This girl feels the need to copy what I do because she's seen TRP principles in effect. she's always asking me why don't I let her get away with anything... but now she feels like she needs to compete with me
for example
she wanted to meet up to get food at night yesterday but I already made plans with one of my friends so I said no I'm seeing someone.
fast forward to today, I hit her up telling her we should get food today but then she hit me up with the same line I used that shes seeing some people and I'm 100% sure she's not
How to deal with this
SiLeet 5y ago
Do you know what a shit test is?
redhawkes 2 5y ago
You're operating in her frame. The second you react overtly, it's over.
She's mirroring you, soft next until she initiates. Punish bad, reward good behavior.
Rejection is death to chicks, she's sparing her ego.
stripethrowaway 5y ago
Simple. Go get another plate that doesn't play games.
That_Deaf_Guy 5y ago
"No, I'm seeing someone" Should've been "not tonight l have plans." Don't feel the need to explain or justify yourself.
Stop overthinking this, she's just a plate. You're probably showing you care too much.
BornOnMay3rd 5y ago
Just say "ok" and wait for her response
WIA20XX 5y ago
If she is truly a plate, then you call the next plate on the roster and you don't feel like you need to counter her "move". It's not your problem that she's pissed off. That's her problem.
The point of having multiple sources for hooking up is to not get bogged down in these games.
Your reaction should be, "Oh, okay Betty is busy, lemme call Joan or Peggy." You take the girl at her word because you recognize she doesn't live for you. Even if she is trying to punish you, you still take her at her word, and call the next chick.
If this girl is your favorite on the roster, then you are lying to yourself about the nature of the relationship.
Instead, you are paying so much attention to this one source, that you notice that she is mirroring your language. So she's put you in reaction.
Both players and alphas don't react to antics.
The Man makes the woman react.
That's the principle, even though it's hard to always put it into practice. You'll find yourself reacting when you know you shouldn't. But...
The beauty of spinning plates is that you don't find yourself in this situation - where you care about one girl's feelings. Where how she feels affects you.
Why? In a true spinning plates scenario, every girl is replaceable.
One girl is as good as another, and adding more to the team is preferable to solving one particular girl's emotional needs.
Let hey boyfriend figure out her issues. That's not your role.
Ohboohoolittlegirl 5y ago
Drop her.. Not worth the fucking thought