This is great advice for men too! Perhaps even more so for women. From the outside looking in, women seem to be more enabled to have negative personalities because their SMV does not take as much of a direct hit as a result. Orbiters will still tell them how nice they are even if it isn't true just to get in their pants. This changes once the wall hits. But the wall won't matter nearly as much to a genuinely sweet girl because guys will want her for who she is on the inside.

Now if only I could find such a girl. ):

"Who you are" is determined by "how you behave". If "who you are" is a bitch, that just means you behave like a bitch. You can, just as easily, not behave like a bitch. And like magic, who you are will no longer be a bitch. There is no "self", just the sum of your behaviors.

Don't forget, you can work to improve your physical health.

Self-control is an excellent virtue to develop. But it is made easier by having fewer internal storms to quell. I have found that my moods have become more stable and easy to control the more I have become careful about eating a healthy diet.

The one thing that has helped me more than anything is starting to just walk away from negative things. There is nothing to be won by convincing someone that you are right and they are wrong. I would rather enjoy someone's company than constantly hear gossip or negative things, when that sort of thing comes up in conversation I don't participate.

When friendships or other relationship become draining or negative, I walk away from them. I know life is too short to be bothered with people that whine and complain about everything, so the only thing to be gained is time to do other more productive things with - things that better you mentally or physically.

Once I took the red pill I did cut all of the most caustic people out of my life. I didn't realize how much they were negatively affecting me. Others I simply avoid. I've found that I'm much happier just concentrating on my husband & a select few friends.

My advice to younger women is that you aren't on a pedestal, but you aren't in the gutter either. Strong feminine women with a respect for others and a respect for themselves make great human beings, and they can find quality men to marry.

Loved this! You are so right, RPDarcy. I could go on and on about how people these days are essentially chronic mental and emotional masturbaters but I'll spare everyone. Along with what has already been posted about diet I'd add now your triggers. It's amazing how easy it is to fly off the handle even when you're trying to be calm. One second you have it under control and the next you're throwing a fit or playing the "woe is me" dialog in your head. So know your triggers. Know what will set you off and stop it before it happens by walking away or changing the subject, etc. Take note of them. If someone triggers you more often than others they are probably not useful to you. If you find a topic sets you off avoid it in certain company. I have been trying to write up a blog post about how important role models are and in the case of self-improvement especially. Ask yourself "what would this person do?" of someone you find inspiring. Compare yourself to people you feel are worthy of being looked up to. And don't underestimate smiling. It is close to an automatic pick-me-up for you and those around you.