There is a cure. Two that come to my mind, actually.

1. Get a foreign woman. Foreign born or of mixed nationality (and by that I mean raised in a household in the States in which she was raised to act like a woman)

2. Make her your fuck toy.

Something from another place that this sub might appreciate:

Litany of Gendlin

What is true is already so.
Owning up to it doesn't make it worse.
Not being open about it doesn't make it go away.
And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with.
Anything untrue isn't there to be lived.
People can stand what is true,
for they are already enduring it.

—Eugene Gendlin

♂

You get it. All women are like that. They can only love you if they need you. If they ever have power over you, it's all over.

Marriage 1.0 was never like this.

In the old marriage if a woman wanted to leave she packed her bags and walked away. The man got the house, the kids and the assets.

Why men trust Marriage 2.0 is beyond my understanding.

Hopefully Red Pill can at least teach the difference between 1.0 and 2.0.

No man should marry with this Marriage 2.0 contract... ever.

losing all faith that someone would love me unconditionally until my end?

Your children, your siblings and parents, your friends, or your dog - maybe.

But don't expect it from a woman.

I spent seven years in the worst hell, convinced that that was what life and love was supposed be. The illusion of unconditional love is a hell of a drug.

The trick that keeps you a slave is the illusion that there was something to be gained to begin with.

goddamn... I've been reading for a while but I think I just opened my eyes.

This shit happens all time, every where every day. Woman leave for what ever reason & men leave too for a younger upgrade. I went to a divorce support group during my split. Wow I thought it was going to be a small group, nope anywere from 15-20 people at each meeting.

The supporting members did it for free too. Pretty amazing folks voluntering their time. They did charge "workbook" fees if you wanted to join but it was very little.

It amazes me to do this day how many guys I've known or met that go back for round 2, 3 or 4.

Step 0: Improve your career and make as good money as you can now while you're single. Save up as much $$$ as you can. Also, stay healthy with diet and exercise so you can live a long life.

Step 1: Spin plates until you're a bit older. 30's or 40's and well established financially.

Step 2: Marry a traditional young woman from outside of the West who is roughly half your age.

Step 3: Live in a traditional country, outside of the West. (This is why having good finances are so important.)

Step 4: Make her pregnant 3-6 times.

Step 5: She's so busy raising all these kids, divorce isn't even remotely an option. Meanwhile, as a formerly successful bachelor, you can afford to provide for your household.

Step 6: By the time all the kids are grown up, you're an old man. You will likely die before she can screw you. Hopefully you live to see a grandchild or two though!

Step 7: Keep separate fucking bank accounts anyway, the whole time, just in case!

Congratulations! You escaped the prison colony and managed to piss of feminists in every single way! No beta bucks for those whores, no marriage with them, minimal consumption in corrupt Western society, you're a global traveler, you bang a hot and much younger chick while both of you are at the top or your SMV, you have a stable family unit (feminists hate this the most), you avoid family court, you're surround with love, you get to behave exactly like a normal, traditional man, and you leave very little chance for your woman to ever fuck you over. Oh, and you will most likely live to see your children reach adulthood.

When you look at what women morph into as they age, the question becomes: Why would you want anything to do with a short-haired fat wrinkled troll, especially when it also comes with the usual negative (read: annoying) personality characteristics inherent in the female of the species? Why would you want to be legally bound to that? Not to mention there is no loyalty to be had. She will never be able to love you the way you want her too.

As you get older, the balance of power shifts and you will be able to sense it and use it to your advantage. If you take care of yourself, lift and stay in shape...and are single in your 30s and 40s? They'll be desperately seeking a man to take care of them once they've been introduced to their arch nemesis, The Wall. At that point you use them for the one thing they're good for and send them packing. Women in this age group aren't worth the hassle for more than one night of fun. One weekend at the most. They'll be single moms with kids from most likely two different guys. Knock out a piece and move on.

It sucks that the situation is the way it is. The only way to win is not to play the matrimonial game.

The most hard-hitting TRP maxim for me has always been "a woman will never love you in the way that you want to be loved."

that is really shitty. proud of my dad for keeping his fat stacks in a completely unrelated, personal account. the joint account is used to put "on a show" and pay for petty expenses. thats his advice to me too

Thanks for sharing. Sadly that can be an illusion that keeps many people miserable.

Regards, Sergie

she drained all joint checking accounts?

What we seem to be forgetting here is that since we know that all women have the capability to divorce their husbands, or to wander to another man, it is the man's responsibility to always strive to be the best version of himself. A woman is biologically predestined to explore her options if a man is lacking leadership, or displaying the blue pill characteristics that we all know about. Eventually you have got to leave behind the anger phase and become the best man you can be. If you decide to get married, you have to be prepared for the possibility that your wife may lose interest, but you can't just roll over and become a shell of a man who follows all if his wife's directions without giving any of his own and expect your wife to remain interested. Marriage is a huge gamble and isn't for everybody. If you can't see yourself making that gamble that is your choice to make, but if you do decide to marry, you have to keep your identity, lead your family, and retain interest from your spouse by being the best version of yourself.

How would it look if he went to their bank account and cashed out all the funds to prevent her from getting the money?

"All she might have had to do was wait until September, because that’s how long my dad made it."

What does that even mean?

I wonder how their children are perceiving this.

You know, I had an elderly neighbor. She grew up during the great depression without a father and was constantly ridiculed and mocked and suffered during the most difficult times and with a one income household. When she became an adult, she was resolved to never allow that to happen to her children and she found a stable and reliable man whom she provided with unquestioned support even while he was underway in the merchant marine for four years of war. She told me personally if he ever cheated that she didn't want to know because she had so much respect for marriage that she didn't want anything to ruin it. She made 3 hot meals a day for the family, kept the place clean, and still worked as a waitress. Her Husband wisely invested in property and left her financially comfortable without fear of debt or obligation and an ample surplus to leave to their daughters.

Now, I would have married a woman like that. A woman who respected her husband, revered the sanctity of marriage, and thought of her family before herself. Now all we have to choose from are narcissistic whores who play musical chairs with dicks until their vagina is so worn out and used up that they will take any chair that doesn't collapse under the weight of their fat ass.

I think today's women are a consequence of the environment that they have grown up in. With role models like Madonna and Kesha, there are no viable partners that are suitable for supportive LTRs. They are shitty mothers and shittier wives. Marriage is a show of status, not commitment. If such a woman existed like my neighbor today, I would snatch her up without a second thought. But with today's selection, I will keep my expectations low and my bank account unjoined.

Lately, I've developed some rather alarming oneitis for the sister of my longtime childhood friend who has become extremely attractive in the years I had not seen her.
Despite how infatuated I am with her and my prospective plans to date her and perhaps stay with her for the rest of my life, I have given ZERO THOUGHT to the idea of marriage despite how ridiculously perfect we are for eachother.
Marriage is rigged heavily in favor of women, don't ever put yourself in unnecessary risk for a very unprofitable return.
The risks of marriage (for men) are quite high, whereas the benefits of men are almost non-existent (for men).

She was playing the long con.

AWALT, even my own mother.

My mom is 63, husband about the same age. He was full on Alpha, job as a civy contractor for the army, Biker, etc. Now days, hes had a couple replacement surgeries. Aint as alpha as he used to be. I remember her telling me she was unhappy and told him that he should leave. He of course told he no he wasn't going anywhere and they dropped it, but I remember having that conversation a couple times with my mom.

Inspiring post if the read can get past his own delusion as well.

Delusion is ALWAYS cruel.

What have I really lost by losing all faith that someone would love me unconditionally until my end? Since it was a confidence trick from the start, I’ve lost nothing but gained my freedom. Losing faith is like overcoming a drug addiction. The trick that keeps you a slave is the illusion that there was something to be gained to begin with. That the drug (unconditional love) made you happy. In reality, it only tricked you into being miserable without it.

Fantastic summary. Summarizes my entire TRP experience.

I'm sorry for Ray, it sounds like he never saw it coming. 30 years, that's just cruel. Please keep him hopeful to life if you can. Suicide is a nasty thing, and its cry can be so much louder in the spiral of distress.

Anyone who is more knowledgeable on this then i am, feel free to correct me if i am wrong. From what i understand:

Bankruptcy, halts divorce proceedings. If ray gets a lawyer worth his shit, he would do that.

The beautiful part of it, is that if the bankruptcy happens before the divorce, then the creditors can go after both the husband and the ex wife. So if he says "my wife got all my money", then the collections people will go after her.

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Simple give no one anything ever. The biggest lie perpetrated to man is the nature of women

I’ve lost nothing but gained my freedom

That's the thing.... you've lost the dream... but the dream was a lie and you'd find out how much of a lie it is sooner or later. You've lost a comfortable delusion, nothing more. Saved yourself a lot of future pain in all probability, unless you are one of the very very few lucky ones.

If you're a 10, you will be loved unconditionally. This is the only exception.

Losing faith is like overcoming a drug addiction. The trick that keeps you a slave is the illusion that there was something to be gained to begin with. That the drug (unconditional love) made you happy. In reality, it only tricked you into being miserable without it.

You hit the nail right on the head with this explanation. A1 post.

Uh, next time you want to tell a story, try including the part where you explain what the fuck you're talking about.

Why is she leaving him when she's probably 70 years old? Honestly something has to be missing from this story...did she find some geriatric Chad with balls as smooth as a 30yo or something? Most likely I'm guessing she held a grudge for many years for something fucked up your friend isn't mentioning in his story.

The replies to this post kinda turn me off to this place, it's starting to look like a cult when nobody uses critical thought anymore.

Edit: Some sensible responses here, so I'll address them in this edit. Recently my sister's husband was caught raping my niece/nephews. I've heard of many instances of this happening and the mother turns a blind eye. There are also many other atrocities people commit and the spouse (man or woman) will ignore it and continue to live as if nothing is going on. I'm not saying that the woman in the story was justified, just that when you're 70+ years old and you leave a relationship of 30 years its not usually something you do on a whim. There's more to this story than just what OP is presenting. Yes - AWALT - but that doesn't mean all men are innocent slaves of matriarchy - I'm willing to bet my sister's ex-husband has many stories he tells people about why he's in his current situation and they'll all involve the evil ex-wife. With the way people are buying into this story, I can imagine HIS story showing up here with a few facts missing and everyone sympathizing, which disgusts me.

What have I really lost by losing all faith that someone would love me unconditionally until my end? Since it was a confidence trick from the start, I’ve lost nothing but gained my freedom. Losing faith is like overcoming a drug addiction. The trick that keeps you a slave is the illusion that there was something to be gained to begin with. That the drug (unconditional love) made you happy. In reality, it only tricked you into being miserable without it.

I really like your final paragraph. It gets to the heart of the male/female relationship lie that society bullshits men with.

Is this legal? I can't fathom this to be even possible.

ok- Here's another one: These money grubbers also have long term plans with the house they share with their beta shlub husbands. Heard about two guys in my peer group who were hit with the "news" of their impending divorce AFTER the expensive kitchen remodel or turning the basement into a play room for the kids. Guys-they have a strategy.They have a plan. Just don't marry and keep your cash,paycheck,inheritances private and for your kids only.

Nobody, and I mean nobody male or female should ever put themselves in such a position.

I know men that brag how they let their wives handle all their money and bills "...'cause she's better'n me at it." Just begging to be gutted like Ray.

And I went to Uni with a woman that came home with takeout for her husband, only to find him gone and a note and copy of the divorce filing on the kitchen table, so it goes both ways.

Only an imbecile presents complete dependence and submission as a badge of honor, something to brag about.

No matter your sex, you should always maintain some independent funds, keep your skillset sharp, your friendships active, and your body in shape - it too is an asset.

Ray is now an object lesson in how one's perfect life can crash into a mountain when you let someone else act as your pilot. Had Ray a clue he'd be laughing at her antics on payday, hitting on her friends on Saturday, and nailing strange by Sunday.

Instead his life is a shambles and he'll likely be moving in with his kids or attempting suicide within weeks.

Holy fuck. I kept hearing that Sarah McLovin' song throughout the entire post. Fuck OP, right in the feels.

I'm in for $5 to help this poor sod.

Great lesson here. Never, and I mean NEVER allow a woman access your finances. Give her a debit card with a predefined limit. Better yet, make sure she can make her own money. So when she loses her mind, (and she will, it's just a matter of when) you can get away from batshit without being hurt too badly.

What. The. Fuck. Ray should choke a bitch.

Just remember, for every story like this, there is a story about the couple who stayed happily married for 60 years until death did them part.

This hits me really hard man. I can't say I'm glad that other folks have gone through it, but the more of us the better. I hope Ray's got some friends to tell him as much.

I know all of us are analyzing this situation here from every amble possible and that's good. But I just feel sad for Ray. I feel sad that a fellow man has to go through this after giving his life to something he believed in.

I'm just sad. I am not a highly emotional person but I can't help but let a tear trickle down my eye. :(

It's times like these, when I read such a post that makes me glad to be single, never married, and safe from the clutches of a hamstering thief.

Sucks to be Ray.

I just can't muster any sympathy for these guys anymore. There are far too many of them and I just don't have the time for it.

He'll probably off himself. At least he had kids and stuff. Hope he changes his will to leave out his cunt wife.