When I was your age my goal was to find a LTR like in the movies. Do cool shit with her. Show people how unique she is, and therefore I am. Get married. It was always a chase and it sucked. I never thought about what I would do besides that.
I'm 30 now. Went through the government and corporate world, went solo, experienced periods of not having a penny, but learned a lot about that jungle and surviving there. Discovered RP, stoicism, realized women aren't special. Now I found something I really enjoy doing and can make money off it. I wish I spent more time working on, polishing those skills but no use complaining now. My goal is to become very good at it, then have my own business/ agency.
I still enjoy having women around but I no longer chase. And they just come to me sooner or later. My 20 yo self would think it's weird but now it makes a lot of sense. I still enjoy their company, but it's like a side dish you can do without.
If you still have your parents around, spend time with them too. They can teach you a lot, and they appreciate your presence more than you think.
No, still move out for your own good. It will actually improve your relationship with them.
I'm just telling you to visit or at least call and talk to your parents and don't let work/life make you forget about it. I used to have big fights with my father all the time before I moved out. When I did, he would tell my mom to check up on me, that's his way of saying he misses his son and would like me to come have dinner. Haven't had an argument since.
I can't talk about other parents but mine have a lot to teach, if I spend the time to actually listen.
You're still young. With that time, use it to develop your skillset. Preferably something in demand and you enjoy doing.
I forgot to mention that at your age I have a serious arrogance problem, it would be useful to learn to set your ego aside and learn how to win people over. You might be better and more qualified than everyone else in the room, but it's not always good to let them know that. If you're working corporate, plan your moves in secret, talk less than necessary, let your superior shine brighter and don't outshine him.
20-25 I dropped out of college; started my business ventures, failed 8 of them. Now nearing my 30s and acquiring Game Dev Programming Skill, currently working on a Demo for two purpose; to get funding on my first game release on steam and or if that fails, use it for my resume and get a game dev job.
18-20.
I was playing video games all day long. Didn't take school seriously, skipped nearly all of my classes. My grades were horrible. Eventually dropped out of University. Got depressed, quit going to the gym, gained weight, and did nothing with my life.
20-23
Worked some dead-end job for 2 years in some factory. Absolutely hated it there. The pay was good, because I was doing night shifts only. Every night I was thinking to myself, 'Is this the rest of my life'? I felt like a loser. When I met people, i would lie about my job, I was embarrassed. Eventually they fired me. Decided to enlist in the army. Did basic training for only 2 months, got a knee injury, and decided to quit.
23-now(24).
Decided to get back into University. I was done being a quitter. I deleted all of my video games, started hitting the gym hard, improving my fashion, ... Currently in my 4th semester and passed all of my exams so far. I'm in the best shape of my life. Around 170 lbs and 10% bodyfat. I'm doing better than ever with the ladies, killing it at school, and hitting PR's in the gym every week.
It's crazy how quick things can turn around. I was a total bum, and now I'm working hard to achieve my dreams. I'm not there yet, but I'm heading in the right direction.
Everyone's journey is different.
20 - just trying to stay high as much as possible. Escape this world.
25 - trying to get afloat and feel like I am not grasping at straws.
30 finding peace with my life choices and the limits of what I can achieve without sacrificing my health and sanity.
40 - who knows, I just hope there will be good jokes and loving women. You don't really need anything more than that.
I'm pretty sure I was having sex with an M-16 in a foxhole when I was in my 20s. You really don't want to hear our shitty stories, it will just make you depressed.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
When I was your age my goal was to find a LTR like in the movies. Do cool shit with her. Show people how unique she is, and therefore I am. Get married. It was always a chase and it sucked. I never thought about what I would do besides that.
I'm 30 now. Went through the government and corporate world, went solo, experienced periods of not having a penny, but learned a lot about that jungle and surviving there. Discovered RP, stoicism, realized women aren't special. Now I found something I really enjoy doing and can make money off it. I wish I spent more time working on, polishing those skills but no use complaining now. My goal is to become very good at it, then have my own business/ agency.
I still enjoy having women around but I no longer chase. And they just come to me sooner or later. My 20 yo self would think it's weird but now it makes a lot of sense. I still enjoy their company, but it's like a side dish you can do without.
If you still have your parents around, spend time with them too. They can teach you a lot, and they appreciate your presence more than you think.
Corneliuscaruso 3y ago
Thanks for the input, that last part opened my eyes a bit. Was planning on moving out once I hit my monthly income goal but it's really no rush.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
No, still move out for your own good. It will actually improve your relationship with them.
I'm just telling you to visit or at least call and talk to your parents and don't let work/life make you forget about it. I used to have big fights with my father all the time before I moved out. When I did, he would tell my mom to check up on me, that's his way of saying he misses his son and would like me to come have dinner. Haven't had an argument since.
I can't talk about other parents but mine have a lot to teach, if I spend the time to actually listen.
Corneliuscaruso 3y ago
Yeah I can easily get carried away with work. I’m in the same spot you were in before you moved out.
Taking the leap once my financials are straight
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
You're still young. With that time, use it to develop your skillset. Preferably something in demand and you enjoy doing.
I forgot to mention that at your age I have a serious arrogance problem, it would be useful to learn to set your ego aside and learn how to win people over. You might be better and more qualified than everyone else in the room, but it's not always good to let them know that. If you're working corporate, plan your moves in secret, talk less than necessary, let your superior shine brighter and don't outshine him.
Pachesan 3y ago
20-25 I dropped out of college; started my business ventures, failed 8 of them. Now nearing my 30s and acquiring Game Dev Programming Skill, currently working on a Demo for two purpose; to get funding on my first game release on steam and or if that fails, use it for my resume and get a game dev job.
We'll see how it goes.
Corneliuscaruso 3y ago
Cool I dropped out too and on my 3rd.
Keep at it bro GL
koedeloe123 3y ago
18-20. I was playing video games all day long. Didn't take school seriously, skipped nearly all of my classes. My grades were horrible. Eventually dropped out of University. Got depressed, quit going to the gym, gained weight, and did nothing with my life.
20-23
Worked some dead-end job for 2 years in some factory. Absolutely hated it there. The pay was good, because I was doing night shifts only. Every night I was thinking to myself, 'Is this the rest of my life'? I felt like a loser. When I met people, i would lie about my job, I was embarrassed. Eventually they fired me. Decided to enlist in the army. Did basic training for only 2 months, got a knee injury, and decided to quit.
23-now(24).
Decided to get back into University. I was done being a quitter. I deleted all of my video games, started hitting the gym hard, improving my fashion, ... Currently in my 4th semester and passed all of my exams so far. I'm in the best shape of my life. Around 170 lbs and 10% bodyfat. I'm doing better than ever with the ladies, killing it at school, and hitting PR's in the gym every week.
It's crazy how quick things can turn around. I was a total bum, and now I'm working hard to achieve my dreams. I'm not there yet, but I'm heading in the right direction.
r3z01v 3y ago
Everyone's journey is different. 20 - just trying to stay high as much as possible. Escape this world. 25 - trying to get afloat and feel like I am not grasping at straws. 30 finding peace with my life choices and the limits of what I can achieve without sacrificing my health and sanity. 40 - who knows, I just hope there will be good jokes and loving women. You don't really need anything more than that.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
I'm pretty sure I was having sex with an M-16 in a foxhole when I was in my 20s. You really don't want to hear our shitty stories, it will just make you depressed.