Morrison is now 31 and the biological father of a little boy born in India on July 26. He went to Mumbai, donated his sperm and paid an egg donor and a surrogate to carry his child. This makes him one of the few single men who have taken this unconventional route to parenthood. ... He has been in serious romantic relationships, and once bought an engagement ring for a girlfriend. She ended the relationship before he could propose. ... He insists that he doesn't have difficulty meeting women but is focused on his career, friends and family. ... “I occasionally go out with friends, but I'm 31 years old now and the social thing has died down. There's a lot of pressure that's put on people to be in a relationship and I just didn't want to get into that kind of tangled lifestyle. It wasn't for me,” he explains. “It doesn't mean that I can't and don't want to start a family.”
When Louis DeFilippi's second wife left him when he was in his 50s, the biochemist's hopes of one day becoming a father faded. However, the Chicago scientist refused to give up his dream of having a family and began an unusual but fulfilling path to fatherhood by finding a surrogate mother to carry his daughter Anna seven years ago. ... While many men of the same age would have given up on their dreams of fatherhood after a second failed marriage, the 64-year-old from Palatine, Illinois, said: 'I decided to keep my life moving forward. I didn’t want my life to end at that point.' ... He conceded that his chances of meeting a woman who wanted to have children when he was in his late 50s were 'between none and zero'. ... The number of children born to gestational surrogates has also risen, from 738 in 2004 to 1,593 in 2011.
http://abcnews.go.com/US/straight-single-men-wanting-kids-turn-surrogacy/story?id=16520916
Gordon has been dating and searching for Ms. Right for more than two decades, but hasn't found a wife. Yet, he badly wanted to start a family. "I'm still hopeful," he said. "Some people are lucky in love. I haven't found luck yet. It's not for lack of trying." Steven Harris, a 57-year-old lawyer from New York, found himself in the same predicament. He knew he wanted kids but didn't have someone to have them with and said he felt a "profound sadness" about 15 years ago. ... So Gordon and Harris, both heterosexual bachelors, made the decision to become dads on their own through surrogacy, using their sperm and a donor egg. ... Both Gordon and Harris said they still have high hopes of one day finding a spouse. "Dating is a snap," Harris said. "Ben is a chick magnet."
Commentary:
Most of these men are older, but in at least one case we have a marriageable 31/M sidestepping the problem of finding a mate and going straight into fatherhood. Although this might not be the ideal case for everyone (where do I get the sex and hugs? call girls?) with enough publicity this might put some fear into the opposite side of the marriage market.
Bonus: no "wife costs" and avoidance of divorce risk. First comment to the last article:
Might as well do this rather than get married. 50% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of them are put forth by women. The number of homeless guys I've met at the soup kitchen I volunteer at who lost everything in a divorce is staggering. Rather just get a surrogate mother rather than take chances with modern women.
MightySurly 10y ago
I've told my family that unless I meet a unicorn, I'll be hiring a college athlete from an ivy league school to have my child as a surrogate when I hit 35 years old.
hardwoodman 10y ago
Kind of the same story, I told my mother and she disapproves. I'd rather keep my wealth to myself then have the risk of divorce and loose a lot of what I earned.
MightySurly 10y ago
Until then, I plan to travel the world and spread my seed to as many countries as possible. I have a primitive desire to insure my clan's survival.
Move over Genghis Khan, my genes are coming to Asia soon.
hardwoodman 10y ago
So will the average penis size increase or decrease?
johnnight 10y ago
All you really need is her eggs. ;)
MightySurly 10y ago
More than just genes, I theorize an intelligent woman is more likely to take care of her body while pregnant than an unintelligent woman.
I want the best possible offspring.
johnnight 10y ago
Well, I know of two guys in my immediate circle, who got their girlfriends pregnant, but are not going to marry. One is a LTR. The other is an ex-gf who came back to be a FWB and her birth control "failed". They are living with the gfs and are fine fathers.
That is also some kind of half-assed reproductive strategy. You can be forced to pay child support if she leaves, but you would pay for your own child anyway.
There is a similar third case of pregnancy, but it's not in the immediate friends circle.
I should add that these are all high earners. They are protecting their income.
[deleted] 10y ago
Probably would be a few hundred K, huh?
mdadm 10y ago
With the right attitude and motivation, its not difficult to accumulate wealth to the point where money just a number.
animal_one 10y ago
Time to start raising my army of motherless Red Pill sons...
CptDefB 10y ago
^ - Until reading this I didn't even consider a surrogate mother.
I still don't have faith in the world today to bring a child into it... but I do know that I'd make a great father, better than the one I had, and would love to impart my knowledge to a child. I would watch them blossom into a god under my lead, son or daughter makes no difference.
This certainly spins my 30s and 40s into an entirely different perspective.
rebuildingMyself 10y ago
Any risk the surrogate cunts out and tries to extort child support or something?
[deleted] 10y ago
Yes, there is a very real risk and she would likely win. If one was serious about doing this they really need to go over seas and find a country with law that are friendly towards it.
fiat_lux_ 10y ago
Aside from adoption and surrogacy, any guy who just wants to work with kids could consider becoming a big brother, volunteering (e.g. for an afterschool program), or even changing his career.
vaker 10y ago
And get accused of being a child molester. Fuck that.
Manuel_S 10y ago
Kids are a lot of trouble and expense. Better save that for your own genes, all things considered.
_Fony_ 10y ago
this is what i am going to do soon.
SystemHalifax 10y ago
A question I have is who is going to be the "mother" of the child
What I mean is that it's all good that you will be raising the child but I still feel you need a mother's love of some sort.
fuk_offe 10y ago
Why go so far? Cristiano Ronaldo has done it some years ago with his first son, and got mega-chastised by it... But good for him. No splitting his fortune.
[deleted] 10y ago
I would consider this.
[deleted] 10y ago
I think it's just as immoral to intentionally deny a child a mother, as to intentionally deny a child a father.
rapreaper 10y ago
I think it is immoral to bag someone else's earned wealth and get away because of gender. Although, I do agree that a two parent household is better when both parents are committed to raising a fantastic kid.