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LARamz

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I just have a bad run with women , for example a girl i'm dating (potential for LTR) was telling she really missed me and has fallen in love with me, that was only a few days ago, and in the last few days she is acting strange/distant. Now i'm aware of the red pill, maybe she met another man who gave her tingles, that's fine (HYPERGAMMY).

But is this AWALT? I know you can't take what women say seriously. But how about women in stable relationships? Am i trying to find a unicorn? It's like every time I meet a women now and they say they love me or some other shit like that am I meant to just fully accept it means nothing in the long run? it's just how they feel right now in that instant? Or are their women out there who are more stable and actually mean what they say and won't just flip a switch a day later?

Am i still in denial/blue pill not wanting to accept female nature here? OR am I just dealing with emotionally immature women who fall in and out of love quickly?

I really dont know

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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago

that was only a few days ago, and in the last few days she is acting strange/distant

Did you reject her feelings or not reciprocate them??

Sounds like you failed a comfort test and now she's hurt

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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago

I don't know man.

You keep writing about obviously broken women in so many of your posts

I think you need to a serious re-evaluation of a lot of things. You sound like you don't have your life/priorities in order

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Diabs 1y ago

A girl who is telling you she loves you is before you're even together is a red flag. Who's to say she won't be love bombing another guy she hardly knows next week. And it's fair she doesn't even know the real you yet.

Real relationships have to stand the test of time words are meaningless especially from women. Learn to feel it out more and see how she behaves. I actually feel more comfortable with a woman who's a bit more reserved because I know she's not giving it all way so easy to every guy who's halfway decent.

Guyandtheroadtovictory 1y ago

Immature probably. If she said that she loves you quite fast, probably you are not the first one, and last for sure. We attract what our mindset is - that is, most problems arise when we are hungry- never buy food when you are hungry.

dongking 1y ago

@TellYourSonThis tweeted right about this a few days ago. He's spot on.

If they can love you quickly, they can hate you quickly. Means they are prone to sudden and intense swings in emotion and perception, and thus not reliable. Healthy love builds slowly through shared experience. Fast, intense love is whimsical and should be treated suspiciously.

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whytehorse2021 1y ago

Hypergamy isn't a straight jacket. My wife has managed to control hers even when I was blue pilled betatized. This is why vetting takes 2 years. It allows you to see if a woman can control herself well enough to be a life-long partner and you can see if she has bad behaviours and a bad past.

mattyanon Admin 1y ago

Yes you're trying to find a unicorn, yes AWALT, yes you are deluded.

You can hope to find a girl who likes you enough that you can have a great time with her for a few years. You can't reasonably expect this to last for more than 5. I know, I've tried.

Durek_The_Bald 1y ago

am I meant to just fully accept it means nothing in the long run

Yes, absolutely. Nothing is set in stone just because someone said something.

Look, it's not a big deal. If you know your worth, and aren't a thirsty pussy beggar, it's probably not that different from yourself. "Love", or whatever romantic feelings, are always ripe with conditions. Even I can put "right now" behind every time I tell my wife I love her. If she got fat, or started acting like a cunt, I probably wouldn't "love" her anymore.

It's just how it is, and how it's supposed to be. Keeps everyone on their toes, or so it should. The only constant, unconditional kind of live, is the one from parent to child.

Also, love bombing = red flag.

As for her change in demeanour, it could simply be because she didn't get the response she wanted, and now feels stupid. Women fret and overthink things too, if they're into you.