Having sex with women is certainly an accomplishment, but the men who have what they want in life chose to break it off with flocks of women who according to blue pill folk lore, they should have married. Full disclosure, this is not something I can say is a strength of mine, and it's had pretty bad consequences. So learn from me and save yourself the trouble. (But then go learn the actual breakup procedure somewhere else) Sometimes when you transform yourself, you stop short and settle for "good enough" without seeing the bigger picture. You learn game, become attractive, and girls who were out of your league before are doing things to make you happy. It feels good as fuck. To throw that away seems almost insane, and risky(what if she's the only one?) but now you are a guy who has options, don't forget.
I have heard from a lot of other guys who end up getting stuck in LTRs they really aren't happy in, because part of them feels like it's all they deserve, and it's better than being alone. It may take several months of being with someone before enough layers peel off, and you see that you don't really want to be with them anymore. By that point there are attachments and investment that cloud our judgement. Or you may be capable of happiness with that person, if you were still the same man, but you are still improving and evolving, while they are not.
This isn't a post about how to break up, when to, or anything like that.. Just know that you can have great game and bring plenty of women into your life, and in your bed, but it only gets you so far if you are not the one choosing when to end it. I know some of you are getting ready to write "if you create enough abundance and have strong enough game you will always be the one who....." Yeah it all looks good on paper, but in the real world, taking a guy from scarcity and insecurity, to a place of plenty, there's a lot of new experiences to take in and it's not easy to know what the right move is... Guys who aren't getting laid and aren't in relationships, naturally aren't spending time learning how to break up with women- they're trying to learn how to get with them in the first place.
So again, I'm not here to tell you how to break up with a woman who isn't a terrible person. But to say you need to be capable of doing it, especially if you are going to be very attractive and successful. It should be something you learn how to do, as a man, and not just ghosting them either like a child would. Ideally you should be able to go back to them if you wanted, in a few months or a year, and not have a bunch of old baggage and shitty feelings to deal with. And ironically here is a fairly weak ending to a post about ending relationships. See you later I guess?
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KeffirLime 5y ago
There's certainly layers to it and one of the biggest problems with Red Pill readers is they're just here to peel back the "get pussy" layer, and then ride off into the sunset. The issue is women are not satisfied with the get pussy layer.
There's still the maintain pussy, control pussy and make your pick of whatever the hell you want to do with pussy layer, which is their favorite. She'll settle for what she can get though.
By being a "get pussy" guy you're being settled for, and inevitably when you're being settled for, at some point she'll probably find something better. That's usually when most guys land up back here, wondering what the hell happened.
Vikingcel 5y ago
And you'll very likely find another one.
fuze_me_69 5y ago
the biggest problem is guys are still on here clueless that its not about the 'get pussy' or the 'maintain the pussy' or any of that shit
the issue, and a person's key focus, should be on oneself. you fix that and learn to manage that (theres many different ways), in the best way you can, and you can have whatever ONS or relationship you want, with whatever quality of girl you want and deserve based on how you are
people come on here thinking the gf/wife or sex is the goal. those are condiments on a successful life. i think until a guy truly grasps that, then none of the rest really matters. once you understand it, it all falls in to place
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sanos7 5y ago
Great point.
Two LTRs. One I ended. Was hard but doing it made me much better in the end. If I had been RP at the time she could’ve made a decent LTR (traditional, East European).
The other I never should’ve entered. Ignored red flags, conceded non-exclusivity. Was ended for me. Luckily.
You’re right. You gotta be willing to walk away from relationships. This takes a certain mentality and confidence and self respect.
drakehfh 5y ago
Totally agree with it. I am young and I have had only one LTR for 2 years. Left her because I moved to another country. It was a hard breakup. But I had to do it because fuck LDRs. Still, struggling a bit because I miss the image of her.
Welendas 5y ago
Jesus , I am in this situation right now and I dont know what to do.
My girl is so kind and nice , i have no trouble with her , we are together for 2 years but now its been 7 months that we are in LDR ( 3hours in car ). That’s the bad thing
Recently in picking up chixx in bar , only for the kiss no more , just to see if im still in the game you know.
So I wonder if i drop her , what will happen ? I got enough of LDR , and i dont want to fuck alot of slut either.
I built memories with her , but in my deep soul i know that i cant live my life with her forever , i need to try other thing ?
Wolveryn 5y ago
The most red pill move is to be genuinely honest with her and break up. She may not want to speak with you again. But you’re not with her for just a friendship. Accept that.
Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee 5y ago
This read like a Pakistani romance novel in mid life crisis.
I love it.
ebaymasochist 5y ago
Wait till you see the next episode out now. It gets better!
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BrownGummyBear 5y ago
She’s getting closer to the wall every year. You know you don’t want to be with her forever and you’re not enjoying the long distance.
End the relationship, that way she can try to find a LTR before hitting the wall and you get to do your thing. It would be selfish of you not to do so IMHO
Welendas 5y ago
I mean she is 18 and im 20.
Razkolol 5y ago
Be honest, tell her that you like her but you want to fuck other chicks cause she's not around that much and propose some 3way action when she's in town. Hamster will spin at mach 3 speed, she will either end it for you but she'll keep you in the back of her mind and eventually come back for a few lays or she'll join in, win-win. Worst thing to do is dragging this shit out, it will lower your value in her eyes and she'll eventually end on her terms (bad).
hobeezus 5y ago
This exact situation happened to me and introduced me to TRP. Raz is right, the highest value thing you can do is tell her exactly what you want and then go get it.
Olga_Schmutzer 5y ago
This gets downvoted, but it's a topnotch thing to do, gamewise. I broke up with two LTR's in the past two years (yeah, the last one lasted short, because BPD), and although I'm very pleased with myself for knowing I can do this kind of thing when the situation asks for it, a little thing I regret is that I still tried a bit too much to break up amicably, instead of flipping the narrative completely on it's head (I succeeded partly). Like Razkolol says, the hamster will go apeshit crazy, which is a big fucking win and can indeed lead easily to the positive outcomes he describes.
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On the other hand - looking back - that kind of pur sang bravado was too much to ask from myself at that moment (I'm learning). But hindsight is always 20/20 of course. The biggest win with breaking up should be your inner voice that is ready to turn around and walk away, so to speak. Do it on your terms, like OP said.
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Edit: Besides, if you're thinking of breaking up with a LTR, I can't recommend the MarriedRedPill-sub enough!
Razkolol 5y ago
It literally destroys her frame, what is she going to say when ppl ask her "why did you guys break up?" "cause he wanted to fuck me and other chicks in threesomes"? that's just a good advertisement for him. She will always think of him as "the guy I couldn't satisfy sexually anymore" instead of "that beta boyfriend that I had a long distance relationship with for half a year".
Personally most of the time I just ghost and come back later/let them come back to plates/fwb, they get the idea, but if I were to break off a LTR because of distance this is the way that I would go about. If you play your cards right you shouldn't break up with any women ever, she'll do the job for you and/or come back later after she realises her new beta lap dog bf is not very exciting, the cooler you are with the whole process the better, hamster is gonna start questioning "why didn't he cry? why didn't he come chase me? was our relationship not that important to him? is he not attracted to me anymore? maybe this is what he wanted for a long time, etc."
Bonus points if you break up with them because they didn't want to try anal.
ebaymasochist 5y ago
I definitely recommend ending it. You can do this
Welendas 5y ago
I just did it .
Oh lord , what hell of balls it takes. Jesus , she was litteraly crying , crying all the tears of her body. She was screaming you cant do that , im so much in love with you , how dare you , she was doing this for about 2 hours
Its was disgusting , i was there holding frame , trying to explain her , jesus i broke his heart in ten for sure.
ebaymasochist 5y ago
Oh wow.. good job on following through with it bro. Proud of you
Raknith 5y ago
Please be careful she may try to harm you or get you in trouble.
Welendas 5y ago
The only thing she’s doing right now is texting me : come back.
Raknith 5y ago
Just be safe brother.
entrep4 5y ago
I'm kinda facing this dilemma. There's a girl I was seeing who was great. I always enjoyed being around her, she was great company and a virgin before me. A real high quality girl. The type I'd like to settle down with, eventually.
We stopped seeing each other though because she wanted exclusivity and I didn't. I was happy with her but never truly satisfied so didn't want to give her exclusivity. I often feel like I'm missing out on a good girl though and will regret it later in life. I can't see myself just dating forever, I want to find someone to be with eventually.
Other girls I've been dating since are either slutty and I can't respect them (could never trust them enough to have anything meaningful), or not very interesting to me. Any advice for me from guys who have been in this situation?
Metalgear222 5y ago
That’s what any decent self respecting girl would do. I’ve been there before, if your gut wasn’t behind it 100% and you were still plating, you made the right move. Also over time you forget the flaws that made you not consider them for LTR, so when thinking back on it, you think you made a mistake but in reality you made the right move by trusting your gut.
Orochimaru331 5y ago
That's kinda where I'm at right now too. Like I've never fallen in love before and I want to experience that, but I also don't want a LTR. Is it wrong to want to find love but refuse LTR?
Metalgear222 5y ago
Let it happen on its own time. Don’t settle for low quality bitches, pump n dump if they aren’t worth your time. Find a girl that will heavily invest in you and the love may or may not grow. But you can’t go looking for love, it’s a recipe for disaster. Just boosts your needy behaviors that have been silenced correctly by TRP.
Orochimaru331 5y ago
Yeah, I mean TRP goes against LTR because it inhibits the freedom of man which I definitely agree. Though it’s pretty wholesome to be loved by another human being unconditionally who you can also fuck /js
Metalgear222 5y ago
Well that’s impossible. Women can never love unconditionally unless your their child.
Orochimaru331 5y ago
Yeah so much for fantasy warping our minds from the mass media movies.
Love is an on-going process.
adool777 5y ago
I hate it. I've been with my girl for 1.5 years. I want to break it off and do more but she's nice and hot, and brings me weed/food and a good friend and sucks my dick a lot. Oh and she's smart and comes from a rich jewish family. We are just comfortable together now. I don't have many other friends so it will hit me hard.
I know we won't end up married, and I've been keeping this from her.
KumonRoguing 5y ago
I think a lot of it is our deeply ingrained notion of the one that got away. I'm in a similar situation but want out due to one or two red flags. But at the same time I wonder if this is the best I'll get, or if I'm over thinking it.
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ebaymasochist 5y ago
That's a tough one man. If you do decide to call it off, don't forget to find a new bank, doctor, lawyer or dentist too so you don't have to see her family after
Raknith 5y ago
So why do you want to end it?
askmrcia 5y ago
Wtf? Why do you want to end this?
adool777 5y ago
Honestly? She has slept with 3 times as many people as me. and has done shit like threesomes, orgies, cocaine, etc
I come from a religious and poor family. I do get around but I was never a party boy. She was a hot cheerleader type and she now likes me cause I'm stable. I can see the betabux reflection in her eyes the moment I really commit.
Orochimaru331 5y ago
damn the reality is gonna hit like a boulder truck soon
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
I pity you, but if you have such low standards for a woman, then keep dating her.
drakehfh 5y ago
What the fuck? Are you in a LTR with a girl like this?
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adool777 5y ago
I figured I can use her for a couple of years first.
Sir_Distic 5y ago
A couple of years while she gets lazier and fatter and you're in your prime? Go get better women now, not in a couple of years.
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wobbleelbbow 5y ago
Better yet how old is SHE. I bet he's younger than her
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SoyTanto 5y ago
I struggle with this a lot even though I end the relationships. It’s kind of fucked up what I do. I meet a girl, I blue pill fall in love, but hide it. I build a relationship, get close, build trust. Then all of a sudden I’m done and want to leave and I break the girls heart in a horrible fucking way. I make up some excuse where there’s no resolution.
Then while I’m in transition to find a new victim, I instead obsess over the girl I just left. Letting that shit linger between us.
Don’t know why I do that and I feel like every girl (honestly only 3) that I left, I look back and feel like I should have stayed. Feels like I’ll never find another girl to obsess like that over me again.
Anyways I guess I just used this post as a way to vent a bit.
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Sir_Distic 5y ago
It sounds like you are finding a way to control the end of the relationship., You are ending it before she has a chance to by either breaking up with you (after a time of nasty fights) or cheating on you. So you end things.
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It may be subconscious. And I may very well be wrong.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
He sounds like he is psychologically broken. The obsession after the breakup kind of gives it away.
Churningaway 5y ago
That's some dark shit. Feel like I did that myself as well
akzunamoon 5y ago
you are not alone ;) i can relate to this.
SoyTanto 5y ago
Feels good knowing it’s not just me
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ebaymasochist 5y ago
> Don’t know why I do that and I feel like every girl (honestly only 3) that I left, I look back and feel like I should have stayed.
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If you don't mind me asking.. Are your parents divorced? It seems like people do stuff like this after they see their parents split up. People re enact things that were traumatic to them
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SoyTanto 5y ago
Yeah my parents are divorced. But they were since I was a baby.
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uwey 5y ago
Don’t fall in love.
Love is a conditional thing. You fuck enough 8s and it will be normal for you. Then you begin to see women’s real value.
Man have to elevate the sexual drive into his career. You will get enough sex with lots of women, but what is after that? Your career or mission is more important than sex.
Big red pill is that you need to find a chick you can lead and actually smart enough to not fuck this life up. While she also healthy and keep work on her looks and keep her body fit, at same time bear your child and take care all aspects of life with kindness and bring realism back of her mind.
Fuck is fun, raise kids are not. A lot of fuck boi also main contributor for why west failed because we let foreign invaders out produced, in LA a school will gets fund slashed if is more than 30% white. Tell me, when white becomes minority, when the fuck boi “alpha” will be responsible?
Reproduce enough kids with multiple women is ideal. But now young slut just go PP and abort your alpha gene with easy single payment, let that sink in.
Fuck enough hot chicks through your life is fun, but don’t forget when a country and its culture burn down to ground it is time celebrate. All man for themselves, and lack of leadership will only drive this black pill “enjoy the decline” narrative more downhill.
No one told you to reproduce, let the poor immigrant produce 6 kids replace you in less than 30 year. Yeah the guy was busting his ass and work 3 jobs but make sure they will rise up for more voting power and more chance to get into elite class than current generation.
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CrazyHorseInvincible 5y ago
Don't violate rule #2.
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ntvirtue 5y ago
I hear the same arguments from oneitis pussies.
ebaymasochist 5y ago
Can you elaborate a little bit? Always open to constructive criticism
ntvirtue 5y ago
If you KNEW that 100 more were waiting to take her place the second she bored or irritated you then you would not have made this post at ALL.
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
But nobody knows for sure. It's what's possible. And it is possible that there are 100 more women just as good and even better than her and in close proximity (not around the world but you city let's say).
I think it's a very good post, men should be courageous and do not overthink stuff.
ntvirtue 5y ago
You need to cultivate an attitude of abundance, there is ALWAYS another pretty girl waiting to be taken care of.