What you need to understand is that:

1. Girls from 16-22 are at the peak of their SMV, and they are your peers, and so naturally, you are attracted to them, however....

2. You are low on the totem pole, because all you likely have to offer them is.... dick in the box!

3. Your competition is guys ranging from 16-60+ Yep, that's right, girls your own age are being approached by men who are NOT your peers. Wealthy businessmen. College guys with cars. Yuppies. Musicians. Actors. Celebrities. Thugs. Sports stars. You want a reality check? This 15 year old girl at my high school would get a fake ID, and go to bars down town and pick up grown men. No high school boys for her. Also, you are still competing with your peers. Do you even lift, bro?

4. When you are a senior in high school, underclass women are attracted to you, because THEIR peers are pimply stickboys. You appear like a god to them. Also, they are mostly too young for the older guys who want to stay out of jail, as age of consent is mostly 18, and 16-17 in some jurisdictions. But what if they COULD date those older, more accomplished guys. Well, you would be chopped liver.

Moral of the story: stop chasing the women and start building value and attracting them. Play the long game. You will get laid along the way. If you chase after them but fail to build value, eventually you will flame out.

Also, you're 17, so don't beat yourself up. You are lucky you have the internet. When I was your age, I only SUSPECTED this stuff was true, but I was constantly being gaslit by everyone. Now everyone can instantaneously compare notes.

This means that your approaches fail not because they are unsound, but because you are not seeing the bigger picture of ALL the other options the girl has. Think of all the older men who are approaching her at malls, restaurants, wherever she goes. That's why you're failing. You're up against way bigger fish. Yeah, you can get laid at that age, but it usually doesn't last because of hypergamy. Unless you're like a Justin Bieber, a rich kid, or one with prospects, you'll constantly be facing down the threat of more successful men trying to poach your women.

Welcome to the marathon. Lift, game, frame.

Arrogance is a killer. Humility and 'beginner's mind' go far.

It's a common occurrence, no sex all your life, then you bang a chick and you think the floodgates have opened.

It's good to ride the high, but eventually you come back down to earth and realize there's still work to be done. Good on you for taking a step back and self reflecting but don't lose that mindset entirely.

Confidence and self belief are beneficial, it just needs to be coupled with a healthy self awareness and solid work ethic. Keep it up.

I agree with you. There's a reason so many philosophies based around self improvement include 'Learn from your mistakes and they are no longer mistakes' and variations of.

Being self aware, working to objectively understand what you do wrong or badly and how to improve it, is a really important skill. Ego is definitely an issue for pretty much everyone. I struggle with it a lot. Whenever I learn new things and feel I've come to a revelation of understanding, then I want to tell others and can be condescending or not articulate myself as well as I think I can.

It's important to respect oneself and be confident in who you are without becoming egotistical or narcissistic. Don't cling to false beliefs because you feel they are 'your' beliefs etc.

I'm glad you've had a positive experience come out of what could have been simply a negative. It's a good feeling too when you learn about yourself. We've all been there.

One thing I will say though, is don't put so much weight or value on casual sex and having sexual partners. I think there's been a derailing of TRP and MGTOW and all these movements. Where it has devolved into 'I can get X amount of women and have had X amount of sexual partners'. It should be about having a fulfilling and happy life.

Be a positive influence on the world, be happy and proud of what you are and what you accomplish. Have fulfilling and satisfying experiences and relationships with people. Don't succumb to the false pressure of buffing your N count up like it's a leaderboard you want to rank on.

Having 1 true and fulfilling relationship with someone is far, far more valuable than having 100 flings that go nowhere and only leave you with a feeling of ephemeral satisfaction.

TRP is a good resource to use to help navigate the field of modern dating and society. How to figure out who is worth your time and potentially IS relationship material. It has a lot of wisdom inside it, as many other similar forums do. But I think it's worth bearing in mind what you actually want out of life and relationships. If you do just want to smash some pussy, then do your thing and that's great. But it isn't a competition to do so. Use the resources such as these at your disposal to live a fulfilling and happy, positive and good life.

Good luck and much love.

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Always do your best to get a more realistic understanding of life and the effective way to live, rather than sticking stubbornly to your old ideas of the world and yourself.

It's good that you're humbling yourself and coming down to earth, but don't be afraid of letting yourself have an inflated ego every so often. You should constantly practice confidence, just don't be a total douche about it.

Book recommendation for you - Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday

Pretty sure you are a virgin