Approaching after the gym is great. Nothing like feeling the top of the world as the endorphins rush into your blood stream and make you feel like Superman.
That was what I was feeling. I was going to get a BCAA drink from the health store but I stopped myself. I challenged myself to approach one woman before I step in the store. It was the first approach of the day, nothing out of the ordinary.
Girl#1 left but I was taking charge of the interaction. Even though she wanted to go I was practicing grounding myself. She left and that was my approach.
The Vitamin Shoppee didn't have the drink I wanted so I went to a GNC. Approached another girl before entering. Opened Girl#2, she stayed for a bit but left after I asked her about herself.
Got my drink and saw the sky. Dark and cloudy, it was about to pour hard. I continued, if it rained, it rained. No big deal. I was approaching girls here and there, getting rejected, along came this Gorgeous Hispanic girl in a yellow dress.
Opened her, Girl#3 while I was walking in front of her. Locked eye contact, and gave her a smile. The set went well. Lots of teasing about her ethnicity. She was asking me things, which was great. Closed strong but she has an international number, not sure if it was going to work. Oh well.
Right across the street I opened Girl#4. She was sitting on the steps of building. I noticed her MET(Museum tag) on her shirt and made an assumption about her not being from NY. Instead of asking where she was off the bat I made an assumption that she came from Mississippi. I had a cocky smirk on my face when I said and her eyes lit up. She told me to guess again and I said California.
Bingo. We started to chat, she was asking me all these things. I was teasing her about her being in California. Right before I try to close her, her family shows up. Here's where I fucked up. I should've just gotten her IG or number in front of her family since the rapport was there. My second mistake was that I didn't plan the logistics. She left but I felt great about myself.
At this point I was on. I was opening girls left and right. Even though I was getting rejected and getting fake numbers I felt like I was aware. I was definitely in "state" and in "flow". My approach anxiety was gone and my vibe was amazing.
It felt as if I entered a cheat code and gave myself and incredible confidence boost. Girl blew me out? Fuck that! There is another girl a few feet behind you that I'll open. Daygaming in NYC is amazing. I was smirking the whole time. I don't know why but I had this grin on my face. I was having fun. Game should be about fun. You should be having fun while gaming. I wish I can call upon this energy but I knew it wasn't going to last.
It started to rain......
It wasn't heavy at first and guess what? I still approached in the rain, without an umbrella. No fucks given.
Then it started to rain like it never rained before......
Now I was screwed. No one in the streets. Disappointed, I chilled at a cafe and read a book. Hour and a half later, it stopped but a little drizzle here and there.
Unfortunately, the rain and the inactivity killed my momentum. It was a little difficult to open. I didn't give up. I went out, approached got rejected and smiled. The smile was there but the energy and momentum was gone. I still opened, got two more numbers, possible coffee date on Thursday.
Today was great. I really had a great session. My eye contact was on point as well as my word flow. I'm getting better at opening, a lot better. The thing I still need to work on is getting the women invested and making her attracted. That will come, I will get there. Perfect practice makes perfect. For the people who want to daygame, just go out and do it. Google is your friend, there are tons of resources out there. The best resource is field experience. It's okay to be rejected. It's okay to not approach every women you see. We're human, we are not robots.
Whenever I see a hot ass girl I tell myself to not be a little bitch and talk to her. My mind is telling me reasons not to approach.
"You look fat, you need to be built"
"You don't have you're life together..."
"She's out of your league..."
All these excuses pop in my head. Then I tell myself I have every fucking right to talk to her. Do you know why? Because....
I'm a fucking MAN
What other reason do you need? You're a man. She's a woman. You want to fuck her. END OF STORY. If she doesn't like you? She blows you off? She rejects you? She doesn't give you her number? Fake number? Ghost you?
MOVE THE FUCK ON.
Finallyawake_ 5y ago
I like reading your progress, keep it up!
I tried cold approach first time in my life last weekend and the anxiety is real. I had to trick my brain of not getting enough time to react and make excuses. Once a suitable target was spotted, I went for it. I’m amazed how I could keep my cool during the interaction and after it ended, the adrenaline rush hit and felt almost like stopping my heart!
Wherewereyouin62 5y ago
You talking about the vitamin shoppe on 85th?
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Nocryingok 5y ago
You can only be a creep if you're unnactractive or uncalibrated. I have an uncle that always sounds cool no matter what and when
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Nocryingok 5y ago
so in this case you're uncalibrated and that's why it's creepy. Stick to being attractive and calibrated, you'll be fine
JosephBosa 5y ago
Not all the time. If you are good looking and/or charismatic/smooth/outgoing then you become the womanizer/Chad.
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Obviously this is the rare case but ive seen it happen. My old coworker used to flirt with lots of women at work and he built quite the reputation and got lots of preselection because of it. This was at a restaurant/bar though and he was a waiter so it is a bit different.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
Facts. It's not good to have a reputation.
porkpotatopie 5y ago
Fitting username and advice.
clausternn 5y ago
Any advice for how to avoid that? Like a maximum limit on the number of sets / how often you should do it?
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ThatDudeEric90 5y ago
I have a personal rule of never approaching where I frequent IE gym, work, or massage therapist. These are my sanctuary to improve upon myself.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
Definitely. You're right on that point.
BostonPillParty 5y ago
Good to have these rules. Rules = discipline = more freedom actually.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
I see someone been watching some Jocko.
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throwaway-aa2 5y ago
OP, I think it's good you're doing these challenges, and I also think it's good you're writing down your progress. The main thing is that you're going out and confronting your fears, regardless of progress.
That being said, until you start making more solid progress, these sort of field reports fit better on the seduction subreddit, or a digital diary of sorts.
oytrp 5y ago
Agreed. OP should be spending more time "Getting his life together", instead of obsessing about girls and telling us that he talked to 3 people that had no interest in him.
Killing__Time_ 5y ago
Maybe. But I think it's a good thing to see the struggle, so I can relate to it, as opposed to seeing the final product and getting daunted by it. There's something about a sculptor chipping away at a hunk of rock that makes people want to stop and stare, appreciate the effort and imagine them doing it too, than to look at the final product and keep on guessing whether David was sculpted by the gods.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
I'm sorry you feel that way.
FatmanO 5y ago
I disagree, I like reading his daily reports to my morning coffe. he should continue. SOmething to look forward to in the morning
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Youngyoda89 5y ago
Lmfao. I was thinking the exact same thing while reading this.
I would really appreciate if you post something. I get a lot out of your posts.
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Youngyoda89 5y ago
Thanks brother I’ll be on the look out for it. I re-read your old “how to” become a mega Chad for shits and gigs. It makes me wonder- these days, since you’ve become a 9/10, do you still get rejected from women?
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Youngyoda89 5y ago
Interesting. I’ve said this before but my ltr (that I got with pre-trp days) had 150k followers before I jealously and covertly disapproved of it and as a result she deleted it. Now days I wish she hadn’t so I could brag about it with actual proof. Not that that actually matters anyway. I had about 30 lbs more mass back then and I was 16% body fat.
What you said just then really hit the nail on the head of what I was looking for. Only a certain type of girl will find me extremely attractive. Now this ALL makes sense. You remind me of myself but I’m not understanding something. What do you mean by “fuckboy” kind of vibe?
Now that you’ve mentioned it- I used to pull thick girls with bubble butts, when I had more mass. And now it’s more of petite girls with beautiful faces. But as you’ve mentioned- it’s not every single girl it’s only a certain type.
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Youngyoda89 5y ago
Oh I see. How old are you? I was thinking you were my age. I’m 27 but jb and harry styles look young as fuck.
Hm. This makes sense. I believe there is a ceiling though. Once you reach a certain level it won’t make a difference if you surpass it even further (to the girls.)
It always seems like I break more necks when I’m cut (skinny with clothes on) than when I was thick. I chalked it off to the noticeable increase in facial aesthetics that I got from cutting. Although I’m fully aware I look a lot smaller; I prefer the cut look because I look better naked.
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DropDeadTyrant 5y ago
aah my man, I love hispanic girls. sadly, I've only ever talked to 3. I'm going to have to upvote just for that and hope by the end of this year I hit tons of cold approaches as well.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
Go for it. You may never know what's going to happen.
priestfrommiddleeast 5y ago
I second that. Easiest girls to day game without having to second guess attraction are Eastern Europeans and Hispanics
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