In order to truly build congruency with your inner game and the image you put on, assuming you want to align yourself to an alpha frame, you must build that congruency by facing adversity, both mental and physical, which build your inner sense of worth and tolerance to challenges.

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This is the only way to truly build yourself into an alpha. This is where PUA fails and TRP succeeds. Through going out and facing rejection, lifting, doing MMA training, etc. as TRP recommends, you face that adversity and forge the internal. You don't put on a mask that says "I'm a man" and lie to yourself about who you are, which fails in the long run.

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You truly become what you've previously only idealized.

This post is %100 true. In order to build congruency, you need to identify your inner-self and find the weak parts and find what caused this weakness. I highly offer a therapist for this. They are really good at identifying your emotional weaknesses or shortcomings.

Not to be histrionic but this is one of the best posts I've ever read here. It's nearly (but not) as important as How to Get Laid Like a Warlord since congruency is a grossly overlooked and oversimplified topic but to be honest I think it's the sequel to HTGLLAW. Congruency is 100% as necessary to being a man as a strong frame is. You can't have one without the other. That's called being a fake. It's kind of esoteric too and I hope this post will change that. Props to you daddy.

In most stories you only see the tip of the spear.

Being congruent is being the whole spear. And using it. Or being it.

I think we can all agree, being congruent in a relationship is hard af. However it is very beneficial for you to reflect and ask yourself is this who I want to be. Alot of growth can occur during this stage.

You can put on any façade you want for a random lay.

Good post. And I feel like at every level of "leveling up," I face a new incongruity that I need to iron out. I'm currently going through one of those phases now, using journaling and field reports to figure out exactly what's up. But I know a part of it has to do with lack of a killer instinct. I'm still getting a lot of girls out, and fairly quickly, but not being a good enough leader in the final 5 percent. If I close, it's all good, but if not, I get ghosted 100 percent of the time because I've set myself up as the cool, sex-worthy guy. There's no middle ground with me anymore. If I'm honest, I'm still reeling over the first ever solid 8 I plated. It was long distance (I know I know) and her interest went from sky high for 3 months to nothing. I ended it late last year (she probably would've soon enough) but it's still messing with me a bit.

Great post OP, we need more of this stuff.

Also, how can someone work on becoming more congruent?

Excellent first post, you shed light on something that has been overlooked, but it is a fundamental life concept.
I think congruency is a big part of trust. No one likes a phony. If you say you can do x, you better deliver otherwise the trust is broken. Women are pretty damn harsh when it comes to judging congruency, but beta men tend to be lax in expectations of congruency, which is why they tend to be screwed over.

great post.

even tho, you can't get congruent if you don't fail. fake it till you make it i'd say. keep trying.

Great post. The congruency angle is genius. You can become that person though. I don't know how hard it is.

I grew up in a tough neighborhood surrounded by killers, gangsters, thieves, and drug addicts.

I didn't get red-pilled, I have known the true nature of people growing up.

I understand that the people who use the internet and reddit and read articles are blue pilled, but not everyone is.

My life with women is a towering success. I just act like myself at this point.

To be even more particular, I noticed the break in 'congruency' is usually in Escalation instead of succumbing to shit tests from angles sidebar TRP doesn't go over.

Second to Escalation, assuming you're a 7+ in terms of looks (be honest with yourself), is determining when shit tests become comfort tests.

Overall though, call to action of this post doesn't change what TRP advocates for new RP members: that is, approach women, interact with women, and do this as frequently as possible. You will make mistakes, but the overall philosophy of TRP is to put yourself in situations where you're making mistakes, and having the ability to learn from them each time

Good shit bub and on point!

I can relate to this a lot. There’s a point in our lives when taking red pills that we start to see this very thing. You can easily eat laid by exhibiting red pill behaviours looking good and lifting but the longer term shit when spinning plates or Ltr comes with shit test and the psychological battle within. It’s a constant fight for frame. not in winning it but trying not to give it a way and fucking myself. Congruency is part of being successful in that battle. Many of the red pill pros or older folks know how the covert psychological frame battle works but many young men are fighting a battle their enemy is well versed in.

I speak from experience and fuck up often. But I see to be learning more and understanding how this shit works each time. Reading this shit helps but applying it is a whole different reality. Even if I’m not at the top of the mountain I work every fucking day to do what’s needed and this site has changed my life significantly and helped me avoid making terrible mistakes.

Great post for thought.

Fuck this hits home for probably most of us on this sub. It sure hit home for me lol. Last 2 chicks I almost banged what happened to cause it to fall apart. The initial alpha behaviours had them juicy for me and then when I IMMEDIATELY turned back to good old beta bucks it sure falls apart quick.

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I can see someone watched the pickup artist, starring Mystery

Damn, this hits home. Kinda similar to perfecting a skill. You start off looking like an imbecile. Then, you’re able to perform the skill 50% of the time. Finally, once you’ve fully invested and put in the practice, you can perform the skill 100% of the time.

Acting class would go along way to maintaining focus, staying in character, etc.