1: Food. Make sure it's made in advance, wholesome and easy to eat quickly. Easy to eat makes a big difference.

2: Sex. Make sure he gets it when he's in the mood. Men do better when they have sex fairly regularly, but his mood could be killed by stress, so when it hits, it will hit hard.

3: Space. When he's home and working, imagine there's a bubble around him. Even if you're in the room, be quiet and patient.

4: Errands and secretarial tasks. If he needs to make a few phone inquiries like "is X in tomorrow?" or "what dates work best for this meeting?", offer to make them for him. Same for filing things, moving things around, sending emails, etc.

5: Get stuff ready. Iron his shirts and hang his clothes out for him. Make sure his food is ready to go into his bag when he's having lunch away. Do everything you can so he doesn't have to worry about little tasks.

Good luck! I hope it all comes good and in a few years he's working 30 hour weeks from home. :)

I would be worried about growing apart when so much time is spent working by one or both in a relationship.

I would try to find ways to connect in those special ways when there is nothing but the two of you being aware only of each other. Sex sometimes can get weird when you lose this closeness. It can feel mechanical and cold.

Taking a bath together if you both can fit in the tub with a glass of wine or whatever helps you unwind.

Mainly having him all to yourself without talk about work and family stuff.

In our busy lives it is really easy to end up strangers in a relationship because each person is pulled in different directions.

You see this alot when one partner is in the military and is gone for months at a time.

Wonderful suggestions about caring for him specifically but I'm worried about the "caring for the both of you as a couple" and also about your own emotional and physical needs for connection and intimacy.

100 hours a week for two years when there are only 168 hours in a week to start with is kind of worrisome. His health could be affected.

Food and sex.

This might sound kind of frivolous, but food. Leave baked goods or make some protein bars for the office. Drop them off fresh on a simple, nice serving plate. NOT TUPPERWARE. Even if he never sees your face because you've only got time to swing in, dump the goods, and speed to work/wherever, it's a practical "I love you" at his convenience. He will know they're from you.

I wake up practically in the middle of the night to bake things for my man to have at the office. Let me tell you, he wakes up at 5am to a house that already smells like oatmeal raisin cookies, his day is off to a fantastic start. The smell of baking is as good as the taste. Believe me.

Make bread. It's so simple, fast, and an enormous comfort. I give my husband bread at work all the time and all the guys are always asking when I'll send more loaves in. I usually drop them off warm wrapped in brown paper so they don't get soggy. I can give you a recipe that yields 2-3 loaves and takes 2-2 1/2 hours start to finish with about 10 of those minutes being hands on if you're interested, no there's no kneading. But girl, cook! Bring him hot homemade meals every chance you get.

He's going to be working hundred hour weeks. This doesn't mean you will have a hundred hours a week worth of support to lend. You may, and you may not but wish you did. Either way, be a soft spot for him to land at the end of the day. Being dressed and made up when he drags himself in very late or while he's holed up on his home office still count, but he'll probably never mention it.

And sex. He's going to be living at the office, so you know this means you have a perfect opportunity to make it a more pleasant work environment for him. Find a slow time for him and visit wearing slutty lingerie and belted trench coat is practically required at least once, right?

Sexting and nudes may or may not be your thing, but everyone likes humor. Send him silly things or funny things occasionally. Any way to lighten the mood in ways that don't distract him. You're his fun, sweet, happy gal.

Kiss him hello and goodby every single day. Every. Single. Day.

It's going to be hard to watch him have bad days and bad weeks. There's little you can do in some situations. He took this on because he has a dream he wants to make real. He chose the hard work, he set his jaw, and he's going to be a better man on the other side of it. Sounds like you have a great and driven man in your life. This is a great opportunity for him.

Edit: bread.

5-6 cups flour

1.5 tbs yeast

1.5 tbs salt

3 cups water

If you have a thermometer, make the water 100-105 degrees. If no thermo., just kinda warm. Not too hot, it kills the yeast. Kind of like warm bath water. If it feels almost the same temp as your hand it's probably good.

Put the water and the salt in a large bowl and stir. Add the yeast and stir a few laps around the bowl is good. Cover for 5 minutes or so with plastic wrap (loosely) or a kitchen towel. After 5 minutes (or ten or fifteen or however long because I occasionally get busy and forget!) add 5 cups of flour and mix with a spoon or fork until a loose, very sticky dough forms. It doesn't take long, just get the pockets of flour mixed in.

Put the plastic wrap or towel back over it and wait about an hour or 90 minutes.

Preheat the oven to 450. Spray a bread pan with cooking spray and scoop about half of the dough into it in a relatively uniform-shaped log. Bake at 450 for 25-30 minutes uncovered. Dump out of pan immediately. It's going to be hotter than the sun for about 15 minutes. These keep well on the counter unwrapped. If you cut a chunk off, put the open/cut end down on a cutting board or plate or whatever and slip a paper lunch bag over it.

He most likely will want help on the basics in life. Look into Maslow's hierarchy of needs to understand the things that will have the biggest impact. He will be spending most of his time in the self-actualization level. To compliment this, you should work from the bottom of the hierarchy up. Focus on home life and expand upwards along the hierarchy.

Dress nicely and be sexy when he gets home from work. Initiate sex (physically, not hinting) and don't take it personal if he is tired. Food, and drink ready for him when he gets home. Clean clothes laid out for him in the morning, with a hint of your perfume on them. Basically, make home a haven of rest where he only has to deal with real family problems and not drama. Help him with his social calendar and remind him of important dates. Trust me, if he is anything like me, those things will make him appreciate you more than you will ever be able to understand.

If you knew your man would be working 100+ hour weeks for the next couple years, what would you do to help him?

Everything

so I've got plans to spoil him. Other than that I'm at a loss.

Ask him. Tell him youre prepared to cut your hours or anyhting he thinks may help. Ask him "what do you need from me?"

Make sure all of the house work is done while he is away. Other than minor tidying, cooking, and things that are unavoidably day-to-day: you should not be focusing on keeping house when he gets home. When he gets home, the focus should be on spending time together and helping him to unwind.

Be ready to greet him when he gets home. There is nothing worse than coming home to be mildly ignored. Chances are he will be exhausted and want to relax, so exude that energy. Be calming and soothing, listen instead of yammer on about yourself.

Anticipate his needs, have the groceries you need for meals you will be making him. Pre-make snacks, and do food prep so that you can focus your energies on his needs as much as possible.

It's going to be difficult, and it will take a lot of energy and effort to support him fully and selflessly during this time. Talk with him and the two of you can determine if you need to cut back your hours.

Good luck!

As someone who has put in the 100+ hour weeks to build something for family, I am really heartened to see this kind of pre-emptive effort. It will really go a long way.

I want to address potential pitfalls you should keep in mind. Remember some TRP basics which may or may not apply in your case (and for which you might not need a reminder): just because he doesn't spend as much time with you doesn't mean you should feel neglected. If you are feeling like you need more attention, schedule it so you get it from him (rather than anyone else) even if you have to wait. The usual.

Finally. I can tell you that all hours are not created equal. Ramping up from 40 to 60 a week is relatively easy. 60 to 80 takes some planning and reourcefulness. 80 to 100 takes a determined effort and regular assessment to ensure home life, health and wellness needs are met. 100+ for an ongoing period is challenging to say the least and I would be surprised if there are not teething problems on the way. For your part, if you see red flags, point them out in a matter of fact way and let him decide how to deal. There is no need to sugarcoat any issues you see but no need to dwell.

Some of the best advice is already in this thread. Just straight up ask what you can do to help. It goes without saying that when you are able to snatch a few minutes together you should snuggle up and keep your physical bond as strong as possible. Good luck and again it is heartening to see this kind of support for a family effort.