the urge to get fucked and get his cum inside became too strong or she was simply careless because of alcohol and she then tried to make her husband belief its her children.
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It's just how the female works. She got out of control. He probably has some faults of his own though. He doesn't lift heavy enough probably. When you go to the gym you have to lift heavy. Several studies show that when you lift heavy enough your confidence levels goes past a certain threshold and you start to emanate something primal that keeps the female under control. Do it well enough and you'll have so many females you won't know what to do with them. Maybe you'll actually have to eat some for your gains. Some of the biggest bros keep some in their freezer because you can't afford all the chicken or whey it takes to reach that next level alpha. It's all about putting on more mass. Black holes are probably just ancient alphas who started out lifting. If you do it right maybe one day you'll be one.
priusowner666 9y ago
The more I read the posts on this sub the more I realize I never want to be either in a LTR or married. Women are all liars. Not a single woman is capable of being truthful to men.
Science_isthenewcool 9y ago
Has anyone here msgd this guy and told him to check out TRP?
mordanus 9y ago
I have and I'm sure many others have as well
Dreamtrain 9y ago
That guy would come here, after a night of reading he will understand why the girl did what she did and how much of that was under his control, he'll be bitter at first, but he'll eventually forget about her, he'll be a better man, find a new girl and, because now due to swallowing the pill he knows how things work, he won't have a dead bedroom ever again and his woman will be happy.
But oh no, TRP is clearly about hating women. /s
RealHumanHere 9y ago
He should've had:
The moment your GF starts costing you much more than an escort, you should start worrying.
mercuryg 9y ago
Dead bedroom for years, and now this?
This isn't the first time she has cheated, i guarantee it.
A_Roasted_Peanut 9y ago
It was funny/depressing reading the original post that set all this off. Both that TRP provides a textbook prediction of what happened before it was confirmed, and for the insipid nonsense posted by some commentators. One of the top comments:
And people actually buy into that shit?
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
Being hit on by HOT strangers or HOT anyone.
/FTFY
mordanus 9y ago
I agree man. I was reading that first post when it first came out and trying to tell him what to expect. The other posters were so off it was pathetic.
shifty4321 9y ago
What he should have done, soon as she rejected him.. go to sleep, wake up in the middle of the night, pack his stuff, grab BOTH their passports, check out of the hotel, fly home and leave her stranded there.
kick6 9y ago
You took her on a weekend vacation, and she wouldn't fuck you. More than once.
No buddy, not "for once in your life." This, just now, isn't a problem you can't fix, you haven't been able to fix your relationship for a looonnngggg time. And the reason: you're unwilling to assess that your current tactics aren't working at all, and find new ones. Because that might (gasp) lead you to TRP.
TRPsubmitter 9y ago
What a read. It's long but everyone should read it and use it as an "introduction" to newbies.
This is what happens when a truly nice and kind man like OP "believes" in the idea of the "greater woman" who "fulfills" them.
Cyralea 9y ago
Before anyone goes and writes this off as a one-off case of an unusually bitchy woman, let me tell you that this is an extremely common occurrence. I guarantee you that nearly every experienced man has at least one encounter with such a woman.
If you're in a relationship in which there is no desire these behaviours come out like clockwork. AWALT, they all have the capacity for this. You simply need to give her incentive, which is precisely what being in an attraction-less relationship is.
Petrarch1603 9y ago
I suspect that her response and attempt to confuse him about the paternity is not volitional, and rather hard-wired into women.
SillyAmerican 9y ago
i dunno sounds like dude is just trying to find a free place to crash...
DarkSayed 9y ago
No, no nooo! that's not how you do it.
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"[–]JustDontCommaMoron 0 points 2 hours ago And this is how good men turn to trp"
You are 106% goddam correct.
TRP turning "good" men into good "MEN".
atleastitsnotaids 9y ago
Your use of quotation marks is all over the place.
erqos 9y ago
Jeopardising what? What relationship? Playing house?
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DoesNotMatterAnymore 9y ago
[rage on]
Fuck this shit... i just realized, THEY ARE NOT MARRIED!
WTF, you are with someone for 9 years, and "We've had a dead bedroom for 5 years.", sleeping in different bedrooms? What is the reason to be with her then? You can keep the "DB experience" for your married life.
I'm truely baffled by this.
[rage off]
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If ever a man needed redpill it's that guy. Jesus. he has a lot to learn
raven2000 9y ago
Oh boy... this sounds familiar. Story time!
My ex was good for about once every two weeks for the most benign, ritual sex you can imagine. Then, she suddenly got frisky. Wearing sexy underwear. Throwing me down in bed and raping me. It was awesome! Christ, I was stupid.
Then my balls starting hurting. Went to the doc. Infection. It's just epididymitis. Here's some antibiotics. It happens in some men. No worries. Two months later I find out about the affair. Went for an STD test.
Doc: "Have you had any symptoms?"
Me: "Nope. Just want to be safe."
Doc: "No testicular pain?"
Me: "Oh, fuck. Yeah, I did. Came in. You referred me to the urologist a couple of months ago. Gave me antibiotics. They didn't do any tests, though."
Doc: "Yeah, she probably gave you the clap. Very common. We'll run the full spectrum of tests. I'm sorry."
In our divorce agreement I asked her to pay for the $500 STD test. She refused (didn't want to admit the affair), but instead agreed to pay thousands for the kids' healthcare. Okay, that'll work.
Dreamtrain 9y ago
Even post TRP I still sometimes feel uneasy, that I will end up like that in a dead bedroom.
Misteralcala 9y ago
Stay vigilant. That's all a man can do.
heeb 9y ago
If you are the King of your castle, and she is your Queen, how can that happen? You rule, because you’re the King. When she behaves well, reward her by fucking her good, long, deep, for both your pleasures. If she’s misbehaving, being silly, shit testing you, then punish her, by fucking her hard, for your pleasure, and for her punishment. Make her feel, literally, how she’s behaving, either way.
ADDED: Oh, and of course, refusing sex is deserving of aforementioned punishment. Maybe not straight away, but 1 refusal = +1 punishment coming up.
WingsnLV 9y ago
I had an ex cheat on me. She had lost some weight and started getting attention from a mutual coworker. He was probably two points higher than me on the attractiveness scale. Our sex life had decreased ever since the weight came off and one day she just decided that she had to fuck me. I was doing my thing when she asked me to cum inside her. Being completely insane with horniness I did. It turns out she had cheated with him. It is pretty common for women to want to fuck their ltr after an affair partner to create a sperm war. Luckily she didn't get pregnant. We split and she is now humongous and disgusting. I dodged a serious bullet.
borderline_sociopath 9y ago
Maybe deep down inside (heh) she had a desire for a sperm war, but it's her very conscious mind that realized how fucked she'd be if she got pregnant when you weren't having sex with her. If the dude wants her and her spawn, she wins! If the dude doesn't, you're there to be the father (not knowing better) and...she wins!
Cold and calculating.
busior 9y ago
Don't treat this story as an exception - it's a typical woman
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
Weelllll, I'd say that to the extent that someone, man or woman, has a libido they are susceptible to temptation to cheat, and to the extent that they are a) high SMV b) in proximity to the opposite sex of high enough SMV c) reduced probability of discovery d) reduced penalty for discovery, to that extent they are likely to cheat. For a given woman, there is a threshold for each of these. I saw a post by a publicist for a championship winning NBA player at an event where an attractive woman (probably at least an 8) WITH HER HUSBAND (also a sharp looking man, according to the poster) continuously hit on the player, when hubby seemed confused by her behavior, player said, 'Your wife's trying to fuck me.' An argument ensues, bouncers/security were called, hubby leaves, but wifey stays. Five minutes later, player is fucking wifey in the office.
What do you want to bet that 10 minutes later, she's out in the parking lot telling hubby that 'nothing happened', and that over the next few months treats him with ever increasing contempt?
The threshold can be high in all categories for unicorns, but for some women it only takes an opening in one of these and you get this post.
balalasaurus 9y ago
Man its stories like this that just show you how real solipsism is in women. What I really identify with is the fact that he tried so hard to (in his mind) make it work. Something that completely backfired and blew up in his face. That really sounds like something BP me would have done.
Just as a question to the more experienced RPers out here - instead of doing the whole weekend get away thing where he was rejected again, what would have been the more appropriate course of action? I understand that his actions represented a complete loss of frame on his part - he was spending so much time trying to make her happy instead of himself. What could he have done differently if he had a rewind option?
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