For landing a respectable man of substance. As we know, the questions we ask define ourselves before they affect the person being asked. What are the best ways to word certain questions to men of means?
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For landing a respectable man of substance. As we know, the questions we ask define ourselves before they affect the person being asked. What are the best ways to word certain questions to men of means?
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aussiedollface2 5y ago
I wouldn’t suggest firing out questions interview style (not that you would), but rather just trying to subtly gauge things via what he says and does, and what he doesn’t say and do.
I tried to ask about important things, but also show a genuine interest in the topic. So instead of just “what do you do for work?” you might say:
-What is your job? That’s really interesting. Did you always want to do that? Aaah so was XYZ your favourite subject at school? That’s amazing, I was never that great at maths/science/whatever myself. What do you like about your job? etc. just whatever flows naturally in a conversational way of course. I think you can tell a lot about a man from the added depth to the conversation, rather than just scraping the surface topics xo
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amaionyi 5y ago
is it a red flag if they have no opinion on politics?
cynicalhousewife 5y ago
The biggest thing is shared life goals along with compatibility. Compatibility is more than something that can be expressed on paper. It's rather complex. You have to be able to exist with someone day to day and to be able to respect one another's personal boundaries and communicate effectively.
You can share the same life goals as a person and have all the same beliefs on paper but not be compatible.
I think this should be the focus when vetting someone. I think I could overlook some differences on paper if such a person had the same life goals and was compatible with me day to day. You also have to be realistic, no relationship is perfect.
Kara__El 5y ago
The dating world has really shifted and almost everyone I know who is actively seeking a relationship has an online dating presence. I believe this topic is one of the major perks of this shift. Before I even MET my husband, I knew all of the following, because I was allowed to just ask.
It was SO MUCH easier to get to know him, his interests and personality and sense of humor, once I knew these things.
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amaionyi 5y ago
these are really good! most men like to shy away from these questions though, or have no opinions...
Kara__El 5y ago
Fortunately, many of these are required fields for online dating apps.
curious__kitty 5y ago
Real talk: where would we be without librarians? They enriched life so much growing up and are still so helpful now ❤️
red_philosopher 5y ago
I wonder how many eyebrows got raised at the sheer lack of social tact and bluntness of these questions. XD
Edit: Library Sciences are important, I'd be surprised that people get weirded out by that.
Kara__El 5y ago
Nah. These came up either in the app or just in natural conversations. Eyebrows would get raised if you asked in person. Lol.
red_philosopher 5y ago
I should go out and just ask these questions point blank and see how it goes for fun hahaha.
Kara__El 5y ago
Please do and report back. Most dating apps require the basics: marital status, pets, kids, smoking, alcohol, religion, politics, career. It's pretty handy to not even have to bring them up.
kittxxn 5y ago
I think this is a fascinating question that I have been considering since last night. I think it warrants its own post. However, I think more important than the questions to ask the man are the questions to ask yourself about the man.
amaionyi 5y ago
this is more for getting to know someone brand new!
CalvinRichland 5y ago
I don't even know what you are asking. Do you mean how do you figure out how much money guys make?