I've been fortunate in my life when it comes to male role models, yet, I haven't followed the example set by them.
My biggest mistake was, at an early age, letting myself get used to quitting.
I'm lucky, and a lot of things come easily to me, and I've been able to coast through life on that fact. It is when something shows just a little bit of difficulty and requires any real effort that I will retreat to the comfort of what comes easy.
School was easy for me but I have a GED because I quit, and didn't continue and even come close to my potential.
The military was physically easy for me, but I decided early that I was getting out, therefore I quit trying to get promoted. Again, not coming close to my potential.
Women have always been easy for me. I'm a smart, funny, good looking guy, who's step-mom taught in middle school. That if I wanted girls to like me, just act like I didn't care. But I haven't had a girlfriend since 2010 because she annoyed me and I quit.
Fitness was a passion, but I let video games become more important, so I quit working out. Was 280 this time last year, at 5'8". (down to 240, getting back in shape.)
I guess the goal of this post, is to stop others from making my mistakes. Man or woman really.
Imagine if I had the foresight to live just a little bit disciplined, and never quit, what my life could have been.
If you never quit and live with discipline. You may just live up to your potential.
If you quit and live without discipline. You likely won't even realize what your potential could be.
_TheRP 5y ago
Time for some hard truth.
If you got 120 pounds over what is a reasonable body weight for your height, you're problem isn't quitting, your problem is general laziness. This entire post reads like you're trying to hamster your way into believing you're some paragon of ability when all evidence points to the contrary.
Stop talking about how great you are and learn some discipline. Buckle down and get it done.
NextBad 5y ago
I don't think it is your biggest mistake, money,power and fame don't bring much happiness, you didn't want to do it, you are missing the rewards that come with it, but if you can't enjoy the struggle or the road than it's not worth it.
Lieisnotreal 5y ago
Hilarious.
No girlfriend since 2010, 240 lbs, things have always been easy for me...
Usually quitters quite because they're actually not that gifted and they lack results.
TRP is about lucidity not lying to yourself, there are things you need to figure out to understand what you have to do now.
Mehdi017 5y ago
This ain't even about potential, you need to get your shit together, have the basics: lift, take care of yourself, money... Then you can start talking about potential.
And please stop saying things are easy when you're talking about middle school and a gf from 2010.
clavabot 5y ago
Alihe haven't had a girlfriend gang ;-;
kleancut 5y ago
Right, is the worst subtle flex I’ve ever heard. Sounds like you’re still lost bro. Get ur shit together
Truedemocracy4 5y ago
240 at that height is huge
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
Easy to sound like that, but the intention wasn't a subtle flex.
It was meant to point out that even with good genetics and natural talents/gifts that are coveted around here. That if you let yourself get used to quiting, none of it matters.
netflix_binge 5y ago
lol 5'8" 240... fitness was a passion. okay there bud
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
Just cuz I'm a fat fuck now doesn't mean I always was.
UnPawsed 5y ago
Lol it’s funny to me that lazy people with no redeeming qualities believe this about themselves because they got a few good grades in elementary school hahahahah.
Go lift.
NextBad 5y ago
He is saying he regrets being lazy and that others shouldn't follow his path? than you come and call him lazy ?
iwbbty 5y ago
I understand the sentiment, and I agree there are a lot of lazy people out there who think they have all the potential in the world but are just not ‘trying’.
But not all of them accept their failures to be their own doings, which is what OP is doing.
I can respect that.
CuckedSam 5y ago
It's a classic. "ooo i was always the smart guy in middle school", haha yeah bud. Go to a serious college and you will see what smart and hard working people are actually like.
When you compare yourself to people who aren't as gifted as you you quickly become lazy.
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
I think this is the best response in this thread. I'd never thought of it from this pov.
FriendlyJordy 5y ago
Depends on the college. If it's a corporate, private college that has multiple branded campuses across the country, and its only entry requirement is a pass in English, then you're going to see much more incompetence, laziness and stupidity there.
ELMasTurbo 5y ago
Damn, see I recently joined the work force and I am having problems because of this. All through out my life shit was easy for me. High school, even college I managed to breeze through without much effort and even graduated Cum Laude. Now that I am actually working, my job is p easy, the hardest part for me is putting in the effort.
UnPawsed 5y ago
Fact. People like OP and the ones agreeding with him always compared themselves to the ADHD kid who never picked up a book and they suddenly start thinking they’re special lmao.
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BloodSurgery 5y ago
Looking at people's profiles to insult them? Well, now that's s week frame if I've ever seen one.
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UnPawsed 5y ago
I’d be mad if I clung on to the idea of being smart by not wanting to admit I’m a waste of potential too bro I understand
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TRP_Lee_zard 5y ago
Man, it's not "never quit" also - sometimes it doesn't make sense to invest more in a lost cause (a lot of guys stay in dead end jobs or relationships on that basis). Don't be afraid to fail, but strive to get better. Don't deal in absolutes, but always look critically at your life and surroundings.
alaskanarcher 5y ago
Only a sith deals in absolutes.
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It's easy to say don't afraid to fail when we have no context. When your job is at stake, you should be afraid to fail. When your mother's life is at stake, you should be afraid to fail. Others think you cannot take TRP when depression kicks in, your motivation cannot be boosted internally and you are trap circling in your own negative thoughts and habits.
Liburnian 5y ago
My story as well, so many wasted opportunities.
bjcm5891 5y ago
Discipline is the small defeats that line the road to a bigger victory...
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
The exact distance between your dreams and reality is Discipline.
MoDuReddit 5y ago
> Imagine if I had the foresight to live just a little bit disciplined, and never quit, what my life could have been.
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Could've, would've, should've... Maybe also you'd then be a overthinking anxious soyboy, but a disciplined one.
The past is gone, make your choices now.
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
This isn't an easy realization to come to about yourself, trust me.
The idea of what I could have been wasn't meant to come from a mental masturbation standpoint. Rather a warning for others, to not put themselves in this situation.
MoDuReddit 5y ago
Good to know. I understand, you need the realisation before you can start to move on. Keep growing buddy!
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DigitalDragonSlayer 5y ago
Thanks for sharing bro… One thing to point out here, is that will power and discipline isn’t like having blue eyes – a feature that you either lack or have… It’s a skill. Like tennis or hockey you can get better at it and train your brain to get better at staying on the path.
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
That's the plan, realizing this and writing about it was a big step for me personally.
DigitalDragonSlayer 5y ago
We have a lot in common, when it comes to quitting, giving up , falling back into comfort.
One last piece of advice that I will share: journal. Track daily habits like meditating, working out, approaches, etc.
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
Thanks, I'll take the advice.
DigitalDragonSlayer 5y ago
OneNote is a great free tool that I use.
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
I use it for work but had never thought of using it this way.
DigitalDragonSlayer 5y ago
I have a separate notebook for personal, I break out tabs depending on what I think are major pillars of my life that warrant section. But the majority of my time is spent in a main section I call “Daily Journal”
I use the table feature to create column for date, daily goals (like a checklist) and a section for writing. Each day is it’s own row. I find it soooooo damn helpful to go back and read how you did the last week, month, etc. it really motivates oneself to push and make the following days better.
Get after it mate!
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
I'm setting it up now, thanks for the idea!
FederalAnxiety 5y ago
If you want to know your past, look at your current conditions. If you want to know your future, look at your current actions.
Learn that shit inside and out: your current actions set your future conditions. Quitting will give you the life of a quitter. Unless you're fine with that, quitting is not an option.
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curiouschipmunk1010 5y ago
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Stop it. Just stop it.
Haven't seen this level self-rationalization in awhile.
Life is not fucking easy. It's like saying a marathon is easy when you quit 10 minutes in.
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Sounds good. Do it.
Writing this is easy. Do it.
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trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
I didn't say life was easy, I said I had an easy time with some parts of it, and took it for granted and now I'm a fat fuck.
Some people do have an easier time in life and can just skate by with barely any effort. That is the part of life that is most unfair in my opinion.
I am because the reality is, I finally actually want to.
This place just helped me realize a lot of it, so I posted this in the hopes it helps someone in the same situation.
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archaic-guy 5y ago
A general life advice "look for challenges and goals" without them your discipline goes limp and your potential stops meaning anything.
tlaatonmai 5y ago
I'm not going to take advice from a dude who is 240 at 5'8, how do you even walk? Jesus christ
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
Advice = don't let yourself quit.
You aren't going to take the advice because I got fat, just like 99% of this sub?
Sounds like you have bigger issues than I do, Good Luck.
tlaatonmai 5y ago
Dude you're 240 lbs! you quit a long time ago! Get back in shape then give advice bro
trpthrowaway2003 5y ago
That's part of the whole point
The point of this post is to get people not to quit as I have done. There is 0 requirement that I get to 10% body fat before I share this lesson.
Rather, it's better coming from me now. If I can realize it about myself, so can others.
I don't understand why you don't understand this, nor do I care.
tlaatonmai 5y ago
I apologise, sorry. U are right, much respect bro