Summary:
Long term girlfriend from years ago cheated on me with one of my best friends. Years later I have my own company and throwing a big office party because to celebrate the year we are having and she is our waitress. Ends up propositioning me and gets denied.
Long story:
This girl was an hb8 I met at a shitty summer job I had while at college. I wasn't rp at the time, this was ages ago (10+ years). She was easily the best looking girl I ever dated at the time, but dumb as blocks with no motiviation. We dated for several years and I think she just assumed I would marry her be successful and take care of her.
Towards the end of our relationship her laziness started showing on her body and I was tired of her but didn't break up with her. Like rp says she wasn't being taken care of so she slept with one of my friends since she had no friends of her own.
No lies I was hurt. It wasn't the first time a girl cheated on me and it made me question things about myself. Fast forward 10+ years. I've learned a lot about personal responsibility and taking care of myself, putting myself first, and trying to be the best version of myself I can be.
I have my own business and although the first few years were rough (lost a lot of money). The last 5 years have been amazing and I should be a millionaire in the next few years. I love my employees and take care of them like family. We won a particularly large contract so I had one of my employees set up a celebration dinner at a 5 star restaurant in town.
I walk in a little late with my hb9 date, we have our own private room open bar etc. Everyone is greeting me and someone goes to grab our waitress to get me a drink. Then I see her. I recognize her through the chubiness and smile to myself. The whole evening I see her checking me out and see the regret on her face. All my employees are getting hammered. I get toasted several times and later that evening I go to the restroom. As I walk out guess who is there to chat. She tells me she misses me and that what happened between us is the biggest regret of her life. Then she says that we should reconnect and hands me a piece of paper with her number on it.
At the end of the night the bill was massive and I gave her a really good tip and left the piece of paper she gave me with the check.
Lessons learned:
It has taken years of work and dedication to become the best version of myself. She was really more of a reminder of how weak I used to be. It showed me how far I have come and although I hadn't thought about this girl in years it still felt amazing to see her realize how wrong she was.
OneInAZillion 9y ago
Every once in a while I come back to this thread and re-read this because it's just that satisfying.
What a thing of beauty. Well done sir.
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Shaigan 9y ago
Should have plated her bro
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LostSoul1985 9y ago
This is a great story. Thank you for sharing. But I guess the main thing is you are happy.
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[deleted] 9y ago
The only way it could have been better is if you had rented a helicopter to arrive in.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
That's perfect man, you aced it.
It never ceases to amaze me how girls can decide breaking up was "the biggest regret of their life" within half an hour of seeing you again. That says enough about their honesty.
NueveReinas 9y ago
I LOVE stories like these, congratulations brother and i hope you can pass out what you learn to other men.
Godspeed
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I'm so BP I would have asked for another waitress.
2MuchButter 9y ago
I love stories like these. There is no bitterness, no anger, instead you overcame a tough time in your life and she saw what ultimately she was the one who fucked up. I've had revenge fantasies, but I realized long ago the best revenge is a life well lived.
Back when I used to be insecure at 19, I had a girl who turned me down for sex. She was like a HB6 at most, but it got to me that I could get other chicks but no her.
Fast forward 8 years later, I have been lifting, dressing nice... I grabbed food at a restaurant with a plate she comes out of the kitchen to serve me... I barely recognize her, but she immediately turns around and goes back into the kitchen. She had gotten disgustingly fat, and her young plump face was older.
The entire time me and plate was eating she was hiding in the kitchen, I guess out of embarrassment. I, too, just felt bad. She was a waitress when I met her, and 8 years later still a waitress in a dingy restaurant that me and my date stopped at for quick meal before sex.
Philhelm 9y ago
Not as great as drinking mead from your ancient foe's polished skull, but not bad, and an elegant "fuck you."
Darkone06 9y ago
I'm remembering this and using it all the time.
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Conan! What is best in life?!
iiaGrer 9y ago
"To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women!"
As I see it: To own and wield my personal power in order to most benefit my life.
GuitarHero07 9y ago
I can sort of relate although my experience was more bitttersweet. I had a oneitis from my early 20s. She was actually 4 years older than me. I was her Beta orbiter. Of course she had "gotten out of an abusive relationship" and "didn't want to ruin our friendship." She was out getting fucked and chucked by Chads. In a way I should be thankful to her, because my experience with her is what opened my eyes to pickup and later TRP.
I met up with her a few years ago because we both happened to be in New York. Now she is well past the Wall and her SMV has plummeted. What's worse is that you can definitely see the thousand cock stare in her eyes.
She's been dating a procession of Beta schlubs and even they are smart enough to avoid putting a ring on her finger. Of course, she gave me the "us not getting together was a huge mistake" speech. I wanted to fuck her because I thought it would be some sort of trophy. We did end up banging.
She definitely put in the effort to make it a great lay but it didn't make me feel satisfied or proud. Honestly, I just ended up feeling sorry for her. Afterwards, we got dinner and when I said goodbye there was a brief moment of dissapointment in her eyes and voice when it was obvious she was being pumped and dumped yet again. But it was clear that she was resigned to her fate; this happened to her many times before and it wouldn't be the last.
darkrood 9y ago
Let's hope you did not just rawdawg a long lost "friend". Else, you will be hearing from her about "We need to talk"
GuitarHero07 9y ago
I never raw dog any woman unless I'm in an LTR and I strongly trust her.
Skater_Goy 9y ago
Honestly I think you shouldn't have done that. It's like kicking a dog at that point. Think about it:
Women are herd beings, she's a woman, the herd tells her that being a slut is morally OK and will have no consequences
She's having fun, her friends are all sharing sex stories in between pump and dumps, she has no idea the wall is coming
And then it does- she has to face the consequences of decisions she had no idea she was even making. By this point she's desperate for what women really want: stability, happiness, a decent life partner, and she's trying so hard for that in the only ways she knows how; the harder she tries, the further she gets from her goal. She's pathetic now.
And then you come in, she realizes it was a mistake to pass you up. You're not interested, so what do you do? Let her down respectfully and in such a way that preserves her dignity? No, fuck that, let's rip out and stomp on this bitch's heart like any other nameless, common motherfucker would, and you do it for the petty reason of scoring a petty victory. You encountered one of the last vestiges of hope in a pathetic, worn down human being, and you decided to stamp it out.
This may not be very "alpha" but if I were in your position I'd phone her up and apologize.
Rasalom72 9y ago
More like kicking a dog that bit you.... if it were me, I would kick that fucking dog to death.
Skater_Goy 9y ago
Did she bite him that hard? She was just a dumb, hypergamous woman. Not some special kind of evil that deserves vindictive punishment.
constructiveasshole 9y ago
You shouldn't have given her the honor of your dick. I hope you at least didn't pay for the slut's dinner.
PabloEscoba 9y ago
True. Bitches have NO remorse during their prime and operate with impunity.
plenkton 9y ago
They have no remorse, but they also are oblivious to reality. Even if they tried to reciprocate, they'd struggle simply in understanding reality. Let alone how to achieve any goal asides from their own self interest.
MyLittleAtomBomb 9y ago
She didn't miss you, she just saw that she made the wrong investment early on and regretted it.
I got my revenge too in a way. My old oneitis is fat as heeeeeeell
BluepillProfessor 9y ago
This was one of my dreams following a tough breakup from a cheating whore in college. I always imagined giving her a huge tip and then walking out with my much prettier wife. Never happened to me but I am glad somebody nailed it.
Good show!
Johnny_Monsanto 9y ago
This is some real inspirational shit.
explorer92 9y ago
you're todays hero. Thanks for the post.
TermsOfColors 9y ago
I understand the concept of the Revenge Fantasy, but I've never had one in the way they are frequently expressed here.
I can honestly say that every relationship I've been in has resulted in a sense of RELIEF and FREEDOM when it was over.
OrangeJello23 9y ago
This is the part where everyone started masturbating furiously. Well played, sir.
BluepillProfessor 9y ago
Speak for yourself. This is the part when I came.
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SexyDeviI 9y ago
I respect how gracefully you've handled the situation. No harsh words, no humiliation or acting out on negative emotions.
A large tip coupled with returning the phone number paper? You know how to cut deep, sir.
It's as if you've said: "I'm largely successful and abundant to the point where I can share scraps even with the persons who have no place in my life. Here. Take this, you look like you need it. Oh, and the reconnecting thing? Heh, come on girl, you understand... You don't even exist. Not worth enough to be as much as considered. Farewell."
I love it. I enjoyed envisioning it. Don't have any revenge fantasies myself as I consider it a poor waste of energy and mental capacity that brings no value whatsoever in my already awesome life. Yet, I did enjoyed envisioning your fantasy coming true.
Stay strong, man.
fasthandssam 9y ago
Agreed. Handled brilliantly.
Sir_Distic 9y ago
I agree.
When I saw "Revenge fantasy" in the title I cringed. Then read the story.
You handled it perfectly. Simply acted like the man you are. Without bashing her or throwing it in her face. The big tip was classy, no matter who she was. The returning the number was just great. No anger, no implied hurt. Just "no thanks"
That is how a red pill man lives.
Luckyluke23 9y ago
yeah could have done with a better title.
xfLyFPS 9y ago
That's the point of the title - to emotionally stir us inside and then make us impressed.
Troll_Name 9y ago
I love this. To me, TRP is just my own personal journey towards parting with my own anger. I think a huge chunk of it just broke off and crumbled into dust from reading this story alone.
Being cheated on used to feel like a fate worse than death in my mind. But today, if I found myself stuck with a woman I didn't enjoy then I would just subtly encourage her to cheat on me. Dropping her short-notice after I find out would look about as justifiable as it possibly could to anyone observing, and worst case scenario she has another man to fall back upon instead of spending 100% of her energy trying to hurt me because I left her.
Being cheated on by a lazy shrew is like being fired by a penniless boss. "Well, bye."
DontPM_meyourtits 9y ago
I remember being devastated about being cheated on when I was younger. In hindsight it was because I based my value on being with these women rather than an inherent value I have regardless of who I am with. If I were to be cheated on these day I think I would count my blessings as a dodged bullet.
Sharun 9y ago
You really worded this in a way that has clicked for me. Thank you.
ioncloud9 9y ago
With the way girls are behaving these days, just getting cheated on is basically coming out unscathed. You learn a harsh but valuable lesson with minimal long term cost to yourself.
Stationarity 9y ago
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
pilledwillingly 9y ago
Do you guys really look down on revenge fantasies? That's how I get through the last 3 reps. If you can live without it being fulfilled it's not unhealthy.
Gadnuk_ 9y ago
There is no shame in this situation, OP was approached by a cheating ex and handled it perfectly. In this regard it is only natural to enjoy the moment.
If you intentionally seek revenge it is petty and the sign of a vindictive man who is still overly concerned with his old crush and her opinion of him. The desire for revenge is normal, taking steps to force it to happen is not.
You should ideally view every cheating slut as trash; after you've left it by the curb it becomes someone else's job to deal with it. Easier said than done no doubt, but you will likely never have to deal with that particular trash again so forget about it and move on.
If you use revenge fantasy to squeeze extra reps at the gym then you are harnessing your emotions for personal benefit and that can also be positive, but you must also learn to find motivation elsewhere; the anger will die in time but you will still need those last reps.
SexyDeviI 9y ago
I don't look down on anything, everything just is, I don't impose a "good" or "bad" judgement on it - I only implement and make use of what I consider to bring more value to my life, soul and wellbeing.
Any emotion we feel (no matter how "negative" or hateful in its nature) can be channeled and used as a fuel for "positive" i.e. beneficial actions and thus become useful through the power of will and mindset.
You feel like murdering someone but the only acting out you do on that emotion is deadlifting and squatting in the gym until you pass out? Good job.
Same with anything else. If it helps you get through the most important last 3 reps, and therefore helping you improve your health, stamina and bodily strength - I'm all for your revenge fantasy man.
All the best.
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By the time you can get revenge you'll probably be totally over it. Put the anger to good use instead of stifling it.
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charlesbukowksi 9y ago
"As yet no thinker has had the courage of measuring the health of a society and of individuals according to how many parasites they can stand…"
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peonpete 9y ago
Source? Sounds like Ayn Rand but I've read most of her works.
charlesbukowksi 9y ago
Nietzsche, Genealogy of Morals
peonpete 9y ago
Thanks bro, I've read 'Thus Spake Zarathustra' and 'On Good and Evil' and I'll add this to me 'to read' list.
charlesbukowksi 9y ago
You're welcome. Nietzsche is a real treat.
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AmazonExplorer 9y ago
TRP needs more stories like this. 'Field reports' and 'reminders' are great and all but stories like this are what truly motivate people. Not focusing on the negative, but on what is achievable. I wasn't going to run today 'cause it's cold, but fuck it! My blood will keep me warm!
RPB1 9y ago
I find it hilarious how she can't even say the words: an actual apology for cheating. Instead she wordsmiths it away as 'regretting what happened between us'.
That look of regret was all about her envying your success as well as your date; none of it came from her realizing how much of a shitty person she was.
To think you'd even want to have anything to do with her shows how deluded and disconnected from reality she (along with women in general) is.
makethemsayayy 9y ago
Ironically that's how she views the betas who approach her. The shoe is on the other foot.
[deleted] 9y ago
Well, at least she's honest. She didn't care about cheating. She cared about doing something to make a high SMV mate cut her loose.
Redasshole 9y ago
like it's not her fault LOL
slay_it_forward 9y ago
It's crazy how apology adverse women are. I caught my ex cheating red-handed and she never once verbalised an apology until weeks later when she wanted to stay together and I said to her, "you didn't even apologize for cheating", to which she responded with a half-hearted insincere, well I am sorry.
It was like she was being dragged somewhere against her will.
dxfifa 9y ago
Some women are the opposite. They act like a cunt all the time and use apologies as a manupilation tool to try to keep whatever they want going. Most people accept apologies too much
HumanSockPuppet 9y ago
She was.
An apology implies fault, and fault implies responsibility. A woman would sooner carve off her tits with a cheese knife than willfully claim responsibility for anything.
marty2k 9y ago
In her head, she did nothing wrong. I mean she just followed her heart, and it wasn't really cheating, and you didn't have to be such an asshole and overreact like that. Such is the hamster.
KyfhoMyoba 9y ago
That's because she's only sorry she got caught.
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plenkton 9y ago
But perhaps you should be thanking her [a female's] nature. As a poster has said on TRP before, it's why we are able to have these discussions [females having cultivated our fitness (including mental)].
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druganswer 9y ago
this... woman hitting wall. this is just the wall being forcefully moved from her peripherals to 20/20 dead center. she doesn't suddenly see OP as Chad, she just realizes that she missed out on loads of provisioning. she probably doesn't feel bad about cheating on him at all... she just wishes she had hidden it better.
she'll be over it in a day or two, but yeah OP handled it just fine... I think he's overthinking it as revenge porn though.
savoryprunes 9y ago
She won't be over it in a day or two. Talk to more women who are comfortable opening up to you. ALL of them have a "one who got away" and some of them have more than one. They never forget.
druganswer 9y ago
One who got away is Chad who took her out on one date and then she called every Friday and Saturday for the next 6 months to hopefully get a booty call because he would never hit her up. That's the guy she never forgets. The beta chump that ended up successful and got himself to a much better place than before? Yeah... she'll say shit to her girlfriends like "Dayumn fucked that up! He's loaded now!" but it won't be out of any real emotion or desire... just wall hitting and seeing that she could be living the "good life" had she not fucked it up.
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I just had one myself last night. A girl I went to high school with that I tried to get with on multiple occasions basically begged to sucked my dick and to consider talking to her since I started improving in life. I refuse for her to be anything other than a dick sucker because like you it reminds me of a point in my life that I was weak. I didn't go seeking revenge but it's funny the way the universe starts working once you reclaim back your masculinity.
Edit: I also loved how classy you handled it.
J_AsapGem 9y ago
more like she missing you because of your success, this was an awesome read thanks for sharing mate. Best revenge is to become better
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Quirkybeaver 9y ago
Love this. Congrats on your success, OP.
xorchids 9y ago
Great story. Real classy at the end, I will save this in the archives of my mind for sure.
TurnDownForWhat 9y ago
You know these things never work out so cleanly as this story does. These revenge porn fantasies are real life occurrences. But 9 times out of 10 the end user on this sub won't have the experience you had. I've killed my revenge fantasy along time ago. Simply written it off. I won't lie to and say it doesn't cross my mind when I read posts like yours or if an every day event will trigger a memory but I just can't afford to put any eggs into that basket.
Forward thinking: this is the justice all the newbies seek. It's why I came here at least but it's often times a pipe dream. Get money fuck bitches.
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Yup. Last night I was laying in bed with one of my plates, discussing our (failed) pickup attempt of a woman at a NYE party. Revenge on the insults of my past was the farthest thing from my mind. From Moby Dick:
How many barrels will thy vengeance yield thee even if thou gettest it, Captain Ahab? it will not fetch thee much in our Nantucket market.
DaBaulz 9y ago
If you want the revenge fantasy you will never get it. That is a poisonous and futile way of thinking and it will inhibit you from improving.
If you work hard and focus on yourself, you will have your "revenge" every day. Maybe not exactly like this, maybe she'll never know. But your happiness and results will be bursting and you'll have that satisfying feeling.
DontPM_meyourtits 9y ago
I think if I wanted this or planned this revenge fantasy it would have never happened.
vengefully_yours 9y ago
I have noticed that every girl I used to date, and both wives, are doing far worse now. They all realized what they lost not long after. I never had a revenge fantasy, I simply continued with my life. Then I find out years later what happened to them.
Even the one I should have married is unhappy. Her husband is well off, but he hasn't fucked her in 6 or 7 years. She is turning 53 in a couple months, saddled with a disabled teenage son, and calls me once a month to feel like a human again. We both missed out, but it wasn't or fault shit went bad. She didn't cheat, we ended it because she lived in Dubai and I was in Nebraska, no way to get married once I was out of the military. She is incredibly loyal, we would have done well together.
The rest, heh, they make your waitress chick look like a super model.
flyercomet 9y ago
Serendipity isn't something that just happens. In this case it was fucking earned.
200mgtestc 9y ago
This is the response I came here to make. Just like most things, The best way to achieve it is to not focus on it.
squidracer 9y ago
I feel like I've had several revenge fantasies come to life..
One became fat.
One got married to a broke guy, had a kid then got divorced.. Moved back in with her parents..
One is just flat broke and can barely pay her bills
R2-Digits 9y ago
This sounds like the ending to big daddy.
Stythe 9y ago
The best part is the last line. You said she was a reminder of how weak you used to be. When I think back to my ex and remember how hurt I was, I know it was THAT PAIN that drove me to make better choices to improve my life. Not for her, but so that I would never have to feel that again. With that came self-respect. Now I realize I couldn't go back to her because I'm a better man than I was, and there's nothing she could offer me. To me, that's the best revenge. Real revenge isn't about hurting someone, it's about them realizing they hurt themselves.
SinisterSwindler 9y ago
Amen brother, I have that exact outlook.
epsilion11 9y ago
I kinda disagree. She didn't really hurt herself because she cheated on a man, which according to OP, had low SMV. She was right to do that at the time. Her mistake was not cheating and leaving for a person she perceived as better, but rather the fact that she did not improve herself equally.
Stythe 9y ago
What I mean is that in the end, if you do your part right, they will feel like they made a mistake because you had that potential all along and they didn't stick around to see it and benefit from it. It's irrelevant though, because this is all beside the point. It should never have been about her in the first place. That's what makes it so sweet. Realizing that means you never needed her.
Gadnuk_ 9y ago
I agree, a shitty situation allows you to strive for better in the future. I used to let my oneitis treat me like shit, and she likely viewed me as shit accordingly.
After I re-grew my balls and got my self respect back she couldn't pay me to take her back. Hindsight being 20/20 she was a 7 on a good day and a 5 on a bad one and her personality was complete shit, I don't know why I gave so many fucks in the first place. Frankly her happiness/misery is not my concern any more, without sounding too arrogant I believe she is unworthy of my thoughts/time.
Stythe 9y ago
Yep. Actually, my situation was the same. After we broke up and I grew a pair I would still have thoughts about her. I knew I didn't want to be treated poorly by her and that she didn't deserve my efforts, so I couldn't figure out why I would still want to contact her. Then it hit me. Those thoughts and feelings literally were an addiction. My brain was craving that dopamine rush I got from her. It was codependence. The same time of connection a woman has to an abusive drug dealer she won't let go of. I spent a good chunk of time in a version of monk mode, distancing myself from my friends and family and I realized a lot of bad relationships and habits in my life as well as where they came from. It took time, but it was so worth it.
I always used to think people would just never feel like an adult. That it just didn't happen. I was wrong. You feel like an adult when you realize you aren't special and you accept that. It gives you the strength to realize that just because you may not be perfect, and just because you don't know something, it doesn't mean you can't put in the effort to learn it if you want to. That's empowerment of the best kind.
Anyway I guess what I'm saying is fuck my ex. She got mad fat anyway.
DforDeadpool 9y ago
I know the feel man. I had a crush once, we were friends. After I've told her how I felt (yuck) she just didn't answer, rushed back home and I didn't hear from her for almost 2 weeks. I got the situation but being the beta I was, I was in the rejection stage, maybe I had a chance with her after all. She consistently ditched me, subtly and not so subtly implied I was weak, unconfident and she'd never be with me. After, I went Stalin on her, I just pulled back and cut contact forever. It's great when she sees me with my new fit body, interesting style, great hair and of course 2 or 3 hotties with me all the time. I don't fuck'em but they're fun and cool so I keep them around. Yet to other people, seems like I'm totally pimping. Works great in college. She tries to talk to me every now and then yet I barely respond. I'm more occupied with my cool social circle, attention from hotties and, well, not being a beta faggot anymore. And, when she sees me like that, confident and happy, her face becomes the embodiment of regret. I love it.
Edit: Grammar.
assured_destruction 9y ago
Wake up you're dreaming again. Sheesh at least be realistic, "2 or 3 hotties with me all the time"?
plenkton 9y ago
I agree. Is a guy really red pill if he has only 3 hb10s groveling for his dick? What a pleb.
DforDeadpool 9y ago
Yeah, they're from my social circle as I said. Sorry that even befriending hot girls is too far from your reailty. But don't feel bad friend, you'll get there.
Momo_dollar 9y ago
"At the end of the night the bill was massive and I gave her a really good tip and left the piece of paper she gave me with the check."
Loved that
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awalt_cupcake 9y ago
Used in the manosphere to describe the level off hotness from 1 to 10.
"Hot babe" 8 or "Hot bitch" 9.
Some men prefer to drop the h entirely if the rating is below a 6.
"She was a b5 but her friend was easily an hb7".
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We cannot tell you until you participate in the ritual sacrifice.
[deleted] 9y ago
Haha, nice story. I hope you don't mind me asking but what kind of business do you have?
DontPM_meyourtits 9y ago
It is too specific. Would rather not say.
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Fair enough mate. Congrats on the business again.
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grewapair 9y ago
Let me give you some good advice: if you can't fuck it, eat it, or make money from it, or it doesn't move you closer to one of those three things, any time you spend thinking about it is wasted.
Stop wasting your time on this subject. Whether it turned out right or wrong, any time thinking about it was still wasted.
Spend your brainpower on something that goes somewhere.
naMlliPdeR 9y ago
Hm... i guess I'm the really lucky one who never really got hurt by a female and has no women in his life that hurt him ever?
Like, I don't have any revenge fantasies since no girl has ever done anything to deserve them. Then again, I've never had a relationship since highschool (dumped her) and have mostly slept with married women and women who have boyfriends.
DaBaulz 9y ago
Just wait, it may still come. I had literally a hundred before she came into my life. I was a detached carefree jerk from 17-32 who crushed women, I was in so many ways PERFECT. then through a confluence of events, proper timing, right chemistry, incredible sex, perfectly social scene mix. We had an incredible year and a half and I fell hard, I was the full on needy beta, after a decade of being alpha. You can imagine the rest of the story.
Battle-Scars 9y ago
This. Happened to me too with the obvious result. There is always one out there that will fuck your shit up bad. A lot of young guys on this sub so it hasn't come yet and may never happen but if it does you will be tested to your core. She will have a little higher SMV, best sex you ever had, everybody loves her, makes you catch your breath every time you see her, makes your chemicals course through your veins at the sound of her voice. Welcome to the Oneitis Express and get ready to be tied to the tracks and get run over...
Powerful shit, a post from the older guys about this lovely expierience would be helpful. I'll start working on one.
naMlliPdeR 9y ago
Wow... sick to hear. I started late hitting on girls, like around 23. But im in my late 20s and am just what you describe.
redpillavatar 9y ago
kudos on handling this in a classy way!
Moneyley 9y ago
Really enjoy hearing stories of accomplishment in trp. You handled the situation well man but overall that situation only happened because of the groundwork you laid to get there. Don't take your foot off the pedal and have a successful year
CowardlyPetrov 9y ago
Why'd you give her a big tip?
NiggerBaboon 9y ago
To buy herself a silk noose.
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All women that acted on their hypergamy while being in a relationship deserve at least this much.
whenfoom 9y ago
I would have kept the paper. You shouldn't blame her for cheating on your former bp self. She's probably too dumb and simple to be able to make it in a relationship w/ someone very ambitious anyways. She may have known that and felt very insecure and so wanted to let herself know she had options. Like you said - she didn't have many friends. And I don't like the idea of hurting simple and lonely people. That's one negative side to leaving the paper. The other is that making a direct statement like that has no positive side. I don't know your line of work, but it's possible she knows someone who owns a business who might work w you, or she might know someone talented who you'd like to hire. Moral: no point burning a rotten bridge. It already knows it's rotten, but something useful might still find a way to get over it.
whenfoom 9y ago
These downvotes are proof that people in the anger phase can't think strategically.
redpillcynic 9y ago
Dude you forgot the sarcasm tag
MuleJuiceMcQuaid 9y ago
I think you're completely wrong. Burning a bridge would've been laughing in her face when she propositioned him. He handled this like a gentleman and turned her advances down gracefully, even better than a face-to-face "No" if you ask me because it saved her the embarrassment. She's also a waitress. I seriously doubt she has any connections to help his million dollar business. There are thousands of strangers you could spend time networking with instead of a jealous ex-girlfriend he has a loaded history with if that's your concern.
Honestly, you're being downvoted because you're trying to be Captain Save A Ho. He's not helping her, but he's not hurting her either. She already made her choice ten years ago and it's not his responsibility to fix her shitty life choices.
whenfoom 9y ago
Nothing I'm saying suggests Save-a-Ho. If you'd look at my history, I'm one of the most exploitative and manipulative people around here. I'm being downvoted by people who don't understand power and exposure. These are the people who sacrifice position for a fleeting feeling.
DontPM_meyourtits 9y ago
I don't think you need to exploit people or manipulate people to be rp. I don't think you have to say all women are evil cheaters either. I see rp as more of an exploration of self improvement. By saying you have to exploit or manipulate you are saying your worth alone is not enough.