I don't have a Facebook. It's great. But today I needed to look up somebody to gather some intel, so I borrowed a friend's Facebook to look them up. Well, curiosity got the best of me and I also looked up my ex-girlfriend. You know, the one that screwed me over, broke my heart, and sent me spiraling down to a fiery crash landing on that rugged, debris strewn, pothole encrusted road to enlightenment that eventually led me here?
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And wow. Just wow. I've dodged a bullet. I can't believe I was actually saving up money to buy this bitch a ring. We have diverged so massively in our lives. She has pretty much become a hypocritical communist, whereas I've become a Hoppean ancap. Looking back, that's probably the main reason we broke up, or rather, she dumped me. The details aren't important, I want to keep this short. You know the routine: AWALT. But holy shit, what a fool I've been.
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Looking over her posts, did I feel jealousy? Did I feel anger? Did I feel frustration? Did I feel sadness? No. My only thought was, "Good Lord! How exhausting it must be to date someone like this. Holy shit! No wonder she ruined my life. I can't imagine, in a million years, ever getting involved with someone like this. What was I doing!?"
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She exhausted me. She depleted me of all my resources. She sucked me dry like some sort of gigantic mutant malarial mosquito, the likes of which can only be found in the deepest, darkest hearts of the jungle. And when I was nothing more than a tattered empty husk of my former self, she ejected me from her succubitic clutches to fall to the Platonic cave floor to be devoured by the carnivorous beetles of modernity. What a relief. I am thankful. I actually feel good. My life is a million times better than it ever could have been with her.
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A message for those on that long rugged road to enlightenment and personal victory: stick to your guns, trust your gut instinct, it's always darkest before the light, keep your eye on the prize. You're going to be ok. It's hard to understand, especially if you are younger, but it just takes time. If you work really hard to improve yourself and become someone of value and worth, you will not give one good god damn shit about something so frivolous as some bitch. You're gonna be alright.
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Peace out.
grewapair 5y ago
Wait until you're older and they gain 100 lbs. You'll barely recognize them.
BlackPillDiet 5y ago
cope. Why do they have to gain 100 lbs? They might instead lose them and get in impeccable shape
Imperator_Red 5y ago
I just watched Super Troopers 2. All the dudes look basically the same as in the original, and then the cute little local female cop who helps them from the original shows and and.... wow. Did not age well.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
Back when I still had a facebook, I used to see chicks on there I had such major crushes on in high school. When I started getting into my late twenties, most of them had giant heads and faces swelling up like a pumpkin. I used to wonder what the fuck they were doing to themselves because I am the same age as them, yet they look so old and fat. What's going on with them? Why do they look like that? --I used to wonder.
oooKenshiooo 5y ago
Most women are not used to excercise or a clean diet. They simply rely on their looks, genetically inherited hip-to-wais-ratio and being skinnyfat. If that is enough to get them all the attention they crave, there really is no external motivation to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Hence the bloating, once the partying, boozing and drugging catches up with them.
22oregon22 5y ago
This post was the succinct amalgamation that had been stewing in my brain for some time but couldn’t put it in words.
Sounds exactly like my ex. I spent a whole fucking year with oneitis because she was HB9 (some would say 10 but I’ve seen her without makeup). I’m redpilled thank god. You mind me asking what HB yours was?
Thanks for that write up ????????
SeasonedRP 5y ago
Your post is suffused with unresolved feelings. You need to strive to get to the point where you don't care. Where you don't bother to look up exes or read their facebook posts. You have too much emotion about her. I'm guessing this break up didn't happen all that long ago. You will feel even better when you are truly indifferent.
Imperator_Red 5y ago
You can be curious about someone and not care. I'm 100% over my college gf because it was 10 years ago. I still look her up on Facebook once a year because I fucking feel like it. Stop psychoanalyzing people.
tempolaca 5y ago
1) Never look at an ex instagram/facebook. The pictures there are massively selected towards increasing SMV. Girls literally go through thousands of pictures and select the best. Look at pictures of her friends, or a video, to get an actual idea about how they really look. This actually works for escorts too.
2) Unless the girl is in her 20's, she will never look better as time passes. Women get old, they don't improve, ever. We also get old, but our value is not so much in our looks, so we survive it better and unless you are in your 60s or get very fat, your looks usually improve.
3) If she looks bad while single, they would have look terrible if they were still in a LTR. I mean unfuckable. Women let got in a LTR.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
This reminds me of the first girl that I fucked.
She was a bit looney, but, she was about a 9 or 9+. She kept giving me shit, or, back then, maybe it was just shit tests. Of course, she dumped me, and, as she was my first, my BP little heart was broken.
OK, so, I checked her out on FB recently. Her tits have got a lot bigger, her face mmm...not bad for a 50 year old woman. It was the comments from friends that I read that made me realize that I had dodged a bullet:
"So glad to see you smiling again, Suzy!" "Glad that you're finally happy, Suzy!" "Nice to see the sadness is gone!" "Remember, it's only UP from here!"
With an RP perspective, and in light of her posts, I realize that she was BPD. Had my desires been consulted back then, my life would have been fucked.
VaultGuy1995 5y ago
I've admittedly come a long way mentally in the year that I've been single. I went through something similar in my last relationship. I was blue pilled to the bone, and honestly loved that girl. She bled my dry emotionally, and once she was done, she dumped me while we were on vacation. It's been a long recovery process, but you're right, it does get better.
Winterfuzz 5y ago
Just got dumped, so this was the perfect time to read this. Thank you man, I will keep trying.
nomsgplz 5y ago
This post made me check my ex's facebook after like two years. She's doing great, even more beautiful than before. Looks more leaner, and now is performing surgeries, means she is successful.
She broke my heart, left me feel rejected and worthless and I was about to suicide but luckily found this subreddit.
You know what, I don't want her to be miserable to make myself feel better. She is a human being and followed her programming just like the rest of the specie do. It was my fault that I derived my worthiness from her, and expected her to complete me.
Improving yourself to be better than your ex is a good motivation for starters. It will help you cope with validation issues. But it's not a real mature way to look the world.
If you being OK is depended on the state of others than you are just not mature enough. You will have to perform mental gymnastics and hamstering in order to make yourself feel ok.
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sebastianconcept 5y ago
You got it right bro. Keep it up. Being strong(er) is the only way to keep and maintain frame.
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Granite_Pill 5y ago
It's not that she is doing better or worse than me. It's that her lifestyle is now 100% incompatible with mine. If I had married her, I would be absolutely miserable. I'm glad she dumped me. I don't like her, I don't like her friends, I don't like anything she is doing. Basically, I looked at her facebook and noped the fuck out of there.
W66L 5y ago
Mind telling us about what you saw on her social?
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nomsgplz 5y ago
She might be not compatible before too, but due to lack of abundance you had to put up with her. Like the others have said, its not on her, its on you.
Instead of being in denial and keep saying to yourself that you don't care about her, while your whole post is shouting that how much you give a damn. Resolve your feelings
s29 5y ago
Had kinda the same experience. Was involved with a girl in high school, and I was too much of a wimp to lead the relationship, so she ended things with me.
I knew her from church back then and really only see her on christmas, since I only go back to my hometown for that.
She has a worthless degree, is hard left (I'm right-leaning), and her new boyf is a mexican guy that wear his hat indoors at a christmas service.
So if she tolerates that kind of behavior, I've realized she doesn't meet my standards anyway and it did a lot to lift me out of a very long and drawn out depression.
sebastianconcept 5y ago
Ban the left girls without consideration. They are dangerous. Can plan (now or in the future) to use what they had with you to “help destroy the patriarchy”
KeffirLime 5y ago
That's not the reason you broke up(got dumped).
This is. You put up with her shit, you showered her with your resources and you let her treat you like shit. Despite all this, you had intentions to ignore all her red flags and instead reward it with a shiny diamond ring.
Now I'm not gonna imply she was an angel, I highly doubt she was, but you hardly set the up the landscape to be treated like a prince. Your bitch behaves as well as you allow her to.
Resentment towards her is unproductive and futile, it changes nothing. Instead, direct your anger at yourself, do some introspection and use it as fuel to improve yourself/make changes going forward.
FalconWrite 5y ago
Man why you gotta focus on the negative and make it a hindsight lecture? He's just expressing satisfaction at having moved on and is clearly taking steps to improve habitually. It's a good thing.
KeffirLime 5y ago
I'm focusing on his mindset and attitude that clearly needs altering, for his benefit might I had. I'm encouraging him to let go of resentment and take responsibility for his actions which will pay dividends down the line.
Or we can all sit and circle jerk about how mean wahmenz are and we're just helpless men.
FalconWrite 5y ago
There's a difference between saying all women are heartless bitches like bitter incels and simply acknowledging the objective reality that dark triad-oriented women exist in the world and can actively inflict great damage on guys who aren't fully savvy to their ways. Bluepill mindset + BPD manipulation will deeply fuck even the most natural stud's shit up. We don't know the whole story here, no need to assume baseless victim mentality off the bat.
KeffirLime 5y ago
As a man in a relationship, victim mentality is always cancerous and he's made his position clear on it.
She's behaving like shit either because you're not leading her or because you're putting up with it, either way it's on you.
What you're trying to do is enable his blue pill delusions, that his time with women is something done to him, whereas im trying to empower him with a red pill mentality that his time with women is something done by him, the locus of control is with him.
Had he come up with a field report detailing his shortfalls and beta behaviors and the treatment it lead him to receive, I think we all could have learnt a helluva lot more, and I'd be convinced he'd learnt his lesson too. Instead we got "she screwed me over, she took my resources" etc.
FalconWrite 5y ago
I knew a real estate rockstar pulling seven figures who had a chick empty his bank account and run over his dog while he was sleeping. And then claim abuse. One fucking night. 12 hours. No red flags of it up til then, she just snapped. Likely unmedicated and insecure. Guy was a total fucking thundercock, went into depression for 5 years. I'm all about being confident enough to create that "reality distortion" field effect where you get stuff done and take full accountability for owning your shit, but covert crazy chicks can still do stuff to you man. It's not always gonna be on you and how alpha you are.
I'm just saying, even if he could have pulled up her papers and looked heavy into her psyche profile before then to increase the % chance of that occurrence, I'm not gonna rag on him for being salty and feeling like he got screwed. As long as he still comes out of it with an overall growth-oriented mindset overall, like this post here, that shift back to form is only a matter of time.
KeffirLime 5y ago
It can happen, but you should build your mindset around the rule, rather than the exception. And in those exceptions you can walk always saying there's nothing more I could have done(unlike in OP's case).
The entire tone of the post wreaks of a victimhood complex, as many others have also pointed out.
This perspective is pivotal when engaging with women, hence why I pointed it out. Letting go of it and taking responsibility will only serve to benefit OP in future endeavors.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
No shit, Sherlock. Dude, we broke up years ago and I've dated and fucked numerous women since then. This isn't a post seeking out advice. I just got curious and looked her up. I've already long improved myself and don't even think about her. I just had access to a facebook account for a few minutes and used it to look up people from my past that I haven't heard from in forever.
I'm always going to resent her either way. But I got redpilled and I changed my life for the better and will never let something like this happen again. I was bluepilled back then. Not anymore.
KeffirLime 5y ago
You're not redpilled if you still hold resentment over an ex from years ago who treated you like a bitch because you behaved like a bitch, Sherlock.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
Back then, I was devastated and angry. I haven't seen or thought about her in three years. I have been over this for a long time. I randomly look her up one day and feel relieved and glad I'm single. And I couldn't believe I was so silly and upset back then. It was such nonsense. That's all I was saying with my post.
I think you're just not that bright so you're not understanding my post.
mx3552 5y ago
Man, telling people they're not bright enough that's fucking ironic. Take a good hard look at yourself and what you feel about her before posting some dumb emotional nonsense.
KeffirLime 5y ago
Your post wreaks of victim mentality, this ain't the sub for that son.
You screwed yourself over with your beta supplicating.
Your entire premise is that your relationship was something done to you and not something done by you and that she's inherently a bitch unaided by your bitch behaviour. What was done to you was because of what was done by you, but maybe you're not bright enough to understand that.
BPasFuck 5y ago
Just a note: The word you meant to spell was "reeks," as in stinks of victim mentality.
The word 'wreak' means to create, inflict, or cause. As in: "This post threatens to wreak incel whining about wahmen." Or, 'That dude let that chick wreak havoc."
As to the thrust of your arguments here, yeah-- OP isn't as far along as he thinks. But it's a dead horse at this point.
mingamo 5y ago
This is a rule that applies to all aspects of life, not only female/male interaction. Read Jocko Willinks book "extreme ownership".
KeffirLime 5y ago
Agreed, victim mentality in all forms is a breeding ground for pain, suffering and failure.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
Not my premise at all. English must not be your first language. You sound like a stubborn pajeet. Fuck off.
randomTATRP 5y ago
Ad hominem attacks when someone is losing/has lost an argument is starting to be one of my favorite stuff to watch/read
KeffirLime 5y ago
Oops, triggered a snowflake.
Anyway, you win, you were the victim, you did everything perfect, she's a bitch and she screwed you over, happy?
Good luck moving forward buddy.
throwawayyourliberty 5y ago
No value in this post whatsoever. You virtue-signalled your own shitty ideology and some anecdotes from your personal life. Stick to your guns as you mentioned and refrain from posting shit. PS: So much about Ancap.
htbf 5y ago
ITT OP finds out he is "ok" by comparing himself to his ex.
Grandwizard87 5y ago
Thank you so much, reading this at a perfect time. Had the habit of looking at my Ex instagram lately but I’ve stopped myself. Been working on myself and my passions, moving forward in my life and meeting new people. Keeping my eye on the prize, best of luck to you and wishing u the best i been gettin plates on IG lately too so that’s cool tho
vullnet123 5y ago
Same here dude. You Gotta cut that shit out. It's been a month since I did and it definitely improved my mood.
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PeppermintPage 5y ago
You lost me at "ancap". Tool.
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Olram_Sacul 5y ago
It seems that I was the only fool that dumped an unicorn (I know AWALT but I havent found any flaws so far...) for the prospect of banging some hot bitch that drove me crazy. But still here we are all in the same boat.
therymancruise 5y ago
Exactly what I needed to hear today thank you!
DownyGall 5y ago
Thank you. Needed this. I struggle with being patient for things to fall into place. Then I get thinking about all the wrong things in my life and comparing myself to other people and wondering whether I can even do it. It gets overwhelming.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
What saved my life is that I was lucky enough to discover my passion in life and devoted myself to that. Am I the best person in the world? No. But I am a whole hell of a lot better than I was three or four years ago when that bitch dumped me. Don't make it about women, make it about what makes you happy.
Word of advice: if you want to be happy in life, tie your life to goals. Your own personal goals. Not people. Not things.
pizzae 5y ago
How is TRP supporting both enlightenment and screwing random girls every week at the same time? Pick one and stick with it instead?
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bakamoney 5y ago
Still blaming everything on her? Lmao
[deleted] 5y ago
Your own choices led to those circumstances. Stop playing the victim.
throwryuken 5y ago
You sound like a really fun guy
metallicdrama 5y ago
Once you’ve learned from Toxic Bitches you spot them easily in the wild. Makes life entertaining.
SecretRedditLife22 5y ago
Good reminder, it’s easy for those not going through hard times to forget what the despair might feel like at the start of change.
I think it’s ok to take at most a month for yourself and be sad, angry, hurt, and whatever else. It sucks but it’s what makes us human and we shouldn’t fight having feelings or try to turn them off to be more of a ‘man’.
After a month you need to realize things will get better, however slowly, and to start your self improvement.
bigflame123 5y ago
I’m proud if you got bring ancap, stay strong brother
mx3552 5y ago
Maybe when you're older you'll see what was wrong about this post. You obv still have a lot of repressed feelings about this girl still. Please just try to meet and fuck as many girl as possible, after a few those feelings should disappear by themselves. You won't even think about her, just about the next ones you'll find.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
I guess you missed the point of the post too. I've already gotten over this years ago. I just realized how silly I was in the past and I've already long moved on. I do carry some resentment, but it stems from being so wholeheartedly lied to, misled, and deceived, not just by that girl, but by society as a whole. It's just one of those harsh life lessons you never forget.
winningace 5y ago
should you take revenge to fuck over an ex if you could?
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Not unless it would bring you some needed emotional closure/catharsis. But if you are able to just move on and look towards the future, don't waste your time with revenge.
Granite_Pill 5y ago
Depends on whether or not your ex is capable of learning lessons from something like that.
RoninUnderground 5y ago
Don't break your arm jerking yourself off. She didn't exhaust you. She didn't deplete you of your resources. She didn't suck you dry. You allowed these things to occur and you most likely had every chance to prevent it had you been wiser. Your gut instinct is not always right, it's on you to hone your instincts. A man is not an island so stop acting like you can achieve transcendence through isolation. The details are important because no matter how toxic or one sided the relationship was there's something you can learn from it, so don't act like she was the devil and that you were justified in casting the first, middle, and last stone. Just as much as we should harness the nature of women we must harness the nature of ourselves, and we are almost without fail our own worst enemies.
grewapair 5y ago
Well, you re partly right. This is the only way to convince a girl to stick around if you're an average guy.
Imperator_Red 5y ago
Semantics. She did do these things to him.
think_9090909 5y ago
The truth is that it's both. It takes two to tango in a relationship. She must behave well and he must enforce his boundaries. If a man has shit boundaries, his woman will always end up walking all over him. Now, if a guy has strong boundaries and his girl still refuses to submit to his frame, then yes, she's the one who's mainly at fault in the relationship and the guy has to get rid of her if she doesn't get her act together.
RoninUnderground 5y ago
Unless someone has stalked, assaulted, or stolen from him, he holds control over whether said person taxes him mentally, physically, or financially. This is the key difference between being victim to circumstance or master of one's own destiny.
TruthSeekingPerson 5y ago
Spending time with modern women is worse than death. They will drain you of your time and energy and leave you an empty shell. Pump and dump if you must but spend as little time talking to them as possible.
PM_ME_NUDES_PLEEZ 5y ago
I was recently thinking of getting back with my ex, so I invited her over to talk. We fucked and were cuddling and I asked her how many people she has had sex with since we’ve broken up since September. At first she lied and said none, then I told her to be honest and then she admitted to one. I told her to be completely honest that I deserve that much . Then she said two. Then later three. I told her I could not get back with her knowing that she has slept with one, let alone three guys. And I have not managed to get one girl yet. They were all one night stands. I cannot imagine how women today can just give themselves so easily to strangers. She started going by herself to this one bar to drink by herself then little by little is now the slut for the bar. It’s not fair that when we’re broken up I had no plans for the weekend and doing boring things, when all she has to do is just go to a bar and people will literally buy her drinks, talk to her, give her cocaine and hang out with her. When she told me she had sex with 3 people it was like my world was torn apart. I had to go spend the night with family because I didn’t want to be alone. I was having panic attacks and anxiety (which I never have) and had to take a Xanax. I feel better today, but I know if I ever get an ltr again it can’t be someone from this country where the hookup culture ruins good women
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I was writing out a long response, but just trust me on this:
Granite_Pill 5y ago
Hey, just move on and fuck other bitches. AWALT. Don't believe for one second that women from other countries are any different. I used to travel around the world fucking bitches in every city. They are all the same. The moment you show weakness or insolvency, they will dump your ass just like any American woman.
Improve yourself. You will not care about some dumb bitch once you become awesome.
nomsgplz 5y ago
Crazy that we won't miss the opportunity if 3 stranger women offer sex in a single night. We will consider it a victory and a great conquest. Ironically the same 'we' will consider it to be the most immoral act if we are not on the receiving end.
If I would have been you, I would have felt the same despite of being self aware of it. Its instinctual to feel repulsed by a woman who have slept around. I think evolutionary it makes sense, as the males will prefer to invest their energy only on such women who they think are more likely to be carrying their offspring and not the others.
I am not saying to instantly stop feeling what you are feeling. I will advice to resolve your feelings and don't let these thoughts overwhelm you.
llkkzz 5y ago
If a guy sleeps with 3 women, then its probab;y because he worked on himself and improved himself. If a girl did it, its hardly an achievement.
nomsgplz 5y ago
My point still stands. It doesn't matter whether its an achievement for a woman or not. Will it make moral in your worldview if a woman worked hard to fuck a man?
sebastianconcept 5y ago
You need more plates. That will fix all the anxiety and keep you busier in those weekends.
PM_ME_NUDES_PLEEZ 5y ago
I think I'm just gonna go MGTOW and just fuck prostitutes. Women rack up high numbers anyway.
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You don't need to do that as a permanent lifestyle choice. You could try monk mode for a little, or just start fucking as many girls as you can (prostitutes not excluded)
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