I understand your worry completely. I am so sorry you had this happen. Its a true sign of the hypocrisy of what feminism has become.

I will say that on a professional level I am fortunate not to have anything to worry about. On a personal level there are many things about myself people would not understand and this is just another one of them. There are things I just keep separate in the various social circles I am a part of. Some things I just don't discuss here and the things here I don't discuss in other places. Even social media that I use to keep in contact with family is filtered and bland. No one has a complete picture of what I besides BetterHalf, and I keep that close as to what matters. I don't think there's anything wrong or even 'cowardly' in doing so. It's no one business and protecting your personal space is fine. I am just sorry you had to go through that.

Everyone: keep in mind that "having people know" isn't where the problems end. I know a user that was doxxed. They and their family were subject to random phone calls that were insulting and demeaning. Parents, relatives - all being harassed by strangers, and being told that this individual had to be confronted and controlled. This doesn't only affect you - it affects everyone that can be tied to you, your work, and your community.

Lady_Motido - I don't think you were overreacting, and if you need anything, let me know.

I think I'm more "afraid" of online peeps than real people. By afraid I mean how I react, not what they might do to me. I have a short fuse, you see. IRL people know me and know I don't take kindly to unwanted criticism, though I usually get my point across very calmly. The internet is a different story though. Some of the comments I've seen about RPW are just plain cruel and it's hard to contain myself when I really would like to let them know what I think, but of course, that would give me away, now wouldn't it?

i only have one reddit account but i've been pretty careful about not including too much personal info in my posts here, and i don't use this exact username anywhere else. i'd never ever post photos of myself on reddit. i actually don't post many images of myself online in general. reverse image searching has become way too common nowadays and it makes me anxious.

i haven't been active in many other subs but i don't think many people have viewed my post history cause i've never gotten any negative comments or questions about being a rpw.

my mom would be thrilled about me gradually becoming more traditional, my dad would be indifferent and my bf seems accepting of it although he's not a trp member. at the moment i don't have many friends or a career so i'm not too worried about those areas of my life being negatively impacted.

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I'm not from USA, so maybe it's different, but I'm posting with my real name. Maybe it's easy for me to do so, since I have no career yet and I'll have to build it while being obviously antifeminist. It's cool though, I got some ideas. And if no one hires me and put my skills to good use, their feminist selves will have to support me for the rest of their lives (yay socialism!)

But somehow I doubt it will happen, because I still get work right now (so does my bf).

I'll just go on with being honest, it's been working for me well so far. I also do some art, and don't think being a bit controversial is bad for an artist. On the contrary, this is where you can probably use it.

lol its amazing

if it was bullshit dress-up BDSM or you were a gay man who took it in the ass you could shout it from the rooftops, but just being in a male led relationship is "embarrassing" and we have to hide. this is why the female herd always wins, because women arent mavericks

fuck everyone else in the ass. anyone that doesnt like my relationship can eat a bowl of dicks and die

This is one reason I browse this sub... it's easy to forget what RP is like from the female perspective.

Thanks.

I simply cannot imagine feeling like you do Lady_Motido... it never even hits my radar actually. I would almost never voluntarily associate with anyone who fits this description, business or otherwise.

Why the hell would I?

Don't want to do business with me because of your opinions about MY PERSONAL LIFE? Buh Bye then... Enjoy watching your competition profit from my participation.

Going to socially berate or shun me for being RP? Thanks in advance for not forcing me to do the leg work in filtering you out of my life.

It' s like that Sean Connery quote from The Rock. "Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen."

This actually reinforces why RP makes so much sense. I almost certainly should give at least a couple of fucks about the opinions of those around me who can influence my success, and I can get a sense of that from an excellent female partner that would likely escape me left to my own masculine mindset. Likewise, I bring a male-based "pretty sure I don't care" counterweight to the fear being generated by your concerns.

Perfectly complementary points of view like this often lead to the best solutions in my experience.

This account is old, one I made years back when a friend introduced me to reddit. My username can easily be figured out by people I know, but I've invested so much time and energy here that I'm not willing to make a new account just to post here. If someone takes issue with it, I'll deal with it when it happens. So far, though, I've only gotten passive-aggressive behavior from my roommate over it.

My family would actually be pretty excited, I guess. Most of them are fairly traditional, so they'd take no issues with it. My writing fans and some friends, however, may take offense to me having a different POV than them (and openly so).

I get worried, but I figure if my friends are going to abandon me over a difference in opinion, they aren't friends worth keeping.

I'm a millennial so the odds aren't in my favor. Most people my age can't fathom the idea that this inflated feminism/borderline feminaziism they subscribe to can be detrimental to the delicate dynamic of intimate relationships. I tend to keep my thoughts to myself and simply choose not to participate when I know my friends are just going to a bar to get blacked out and hook up with guys. I do have a little bit of FOMO but I know in the long run at least I can respect myself and the decisions I make. Being a RPW is definitely not something I make known to people IRL.

Hey there. Just thought I would add my two cent to it. Get yourself a healthy dose of paranoia and never post anything about yourself online where other people can track you down. Anonymity is the best part of the internet and the thought that people would track me down takes away the fun.

Dang, that's scary; you can never be too careful!

I guess really that my life probably wouldn't change. I'm old and could retire tomorrow, but I like my job and it pays me a ton of money, so I'd rather keep it. My boss is roughly my same age, owns the company and has also been married 30 years; they have a very traditional marriage, too. I don't think he'd care much.

My family and friends already know I'm weird and really nothing would shock them now. Yeah, I'm fine if it happens but it would be inconvenient.

I know I over dramatized the whole ordeal

No, reverse image searching your stuff to find your online accounts is pretty fucking creepy.

My family would actually be pretty excited if they found out, however, my friends won't be. My female friends are all feminists. My best friend, also a feminist, knows I'm RP and thank god she doesn't let it affect our friendship.

I'd rather find out people disdain me because I choose to be a worthy spouse for my man, helps me in culling the unworthy from my life ;)

I can see where the idea of it being an issue in your professional life could crop up, but hiding it feels like being ashamed of it, and I really can't grasp that concept.

My friends would, if you'll mind my French, shit bricks. My employers would have no idea what it means, and my coworkers would look down on me. It sucks. Boyfriend doesn't know, it would freak him out because he hates the people on TRP subreddit. He doesn't disagree with the ideas, he just isn't bitter towards women like some of the guys there.

I had to make a new account for RPW, because I don't want anyone finding me. Oh well!

In all honesty, I'm not worried much about my friends and family finding out I'm red. What I am slightly worried about (to the point of not even discussing where I'm from with SH) is SRS/TBP finding out who I am IRL. I don't need a stalker.

Firstly, I am sorry that happened to you. I can completely understand the anxiety.

I had originally wanted this name to be anonymous, but my friends and husband who are active on TRP know me too well, so I gave up on that pretty quickly. I tend to get embarrassed when every little silly thing I say is there for someone else to read and roll their eyes at, but it hasn't seemed to stop me from contributing yet. I do get nervous about friends from other subs stumbling upon RPW and figuring out my username. It's not like it's a huge deal, but I don't want to deal with it. I don't need people arguing with me about my relationship.

Basically, I don't think I would mind people figuring out that I'm a member of RPW, but I would have a problem with people in my life and strangers knowing my actual username and the specifics of what I talk about here. I am far more candid here than I would be with anyone besides close friends, and the relative anonymity makes me more comfortable in doing so.