So me and my 3 other roommates are going to this lake spot with 4 other girls that live near us. Three of us have not met them, including myself and I want to make a good first impression. I know for a fact that one of them will for sure try to get us all to cliff jump. The problem is that I hate cliff jumping. I hate being in the water period. I think this hate stems from the fact that the last time I did a jump, my ear got plugged for a month.
Well anyways, I'm totally fine with saying no to things like this if it was just me and the bois. I just don't want to seem like a bitch in front of these girls and be the only one not jumping. I feel like this anxiety is gonna kill all my fun...
Ditario 2y ago
Just say "no". Don't explain yourself. You should worry about their opinions too much.
splifferoo 2y ago
Saying no and setting boundaries and standards will show them you’re not pussy more than jumping off a tall cliff will ever do. Don’t even explain yourself, just say it’s not your thing and move on. It’ll let them know you have an abundance of people to do things with and you don’t need to submit to pressure to be accepted by them.
_do_not_read_this_ 2y ago
"I just don't want to" and change the subject. I've literally been at cliff jumping sites at strip mines and just told people I don't want to. If they make fun of you for being a pussy just laugh along with them, but don't respond to their taunts.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
"No..... but you guys go ahead". Smile to avoid tension.
If you want some fun with it....... say ominously...... "I don't go cliff diving..... not..... any more". Look sad, go quiet.
When they press for details say...... "Look... seriously.... I don't mind telling you what happened..... but I don't want to spoil your fun. I'll tell you afterwards. Go ahead, enjoy yourselves".
Keep putting off telling them till you want a good laugh.... then sit them all down, look super serious.... then burst out laughing and say you were fucking with them. Or make up a horrific story if you can pull it off.
The way to sell this stuff is to say very little while showing a very obvious emotional reaction.
Okayweregettingsomewhere 2y ago
Dude...thank you