Confidence Above All
So I’ve seen a couple “OMG! I just met the perfect girl! I don’t wanna fuck this up! Plz HALP!” type posts, of late, and it’s time for a gut check.
There Are No Unicorns.
Yes, I know, your new girl’s special-specialness is way specialer than all the other girls who have ever-lived.
Except she’s not, or it isn’t or whatever. Now go punch yourself in the dick ten times.
Why? Because if you play it like “Yes, pookiekins, you are the sweetest girl ever! I iz in LURVE!” then you won’t see the anvil falling out of the sky, and then you’ll get flattened. Betafag behavior dries pussies right out. Like the Sahara Desert. Or the Gobi Desert. Whichever one is drier.
What then to do?
How Betas Fuck Up
This shit is important: write it down.
Guys fuck up by getting married or getting into an LTR and thinking that it’s over, and they’ve “won.” They anesthetize themselves with SportsBall and beer, quit lifting/exercising, chub out, and settle into their lives of unknowing desperation, being bitched out at home, and working in a 9 to 5 coffin. Then, one day, they wake up to find that they’re getting divorced because “You’ve changed” or “I’ve changed” or “I’m not happy anymore” or some shit. So much for “winning”. They get kicked out of the house, have their assets strip mined away and get to see their kids whenever the ex feels like it. And she sits around bitching to her friends about what a loser he was while she’s living in a house that he’s still paying for, wondering when she’s going to get her groove back^1 or when she gets to EatPraySlut her way into the bed of some sexy foreign man.^2 He's still trying to figure out "what he did wrong" when really just got the realities of life shoved up his ass, 'wif no lube, 'bruv. The BEST CASE scenario is that you stay married, don’t hate each other, but wind up dying anyway. Of cancer or some other nasty shit.
How To Not Fuck Up
You “don’t’ fuck up” by doing what got you there in the first place. Amused Mastery. Abundance Mentality. Being kind of an asshole, but not like a REAL asshole.^3 Like a 'funny' asshole. Be mildly subversive. If she says “No guy has ever talked to me the way that you do!” then you’re doing it right.
Ex. One of my girls has like 7 orbiters – one actually gets tongue-tied around her, but stalks her on insta and ‘likes’ all her posts and photos. I told her to tell him that she has an owner, which she did – which I was pretty surprised but hey, good for her – and he just about shat himself at the thought. She enjoys teasing him – women love teasing betas – but there is zero chance he gets anywhere near her quim. Another guy writes poetry for her.^4 PUUUUUKE! He is intellectualizing his desire for her pussy. Me? I just told her I was going to tie her up and fuck her. Guess which one of us is Nailing That Tail? Hint: Not Percy Shelley. When she mentions him, I ask if he’s written her a sonnet or something. If you are going to write fucking poetry, at least be Lord Byron, or Dylan Thomas, only without the syphilis and alcoholism. “The waste remains and kills” indeed.
Confidence slays. Keep her off-balance, like she’s balancing a chair on its back legs, almost tips over, but catches herself. Be cocky – if I am ever at loss for words, I usually go with the most sexist thing I can think of, and it’s like catnip for them, because the landscape is such a desert when it comes to masculine men. Oh, and if anyone mentions “toxic masculinity” near me, I correct them with either “traditional masculinity” or “heroic masculinity”, as appropriate. Don’t let the enemy use your own virtues against you.
What To Do About It
First, remember that women are never the end goal in and of themselves, but rather a pleasant accompaniment to a man’s life, which he pursues how he chooses.^5
How do you gain confidence? Become the Prize.
How do you learn to approach women? You go out and do it. By the 25th approach, you won’t be afraid anymore. By the 50th, you won’t care how hot she is, by the 75th, you will be thinking, “What is the most fucked up thing I can say to her and still pull?” Approach Anxiety: Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady.
Stop thinking whatever girl you are obsessing over is the Last Girl You Will Ever Talk To. Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You.
Stop being afraid of shit. Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAF.
And never forget: You Never Stop Competing.
Now go forth and SLAY!
^1 The male lead in “How Stella Got Her Grove Back” was an obviously gay man using “Stella” for a visa to the US.
^2 The story of that story is pretty sordid.
^3 Never go full asshole, unless it’s in a “Total War” scenario.
^4 In fairness, I did this once, also, but it was limerick about the pulchritude of her ass.
^5 “Men are here to DO shit. Women are here to make more men.” - Napoleon Bonaparte, only he said it in French.
amoxicillin2020 4y ago
Looking forward to your podcasts!
zaitsev on other hand I often feel shy saying stuff to girls. How can i get less attached saying stuff to girls?
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
You simply have to go make approaches until you burn your shyness out of you. After 25 approaches, you won’t be nervous anymore. After 50 approaches, you will no longer care how she is. By 100 approaches, you’ll be thinking ”what is the most fucked up thing I can say to her and still pull?”
Also, you should go register onto TRp.red. Read is going to shut down the TRP subreddit
masculinetruth999 4y ago
You guys starting to become blue pilled or something? Confidence is only gained from being capable. You can't fraud it. That's why anytime a beta male acts confident, everyone fucking laughs, even if he's unphased people still laugh. I fucking laugh at any guy with a sweet trimmed beard who isn't 6'0+ or a model.
You guys are fooling yourselves if you think some weird 6'2 guy didn't fuck a chick while not even being confident.
Imperator_Red 4y ago
I hate these faggots so much. Lowest form of life on earth after violent criminals.
pete_1488 4y ago
I wish this guy had been my dad/mentor.
Thank god for this sub.
ChefCremeFraiche 4y ago
The following is one of the reasons why it’s the best time to be alive in history: Any man in history with written words, or even video recordings now, can be your mentor. You have any piece of wisdom at your fingertips, anywhere at any time. Even while taking a shit in a metal box stall at a gas station in the middle of nowhere at 2AM. It’s your job to pay attention and learn.
Time or era has no bearing on the difficulty of obtaining wisdom and learning from it. One of my mentors is Marcus Aurelius and he has been dead for almost 2,000 years. This gives people even less excuse not to succeed.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
"All the young men are my sons."
-From, The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev
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MLGdegzz 4y ago
So much work just to get women, jesus christ
Pdubzilla 4y ago
This is why I hate when guys talk about "settling down". It is fucking stupid to think you can "settle down" with anyone. And why would you want to ever stop improving?
Smuggler-Tuek 4y ago
Needed this today. Thanks dude.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Happy to help.
Shadows1455 4y ago
This is huge, really gave me the confidence I needed. Fuck it tommorow I'm gonna approach a woman for the first time in my life, I won't let my brain stop me this time.
goldenratio11235813 4y ago
If you're really nervous, approach a fat and/or ugly chick first. Talk to her and build your confidence, keep approaching women, and work your way up to hotter chicks. The part about being nervous, then not caring, then seeing what you can get away with saying is 100% true. Also, don't just talk to women, but talk to men too and up your social game in the process. The confidence you build while learning to talk to everyone is what will help you bed the chicks you want to bed.
DownyGall 4y ago
Napoleon was fucking based on all accounts if you look up his other quotes, but especially on women.
TBtgoat 4y ago
I knew there was a fucking reason he kept showing up as an example in all of the books I've been reading
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Indeed. Based Napoleon
DownyGall 4y ago
Appears he had a blindspot. Actually kind of comforting that even the leader and conqueror of an entire continent could still be blue-pilled.
Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 4y ago
He was cucked. He is a bitter short man with a lot of power.
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VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Fun Fact: Napoleon is only short by modern standards; he was average-ish height+ for his time.
p3n1x 4y ago
Nah, you say that like a person can't learn from a mistake.
What is ironic, is how many men are being cucked at this moment and are making fun of other men for being cucked.
DownyGall 4y ago
He was above average height, you dolt.
I_Dont_Type 4y ago
Pretty sure he had a big oneitus for a girl that didn’t even really like him but married him anyway because he was essentially king of the world.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
He wifed up a 32 y.o. single mom when he was 26. Do not ever do this. Anyway, he divorced her to marry a 19 y.o. when he was 41, in order to produce an heir. No TRP for him back in the day, but he did pretty well there for a while.
GisforJumping 4y ago
Josephine, do not shower or bathe for the next 3 months. Campaign is over and I'm coming home to smell your effervescent quim -Napoleon
xKalista 4y ago
Not true. He literally only married her because she was fertile and he needed an heir ASAP. Divorced his previous wife and then had a kid one year later.
edit: the oneitis you are talking about could be his first wife, but the second was a convinience mariage
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
The 19 y.o. was like the "Archduchess of SomewhereInAustriaStein" so it was a Dynastic Marriage, Emperor of France + Some Doe-Eyed Fräulein to make little babies that would be connected to the German Royals and, presumably the eldest of whom would become Emperor after Napoleon. Except there was one kid and he died of smallpox or consumption or some shit when he was 21 and his dad had already made a career limiting move so bad that the name of it is synonymous with irredeemable defeat. So yeah, there was that.
nyongi 4y ago
He also had a Polish mistress.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
I don't blame him; I dig Slavic women, too.
INNASKILLZ2K18 4y ago
Never EVER drop the pill. Like...ever.
Always be dominant, leading, challenge her, assert boundaries, PASS SHIT TESTS.
Always have an air of indifference, prize.
No matter how long it's been, if you get complacent, you're fucked.
If you ever find you've dropped the pill...pick it up, dust that fucker off and shove it down her throat. Literally.
ChefCremeFraiche 4y ago
Dropping pills is like spoiling a magic trick for people that are lost in the mystery of the trick. Knowing the truth behind things more than believing in the trick itself is only interesting for a small percentage of the population. Those that feel better being lost in the mystery of the trick will have hate and disgust for people that take them away from that. This is why you can’t bring someone to the pill, they have to find your own way. You can influence others by showing what the pill is like but you can never tell them about how the trick is done. They need to discover it themselves. It’s always here when they are ready.
p3n1x 4y ago
"We treat women too well, and in this way have spoiled everything. We have done every wrong by raising them to our level. . . . Nothing is more imperious than weakness when it knows it is backed by strength; look at women." - NB
This is not only true for women but most of western society at the moment.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Very true. Consider:
Hard Times make Tough Men.
Tough Men make Easy Times.
Easy Times make Soft Men.
Soft Men make Hard Times.
Casd12 4y ago
Hold up, I'm not trying to nitpick and tell me if you think I'm wrong, but doesn't girls tease regardless if you're beta or alpha? I mean they do it to test your frame. Obviously its much more enjoyable when the other party gets triggered; I'm assuming this is the point you're trying to make.
Final_Pantasy 4y ago
I needed this. Two month plate I was gushing over started feeling bad for fucking multiple guys and started going monogamous with the one she felt the strongest emotional connection with that she knew for over a year. She called me up crying saying that she’d miss me and likes me a lot, and yeah, i really liked her, too. I probably pushed her even further away by being gushy back at her when i should have just said okay good luck and hung up. She admitted the sex isnt even nearly as good, but I have a hard time finding things to talk about, so the mental connection wasnt up to snuff. Something I need to work on.
Probably the most attractive girl I’ve been with in America which is why oneitus hit, even though I typically sleep with multiple new women a month.
Ginger_destroyer 4y ago
I'm in an LTR, what do you guys think of writing her poetry? I've been doing it for a long time now.
Usually it's pretty sexual, humorous, and hint at inside jokes between us. Seems to work for me.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Yes, but you are getting PiV and, so long as you are maintaining Frame and keeping the vibe mildly subversive then ok. But you gotta stay on top of things.
Bakerbrown217 4y ago
Where was this when I was 18
mrspicytits 4y ago
No matter how many times I see this kind of message I don't seem to be able to keep that red pill down.. I keep returning to my blue pill behaviours /beliefs, and fucking up with girls, making the same mistakes. How many times do I have to be ultimately rejected by a girl I'm dating, her being disgusted by my needy behaviour and never wanting to see or speak to me again.. While I'm sending her a goodbye text like 'I had fun with you, you meant something to me x'... God I make myself sick
orieva 4y ago
You're whining man, which is doing fuck all for you. You're searching for pity. Don't.
Treat your emotions like this: you feel something shitty? Take action to relieve that shitty feeling. Except when you can't do anything about it (let's say a family member died), then you have to work on acceptance.
You're feeling sorry for yourself which honestly is disgusting. Take action and make yourself proud.
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LuckyRedPill 4y ago
That's awesome. You need a podcast, would be a great thing for all men.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
/u/itiswr1tten and I sometimes talk about doing one.
That said, I did one about 2,5 years ago, with {Name Redacted}. It was supposed to go 30 minutes and went for 2 hours. Sorry about the voice thing; it was his idea.
Anyway, here it is: Enjoy
LuckyRedPill 4y ago
Will listen, thanks brother
MrAnderzon 4y ago
Just listened to the whole thing. Well worth the 2 hours. Only thing audio can be better.
ahackercalled4chan 4y ago
same. really good content in that interview.
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AvengerSentinel 4y ago
It'd be fuckin' incredible if you guys did a podcast, I'd 1000% listen to it the day it comes out. Make it happen man!!
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
I think we need to discuss format more, but sure.
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VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
We can discuss offline.
FereallyRed 4y ago
I'm in. I'll pick up some equipment today.
Snowaey 4y ago
Finally a proper red pill podcast!
CartelMP7 4y ago
Hell yea it's gonna be a good fuckin podcast
Hamlet_Prime 4y ago
That chair analogy, fucking gold.
My actions should make a girl feel like she’s balancing on two legs of a four legged chair, that’s the feeling I want to inspire around me.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
I am never sure what will resonate with people. I used 'buy signals' once and a finance guy was like "OMG, I fucking GET IT now!" So I try to say things in 2 or 3 ways.
awakenedspirit1 4y ago
Heroic masculinity. Fantastic.
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
I enjoy that sort of thing. I saw a woman coming off a NYC flight (I was headed back) this past week who had a "Women Don't Owe You Shit" t-shirt on. Had I engaged her for some reason, I'd have said, "That's convenient because I don't take shit from women," and then watch her come uncunted.
BigRedChewingChum 4y ago
'limerick about the pulchritude of her ass' now that's fucking poetry
TBtgoat 4y ago
EatPraySlut that's a good one. Jokes aside, this is a quality ass fucking post! What is the most fucked up thing I can say and still pull. I like that. I'm gonna try and use that
Pandufresh 4y ago
Man I really like that Napoleon quote
redditor67tny 4y ago
I love reading this shit, because it just proves more to myself that I'm doing it right.
Stargazex9 4y ago
This is really a wake up call, thanks
Fulp_Piction 4y ago
I think that most betas in asktrp asking stupid fuckin FAQs have no idea about anything game, so telling them to do what got them there doesn't help. They've just gotten lucky that she's not figured out why she won't fuck him yet.
idontmiind 4y ago
Regarding the napoleon quote: one thing that I realized is that "misogyny" is the ritual pathway to being their object of worship. Any man who puts women higher up than himself or men will never be that. Its like a deep cultural shit test for betas.
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FaP_rothschild 4y ago
This is rock solid content. As red as Sheffield.
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VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
IRL, I generally get either Rick Sanchez or Gregory House a lot, depending on the other person's cultural reference points.
SlySoothSayer 4y ago
This is hilarious, very good read
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Enjoy
TimelessNY 4y ago
Posting so I do not forget to go through that gold mine "What To DO About It" section tonight. Thank you Vasya.
User-31f64a4e 4y ago
That's part of it for sure, and these things will have bad consequences.
Instead, I am willing to bet that the main issue is failing to maintain frame.
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You are right on the mark with:
Being task and outcome focused, men naturally tend to think that what is done is done. Happily forever after, until death do us part, once and forever, etc.
Women lack such static, task orientation. Women are status and relationship oriented. That never ends; there is no winning, there is no losing, there is only the eternal struggle.
If, as a man, you want to 'relax' in your relationship and not bother holding frame - then poof, it will all be gone.
tl'dr: The number one killer of 'relationships' is taking your foot off the gas, because it's too much bother.
orieva 4y ago
Can you clarify traditional/heroic masculinity for me?
VasiliyZaitzev 4y ago
Think about the guy who shows up every day keeps the lights on and the heat on, makes sure his family is taken care of, etc. that’s traditional masculinity.
Heroic masculinity is the guy who ran into a burning building in Philly a couple of days ago to save other people’s kids. The kids got dropped out the window to other men, waiting below to catch them and, as a result, were saved. He became a meme because, in one of the most Philly things that has ever been Phillied, he talked about the guys below “catching them, unlike Agholar” - so in the middle of talking about saving kids, he took time out to roast an Eagles WR who dropped passed on Sunday against Detroit. But yeah, the part where he ran into a burning building is the Heroic Masculinity bit.
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gg_0_lane_prio 4y ago
Kind of sad that you weren't able to define confidence in a 5000+? character long post
slackw1zard 4y ago
Stop talking about women you beta fucks and get your shirt together.
EA180700 4y ago
Greatest guy to take advice from
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