Basically, is it just a fine line that one must find? My understanding from TRP is that you want your intentions clear from the beginning and always escalate. But how do you also convey the message that you also have other options? Does it just happen by passing shit test or is there also a vibe that needs to be given off?
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AFPJ 8y ago
It's not a contradiction or a fine line, it's the difference between possessive, needy desire and undemanding desire.
To help you get a better idea, it's the difference between how you act when pursuing the following:
Approaching or dating is like a fighting ring: winners aren't made in it, they're merely recognized there. If your sense of dignity is intact you will understand why you can't make someone like you - because making them like you at the expense of who you are is not worth it. This only works if you relentlessly improve yourself, but it's 110% worth it.
Besides, a woman is never yours - you can't lose her. It's just your turn, maybe for the rest of her life, who knows.
More importantly, who cares? There's one permanent actor in your life: you - everyone else may come and go.
Or have you come all over their face and then go, it really doesn't matter. Your show goes on either way.
machimus 8y ago
Eye contact.
Braaaaaapp 8y ago
I read a post not too long ago that was saying you should be looking around when you're talking to a girl to show that you're always looking for someone else if she doesn't work out. He called it a "hoe radar" don't remember the post but I thought it was pretty informative, there was a lot more information in there but the basis was showing outcome dependance to whoever you're talking to.
RPMahoutsukai 8y ago
If you spend time thinking about it, you'll really start "getting" how it works. Trial and error.
You can start from understanding the fact that abundance mentality (full of options) means you aren't actually invested into any girl before she proves her worth. You don't lose anything if you don't get anything going with her. This is different to (normal) scarcity mentality, where you think you'll lose a chance at this awesome girl if you don't do something to attract her.
So, a normal kind of guy sees a girl he's interested in and feels like he'll waste an opportunity if he doesn't do something to impress her. He's already invested just because he saw her, but she doesn't know him yet! That's the imbalance that gives off the "needy" vibe.
A guy with abundance mentality sees a girl he's interested in and that's it for him. She's now part of a group "girls worth talking to", as opposed to "girls not worth talking to" - the ones he's not interested with. When he engages her in a conversation, he's not invested in her, and therefore just... well, talks, with no strings attached, no hooks, no neediness. It not only gives off this "outcome independence" vibe that many girls like, it's also just awesome by itself, it's a cool, chill-out, comfortable conversation the girl rarely gets with a guy (because usually they're all tryharding to get her attention and it's really not pleasant when it happens for a 1000th time
BrunoOh 8y ago
You do this by demonstrating outcome independence. You can and should make your interest clear, but you must also have no problem moving on if she does not reciprocate or if she throws up too many red flags.
PliskinRed 8y ago
How, for example?
kingofpoplives 8y ago
You never try to bargain with her, and you never show any trace of disappointment or emotion when she does something that resists your desired outcome.
It all comes back to frame control. If your goal is to build a solid plate rotation, but she wants a committed bf, is she able to shift you into her frame and get you to consider commitment? How do you react when you try to touch her arm but she pulls it away? Or when you invite her back to your place but she says she can't come? Or when you ask her out Tuesday but she says she has plans?
Stuff like this comes up all the time during the seduction and escalation process. It is very unattractive to women when they can easily break your frame and get you to start making concessions. You should be willing to walk away (move on to another target) before you break your frame.
LaPiluleRouge 8y ago
You tell her you're going to place X, she's welcome to come. You go whatever she wants to do.
Grifter32 8y ago
By not giving her all your attention. This goes back to holding the room. Talk to all the girls. Abundance mentality. Let the one know you're interested, but never lose frame.
BrunoOh 8y ago
You can't, really. It's inner game - a vibe people pick up. You actually have to be okay with losing her.
Atheisticles 8y ago
Actually, this is where body language comes in.
PliskinRed 8y ago
I understand.. thanks!
RedditArgument 8y ago
I'm a bit late to the party here but an example would be walking away and finding another girl/group when she starts doing something you don't like such as flirting with another guy.
Maybe she'll come back to you but you dgaf, idgaf is the most basic definition you can get of outcome independence.
Wolfwoodd 8y ago
Don't over-text her.. even if she initiates the texting, only make plans with her once or twice a week, at first. Don't get upset with her if she has to reschedule. Be willing to walk away if she is being irrational, disrespectful, etc. Don't stop dating other women or assume monogamy unless she brings it up and you agree to it. All of these things are subtle, but they subcommunicate that you have options and women will pick up on that.
OrpheusV 8y ago
3 - 2 rule is in full effect on this. For every three texts from her, you can do two back.
Wolfwoodd 8y ago
I typically only text to set up logistics (i.e. where / when will we meet next) or to answer a direct question. Other then that, I tend to ignore texts from girls.
cmiovino 8y ago
Be sexually interested, but emotionally and even logistically aloof.
Anytime you're with her, be sexual and have intent. Anytime you're not with her, you should have things to do, even if it's sleeping, eating well, and lifting. You should be doing other things such as hanging out with your male friends, traveling, or engaging in hobbies.
Her hamster mind will spin when you're 'out with friends' or 'busy this weekend'. This spikes her interest - you sexually want her and she knows that, but it appears you have better options. Options are just other things you choose to engage in.. hobbies, social activities, etc. Even though a girl will go nuts when you have other female options on the table, she will almost equally go as bonkers when you choose a weekend with your male friends in some remote city for a vacation and she seemingly can't get your attention.
tepper2 8y ago
By having other options and keeping this in mind at all times. We call this abundance mentality and outcome independence.
You don't care how she responds to your advances because you have other options queued up anyway.
Internalize outcome independence and abundance mentality and you'll give off that vibe.
secret_barber 8y ago
Like a bee attracted to a flower, your interest is fleeting. A woman presents herself and attracts your attention. If she a good candidate, your interest will be maintained. Women know this is how it works, that you are always looking at other flowers.
Likewise, if she isn't into you, she will make herself less available.
The key is simply to remain aware of your options and the quality/availability of your current interest, then act accordingly.
Eknecron 8y ago
I usually say something like, "I meet a lot of women but you're always the first to come to mind, and I'm not exactly sure why."
It demonstrates you have options while also demonstrating you think she's special. Which is just what they want. They want the alpha guy who COULD get all the girls but chooses them instead.
CatFancier4393 8y ago
You raise a very good question and this art is very subtle and nuanced. So much so that I cannot give specific answers but can only give a general response. Reward good behavior positively and ignore/punish bad behavior.
She asks you to hang out or goes in for the kiss? Say yes and go all out. But if she talks down to you or otherwise demeans you do not give her your affection. This would be the sign of someone who is weak and desperate.
What you talk about is totally a vibe women feel. It's not how you act, but who you are that attracts them. This makes things complicated and takes time. There is no "cheat code" as you will.
favours_of_the_moon 8y ago
You show sexual interest.
A bitch will ALWAYS, NO MATTER WHAT think you just want to bang her. Her pussy is such an irresistibly sweet honey pot that you are hypnotized by it and led around by your nose.
I mean, she can be ugly like Andrea Dworkin, but if you need something from her, or if you say HI when you walk past, THAT'S what she thinks. So if you try to tell her you like her "as a person," of course she's gonna think you are her bitch.
RidleySmith 8y ago
Actually have other options, she'll pick up on it. Have her see other girls flirting with you is the best demonstration. Sounds like you're trying to pretend you have other options. You don't fake your SMV, you build it... Unless you're a total loser who doesn't want to improve themselves but just wants some quick stupid trick to get them results
IWontpayyourprice666 8y ago
Actually become aloof and full of options.