Over own our off-Reddit site TRP.RED, we recently had a lively discussion dissecting THE WALL and giving fresh takes on a concept that may change (I believe) as the sexual marketplace evolves. If you haven't yet registered an account there, do so now!
Typically, we understand the broad concept of THE WALL to be either when a woman experiences a day where she is no longer as attractive as she was the prior day (Call this Wall-a), or when she is no longer attractive enough to garner the kind of sexual attention she had experienced at a younger age (Wall-b). This concepts are both real and unchanging- my question for the panel was: how much does this matter in a modern sexual marketplace where girls rule?
LastRevision: The wall isn't exactly what it was in the age before Tinder, the widening of the sexual marketplace gap, and the removal of any taboo against promiscuity.
I've more recently become open to a fuller age-range of women, and was shocked the first time a 40-year-old told me she regularly has sex with guys in their 20s.... and then another one told me... and another... and now I expect any decent looking, single woman around 40 to be getting fucked by young men.
And, sure, you could say "well, getting laid isn't the same as securing value" or whatever the fuck, but due to the top 20% of men getting easy sex, leaving the bottom end out of luck (incel), there will be decent guys hanging around to wife up promiscuous women when they're done having fun on Tinder.
The absolute most you could say is that "she won't be as satisfied with whom she is able to marry because of all the studs she's screwed blowing up her expectations"- the old alpha widow problem... but if that's the most you could say about THE WALL, it seems as though a woman's biggest struggle in life is essentially she-vs-herself- I think the issue is a wrap and women won.
Rollo Tomassi: The Wall begins in a woman's mental state. It's not a physical thing or even an age thing, although they are factors. It's an acknowledgement that she can no longer compete for the most desirable men that she used to when she was younger.
I agree that TRP vs. Black Pill / MGTOW get stupidly polarized on this, but their binary takes on the Wall stem from a want for an emotional high to see women get their comeuppance or to wallow in their sexless misery.
Red Pill School: Remember this: plentiful sex is the male goal, not the female goal. Women want quality, men want quantity. That's why guys would (almost) never turn down sex, but women make a sport of it.
We all know the fact that the options for a young blond at 20 are more plentiful than an old hag at 80. There is no question.
So your real question is, where does the line occur between young hottie and old hag? Sure, it's not a discrete line by any stretch, and the line isn't in the same place for all people. It's a gradual loss of options. The wall refers to that moment that eventually hits a woman when she realizes her options have dropped in number.
So to determine whether a woman has "hit" the wall, don't ask if she's getting laid, because that was never the measure of her sexual market value. Ask yourself how many people she rejects.
The fact is, there will always be thirsty guys out there willing to bang basically anything that walks. This does not contradict the idea that women age out of the market at a younger age than men.
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Zech4riah 3y ago
Something I've been saying for a long time when guys try to label 30yo and older women as useless hags who won't get a man. They probably won't get that super Chad they want but they have many good options lined up. Revenge-mentality drives this binary thinking. It makes guys, who don't get or didn't get pussy back in the days, feel better because "one day those sluts experience same incelhood that I did". Well the bad news is that women don't exactly have that problem even after the Wall hits them if they just look after themselves.
There is also plenty of successful good looking dudes who just can't stand younger women with no depth and character. Over the last 6 months I've slowly transitioned from fucking and dating 18-25 yo girls to dating 25-33 yo girls just because reason described in the last sentence. I've seen couple of 30-33 yo women during the last 3-4 months and I have to say that I didn't remember that dates could be so fun. I didn't remember how intellectual capability and witty flirting spices up relationships. There was a time where I strongly considered that "Woman doesn't need to have brains. I can have deep conversations with my buddies". Well turns out, that isn't exactly true.
trollreign 3y ago
Some men, mostly the less successful ones, want to feel like life is just and fair: "all those sluts that rejected me when we were 23 will suffer once we are past 30! She will hit the WALL and be miserable!" That's the "dream" of the incel, that they get their "revenge".
But the thing is, most women do find a man in their late 20s or early 30s if they want to, even if they had previously ridden the cock carousel for more than a decade. There are also a lot of women who do not really crave security or stability, and who really don't want children. I've banged a couple of women (31 and 33) that both "warned" me that they don't want to get married or have children, ever.
To me the Wall in the classical sense refers to women's anxiety and urge to find someone to settle down with as they approach or pass 30, not the physical decline itself. Nevertheless, their options definitely decrease in both quality and quantity, regardless of how they experience it.
Casanova-Quinn 3y ago
In addition, the “wall” is not the same for every woman. Some decline fast, some decline slow. Genetics, lifestyle, and fitness are big factors.
trplurker 3y ago
Ok ... this is weird, like this is very old stuff from original RP 101 and is included on the sidebar.
Really Short Answer: OP is fundamentally incorrect as he is applying a male value system to women.
Long Answer:
There is no wall-a, wall-b or other bullshit, the "wall" is the point in time where a women's SMV is no longer high enough to secure the resources that she previously could. There is no hard date on it, some women age faster then others. If a women takes really good are of herself, avoids drugs, smoking, heavy drinking, gets good exercise and lives a healthy lifestyle, then she'll look amazing well into her 40's. If she does the exact opposite, YOLO excessive drugs, eating shit food and no exercise other then sexual gymnastics, then she'll look old as fuck when she's 27-28.
To understand the wall better we need to understand what exactly beauty / sexual attraction are first, which is just a physical display of fertility markers. What we say is "attractive" is just our DNA recognizing "fertile" and "good baby factory". The "wall" is our DNA recognizing "less fertile" "not so good baby factory". Now it's slightly more complicated but that's the bulk of it and sufficient for this discussion.
A man has a limited amount of resources, time is a resource. A man must expend those resources to attract and maintain female sexual attention, the amount of resources a man will expend depends on the supply and quality of himself vs that supply and quality of that sexual attention. In other words this is a market where men are trading resources and women are trading sexual attention, the medium of exchange is what we call the value or SMV. Now because there are no stock tickers, pull / call requests or other ways for everyone to see the real value of those exchanges we all end up guesstimating and both sides use various techniques to inflate their SMV. Women use things like makeup and clothing, men use style, social credit and what is called "game". All that PUA / game / ect.. shit is just ways to inflate SMV the same as women using a push-up bra, heels, revealing clothing and makeup.
When we put this all together we get the whole "men want sex" and "women want security/resources" concept. It's just the observed result of the SMV in action. A 40yo conger getting hammered by a 26yo stud means nothing as both are trading in cheap commodities. The twenty-something man is low value, he hasn't lived long enough to even know what being a man is about much less acquired sufficient value to really buy anything of note. All that 26yo dude has is his cock and good looks, which again isn't worth a whole lot because lots of men have cocks and good looks. Similarly that 40 yo conger is also low value, the only thing she's offering is a set of overused holes that a long line of Chads have already been through. In other words, our trade is now a cheap cock for some overused pussy. Lots of hommies driving broken ass hondas with 300K miles on em, doesn't make the hommies or the hondas worth anymore then that.
As for why the cougar is doing such a thing? Well what other choice does she have? She's not getting any real time / resources from a high value dude, and the younger cocks are a dime a dozen. All the cougar can afford is the broke ass Honda.
I think our current university system has fucked with people's minds way too much. It's a walled garden where young, sexually active men and women are in close proximity. There is a lot of artificially inflated SMV happening because the young fertile women's only real choices are the young cocks or the professors. The University effectively limits the access of higher SMV men, once that is removed (like in several other places I've been) then the market reasserts itself and the girls end up ignoring most of the young dudes for guys not even in the university.
LastRevision 3y ago
You're right. This is the wall. I got too caught up on wondering how much the modern world has fundamentally changed women's desire for securing resources. I think that a lot of women rather have total freedom and provide for themselves rather than shacking up with unattractive, middle-management beta-boy Barry, and have to fake their way through fucking him. Obviously, they're a cut-off to this- make enough money, and some lady, somewhere, will let you fuck her for it, even if you're fucking gross, but I do think the standard has gone up for women shacking up with anyone for resources- she'd rather do her little job, post to Instagram, and fuck on Tinder. Many such cases!
However, this does not change the definition of the wall- as you've outlined above.
Excellent rebuttal, this should be top comment.
trplurker 3y ago
Absolutely zero.
nada, zip, non-existent.
Those desires are not a result of social programming but evolutionary pressures from over a hundred thousand years of natural selection. It takes a helluva lot more then a measly handful of decades to change that kind of biological programming. We're talking a hundred generations at least, possibly more depending on how if it's a negative or position pressure. Right now there is zero evolutionary pressure for a women to "be free" a slight positive pressure for a women to "be safe". The "be safes" are out breeding the "be free's" as seen by birth rates among the various population groups. There will always be octo-moms and ghetto queens but overall conservative married couples have bigger familes with more children surviving to multiply then carousel riders. Blame the pill for that one.
Women don't "decide" to want or not-want resources, or specifically to find or not find success attractive. Our human mating system works on a subconscious level, that part of you that feels "hey that chick is hot I'd love to hit that", yeah that's the evolutionary programmed mating system doing it's work. As men we tend to be hyper visual, after all it's the fastest way for us to detect fertility and we have very little opportunity cost for shooting seed. Sperms cheap to the point of near infinite quantity. Ovaries on the other hand are expensive, a female has a limited number of reproductive opportunities in her life and each one of those carries a not-insignificant chance of death. A female homo sapiens fucking, and getting impregnated by, the wrong male risks near certain death. This makes a women's mate selection, from an evolutionary stand point, a very life or death situation. Meaning her biological programming had to develop to not just fuck the biggest cock there was, but instead to pick out the males who where the most capable of defending her and providing resources during the period of her pregnancy and child rearing, where she is nearly helpless.
That kind of evolutionary drive isn't something we consciously control, a women doesn't decide she's attracted to 6 foot tall dudes in fitted suites. Her biology tells her to be attracted to males who are capable of acquiring resources, defending their territory and even leading other men. All of those are boiled into what we call "status symbols". Little social indicators that we, as men, possess capability and are a "winner".
Actually that's probably the best way to put it, women are attracted to "winners" while being absolutely repulsed by "losers". Everything involved in seducing and fucking high status females revolves around being perceived as a winner and not being perceived as a loser.
As for what your seeing today, that's simple and tied to the whole reason this sub exists in the first place, we're not raising men anymore. Society is raising it's boys to be feminized boys their entire life, putting most males at the bottom of the selection criteria with a handful of males at the top and a huge gap in-between. That gap is then filled by what we think of as "bad boy" types. They aren't necessarily "alpha" but with how emasculated most of the rest are, they become the next best thing. If a young fertile females sexual drive has a choice between emasculated soy boi or petty criminal dropout, it's going for the dropout. That's how we get the whole alpha fucks / beta bucks scenario.
noNooodleArms 3y ago
The Wall is real all right. We used to call them baby rabies.
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Keith_Valentine 3y ago
This shit sounds stupid to me. I always understood the Wall to be when average women get older and past prime, gain wrinkles and weight etc. And arent the bangin bitch they used to be jugglin dicks, which is why they start to seek security. Usually through a beta or blue pill.
Op seems like a dumbass. A few cougars getting fucked by young guys doesnt change the definition of the wall. Theres few cases where a young alpha would settle with a woman like that, imo youre missing the entire concept and also annoying me. Women crave that security and stability but also want their wet pussy tingles. The Wall is like when they realize they proly cant have both.
Howdoiusesync 3y ago
I've been out of High school for a couple of years.
Did a chart on who is desireable on the right (Basic script middile and actually hot on the right)
Also on the left side 100% undesirable (fat out of shape or with a kid)
most of them clustered to the left middle.
LastRevision 3y ago
What if that is no longer true?
trplurker 3y ago
Then they would no longer be what we call homo sapiens and would instead be a different subspecies.
Seriously this shit is encoded into DNA and is the result of nearly 100,000 years of evolution. Female humans seek security and resources, which are the same thing really, to ensure the highest survival rate of their offspring. Not having that significantly raises the probability of her and her offspring's death. Her genetic material donor doesn't need to be the same as her security / resource provider, nice if it is but otherwise not necessary.
This is classic RP 101 from damn near a decade ago, woman's dual mating strategy otherwise known as Alpha Fucks / Beta Bucks.
Howdoiusesync 3y ago
men have to become a luxury good.
That's alot easier to say the least.
Keith_Valentine 3y ago
What do you think women want?
Keith_Valentine 3y ago
Its amazing to see an Endorsed Contributor saying this shit. "Women won". Because the hotter old milfs are still getting fucked sometimes, meanwhile they are left with nothing they truly desire and need besides being used sexually still despite being older . i would downvote this dude 666 times if I could.
LastRevision 3y ago
What if that is an assumption?
Keith_Valentine 3y ago
So you think women like being single and used for casual sex throughout their lives?
collegeguy115 3y ago
Yes women can get unlimited sex but who cares. Improve yourself and YOU will get it.
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ElectronicStrain88 3y ago
Guilty. I'm early 30s and I've met three Tinder women significantly older than me (38 to 41). They have to look good though, I'm not interested in the typical +35 Tinder woman, and they have to make it very easy.
Other than this, I'm not convinced that all women peak between 18-21. I've seen too many examples of (non-fat) girls I wasn't interested in when they were 18 that got a lot hotter by their mid-20s.
idevastate 3y ago
They probably learned how to dress, use make-up, found a hairstyle that worked for them, fixed up whatever physical flaws they could (surgery, exercise) but the baseline biology process still stands.
throwabcdaway4 3y ago
"Oh i thought women were not having sex past 30 y and 1 day but actually life is more complex ! Lets run back the autism cave and discuss it with the bois."
Seriously how old are you
pm_me_tangibles 3y ago
Fuck off back to the blue pill.
throwabcdaway4 3y ago
Lol go back to your PS5 #incel
pm_me_tangibles 3y ago
Because, of course, the billions across the globe that play video games are all losers compared to you and girls never, ever play them.
Even as a troll you fail at life. What the fuck are you even doing here if you don’t want to better yourself?
throwabcdaway4 3y ago
Well my main concern is that the level of trp has lowered since 2015: no more field report, only pseudo philosophical / political ramblings that retard thiks are essay on how "men are victims", and low quality shitposts from people who discovered women yesterday that are encouraged by equally clueless incels like you as soon as they see an ounce of misoginy to jerk off on.
So no, sorry but you dont have a voice in this sub. And yes i'm better than you
pm_me_tangibles 3y ago
thank you for communicating to me and the whole sub that you value your unearned, dissociated ego over ever actually learning anything about your failings and weaknesses in order to actually improve yourself. those who criticise others with bitterness (like you) only ever do so because they fear to look at their own failings. tear others down because it counteracts the voices in your unconscious telling you that you're failing to live up to even your own standards.
you have nothing to offer here. you are here only push your demons down by typing shit that makes you feel better than other people.
i wish you the very in life as you inevitably struggle against that utterly self-poisoning ego-investment that dominates you.
I'm blocking you, because you offer less than zero value.
throwabcdaway4 3y ago
Lol i have nothing to earn to some internet stranger ><. Its just a bad post with 0 info get over it. Theres value in being selective to what you reed
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Revolverboi 3y ago
Human beings are diverse and you cant calculate all of them but most women hit the wall around thirty, thats when they want to settle down and have children. Its the last chance for having kids for a women or atleast her nature tells her. Many crappy ltrs happen in this scenario because women need to find a good husband as fast as possible.
40 years old women banging 20 years old males has nothing to do with that.
jojojijo333 3y ago
Rollo gave you the answer
Why do you see them as winning? The wall is just her peak sexual value starting to decline. Her being banged by Chad and exploiting Billy Beta doesn't matter.
kira-L 3y ago
Since i read the sidebar, i got the idea. But i knew all the rules were layed for us by grown ass men. so as i am learning from them,i keep in mind that society changes and rules change. The Wall is certainly a legit idea and i agree that it has changed, or it is still changing. But thats on us we have to figure it out, but don’t forget the fundamental idea is there;options drop, and you just need to pin point it for each woman. Because there is a 20 something yo woman whose options are fewer than a 30 yo