So I’ve seen plenty of stories, here and outside here, about how women will often use men looking to date/fuck as fancy meal tickets. Some women have freely admitted to this practice and faced little scrutiny. Gotta love those double standards....
Anyway, this got me thinking about how I can spend a quality date with a girl and get value out of it regardless of whether I close or not, a method that fits my current schedule and lifestyle. And then it hit me.
I’m already very good in the kitchen and can cook high quality cuisine. Why the fuck should I ever take a woman out to dinner and pay 10x the raw material price on a meal she probably won’t even finish when I can just COOK for her instead? It’s a no-brainer if you’ve got the skills, and here’s why:
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One of the critical pillars of Red Pill Philosophy is self improvement. Culinary prowess is a skill, a critical, highly marketable and attractive skill. Learning how to cook just makes you better at life in general.
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Learning how to cook naturally leads to a healthier diet, cheaper food expenses, and ultimately greater satisfaction with your health. I go all-in on my cooking, balls to the wall, because of how great I feel when I’m done and how healthy my food is. I also know what’s in it.
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You can make a bigger and more adventurous date out of it. What’s fun about sitting down at a restaurant when you can also take your date on a journey to acquire all of the ingredients you need?
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As a side-point, I also highly encourage meal prepping as a way to lose weight and be healthier. When you’re out buying the goods to make her dinner, get enough to make all the meals you need for the next week or two, then box up the leftovers into individual portions and freeze them. Last time I did this I made two weeks of meals on top of the meal I shared with her.
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Did I mention that being a great cook is sexy? She’ll salivate over more than just those steaks you’re making as you work your way through the kitchen, competently and confidently. I can’t think of a single chick Ive banged or dated that hasn’t said it turns them on, big time.
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You’re at your place!! She’s comfortable already! You don’t have to make the extra effort to get her back there. That’s taken care of already.
- In conjunction with point 6, take the opportunity to clean up your crib. Spit-shine it. Make it smell great. Vacuum it. Clorox it. Whatever it takes. Change your sheets. Wipe your bathroom down. The whole 9 yards. Showcase your put-togetherness.
So, even if you don’t get laid, which I’ll be stunned if you don’t, you still get value.
- You got practice on a critical life skill.
- You fed yourself for a week or so with leftovers.
- You get more time with the girl to game them.
- Your dinner was most likely far more healthy than a restaurant meal. Unless you made burgers or fried stuff.
- You have an excuse to make yourself clean your place. Better for mental health overall.
- IT. IS. CHEAPER!!!!!
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PLEASE NOTE: It hit me after the fact that I should have included that this is a great second, third, later date idea. Not a first.
Point is, don’t take a woman out to dinner. Think of something else for date one. Then cook for her.
Good luck out there fellas. Happy cooking.
Tamadeus 4y ago
Ive been on 50 first dates this year. Slept with about 40. Blackdragon system is way better than trying to get girls to your place at 1st date.
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Thank goodness for my mom. She taught me how to cook all sorts of dishes.
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The number of misguided comments insisting that women won't come straight to your place for a first date/meetup is disappointing.
Zech4riah 4y ago
If I cook on the date, I make sure that she cooks with me. We both do the prepping etc but I rarely do this cooking thing on the first couple of dates because if she is at my place, it's on anyways. I prefer doing cooking together at a bit later stages at dating to solidify relationship but I have a friend or two who kind of successfully harness this concept of "co-cooking".
This could be a good technique for beginners to build comfort (with girl and with themselves) who don't know how to escalate or have a ongoing talk with a girl but I'd be careful that you don't put yourself into a frame of a free meal prep machine. This is a danger with especially with the beginners (altho it's better than paying for restaurant meal).
aWorldBornDead 4y ago
Not always cheaper if you're buying quality meats or organic, but offset by how much value you display
orr250mph 4y ago
Also if she offers to help (w/o prompting) that's like the door lock test in the movie A Bronx Tale.
MattyAnon Admin 4y ago
Provider behaviour = beta
bombastro 4y ago
I think he meant cooking together. I hope.
rejjiesnortssnow 4y ago
Any recommendations on books/websites for healthy recipes?
David949 4y ago
Never spend more the $40 on a date. Ask her what time is she having dinner. She says 7. You say perfect let’s meet at the bar around 8. Keep it to drinks only. If the date sucks you are only out $40 and you got to drink. For a second date tell her you want to cook her dinner at her place
Thelonelywindow 4y ago
Yeah good luck getting a chick to your home To cook on the first date. I always go for simple and fun things like games on a park walk around a good natural place. Something physical if possible, no pressure and you can show off your protective/strong side if you both play/climb something. Heck come to think about it, just keep outside your home, make Fun things up like outside grill or a little picnic and she alone will ask to go home to you ;)
trpjnf 4y ago
For anyone looking for a low investment first date, I take girls to a local bakery in my city. Most of the pastries are like $3, so I don’t break the bank yet also get to balance out my AF with a little BB. It’s also a nice treat for me to break from my low carb diet. Then we go for a little walk around the park nearby. Easy opportunities for conversation to flow by walking through the city, and ample opportunity to kino by directing her which way to go or simply holding hands. After working out the kinks with my first few attempts, I’ve rarely not F closed.
McVaghunter 4y ago
I strongly support the idea of going straight to one's place on the first date, it saves a lot of time and money. Paying for drinks or even splitting the bill are blue pill concepts; going to a random place and paying for drinks won't improve your chances of getting laid, only your SMV does.
Level up the SMV and skip the first date.
fuckGuilt 4y ago
Solid post.
As a special event, I bucked up for a $150 meal for two.....what a mistake. I turn out better food on a regular basis.
If you're a good enough cook with a nice enough pad (and defined enough muscles), plates will happily come over for food and sex.
I am adamantly opposed to dinner dates. Full stop. Never. Happy hour or coffee is fine.
punkrockfishboy 4y ago
You could keep her healthy and prevent her from getting fat by cooking for her as well.
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SerbianChadnik 4y ago
Why is this so highly voted? The goal of a date is to get a girl to come home with you. If I could get her home right off the bat, I wouldnt need dating ideas.
AshyBoneVR4 4y ago
I'd rather take a woman out to dinner and pay for a restaurant than bring her over to my house. I don't do that anymore. Everything is done at their house. Trusting these women with where I live is too much.
ZachMeadows 4y ago
This.
Plus it kills some of that mystery vibe. If she pictures you as a mega successful dude with fancy cars and suits, and finds out you live in a small apartment in a humble neighborhood, it'll be detrimental.
BUT you can buy groceries and cook for her. That way she'll be at home and feel somewhat safer than at your place.
You can even tell her what to buy and cook once there. That would turn her on.
celincelin 4y ago
Not as much as cleaning her place though.
ZachMeadows 4y ago
Wow sarcasm. You are the life of the party aren't you ?
D0pef1end 4y ago
This dude, and that Andreas mf need to chill. Cooking DEFINITELY isn't done by both sexes, ALL the best chefs in the world are either women or lizard people, and being able to actually take care of yourself, your nutrition, and your living space is such a FEMININE way of life...
andreas-mgtow 4y ago
Hell yeah, brah! And do the dishes! Nothing gets them wetter.
Renzolol 4y ago
Hey now, he also takes her on an "journey" to "acquire" ingredients!
celincelin 4y ago
Doing the dishes does get them wet, checkmate.
TwentyEighteen 4y ago
What food did you cook that will last you two weeks?
dza76wutang 4y ago
Marginal effort on meat is low.
The effort needed for one chicken breast is almost identical to cooking 20.
Very easy to make 2 weeks of lunches from a good sized roast, rack of breasts / thighs, etc.
TwentyEighteen 4y ago
But cooked chicken doesn’t last two weeks. Unless you’re freezing it
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Andgelyo 4y ago
First dates should always be coffee or tea somewhere. Do not spend more than $5 on a date. 110% serious, if you spend more than 20 dollars on a first date you deserve to get the shit smacked out of you.
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DullIntroduction 4y ago
As an additional point, make her sous-chef, you get to lead her and cooking is fun when you're both active. Also, if you're not that hungry, you can always fuck her on the kitchen counter.
majani 4y ago
I'd rather even make HER cook, while I just stand by and give her instructions.
ActualAd7 4y ago
Not sure why you are getting down voted. Have an upvote for being one of the very few red in a see of blue and purple within this thread. Getting her to cook at my place is my go to 3rd date approach and works wonders. The key is to get her wanting to cook for you some point between first and third. From that point on you are set on so many different levels.
dking168 4y ago
In my opinion and experience, most girls won't go straight to your house to cook with you especially as first date.
On the second or third date, she might be comfortable with this. But unless the girl is really into you, they won't fall for this.
Good stuff nonetheless.
jones_gold_medal 4y ago
Can confirm that this is an excellent and effective 2nd or 3rd date option. I never thought of making the ingredient acquisition part of the “adventure”. Brilliant.
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
Picnics are a good in between however.
I've had many first dates where women say, this is by far the best first date. It also allows them to demonstrate if they will reciprocate, bring some sandwiches, or a bottle of wine.
Pick a location with a perfect view, and nice weather. A basket and picnic blanket costs little.
+ bonus points if you have a yacht or motorboat and can do it on the harbour.
Virtusvitium 4y ago
This and what if you live at home with parents?
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
You should work on independence before women.
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
It's much better to invite someone back in the middle of a date (I almost *always* extend the invite on the first date), maybe at a high point (don't wait too long but don't invite too soon unless she is clearly DTF). I've had good success with a simple "wanna come back to mine for ____?". If she's not interested at that point something is off (your attractiveness, game, comfort, logistics, her, whatever). I'd rather spend time with [attractive] women who make it easy for me.
atticusfinch1973 4y ago
This is actually my go to on a third date usually and I get laid 90% of the time. If they are comfortable enough to come to your house just cook and have a bottle of wine and you're golden.
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
If they agree to come home with you they are DTF. No need to cook or do anything else. Escalate, done. I almost always invite them back on the first date.
IF she ends up in my bed and we enjoy ourselves only then do I start putting in any kind of effort (usually to hook her).
MilkMoney111 4y ago
Yeah just gotta give them plausible deniability. But if they’re down to come over for any reason they’re down to fuck.
But they’ll probably feel better telling her friends she only went over to play with your puppy, bake cookies, watch a movie, whatever. Then “it just happened”
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
You don't necessarily need to give her that excuse. She'll say whatever she wants to her friends.
Sac_fo_dayz 4y ago
Great point. Fixed the post.
Murdochsk 4y ago
Did this last night first date worked great, then read this today, really into something here!
Skypier 4y ago
How did you get S tier culinary skills and what kind of food do you make (French?, Indian? African? Welsh? Bavarian? American?
dellorello22 4y ago
Two of my go to "dinner date" dishes. Both are great and relatively hard to fuck up.
tacos, plus pico and guacamole. This is good because 1. its delicious 2. there's a lot of small things that require prep, so it's a great collaborative meal. Plus gives you an excuse to drink margaritas.
Salmon. Delicious, hard to fuck up. I typically serve it with asparagus and broiled potatoes.
Skypier 4y ago
Are margaritas gay because they're sweet?
dellorello22 4y ago
if margaritas are gay, than I'm Elton John
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MilkMoney111 4y ago
There’s a guy on YouTube called Brothers Eats Greens or some shit and he is God tier at making cheap food taste damn good. I learned a few tricks from him and add those tricks to just about any meal I make
sweeptheleg55 4y ago
Literally just Google easy recipes or awesome recipes or healthy recipes and find something that looks good to you. You'll probably have to buy all the cookware and ingredients for each recipe at the start if you don't cook. But slowly you will learn how to get creative with it and have all the supplies for anything you want to make. I can say for sure that cooking for a woman is a great way to melt them. Especially if you're over 25. At a point that kind of ability stands out a lot more with quality women then how much bullshit game you have. It's a legitimate creative skill that shows an actual mastery over something useful.
Skypier 4y ago
Ok so something easy like foie de gras or filet mignon?
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
Your exp is either limited or you haven’t tried, not to shill for their company but rsd Jeffys program has a whole section on straight to the home dates using the “I’m a great cook, I can cook for you” lines. To date I’ve had 7 straight to the home dates, 5 from tinder, 2 from bumble
novalentineforyou 4y ago
If I were you guys I'd do one date in public so you can find out if she's a crazy bitch and just leave if so
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
Can't say I've had straight to home dates, but I've had plenty of 'yes' back to mine on a first date, usually within an hour.. didn't need to cook or do anything else but escalate once inside. Sounds like people are putting in way too much effort here.
dking168 4y ago
I never said it doesn't work. I've had situations where I was able to do the exact same thing. However, if you can convince a girl to go straight to your house without ever meeting her before (ex: through online game). It doesn't matter if you cook or not, they are usually down for casual sex regardless. All you have to do is not fuck it up and game as normal. They just hamster the cooking part as "plausible deniability".
Any QUALITY girl (I emphasis the quality) will not go straight to your place unless you've networked with her through either a social circle or had some warm lead of her ahead of time. I guess I'm at a point where vapid girls aren't as exciting anymore. Getting laid with some random strange doesn't fulfill me as much as it used to so I like to enjoy the seduction aspect and get to know the girls beforehand.
It has ironically led to higher quality girls and more fulfillment on my part for both me and her.
Unboundaries 4y ago
Exactly. I get sick of the posts from people talking about their superb "strategies" and "game" when 9.9 times out of 10 the girl is down to fuck right off the bat if she entertains coming straight to your house. Fuck the food. Fuck the whatever. Could have given the chick a glass of wine and she would have fucked anyways. None of this makes a lick of difference. If a woman agrees to go over to your damn house right off the top, without even meeting you before, she is a hoe and she's already down for the dicking regardless. The food is irrelevant. Could have microwaved some cheese sticks for all she cared. Strategy my fat ass
If you ask a girl in any way shape or form to come straight to your house, without EVER seeing her in real life before, and she actually agrees and follows through, please don't stroke your ego gloating about your "game" and "strategy". That's not game. That's shooting fish in a barrel. You didn't sell ice to an eskimo. The girl sold the idea of fucking you, to herself, based off of your dating profile. All you did was tell her when and where.
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
There is “strategy” involved. ASD and LMR come in to play heavy, also who you are perceived to be. Lot of handsome guys can’t get laid because they have to dig deep in their snatch to find where there balls ought to be, to attempt to be somewhat attractive as male. You sound like you’re still in the anger phase mate, nuances absolutely come in to play here.
Unboundaries 4y ago
I'm talking about going on tinder, getting a match, inviting the match straight over to a house for "dinner", then smashing. That's not a 3-pointer, that's a lay-up. That's not game. All you have to do is make sure you escalate when she gets there and it's a hole in one. I'm not talking about cold-approach or converting people who can go either way. Selling a BMW to a person who was loyal to Cadillac is game. Selling a BMW to someone who's bought a BMW every year for 10 years, who came straight over the BMW dealership isn't game. If you've turned a stranger in the line at Walmart and convinced that person to come straight over to your house for sex then I'll hear it. But Tinder and Bumble is pretty much all free throws with no pressure; if they think you're hot congrats you'll get laid.
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
I get it and agree with you that the meeting and seduction process leads to better girls vis-a-vis my goals and wants, but correlation doesn’t imply causation. Quality is subjective and many of the highest quality girls I’ve met have done shit like straight to the house, ONS and so forth. “Girls just wanna to have fun”, no matter who they are
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
Actions speak louder than words.
I've ONS women I thought were quality, the fact I can ONS them negates that.
I'd like to think I'm a chad, but I'm not. Yes I work out, dress well, have interesting hobbies and have a good career but even so; there are thousands of men like me in any city.
Captainpenispants 4y ago
You both ONS each other which makes you equal quality
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
You’re ignoring the difference between men and women. It’s far more challenging for a man to secure a ONS.
Captainpenispants 4y ago
Hardness doesn't equal quality
Cheeseking11 4y ago
It does not but it can signify quality. The more difficult the challenge, the higher the skill required to overcome it. Higher skill is an indication of quality.
Captainpenispants 4y ago
No, higher skill is an indication of perseverance, hard work, ect. Not quality
ChrimsonChin988 4y ago
Rarely will a girl come over first date to eat at your place. Also, don't do diner the first or second date. By the third date you should've already fucked her, therefore if you let some chick leech of off you because you either take her out for diner on the first/second date or you go on more than 2 dates with her without fucking you're a naive idiot.
Women DO NOT find cooking sexy. There is nothing to cooking which inherently turns a woman on. It's just that when you are good at something and have a passion for it doing that shit will turn them on. It has NOTHING to do with cooking. The only thing I can think of which will turn her on with regards to cooking is if you tell her hand me this and that and cut these veggies whatever. But like I said, that's not much to do with cooking that it turns her on but that women like having a man take charge etc.
Yes, obviously learn to cook and make healthy foods but how this is supposed to 'net you value even if it doesn't work out' is completely ridiculous when you take opportunity cost into account.
pbar 4y ago
First date, take her to the dump to shoot rats with your .22. If she likes it, she's wife material. If not, at least one of you had fun.
benmarvin 4y ago
I like this guy. Your wife got a sister that isn't on parole?
aDrunkenWhaler 4y ago
Plot twist, his wife's sister is his sister.
pbar 4y ago
Come over some time and we can go family style on them.
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KinkysMT 4y ago
Done it many times as a first date too. Meet first for a quick drink then move to the supermarket and then to your place.
But many girls will come straight to your place too fo drinks or dinner.
BeanNCheeze 4y ago
Didn’t read this shit. To fucking much.
Just take her out on a date and see if you like her somewhere where you can talk to her but gives you an out if it doesn’t work out. Coffee shops are good. Don’t pay for her shit. You just met her. Talk to her and get to know her.
If you like her ask her to go out and do an activity with you. Public places where you like to have fun. Go to the movies if you want. At this point you should be comfortable enough to get comfortable.
If you don’t know what to do after that’s on you.
EmoNiteIsForLovers 4y ago
But MOM, I don't WANNA go to the Grocery Store! I wanna stay home and watch Star Wars!!!
zero0x 4y ago
Personally, I wont cook for a women. I do cook often and she ends up eating at my place. But I never ask her for dinner/lunch.
Not eating out and cooking at home is great, but should never be a date plan.
My intentions are clear and free time is limited. She will meet you if she is into you, no matter what.
RightHandWolf 4y ago
Good post. I can confirm that women really hand out bonus points for a dude that can cook. As others have pointed out, this is NOT a usual first date option, unless she already has known you socially for a while and hasn't heard stories that you're a Manson Family member or a Scientologist or an Amway salesman. A dude who doesn't name drop Chef Boy-ar-dee as his personal chef is light years ahead of the competition.
Edit - Not only can a batch of food be set aside for leftovers later in the week, but if you go the three course route and include a salad, you will have a lot less prep work to do later on for lunches. A good baseline salad can be modified with cooked chicken breast, seared tuna, broiled shrimp or steamed crab, or you can just dice up some ham or turkey to make a Chef Salad. A lettuce only baseline can have various fruits added to it in season, to save on slaving over a hot stove. I'm in Texas, and my kitchen windows unfortunately face east, so cooking anything* between 9 AM - 8 PM is a P.I.T.A.
Xalion 4y ago
I always do this. However, for the first date I often hit them up for a QUICK drink. That’s only to get to the next step and stay mysterious. I never spend more than 1-2 drinks on the first date.
Often they offer to pay for the second drink, so it stays cheap.
However, for the 2nd date, I never fail to get laid with this tactic. I cook my favorite Thai food for them and they love it.
Btw, we cook it together while drinking wine. Also gets them tipsy and have some music in the background. After dinner -> Netflix and chill, you know the rest.
UltimateCrypto 4y ago
This will help for when you eventually become a stay at home Mom.
Sac_fo_dayz 4y ago
I think I laughed way too hard at this. I like your sense of humor.
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TheCiph3r 4y ago
Perks of growing up in an Asian household is you could cook while in your sleep cause we've been trained to cook since we were kids.
Doing this as a first date only happened to me once but it was with a low SMV girl but it's possible.
I'd rather not do it tho cause it's more effort cooking and cleaning afterwards then you ended up not liking the girl afterwards. Classic drinks as first date is still is better but this is the best 2nd date.
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EDIT: Or another thing that I do a lot as well is set a date in a pub around 6-7pm near your place get a few rounds of drinks and then once you get hungry (if you both like each other) suggest that you cook for her at your place.
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Sac_fo_dayz 4y ago
You tell her you’re paying for the groceries she’s about to eat and to get her ass over there before you feed some other chick.
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SaveTheRhinos 4y ago
Tell her you agree it's 25$ for just the tip and 20 dollars for every inch after that.
BusyHearing 4y ago
Unless you are aiming WAY down, no chick is going to meet at the dudes place for a first date.
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BusyHearing 4y ago
This comment is a more effective mechanism for delivering cancer than asbestos.
Sac_fo_dayz 4y ago
Great point. Forgot to include. Fixed the post.
YoungUpNdComing 4y ago
I don’t know , with the correct framing. And preselection sometimes through social circle I have pulled some quality home or arraigned for the cooking date
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whuttupfoo 4y ago
Depends on your value. If you’re high status, yes. Low status, you still need to take them On dates.
BusyHearing 4y ago
Saying you are high status is literally another way of saying you aiming down. Why make a completely redundant comment?
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
Come now, we've been regurgitating the same stuff for the last 4 years. Everything we say here is pretty much redundant.
Woopzah 4y ago
This is such a basic idea, I'm surprised s post needs to be made for this. Every guy in my area uses it as an easy date. Show your skills, have fun in the kitchen together, small step to having fun in bed later. Hell, even woman say they know that a man is trying to get laid when he invited her to his place to cook for her.
wubbzywylin 4y ago
As a first date I was thinking this was a pretty big investment, on your and her part.
But then I read the last point, and you realized it too. Great post, will definitely implement.
L3onard3 4y ago
This also sets up the obligatory and obvious, “What are you cooking for me next week?”
Thefireman83 4y ago
Just do the old Tom Leykis trick, ask them what time they normally eat dinner. Women says 6pm. You say "great let's meet for drinks at 8". Meet at a bar close to your place, buy her 2 drinks tops, then bring her back to your place.
Making them dinner before you've gotten the pussy is a mistake
fdsafdasfdsafds 4y ago
Yes, desperately try to impress her with culinary skills while some guys invite her back on the first date and put in almost ZERO effort and still end up in bed with her. You'll surely look like a certified beta in comparison. True relationship material. Hook her with good sex, not kitchen skills.
TheTastelessBatman 4y ago
I do it a bit different. Tell them to come over and that the cook is gonna cook something good up.
dza76wutang 4y ago
2 cooking classes will give you the raw skill to make a TON of things. Great investment.
Thinkingard 4y ago
Or just watch Gordon Ramsey’s ultimate cooking course and read cookbooks
Zackville 4y ago
Just go for a beer in a cheap bar
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
Every comment is “not possible, not likely they will come on a first date” that’s just flat not true
I’ve had 7 straight to the house dates since learning how to do it, biggest contributor is your pics are good, you have IG linked to your account with good, fun or fomo pics, and you don’t talk like a fuckin sperg. Numbers game guys
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
Yes but you filter out women.
It's easier to do a picnic near your place and then ask her to join you for a cocktail at your place.
sebastianconcept 4y ago
I second this. Also add that might start to play against you because in some cases, the girl was looking way better in an online profile than in person, so, habe that in mind.
YoungUpNdComing 4y ago
I agree 1st cook dates are possible. And to those who say it doesn’t work with women of quality .
I would urge you to understand the fundamentals that drive women are mostly the same across the span.
Typically..
Women you see with lower smv ; they chase you . Women you see with higher smv ; you chase them
But the only difference is how you interact with them, because of the smv “you perceive” them to be.
Treat all your women as if they have low smv , treating them when they deserve it and occasionally helping them along. Making them chase you .
She”ll take your cooking date trust me .
I dare you , go out and get a new girl that you truly perceive as high value ; but treat her as if she was just another low value girl you know but hint that there could be a possibility of more.
CasaDeFranco 4y ago
Most men here should be dating up not down, particularly those at the start of their journey.
YoungUpNdComing 4y ago
I’m not telling men here to date up . But rather treat women you would refer to as dating up , as if you were doing them a favor and we’re dating down with them.
BumblingBeta 4y ago
So in other words, look hot. That's more black pill than red pill. Can't see something like this working for a guy with an ugly face.
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
No dude, if you want to be a defeatist cunt that’s your problem, work your angles and lighting. Get better, higher quality pics and showcase your life.
BumblingBeta 4y ago
Already got good quality photos with some decent lighting. Good quality photos with great lighting might get you a few more first dates, but you're also going to get ghosted after those first dates when they realise you don't look like what's in your photos. I had a girl on a first date say to me that I looked "different" to my photos and she didn't say it in a good way. You can claim that "game" will keep their interest, but if they don't like your physical looks right at the beginning, there's not much you can do to keep their interest. They will make it as awkward and difficult for you as possible to do anything with them (I've had dates where I could tell immediately that the girl was underwhelmed and disinterested in the first 10 seconds, and that's almost certainly from my looks).
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
Read the sidebar, you have bigger issues than “not looking like your pics”
BumblingBeta 4y ago
Read the sidebar already. I don't want to be told to read the sidebar again, I want a discussion on this issue.
alsuqyadiq 4y ago
You need to read it again + read top TRP posts of all time bc you didn’t get it the first time. Any discussion we have are retellings of all those things, because they work. Seriously, your negative defeatist attitude is coming from somewhere and you need to root it out otherwise you’re going to continue to spiral down
yung_yessir 4y ago
when you freeze the meals do they still taste good? i put cooked chicken in the fridge and after a day it taste like shit. do you defrost in microwave?
frooschnate 4y ago
The key to saving chicken in the fridge is cutting it up in smaller chunks and adding some chicken broth + olive oil to the tupperware so it doesn’t dry out.
dza76wutang 4y ago
Another is condiments / sauces.
Buy or make your own.
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uptimex 4y ago
Can you please share what dishes you cook most of the time for dates?
Marcozy14 4y ago
Many of my first dates were at my place and I cooked. She likely won’t come over if you met her online. But if you’ve already met in person at a bar or something, it’s very doable.
I usually drop a hint while meeting a girl for the first time that I love cooking.
And then I subtly and flirtatiously say something along the lines of “yea my friends always joke that they know I actually like a girl. If 1) I tell her where I live and 2)cook for her”
I then exchange numbers and I don’t hit her up.
9/10 a few days later they hit me up first. Why? Because I have my shit together (or at the very least, seem like I do), and I’m probably one of the few guys who don’t hit them up first........ And they’re ALWAYS down to come over for dinner because they are trying to exceed the expectations and gaining validation that they’re worthy of your cooking and home address.
Fucking works like a charm every time. At least for me. Also, For me, the easiest and best meal to cook is rigatoni with madiera sauce. It’s like chicken Marsala but a little variation to it. I usually don’t add chicken bc idgaf and chicken is also easy to dry out and ruin the dish if you’re inexperienced with cooking.... this pasta is difficult to mess up, tastes great, and makes the house smell great. It’s also something different.
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majani 4y ago
These are beta servitude tactics. Alpha move would be to give her step-by-step instructions on how to cook your way as you stand by and judge if she's doing it right.
UltimateCrypto 4y ago
You don’t have anything better to do with your time than stand around judging? You’re not much better than these hoes
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matagad 4y ago
critical life skill
you overvalue cooking
FlenZepla 4y ago
Having and eating food that won’t make you sick and die of parasites or dysentery is, literally, a life skill. Kinda critical unless you wanna pay to eat out every night or hit the drive-thru(how’s your skin?).
Plus, it’s fun to learn new things and expand your skills in almost anything. Cooking is definitely one thing you can do almost everyday and feel good about yourself for, success or failure, it’s either a re-affirmation of your skills or a reminder that you still have a bit to learn. Both results should feel good, even if you’re choking down an over-cooked chicken breast because you’re not about to wait 35 mins to cook another, you know you’re going to google shit and try to do better next time.
droche25 4y ago
Cooking helped me gain muscle mass while saving money. My Crock Pot is my best friend.
Don’t undervalue cooking
BumblingBeta 4y ago
I shove some chicken/fish in the oven and cook pasta/rice + microwave veg. That's all the cooking you need for muscle lol.
william_brace 4y ago
May be true but that shit gets boring after a while and can really make you dread eating and eventually even eat less because you hate it so much. Much better to learn some more recipes and vary it keep things intereting.
BumblingBeta 4y ago
I just add spices and a bit of olive oil so it's not dry, and it tastes fine.