A good woman makes your life easier, not harder.

If you're bored, seek excitement elsewhere. No amount of (quality) women will spice up your life. And the kind that would are simply destructive and should be avoided.

Got all your pillars in check? Lifting? Fighting? Making things? Learning how to make new things?

Son, I've been with the same woman for 20 years and it's never ever been boring. Reason? I have a fulfilling life outside of her that would continue independent of her, she knows it, so she makes my life more interesting and fun.

The problem isn't the girl or the relationship. The problem is you. It's always you.

plan exciting dates. actually have fun with her. if you're not doing that, you're the one not having an imagination. an LTR is more than just physical sex. infact, the physical aspect, if it was the only axis, will quickly lead to dissatisfaction.

and as the rest have mentioned, it's not her, it's you.

look up Daniel Rose & DEVI.

You shouldn't seek to a woman for entertainment, you should be the one creating it. If you're bored, you need to get some hobbies and get creative.

I'm in this state presently. Honestly, this may be a personal problem on my end post-TRP.

After about a year or so my LTRs get boring to me. The girls I date have improved in quality as I learned more RP truths. Maybe you've thought these things: what other girls are out there? given all the stats (science) and behavioral stats (game,TRP) will she not be haaapppyy one day anyhow? *maybe as great as she is I don't want her anymore

Personally for me I think the answer lies within something TRP woke up inside me. I've always been an explorer/science guy who loves nature and learning. I never get bored with life. Women seem to aspire to very little and then want you to drag them through live making "the right" decisions at every turn lest you awaken the Hamster. That's a lot of pressure no matter how Alpha or player you are IMO.

It sounds like you are experiencing the same uncertainty I am currently in. I have a good girl who is very good to me but I'm losing interest.

Remember that study on rats where a male rat will bore with his mate and stop mating? Add a new female and he'll nearly fuck himself to death. Maybe I just need another girl.

There is something I've been wanting to say in the community for some time now. A sort of dark side to game and TRP. I can't explain it right now--looking for a few more puzzle pieces. The best explanation I can give comes from a story you may have heard.

A man was born into privilege as a young prince. His family had wealth beyond belief. In his 20's his begged his father to let him see the world that existed beyond the palace walls. His father finally relented after having all the poor, sick and dead removed from the streets. While parading through the streets he saw an old feeble man. Suddenly the idea of death entered his mind. From here on he decided to become an ascetic one day becoming enlightened under a bodhi tree.

Take this story and go 180 degrees. Many of us here pre-TRP lived lives of desperation like beggars and the poor never knowing the wonders inside the palace or even a palace existed. One day we catch a glimpse of the palace and its gates are slowly closing. We then realize there is more to life than what we thought. Not everyone would believe what we saw: wealth, women, a reflection of the potential men we could become. From here some of us set on a journey to understand what we saw (TRP). So much seemed an illusion until now so how can I know what is not an illusion. How do I unlearn this?

My $1.25 on the subject.

Good luck, my friend. Hope you find answers.

Cheat? Women do it when they feel bored. Maybe take a page out of their book?

I always liked this post by redpilldad. Might help you.

http://redditlog.com/snapshots/938617

Try spending less time with her and start texting her less. Let your relationship become a bit of a challenge again. After that comes all the drama and hard work to reach this point you are at right now again.

You focus on being a great man with a great life, she benefits from your natural inclination to share and give, she focuses on keeping an interesting relationship with.

What you get is determined by the man you are, what you keep is determined by constantly improving the man you were.

Stop being boring. Just do something that will involve her. Renovate an RV on a tight budget, go on a holiday in it, then sell it for a profit. Open an online shop. Plant your yard with olive trees and plan on processing and selling them yourself. Do stuff, do stuff, do more stuff, do new stuff.

Keep her interested in life and feeling like you're always going forward as a couple led by you, she'll keep you interested in sex.

The light side:

Do fun new things together: e.g., trips to new places, new activities (rock climbing, hiking, skiing, w/e), experiment with various forms of kink, different places to have sex, mff threesome, &c. Don't be predictable; surprise her randomly.

The dark side:

Inject drama into your relationship: e.g., randomly go no contact/radio silence for a few days, have a fight over something, flirt with and/or fuck other women.

I had the same feelings, but realized they were absolutely stupidity, male hypergamy exist but not in the same way it does for women.

As men we want to spread our seed as much as possible which increases genetic success, we are hardwired after a while to seek out multiple mates.

Sometimes it takes a event to realize you have all you ever wanted in life, it took me almost breaking up with her and living life without her to come to my senses.

However be very aware that the reason she likes you is because you aren't clingy and she has to earn your interests. This is how I got her into video games.

Well if you've exhausted the full compliment of sexual options (anal, midgets, sisters, llamas, etc) I would recommend seeing prostitutes on the side or developing a drug/alcohol dependency. That and random games of Russian Roulette will keep things spicy.

Women seek excitement from relationships. Men seek excitement from life. Live an exciting life, women are boring individuals.

Try roleplaying. My ex and i spiced it up with handcuffs and rape fantasies. Going on a cruise also gave us a boost. Life and relationships are work, if you stop trying to maintain and build chemistry then it will fade. I was in a similar situation to you and eventually did end up breaking it off with the ex after 4 years. I thought I loved her too, but I'm happier now.

My record for longest LTR was 5 years. We were really interested in drugs back then. I was into mcguyvering things together so I built these cabinets that I grew weed in. I rigged up a bunch of fans, filters, lights and timers, and made the plants weave themselves around some nets to maximize the yield of the crop within a small space. I feel like the relationship went so well because our roles were complimentary and the risks of the drug trade injected drama and emotions into our relationship. With the work of my cabinets, we consistently had weed that was a much higher quality than the compressed mexican brick stuff that the other dealers had. She did the social thing distributing the product and I grew the stuff out of these cabinets in our closet.

We were experimenting with making mdma, we had the equipment and most of the chemicals, but two of the ingredients were watched chemicals that we couldn't source safely, so we abandoned that venture pretty quick and ate the cost of all the equipment. She couldnt have done anything like that without me, all she could have accomplished without my skill and experimentation was buying in bulk and gouging her friends. I couldn't have made as much money without her because she knew all the people and I looked too clean cut and cop-like for customers to trust buying drugs from.

While I wouldn't recommend anyone get into the drug business with their LTR, I would say that the adventure and mutual reliance strengthened our relationship. Girls need drama in their lives and injections of emotion to keep them from getting cold and distant. I got really complacent with my big LTR towards the end, the weed trade was largely automated, I was concentrating on finishing school, she was sitting at home bored out of her mind waiting for me to make her life interesting. She left and started fucking one of the kids I liked to party with, he was a college dropout who had just finished a term in the army and was pissing his money away faster than he should have been. Many years later, she hit the wall, got fat, contracted herpes, and is living with a DMV clerk or something.

The thing you have to realize is that hot girls don't maintain their own interests and hobbies, they just wait around for men to lead them into their world. Most of them barely even read anything apart from porny ass romance novels. Their lives are all about working, glamming up, and "going out" with their friends. It is up to you to yank them by the arm and keep their lives stimulated or they will find somebody else that will. That is why I think they are so into musicians, drug dealers and the like. They have an obvious appeal and their own little world that girls want to be dragged into. You have to lead an interesting life, surround yourself with people, and be mixed up in a lot of shit that girls can sink their teeth into, it has to be readily apparent to a bitch that there is a world of shit happening around you.

After I grew up, got out of drugs and got a real job, girls became a lot less interested in hanging around. Sometimes I feel tempted to get into drugs again.

Really? A redpiller actually studies the subject, and knows it is covered incredibly thoroughly in material already provided in the sidebar.

Sigh. Patrice talks about this a lot, as does Rollo.

This is not the place to ask questions that are amply and clearly answered by the actual experts. The people here are only going to repeat that material.

Being in a long term relationship already makes you bluepilled as fuck. You should realize that, in the current social climate, LTRs are harmful to men.

At the very least tell me you're not beta enough to consider getting married to the bitch.

What would you do if you were single?