A while back, I had a guide on how to use OKCupid for the highest rate of success. At the time, I hadn't got into Tinder. Michael Caine Well, over da last month or so, dat has changed. Michael Caine This app is much different than a dating site, and I'm about to learns ya on why.
This shouldn't be a surprise, but being attractive is #1. I don't know why this comes as a shock to some people. "You mean I have to be attractive on an app that requires people to make a 5 second judgement of my face?" No shit. I'm not here to coddle you, Tinder is no fun if you aren't attractive (or photogenic). This isn't about brain power or being witty unless you can attract them first. So, don't tell me that if you're unattractive, Tinder is a waste of time. I agree, it is, so don't use the app or this post.
For those that are facially attractive, but still a bit inexperienced or blue pill, I'm going to outline some exact verbatim messages that led me from tinder > phone > face-to-face > sex. But first, let's go over something to avoid:
DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER
Avoid the girls that list their snapchat and instragram in their profile. These women are collecting men to like their pictures and give them free attention. They don't plan on ever moving from the digital world to real life. Once you get the hang of it, it's easy to see which ones are it in for the attention and have no intention of meeting. If I message a girl and the first few texts mention following her on instagram or adding her on snapchat, she's getting unmatched ASAP. Ain't nobody got time for that. Do you like to look, but not taste? Me either. Adding strangers to Snapchat is stupid. Go to r/gonewild if you want nudes.
What I find fun about Tinder is that it forces you to think quickly. Most women on there have bare profiles, so you have to search their pictures for random bits of information to message them. This isn't unlike what I do in real life and it's good practice. You're going to have to spot an interesting piece of jewelry, make an observation about the surroundings, or come up with a clever/witty line to intrigue her. I like Tinder more than OKC, because swiping right means they find you attractive. On OKC, it's a guessing game, and her inbox will be flooded with an unbelievable amount of faggotry. Tinder allows her to streamline the experience so it's much easier to talk to attractive people.
So, here are some successful interactions. I have no idea about this app for older women, because I have the filters set to 18-23. All these women are young and hot. When I say "what's your #" that means she gave it to me the next message and the Tinder interaction is over. It's my go-to line every time.
First girl = Lauren - G = Gatsby = Me
I noticed a giant, gaudy looking necklace in her profile pic that reminded me of the "heart of the ocean" from Titanic.
- G - Your necklace reminds me of the titanic. Don't wear that on any boats around here...
- L - I love titanic
- G - So what's your take.. was rose hogging the door?
- L - He totally could have gotten on there
- G - I can't believe it.. a woman finally admits it.
- L - Selfish bish
- G - You can redeem her and save a door for this jack if our boat sinks
- L - I'm impressed with how smooth you are hand clapping emoji
- G - What's your #
Second girl = Eliza
In her profile pic, she had a caption that said "on one of the worst nights", but she looked hot and completely normal.
- G - That's your worst night face? You must be easy to please.
- E - Hahahahha
- E - Not sassy enough for you?
- G - Not even
- G - Where were you at?
- E - The casino
- G - Did you win? We can only together if you're a lucky charm and not a cooler
- E - I didn't win.. :/
- G - Lucky you Eliza, your luck is about to change
- E - Oh yea? ;)
- G - What's your #
Third girl = Melanie
Only two profile pics, but her profile said "meow." When I matched, she messaged me first.
- M - Hi
- G - ruff
- M - Lol
- M - Because of the meow?
- G - I'll only talk to you if you're a nice kitty
- M - I'm the sweetest kitty you'll ever meet ;)
- G - I'm more of a pitbull
- G - Beware
- M - Hmmmmmm... text me? Maybe? her number
Fourth girl = Chloe
Her profile picture was of her in Machu Picchu; my favorite thing to rib women about.
- G - Macchu Picchu? C'mon man.. that's like white girl achievement unlocked
- C - Hey! I actually lived in Peru!
- C - But yeah haha you're right..
- G - What's your necklace about?
- C - It's the Brandenburg gate in berlin
- G - Awesome. Are you a nazi too?
- C - Haaa omg no just german
- G - That's too bad
- C - So why are you on here?
- G - To fulfill ra's al ghul's destiny
- G - (and maybe meet you too)
- C - Haha that's good
- C - Just what I'm looking for
- C - her number
Fifth girl = Nikki
She had a picture of her dog, her with her dad, and a singular one. She also had a profile blurb of "pre-pa." Whatever that means..
- G - That guy is adorable
- G - And the pup is nice too i guess
- N - Hahahah that "guy" is my father.. tho I'm sure he'd appreciate being told that
- G - Who is more adorable?
- G - Don't worry it's our secret
- N - hahaha oh thank you, way to put me on the spot
- G - What's this pre-pa in your profile? Pickup artist? You refining your skills on here?
- N - Hah.. no.. you clearly are the master of that though.
- N - Physician's assistant
- G - That's not the one that wipes elderly butts is it?
- N - Haha um no
- N - What do you do mr smart ass?
- G - I'm in marketing. So picture don draper but w/o the crippling alcoholism
- N - Oh, so just a little alcoholism then?
- G - No, but I do have a crippling addiction to pizza, but that's my little cross to bear
- N - Your humor makes up for it ;)
- G - That's because you haven't seen me in front of a slice yet
- N - I can't even imagine what you're like in person..
- G - Well, it's your lucky day.
- G - What's your #
Sixth girl = Samantha
Her profile blurb said "I probably only swiped right because your dog is cute."
- G - I don't have a dog in my pics.. what are you trying to say? ಠ_ಠ
- S - We need to go puppy shopping
- G - Okay but he stays at your place
- S - Haha okay
- G - If he starts humping you then just take it
- G - (i get this lenience too)
- S - Deal
- G - What's your #
So, as you can see, the trick is to be immature, tease them, and get the # ASAP. It's Tinder, keep it light. The ones who are there to meet/bang will give you their information and have no problem setting up a meeting as long as you aren't boring. I don't care about their hopes, dreams, or anything related to not having fun. They are using the app to get laid, that's the whole point. These interactions take me maybe 15-20 minutes, which is faster than I can close at most bars. And as I said before, interactions like the ones I showed you are basically how I meet women in real life, so it's not much different. Once you meet them in person, standard TRP rules apply. Don't put all your eggs in the Tinder basket, but there are tons of smoking hot women on there and this is A+ supplemental material.
EDIT: sperg formatting
EDIT #2 on 11/29: - Reading a lot of the plugged-in comments in this thread makes me believe I can write a follow-up post. It's gonna be called How some people on TRP apparently can't even read.
- Gatsby
newmeforever 10y ago
This all looks easy, but... I cant seem to get matches.
lol
and I am not that ugly (from what ive been told)
awoods5000 10y ago
Great work. you clearly do not have oneitis unfortunately the Great Gatsby had the worst case of oneitis of all time. Do you think Gatsby is RP?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
The actual Jay Gatsby from the novel? No, he wasn't at all. He had no true ambition. The only reason he wanted to become fantastically wealthy was because of his oneitis (aka true love!!) for Daisy. He throws these lavish parties, but secretly loathes everyone that comes. When he talks with Nick, you realize he doesn't care about wealth, social status, or any of the people in his life. He is driven by one sole (and foolish) emotion: love. Gatsby was a deeply troubled man that was constantly restless, miserable, and stuck in the past.
When you read his schedule, you can see what appears to be an alpha in the making. He lifts weights, studies (electricity, public speaking, reads a book a week), saves his money, plays sports, and spends his creative time thinking of what he could invent. That's a brilliant and productive way to spend a life if it makes you happy. But, again, he's not using the traits to please himself. It's all for Daisy.
If Gatsby had been RP, he would've reinvented himself out of a desire to achieve a masculine destiny marked by a ruthless ambition to be happy and satisfied. Instead, he created a silly caricature of what he believed a rich man was supposed to be. He could've been a man that truly had it all, but spent his time lonely, unhappy, had no true friends, and almost nothing to show for his life outside of material wealth.
When you spend your life trying to recreate yourself into the vision of what you believe a woman wants you to be, don't be surprised when the only thing waiting for you is blue pill misery.
NoodlesTheClown 10y ago
Solid examples of setting up and maintaining a dominant and amused frame. You will ALWAYS get more mileage out of being casual, fun and edgy, than you will out of being nice in the traditional sense of the word.
Really guys, this stuff is so easy, a caveman can do it. It's all about mindset. If you're new here, take notes because the OP is providing some good insight into what actually works with regard to communicating with women.
lilacblaze 10y ago
I really like your sense of humor - I can come up with lines like these occasionally, but not consistently. Do you have any tips for improving ability to say/message witty things, especially off the cuff?
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Ganadorf 10y ago
This is pretty good stuff, but we're back at square one. Every time Tinder gets brought up everyone dismisses the "material" because all that matters is your look. You could have said almost anything and still pulled their #'s. I don't want to down play you though cause some of this shit is great.
kingofpoplives 10y ago
Not necessarily true. He would have gotten a few numbers surely, but some girls (always the hottest ones) use two filters. The first is for looks (which you obvious passed if you match), the second is for interestingness AKA game.
If you want to bang above a 7 off Tinder you need to either be 10/10 looks or 8/10 looks plus strong game.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Here are some filters I use to show when I know men have no real world experience with women.
Unfortunately, the truth is much worse. I'm probably a 7.5 in looks. I make up for the lost points in charisma. And, if any of you guys think that all you have to do to get laid on a Tinder date (or any online date) is show up, you're in for a rude awakening.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
this is ture and i'm not buying into that fact, ( you have epic game on the messages)
but you already have the 7.5 points to jump the first hurdle. after that it should be come a hell of a lot esaier.
if an ok guy was getting say 10 matches a month he should at least be able to bang one of them. If not more.
Ganadorf 10y ago
You don't have to get defensive. If you read my post, I said, "You could have said almost anything and still pulled their #'s". Pull the number, not getting laid. Tinder is 90% on looks, in my opinion. If you didn't look 7.5 or above, you would not have gotten swiped in the first place. My OP was simply a prediction to what the comments would be filled with because it's usually the case.
If I was entirely inept with women, I would have said that just showing up would make the girl rip her clothes off and jump you. I still admire your game. It's probably the best mix of playfulness and directness I've seen here.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
I know bro. Replying on here via mobile is weird. I wasn't referring specifically to you, but the entire thread of "it only works because you're good looking."
slater2j 10y ago
Picture gets the swipe right, but game gets the date. I have been getting good matches, but I have only got like 3 dates, (and only converted one HB6, but fuckit, it's just practice), so this is very helpful for me.
Sergnb 10y ago
If anecdotal evidence is any worth, I can attest to that. I've been getting a decent amount of matches (maybe like 3 or 4 every week) but so far I've gotten absolutely 0 action, not even a date. Why? Because my game is weak as fuck. Looks get you the initial attention but these girls are looking for a charming handsome guy that will take them and turn their day upside down, not another bozo that managed to look good in a picture after buying clothes and getting a nice haircut.
trying2bracehumanity 10y ago
i'd be plenty proud of myself slingin HB5's without as much effort as walking outside. pickin up a girl is as easy as pickin up a phone.
AssFeastingChap 10y ago
I don't understand the term HBX. I thought it meant hot babe X. But how can she be a hot babe if she's a 5?
trying2bracehumanity 10y ago
It's more like hot body X.
I usually see it in a context of the girl being a slut, too, so maybe some people mean like hot bitch X, meaning she's ready to fuck cuz her loins are on fire. Lol, I don't know man, I've been on TRP for a year now and this shit still confuses me constantly.
slater2j 10y ago
Maybe it's the city I'm in, but most of the girls I find on tinder don't treat it like a hookup app and so expect to go for coffee on first date, which makes it ore difficult.
wahmifeels 10y ago
I will preface this by saying that I'm pretty classically handsome, not to sound egotistical or anything, I just realize that I get girls a little easier because I'm somewhat physically attractive.
It still takes game to get the results you want from tinder. I have my own place but I have to say I don't drive for... reasons. (I'm saving and waiting for a good deal on a specific vehicle I want, and my last one was a money pit.) I can get them to come over to my place to watch a movie, listen to music, drink, smoke, whatever, and then we usually fuck. You have to have some good text game to get a stranger to go over to your fucking house for a first meeting.
And when they preemptively ask if I'm expecting sex, I always say that I'm not "expecting" anything, and whatever happens, happens.
VelociReactor 10y ago
That's an excellent line. I said something similar to my main plate when we were talking on tinder. fucked about an hour after meeting and now she can't get enough of me.
slater2j 10y ago
Thanks, I see that "oh are you just expecting a hookup?" a lot and I think your answer is perfect.
RojoEscarlata 10y ago
Its just because you have weak game.
The very nature of the app makes it ideal for a hook up. First like op said if you got a match it means the girl finds you attractive already, and if you (and anyone new to game) internalize this it will give you a boost in inner game (frame)
The power dynamics in play here are actually very interesting. At first women have the upper hand, because the app allows them to exploit their hypergamy, but when you meet her face to face the power shifts to you (if you have game)
This shift happens because when women invest in anyway in a guy (meeting you is an investment for women) they have already qualified him as a male with a relative SV (she wants the D)
So you just have to be congruent with said SV and she is yours, as the gringos say "the game is yours to lose"
You just have to play your cards right, the app creates an "adventurous" experience for women (instead of tinder it should be called cock carousel-r) you just have to build on it to make her get the tingles.
PS: the easiest lay I got was with a girl, that when she arrived I just did a very obvious look up and down, and told her something among the lines of "let's just go to my place"
Fish in a barrel, mate.
slater2j 10y ago
Thank you, I'll work on it from some of the good examples that have been posted. I have a more tinder-esqye first date on Sunday 'at her place' so I'm just going to go all out. Trp for only a couple months and am just taking a break from monk mode to practice game.
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rockoverchicago 10y ago
What happens after you get their number?
I get enough numbers but it kinda fizzles out on the phone.. do you just move to asking for pics or arrange a meeting that night?
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DistanceSkater 10y ago
This means nothing without screen shots of these ham beasts. 90% of tinder girls are utterly fucking disgusting. If you're even the slightest bit attractive you could just say "Give me your number, this app kills my battery" and the gnargoyles will without hesitation.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
I live in a major city and know for a fact that 90% are not utterly fucking disgusting. Maybe around the parts of podunk that you reside, but not by me.
DistanceSkater 10y ago
I live in Downtown Houston bud. Gorgeous women everywhere. Tinder is full of hambeats and gnargoyles. I've fucked 3 girls from tinder, the last was this cute little Asian girl. But out of those 3 I matched with like 2000 girls (just swiping right and not looking) I'd go back and look at these matches and 90% were disgusting. Like I said, your "game" means nothing without pictures.
Telly_Valentino 10y ago
This is interesting. Thanks. I haven't tried Tinder yet but am moving soon and plan to then.
I'm a good looking dude but this guide will definitely help.
grewapair 10y ago
Be forewarned: I have a friend who uses Tinder only for free meals. She's not really looking to date, but she goes out 3 times a week just for the free meals. She's not that great looking, but she goads the guys to take her to expensive restaurants on the first date. If they spend a particularly high amount, she'll go on a second date with them, never more, and the second date is always another expensive restaurant.
One guy she agreed to go on a second date with bought museum tickets for the second date. He still hadn't figured out he was being used. She went to the museum, didn't even go in. Just stated she was starving, so he took her to another expensive restaurant and then she left. Thanks sucker.
Don't do anything more than coffee on that first date. If she doesn't go, you're being used. College girls do this more than anyone else.
sway_usa 10y ago
I suggest finding new friends.
VelociReactor 10y ago
What kind of idiot pays for a girl on the first date. unless you're filthy rich and she knows it, that's a huge demonstration of low SMV/beta tendencies.
If you're looking for a tinder fuck, you need to act like the bad boy alpha, and a bad boy alpha does not buy a girl dinner on the first tinder date.
redpillerinnyc 10y ago
Damn it must be hard to date while being broke. I've never had a problem getting laid and I take bitches out to nice restaurants all the time... yes, even for first dates. I'm gonna be there eating anyway, why not meet girls there? After dinner I invite her to come check out the view at my apt. 8 out of 10 accept. Once they see my apt it's game over, 90% of the time... and 90% out of those I never call back after I fuck them once. lesson here? Paying for dinner or whatever has zero to do with being alpha/beta as long as you can afford it and your SMV is high enough. If you are alpha, you just are.
redbluepilling 10y ago
This is TRP. Any guy here buying a tinder girl a free meal without her earning it fucking sucks at understanding. Also, she's not only going for free meals... it's entertainment... until she actually finds a guy she likes. It's all the same. If you're really worried about being 'a sucker', your priorities are screwed up.
primordialbeast85 10y ago
I can't even be mad at her. Guys are on here looking purely for sex, a women using it for her agenda sounds fair to me.
grewapair 10y ago
This is exactly how I feel. She only dates guys 40 and up, mostly because they have more $. If they're so stupid as to fall for her shit, at age 40+, that's their problem.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
I'm looking for cool girls to hang out with, if we happen to have sex, well thats awesome!
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
What people go to dinner on a first date? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
redpillerinnyc 10y ago
I do, and at expensive places too if bitches are pretty enough. I eat out almost every night, might as well have pretty arm candy while I do.
ArtieRobo 10y ago
I stopped reading after the Titanic part. They would both have sunked if Leonardo climbed on the door, dammit.
primordialbeast85 10y ago
That's second level knowledge though. It's always best to stay on the first level and have socially acceptable conversations for situations like this. This ain't Mythbusters, this is casual shit talk.
InformalCriticism 10y ago
Still would have been a better story than Twilight.
knitro 10y ago
The key takeaway here is who short and too the point the conversations are. Get the number, get off tinder. You aren't a real person so long as your in that space. Save all the 'get to know you' shit for in person dates.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
God damn it, why the fuck won't these conversations format?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Okay, after 2000 edits, it's fine.
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HS-Thompson 10y ago
This is great game for younger party type girls. I live in NYC and have my filter set on 25-35 (I am a little I over 40) and in my experience this type of really juvenile game doesn't work so well in that context. With that said I have been incredibly successful, my game involves figuring out a way to demonstrate that I am not the usual "hey gurl" type texter and have an interesting life, then getting overtly sexual and asking if she likes rough sex etc. She usually does and about 20-30% of text interactions result in her coming straight to my apartment for wordless immediate sex.
The context of where you live and how many women there are there matters a lot. In New York you will never run out of swipes, ever, it's basically impossible. So the game is all about percentages. I suspect if you're younger it's different. If you're in a town with maybe 100-200 women on tinder total it's different too.
My point being that what the OP is doing works because it comes across and genuine, playful, and fun. Not because of any specific lines that he uses. Most guys sound forced and tedious, be like the OP and have fun with it and don't worry about saying the perfect thing. If you don't feel you are that "smooth" then PRACTICE until you get the hang of it.
rlh1271 10y ago
If you find any of these in her profile, they are excellent indicators that she's looking to fuck.
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PM_ME_UR_GIRLFRIEND 10y ago
The trick is to be attractive and hit on everyone.
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thredditsowaway 10y ago
This is excellent. I found that the girls who would respond well to "boring" game on Tinder are the ones who are looking for a boyfriend. Being goofy and immature will immediately turn those ones off.. and that's a good thing.
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JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
She had an umlaut in her name ¯_(ツ)_/¯
averageredpill 10y ago
This Tinder game messages are fun, simple and relaxed. Will take some tips from this, great post!
magicalbird 10y ago
Tinder is all about becoming top 20% looks, preferably top 10%.
Be white helps. If not white, six pack helps. Otherwise meet women in person.
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JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
You're gonna be sorely disappointed when you realize I'm not in the top 20%.
magicalbird 10y ago
If you're white you'll be fine if you lower your standards. Being non white on Tinder is a death sentence. It's nothing in real life but online dating is racist which makes sense since it's going for your visual ideal.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Oh, I agree that online dating is racist. Since I'm white, black/asian/latina girls already see me as a prize because of the social implication of claiming a white guy. I've joked about marrying a few and they've said "I wish I could have a white husband" and then given me the puppy dog eyes.
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Luckyluke23 10y ago
but you do need SOME level of visual atraction don't you?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Any sexual interaction does. That's not exclusive to online dating.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
i guess. i ment a 7.5 is going to do well on tinder but someone like a 5.5 won't
TheJohnDough 10y ago
http://i.imgur.com/duwEkSb.gif
Fucking beautiful.
Are you naturally this smooth, or did it come with practice?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
No, it took a lot of embarrassment and saying stupid things that didn't work until I refined it. You ever watch 500 Days of Summer with JGL? Now go back in time 3 or 4 years. That was me.
shits4gigs_ninja 10y ago
How does one practice their wit to achieve such silky smoothness?
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Kiwikeeper 10y ago
By hitting on girls and getting rejected
covert_thinker 10y ago
I wish I was as smooth as this.
TIME TO PRACTICE!
cascadecombo 10y ago
It's just like talking to an old friend, you treat people like you've known them for forever and when they see you're comfortable with them they become comfortable with you.
Just last night, I was out in a bar my friend works at. 1 attractive girl and 3 male clients there, I sit down next to the girl and people start the akward questions. One of the first things the girl asks me was if I live close. Instead of telling her I live a 10 minute walk away, I told her that I'm not that cheap to just take her home after we share a few words. After that she got all hot and flustered and was all over me after that.
If you're having fun, so will the people around you.
Flying_Chicken 10y ago
"It's just like talking to an old friend, you treat people like you've known them for forever and when they see you're comfortable with them they become comfortable with you."
You explained that in such a way that it finally clicked for me, thanks man.
chagad 10y ago
Did you just reference Batman to Chloe? And it worked?
DoctorWelch 10y ago
Nice post. Only problem with posts about dating sites is it is impossible for us to see who you are messaging and what you look like. Obviously, everyone is going to claim "All of these girls are at least 7s," but it's really hard to know that considering the subjectiveness of these judgements.
I'm not trying to be a hater, just being skeptical about posts that naturally don't give nearly enough information. I say try your luck with dating sites/apps, in fact I've fucked a few girls from them, but I would also say don't expect much and never think it will replace real life approaching.
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This is great stuff Gatsby! I am wondering if you have a guide to text game?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
I don't have standard texting on my phone. I use iMessage or WhatsApp with WiFi only. If I do text, it's in response to what they send and probably something immature/sexual. Being able to text anywhere makes me too available, so I don't like it.
nothere_ 10y ago
there's a stickied one in r/trpgame IIRC
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Gigem_longhorns 10y ago
This will probably help me some, but I haven't really given tinder a chance. I just swipe to pass time. I get a good number of matches though, so I guess I'm not too ugly.
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Am I the only person that uses Coffee Meets Bagel? If it's in your city I would recommend it; 100x better than Tinder and OkC.
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Rugnardl 10y ago
Just downloaded, and from what I can tell, it focuses on limiting your matches based on how much money you give them.
henryofenfield 10y ago
But in doing so it favours men since most women will not wait around for weeks to find the "right" match. Tinder is the opposite, another dick is easily one swipe/ one second away.
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I didn't fill out salary / job / personal details.
I usually get 6 matches per week, 1-2 of them turns into a date.
Rugnardl 10y ago
I meant that the app feels money-grubby, in a way that micro transactions have swept gaming
Luckyluke23 10y ago
micro transaction is the SCUM of the earth.
i mean if we killed hitler ( mricro transactions being hitler) and we pissed on his body. still it wouldn't be enough to satisfy me.
rebuildingMyself 10y ago
Fucking Canadian devil is at it again!
XMATIC_4 10y ago
Do you want to buy more Candidoes?
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loin_fruit 10y ago
I've had more success saying "are you as fun as you look?" And this is from rsd Jeffy "I'm at the gym getting totally fucking jacked for our romantic date".
Out of the many things I've said, these two have gotten me the most numbers.
betarex 10y ago
Those are the equivalent of canned lines. What gatsby shows is not, it's preparing for each girl individually.
Both have their place, if you are getting flooded with likes I'd say go canned, if you rarely get attention I'd say improvise.
primordialbeast85 10y ago
Agreed, this isn't something you can copy paste. All you can do is study his approach and see if you can mimic some of it and put your own twist on it. Gatsby has game, and this is a perfect example of it.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
THIS for sure,
I'd try do as much inprove as you can, just to stay sharp. but if it was something like 10 matches a day, i'd go canned.
loin_fruit 10y ago
Meh I haven't had only one girl point out that what I was saying was a canned lined. What difference does it make?
Better than saying just hey or saying "ride my face" (which ive found out that being too overt doesn't work)
betarex 10y ago
To each their own, I mean canned is a great way to start out but I prefer improvising as practice for when we meet. Not saying either is better just my preference
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
I would never use a routine in real world interaction. Eventually, the canned material you rehearse will run out. Randomly walking up to a woman and saying "who lies more, men or women?" is complete faggotry. I don't teach that or any PUA bullshit. It's much easier (and more relaxing) to be your authentic self.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
this is true, though i do reuse some of the improve stuff i find funny, I mean lately "ebolaids" has become the but of all my jokes in the club hahah
Luckyluke23 10y ago
there are WAY too many profiles like this.
I do like the way you replied in some of the convos and i did learn a little good job man!
edit: reddit is so bad on formatting!
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Haptic_Affinity 10y ago
definitely good guide, but tbh i never asked for numbers, just did all the messaging in the app unless i wanted to see them again after we fucked.
i feel its better this way since you avoid the momentum lost of a platform transition to texting
KarmaEnthusiast 10y ago
I don't think he said anything about texting after getting the number. Why aren't you calling these girls?
Haptic_Affinity 10y ago
I tend to only call girls over 25, and text under.
I'd prefer calling but it's served me better to text
henry589 10y ago
how old are you? I think age matters a bit.
gqtrees 10y ago
also how good looking he is...
as he mentioned, tinder is all about how you look and how you present yourself in the pictures. people decide whether to swipe right or swipe left in seconds....and their go to base is the looks. So if you arent up there, you aren't going to get much hits...its shitty but thats the world of online game.
ibuprofiend 10y ago
Looks are everything... "Tinder game" is almost an oxymoron. OP could have had any 5-10 message exchange with these chicks and as long as he ended with "what's your number?" he'd always get the #close.
The fake conversation thing is just so she can rationalize giving you her number without feeling like a complete slut. The actual contents of that convo are really beside the point as long as you don't go for the number immediately.
In other words, this comic still applies to Tinder... in fact, it applies to Tinder more than most forms of online "dating."
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Having a shitty and bitter attitude (like you currently have) isn't going to help much with attracting women. If you had any experience with real women, you'd already know the "looks are everything" doesn't apply.
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In what way? Older is better?
henry589 10y ago
Yes older is obviously better
betarex 10y ago
I got paid 400 bucks to fuck an old chick that swiped me right on tinder. Hot Cougar with fake tits, lips, and ass, was sketchy about hooking up with a 52 yr old so spun a thing saying I worked 2 jobs + school. Her response? "Call out and I'll make it up to you. NEVER had an 18 yr old fuck me and pay me for the honor of it.
Redpillonlyaccount 10y ago
I'm 43 and get zero interest on Tinder so it depends :-)
KyfhoMyoba 10y ago
Post a pic on hotornot or one of those sites that rate your pic and see what you are rated on the 1-10 scale. If you're not a 6 or better, get to work on it.
Redpillonlyaccount 10y ago
My age counts against me on all dating websites. Women my age don't interest me and women in their 20s will rarely answer. I'm tall, good looking and well built so it's not a looks thing. I am just getting to the point where I can get a girl's interest in the real world but it would be nice to be like the 20 something guys and hook up without having to get off my butt :-)
Tinder (and indeed any other sites that let you set an age range like OkCupid or POF) is largely a waste of time because most of the women I'm interested in won't even see my profile. I tried an experiment on POF where I lied about my age and got plenty of responses. I don't really want to have to do that though and on Tinder creating a fake Facebook profile runs the risk of getting banned from Facebook which would be annoying.
40Watts 10y ago
Wow, I thought my tinder game was efficient. When you mentioned not wasting time on girls that list their instagram/snapchat I just smiled.
lakingscrzy 10y ago
Does anybody have a theory to explain the girls with all pictures of them with a boyfriend? They're rare, but they're there.
VelociReactor 10y ago
Branch swingers.
They'll probably say they're just on there to joke around and be funny.
TurgidMeatWand 10y ago
If they are exes looking for beta bucks to accept that's not who she is anymore. If current boyfriends they are the beta bucks and is telegraphing that she can't have sex at her place. Or she just wants extra attention and she can just claim boyfriend when someone wants to meet up with her.
Edit: also possibly looking to branch swing to a higher beta or even to create drama.
If I was straight I'd pump and dump or just next her if she puts up any resistance.
clone9786 10y ago
Also could give her abundance to flaunt in fights or if he won't be her Bitch.
smokingmonkey420 10y ago
I saw a girl that was engaged to a dude I was acquaintances with. AF/BB - the only explanation I could think of.
lakingscrzy 10y ago
But then why show pictures of the guy? If she wants something on the side she would just put up pictures of herself and keep tight lipped about the BB.
smokingmonkey420 10y ago
Come on man. Manipulation is not a clear and direct process. She finds a guy she likes and all of a sudden "he's just a friend." Guy she doesn't like, "that's my boyfriend."
thatcoolredditor 10y ago
Next step: what's the first thing I should text them and how long should I wait?
Kiwikeeper 10y ago
On the sidebar there's a lot of interesting stuff!
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Modified_Hackware 10y ago
Referring to the actors accent.
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JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Have you ever watched The Trip? Me and my buddies always bust that sentence out when they do Michael Caine impressions. Bit of an inside joke.
RichieFinn 10y ago
I genuinely feel like this kind of approach is limited to 25+ girls in America. The humour and education of girls here in Europe is completely different, i feel like most girls here under 25 wouldnt even know where Peru is never mind Machu Pichu....any one else from Europe have these issues and know how to overcome them?
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Every woman I referenced is under 23.
TurgidMeatWand 10y ago
Most American girls wouldn't know anything not related to their field of study either. Most American school systems only care about getting their students to pass government issued tests in English and math. Unless they went to private school or a magnet program most people are equally dumb/ignorant.
RichieFinn 10y ago
I lived in Florida for a year at 17 and i noticed that overall the openess and the general knowledge of girls was a lot lot higher than back home, maybe its just smaller population means something.
TurgidMeatWand 10y ago
Was this before reality television became the norm? A lot of peoples general knowledge is tied to what television programs they watch.
RichieFinn 10y ago
Yes sir, I think Jersey Shore came out a year after and that really took off, and since i am in Ireland there was then a few UK reality series a couple of years later which are still running strong today. Its horse shit.
randomchaos1 10y ago
Damn dude, frictionless smooth. GJ breaking the laws of physics.
ugghhf 10y ago
So how many of these girls did you fuck?
greatest_mistake 10y ago
I too would like to know. You're smooth on Tinder no doubt, but how many did you actually have deck with.
ugghhf 10y ago
The lads at r/tinder have already recognized how easy it is to get a number. It doesn't really mean anything.
Luckyluke23 10y ago
once you get the number you should know what to do from there!
greatest_mistake 10y ago
Damnit. Have sex with. Not deck. Sex.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
No deck. We had patio. It was much better.
ThreadPill 10y ago
this guy... even practicing game in the comments
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edmproducerXX 10y ago
You are the GayLubeOil of tinder
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The only thing someone could get out of this post is to find out more about the person you are interested in by looking at their profile and being immature with conversation. Suffice to say, this was an excellent example of how YOUR game is.
Also Being attractive helps getting matches in the first place.
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hairaware 10y ago
I've found just saying the stupidest or randomest thing works great. Or just tease em. I usually just play tinder to fuck with girls cause the quality for the most part is sub what I'd pull in person.
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what kind of profile pic should you use? Do you make it as hot as you can? or more realistic so the girl dont get dissapointed irl?
VelociReactor 10y ago
Show a large variety of you doing fun things.
I actually had a girl tell me that the reason she swiped right and met me is because I looked fun and adventurous and she wanted to do fun things with me.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
Yep. Think of how many selfies/stationary photos boring men on there have. Pictures should be you doing cool things: riding a motorcycle, playing sports, surfing, rock climbing, etc. etc. Avoid selfies, pictures of you alone everywhere. You want to seem like you're the lightning rod to a great adventure.
kingofpoplives 10y ago
First pic as hot as possible. Next few, a bit more true to life.
aptway 10y ago
Thoughts on shirtless pics? I have a really good one that shows my six-pack, but am wondering if I'd be better off going with the professional headshot I got taken for work instead.
JayGatsbyFan 10y ago
A more visually arousing photo for women would be you in a well-fitted suit. Well, assuming you're not 18, then go shirtless.
icouldhavehaditall 10y ago
Why not both? But put the six pack one first.
ThirdLegGuy 10y ago
Now try to do the same with ugly profile pic :)
kingofpoplives 10y ago
You can still do OK if you aren't great looking, but you need really good picks that make you look extremely outrageous and interesting and your message game needs to match that.
I have a friend who is short and doesn't have a great face but fucks girls off tinder all the time because he's very good a text game.
fillymandee 10y ago
Read the disclaimer. He went over that. You should learn attention to detail. It's one of three things that will take you places in this life.
Edit: The other two are hard work and a good attitude. That's day 1 gentlemen. Pay attention.
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One of three things? Thats very specific of you. What are your other two?
covert_thinker 10y ago
Pay attention to every detail.
Don't t reveal everything you know.
InformalCriticism 10y ago
We want your life knowledge, guy. Fork over the other two.
gqtrees 10y ago
hahaha....but yea like thirdlegguy said, its all about how you present yourself in pics on tinder aka..how you look. Otherwise its tough, to get the fish to bite in the first place. I am sure there are guys on there who got hell of a game in person, but struggle get the first bite.