This happened to me last year i have found TRP 5 years ago! I learned my lesson you have to kill the beta , oneitis is the devil

Any female who works with the public and has daily interactions all kinds of new men is gonna be a low key ho, remember that. Nurses definitely fall into this category

I feel like your problem is resolved if you have multiple plates. From your post, it reads like you only have one plate, which to quote many endorsed contributors, one plate is NOT a plate.

It's ok to fall in love...as long as you have a side chick(s) and you put yourself and your mission first.

Sounds like she found a new guy who is willing to commit. You probably managed to send her the message that you are not into a relationship with her and she is only FB. I'd say the number one reason why girls leave RPd guy is because guy won't give a commitment.

Then suddenly she stopped replying all the time. Then she’d opt out of hanging out on our mutual days off. But it was so out of the blue and I really wasn’t all that familiar with her so I didn’t know what it was.

Right. Yeah just build that roto or plate collection or whatever you want to call it and don’t get attached.

Honestly the best feeling is just letting go of the whole “possession” thing that we all naturally want to do. Like I don’t look at a girl like I own her, and likewise I let them know that that don’t own me, so our “relationship” or whatever is based on mutual likeness. So we spend time together because we want to, but in order for that to work I have to be on my game and working on myself but so does she. You know? Keeps ya on your toes.

I just fucked up

Happened to me recently with a girl I met.

Now that I am not messaging her and have made it clear Im ok if she doesnt want to speak to me, she tells me she cant stop thinking about me and wants to see me.

Realised what was going on and I am certain she is back in my frame now

Yea maybe you were slipping... but TRP can only get you so far. She is her own entity and probably got bored of you/found someone better.. ect. Could be completely out of your control is what I'm saying and wouldn't a true RP'er not be sulking/reflecting about such a thing? Hold your head high, you fked her for a while, onto the next one.

I think a great posted thread would be a discussion on fuck ups and what we learned from them

So what would’ve been the best move then? When she stops hitting you up, you stop hitting her up? How would you approach this situation differently besides not getting too attached

It's very interesting to me that you are blaming yourself for her lack of interest, and that you are feeling shame, when you should really just shrug, because that's the way it goes sometimes.

What if she just wasn't that into you, and some other dude came along that she was more into? What does that have to do with you?

You could be a RP master millionaire with chiseled physique and 9 inch dick, and they could still just be not that into you. It happens ALL the time. I'm sure you've had attractive plates that you weren't that into. But this one was the "hottest." It's all subjective at the end of the day. You're feeling guilty because you enjoyed it too much and you "lost" frame. Maybe it was that you were actually developing an interest, but she wasn't. If her interest was mutual, this post wouldn't be up, and you'd both be in hog heaven.

Sorry I messed up. Uhm quick question what's the red pill? I have no idea what it's about. I saw it on a comment someone posted and joined it but I have no idea what's going on... Sorry I'm fairly new to reddit.

You and me both, brother. Just spent a few nights with this bird from a party and I let myself go way too quickly.

It’s so, so easy to forget about RP when you’re in the midst of the excitement that comes from meeting someone new and getting to know them.

Now that I’ve experienced that, I know how important it is to remember the RP truths, even if it makes hanging out with these girls less fun. Gotta stay vigilant at all times.

Taking a similar L myself aswell. She was a wicked gal, too. Its hard for me to ignore the fact that I literally think she was perfect. As soon as she started saying that she loved me, it went downhill. Because at that point, I remember how I 'let go' in my head, thinking that it was 'okay now' to get comfortable or something.. Mistake number 1. She definitely got spooked and said she wanted some space, it was going too fast for both of us. THIS is point is where I fucked up and started becoming increasingly attached— EXPONENTIALLY, snowballing into a shit-disaster, resulting in what it is now. Nothing. As I type this I now see that her needing space was also a very important test in the relationship, and I failed it, pathetically. Like straight nosedive into pavement. Embarrassing. Gotta be accountable though. I know Ill get over it eventually, but god damn this blows. Time sure has a way of taking time when you take a bad one (L). It's especially hard when you have nobody to talk to.

You didn't fuck up. It has ran its course. It was fun while it lasted, sure. How you go from here is what separates your old blue self, to your RP self.

A lot of people here think attachment is evil, but I caution that if you worry too much about trying not to get too attached, it may take away from the experience. Getting attached is normal, you are still human after all. Not being able to detach when you have to is the problem most of the time.

Great post.

It's only a reminder to always be on game.

Not necessarily to enter anger phase, It's more of a learning how to deal with your slip ups.

Those emotions will subside but it's what you those slip up moment that defines you.

Are you going to sit down, while being sad and depressed? I doubt it.

Can you express that anger through other forms expressions? You more than likely should.

It can be expressed through art, comedy, as a form of advisory etc . . . or it can be soaked up into the internal growth of progression.

You can soak it up to learn how to become greater.

Setting bigger goals; or attaining those hot little Latinas from Miami.

The point is to always be on game.

A slipped up second in the jungle and your ass can get murked.

Same for the financial game, the sexual game, the mental game.

Make sure you join a game you enjoy and always be a work in progress.

Success is unattainable; It's always in the works.

You might regret not being at the best of your game.

Don’t beat yourself up OP. It simply just didn’t work out. Onto the next one.

Thanks for this bro. Repetition is what solidifies blue-pill programming into our heads, most of the time this goes on for years/decades, therefore it can only take repetition of red-pill teachings to undo the damage. It's a war not a battle, a marathon not a sprint. I fuck up plenty myself, but everytime just get back up and push forward and keep learning.

everytime you let your guard down it comes back to haunt you, especially on these tinder girls. It sucks having to game them all the time. Its like you cant be desired yet desire them back.

It’s ok to make mistakes

Don't be too hard on yourself. This is an easy mistake to make. I know better but I've still made that same mistake. Shrugging it off and moving on to other women is the best way to handle it, and it sounds like that's what you are doing.

TLDR: you got ghost while getting attached.

There's nothing that you can teach here. We all have to go through it or been through it. It's uncertainty. It's like getting into a car accident. What you gonna tell us? "Don't drive guys"

What do you guys look like to where you're pulling this much lmao. I'm 6'2 205 athletic (otw to getting shredded) and I just can't imagine a world where you've got a revolving array of plates, esp a Latina from Miami.

I'm not necessarily looking to do stuff like this personally but it's still fascinating that guys can pull this off.

Fuck man, it happens. Learn from it, get better and move on. Beating yourself up is pointless sadism.

Why do we fall? So we can get back up again.

Man it happens to all of us we all lose frame these bitches know how to get through our weak points we just have to learn from these mistakes

Moments of weakness happens, that's why i come here once in a while for a kick in the ass

We all fuck up on occasion. As long as you learn from this, i see it as a win

Not your girl, it was just your turn. However it does still mind fuck when they start losing interest. Women are fickle creatures.

This just happened to me. Got a girl hanging out with me a month ago. Spent the night at her house 2-3 nights in a row 3 weeks in a row. Super duper levels of affection, don't feel like a girl has ever liked me that much before. Now she stopped replying and is making up excuses not to hang out. I really wasn't even messaging her that much. Shit sucks.

I will remember this post when I inevitability fuck up in the future. It happens.

Did you give her the validation she wanted when she sent those pics? I wonder how the other guys responded to them

very similar thing happened to me, only difference is it was with an old time friend, started out as "were just having fun" to going out on dates followed by very affectionate nights and opening up to each other about our "real feelings" lmfaaoo what was supposed to be another date to go out with her last night turned to me getting absolutely hammered alone, still recovering and text message still left on delivered as I type this, at the end of the day, I blame no one but myself, all we got is each other, brother

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Bro that what the fuck was I thinking moment is too real

Finally a post I can relate to lol

Holy fuck. This EXACT situation word for word happened to me a few days ago. And guess what? I’m sitting at a bar reading your post. Lol

Progress is only made 90% fucking up lol

We’re only human so it’s ok to mess up once in a while. Also yeahhh Miami girl lol I live here. Always beach weather down here

Same thing happened to me with a 1 year FWB. Even dating and sleeping with other women, it still happened. We took about two months off and now she’s being receptive again lol.

Hey OP,

How did you manage her in your rotation? It seems that all that was provided and offered to her was sex. Even though women typically are the ones that offer sex after you give her non-sexual attention. Did you do anything to raise her interest and make her emotionally invest more like take her out on dates? IF you fucked her well, that's good. But if you offered her nothing besides sex, then you probably didn't help her maintain interest in you and she became a bit more rationale in determining the relationship between you and her.

But enough of that. I’ve got this hot little Latina from Miami calling me from the end of the bar to play truth or dare with her and her little friends.

DreadGame

OutcomeIndependance

AbundanceMentality

This is the key point of the post folks, take note.

The fish knows not of the water in which it swims. It's always easy to lose awareness

Mistakes always seem like one step forward, 2 steps back. But the reason it's 2 steps back is so we could get a wider perspective from a farther distance and take a different route.

I’ve got this hot little Latina from Miami calling me from the end of the bar to play truth or dare with her and her little friends.

That's the take-away from this post.

Good post OP, it’s important to remember we are all human and these moments can and will happen if we forget our teachings. Lesson to be learned, and is a valuable one for newcomers.

I think this happens to most RP men. This happened to me and ended up having a 2 year LTR with the wrong person! Learn from it and come back stronger.

Not knocking on your post OP, we've all been there... Fuck I've been there many, many times as well.

First mistake? Getting involved with a nurse. They're nucking futs on the best of days. Fucking nuts on the worst.

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I have had a similar experience I liked a girl, i came on way to strong then i told her i loved her way too soon, then i said i wouldn’t be friends with her, and now we’re friends again.

Now at this point she never asks me to do something together, i’m always the one that asks her to do something. Which sucks because i knew that their was potential for something between me and her.

Yup same here. Except she's on my couch right now sleeping after not seeing me for two weeks. We had sex late last night but I couldn't cum. She facetimes another guy next to me in bed afterwards and then goes to hang out on the couch by herself. I don't even know anymore. Shits weird.

I've basically done the same to myself recently. It may be recoverable but the lesson is taken from this post and from my own experience. It's encouraging to see others owning their fuckups. Good post OP.

Why are you so sure it's something you did wrong and not that another guy on this sub outgamed you and stole her?

Knowing the dangers doesnt make us invulnerable.

You know how to get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice...

You didn’t fuck up. She is just a woman with moody behaviour.

You can contact her again easily with callback humour, just dont be butthurt, angry or some other bullshit.

It’s a subsconcious shit test as well, to see how you react, but if reinitiate contact in a funny way and show some interest she will appreciate it.

Weeell you know what they say; we all like to think the fish that got away was the big one :) When in reality, it wasn't.

Plenty of fish still, as your ending suggests.

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Happens, my dude. I remember when I let a Tinder date become a bit too serious. I'd never had a relationship before that so it was something that I was struggling with. She stopped texting altogether and when I finally met up with her she didn't even try to hide that she was texting another guy. Hurt me like fucking hell.

It is what it is. Plus you come out stronger and before you realize it, you're over her.

Honestly, thank you so much for the cautious reminder. I have a plate that I was just starting to feel going this direction — granting too much time, hangouts not based around fucking — I literally blew another plate off last night because I’m losing the hunger a bit.

Thank you for the reminder that they’re not special. I tend to slip up and down very harshly. Reality checks like this help.