Newbies, don't expect TRP to be a miracle. No, it will not change you overnight. You do not read TRP today and become Chad tomorrow. It will take at least 3-5 years to become the best version of yourself, to become a alpha. It is a journey. A path of learning and self improvement. You will encounter hardships, extreme stress.
Embarking on a TRP journey is like playing life on God mode. The modes for normal people are easy, medium and hard. And then there is a hidden god mode, which only us trpers can see and select. Once you select it, expect adversity, expect rejection, expect to fight for everything. So far, you have played the game of life on easy mode. Society does not reward easy stuff remember? Easy mode resulted in shitty rewards and the title of a 'Loser'. No more. No more easy mode. You have the best damn resource available with you and damn right, you deserve it all. Don't settle for anything less. Don't give a flying fuck about anything and everything that is not helping you reach where you want to reach. Your peers do not approve of your newfound game mode? Good. Show them middle finger and keep moving forward. You do not owe anyone shit. Live life your own way.
Most of us have never give our 100% to anything in life. Back when we played on easy mode, that was the 'okay' thing to do. "You failed in all of these things? It is okay. At least you tried. You are a good guy (beta) and one day you will get what you deserve. (i.e. never)" Sounds familiar? If someone tries to turn you back into the bitch you used to be, throw them out of the window. No. It is not okay to be a loser. It is not okay to be anything less than your best possible self. Just for once, just once give your 100% to TRP. Have faith in yourself, in your potential to be a alpha. If you cannot have faith within your own self, then fuck you. Just have faith in TRP and keep following everything in here blindly. You will reach your destination.
Remember that you are not fighting society. You are fighting yourself. Your own beta tendencies will do their best to keep you where you are, to keep you from transcending. Learn to change. Learn to ignore the voices in your own head. Exercising every day is difficult, saving money is difficult. So is rejecting easy dopamine of any kind, making the choice that pays off in the long run instead of short run. You will see everyone around you making the easy choice, content with whatever shit they have. But we are better than them. We are the TRP men. Play on the god mode and you will reap enormous benefits, results beyond your wildest dreams.
I can guarantee you it will be stressful. Probably the most stressful thing you will voluntarily do in your life. Getting over your past, adapting to your newfound values, transitioning from a beta to a alpha will place enormous burden on your shoulders. No one else will be able to see it. Not your family, not your girlfriend, no one. You will break down. You are bound to. It will be unique expirience. But trust me...it will be the best damn thing to happen to you. You will literally destroy your former self and rebuild. A new self, an improved version of you. All these difficulties, adversities, rejections will make you a better man. It will be difficult journey but keep going. Keep moving forward.
Finally, remember that you are not alone. You are a part of this red pill brethren. Similar to you, there are thousands of men out there in a similar phase as yours. You are not a special snowflake. You are just one of them. A man with a mission. A alpha-in-progress.
bossman9275 5y ago
Last week I took out a notebook after having that "last straw" mentality and started writing out a plan. A page dedicated to short term, 0-1 month, 2-3 months, and 3-6 months. Then on another sheet I did long term. Its not finished yet and will piece together more over time as I figure out things, but I basically wrote a brief analysis of some basic habits and routines I would be doing during each time period, and what I expected of myself around this time, once I got there.
This was about a week before I started looking into and posting in this sub and I said to myself, its going to take about 3-5 years for me to truly become who I want to and know I can be. Crazy how stuff like that happens.
johnpayne10 5y ago
Yup. I have done the same thing. You have to set timelines goals.3-5 years is a really long period of time. So short term, measurable goals help us to achieve a sense of accomplishment. Help us stay on track.
starkmatic 5y ago
I’m now 4 years after finding TRP. Haven’t been back here in years. It takes time and it’s mental fuckery but it’ll be worth it.
yammyha 5y ago
ZYZZ BRUHH WE'RE ALL GONNA MAKE IT
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samjsmrnm 5y ago
This sub is like having the answer book to life. Very thankful to have found it!!!
redwineit 5y ago
I like the analogy of playing on god Mode.
I also agree that it can and will be a stressful and monstrously difficult journey. But who says you can't enjoy the challenge.
I agree with your post, I just want to add that this shit can be fun if you let it. Fight tooth and nail for every victory. Keep fucking going, but while you do, recognise each little improvement, be present to each small success. Allow yourself to congratulate your self for continuing the fight. I find this positive frame of mind to be essential to stay inspired to succeed.
This journey is a big fucking mountain. And the view from the top is going to be glorious. Don't forget to turn around every now and then and look down and see how far you've come, then use it as motivation to keep you going to the top.
So fuck yes, play on godmode and RELISH it. Easy mode is fucking boring anyway.
Cheers.
johnpayne10 5y ago
Thanks. I totally agree with you.
Can you provide some tips on enjoying small victories? Sometimes it is easy to just be overwhelmed by the amount of changes we make and the slow results. I know that I am the kind of guy who just focuses on the top of the mountain. I cannot enjoy the journey to the fullest. How to enjoy the journey?
punchyson 5y ago
Bravo
Remember, men. "It pays to be a winner!"
Rian_Stone 5y ago
what is with these. constant pep talks. I know you're doing a self pep talk, pretending you're offering advice.
my question, why do you think of this place as a projection of yourself?
johnpayne10 5y ago
You need to develop a certain type of mindset to be able to change. Even a pep talk serves good every once in a while. If it helps you stay on course, I don't see any harm in it.
Besides I didn't see it that way. I mean I was genuinely attempting to offer advice. But now that you say this...maybe it is true. Idk. Maybe this was a self pep talk.
To reply your question, I don't see this place as a projection of myself. I do however see it as a must need dose of ideology that helps me to slowly and steadily get rid of my negative traits. And cultivate and work on my alpha traits. It is a slow process...but at least better than remaining stagnant and not improving.
Besides, do you think pep talks are bad? If yes, why?
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Rian_Stone 5y ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7mho_QpQIQ
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killermike-el-P 5y ago
No, we aren't on God mode. We are not special. We just quantify things other people also observe and know about.
johnpayne10 5y ago
When I say God mode, I don't mean we are special than other people. It just means that we work harder than most and are giving our 100% to whatever we do. It means we better ourselves in every manner possible, opt for the choice paying off in the long run rather the one which pays off in the short run.
'God mode' is just symbolic way to put it. It is comparing life with a video game. Most games offer easy, medium hard. The way I see it...TRP allows us a secret God mode. Highest difficulty, highest rewards.
Dickinson_Burns 5y ago
this is kinda what it feels like to me as a new-comer. Nothing here is "new" really, just a confirmation of things I didn't want to believe. I suppose it's all about accepting and learning to deal with these truths - tearing off the bandaid, instead of suffering slowly til the end as the weight of the world lays on your shoulders.
The "red pill" really is the perfect name for this idea. You don't want to believe it. I certainly don't. But it just seems to be empirically true.
I'm gonna start talking to a lot more women now. Not because I want to fuck (hard to see value in them past pussy at my current stage...I believe this is called the "anger" stage? Haven't quite found the reading for that yet) but because I want to find the exception to the RP rule, just once, some proof that will prove that the world isn't so. But I don't think I ever will. I hope it's just selection bias.
Oh well. Enough shit posting, back to the side bar.
johnpayne10 5y ago
You won't find a exception to core rp principles. Don't go around looking for it. As far as your anger phase is concerned, don't worry too much. It will pass. Women are fun loving, bubbly creatures. With time, you will learn to enjoy them.
Dickinson_Burns 5y ago
What other way can I construct my own opinion on the matter than by testing and observing? I can read about this all I want, but it's always easier to accept the easy (negative) things and deny the hard parts, especially when the easy "truths" contradict the hard ones.
The only way I see that I can solve my internal struggle is to see for myself, feel me?
I'm not gonna dedicate my life to it though, that would be counterproductive (both to the goal itself and outside it).
I appreciate the warning though. I hope it gets better, man.
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Brilliant post. Very inspiring
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markinsinz7 5y ago
This is an empowering post but ultimately fruitless. The gift of trp is a boon and a burden. I go around and can't see myself dating any one of these girls. Literally 1 red flag at least in all of them. Travel? random dick -check. College parties? Random dick-check, dance lessons? - random grinding -check. Literally I don't even wanna go on. This is 100% certainty they all slut around and we know it and the rest of the world just calls it "hookup culture and all is good" .
In the end, it really is Enjoy the decline.
johnpayne10 5y ago
You need to change your perspective towards girls. Most of them are slutty and shitty. But being able to enjoy them despite that is 'Enjoy the decline.'
You don't have to marry a slut. Just enjoy her and then dump her. Being red pilled does change your opinions on women drastically.
But ultimately, they are all cute, fun loving creatures who want to seek attention and get fucked by alphas. This is a part of their personality.
expansion101 5y ago
You say it will be difficult. This is correct. However, the statement does need to qualified.
To continue on with the journey, discipline must be used. After acting out the discipline so many times, doing so will become easier. And as such, so will the improvement from the actions that have needed discipline to do.
If one improvement is made, keep going. It will only stop if you stop.
johnpayne10 5y ago
Right. Continuously making improvements results in a snowball effect. Keep up the good momentum
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chrisinbim 5y ago
How bout you just adjust lift and make progress tho post doesn’t help ease the situation
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