My LTR showed up an hour late at my room for me to drive her to a restaurant. She didn't send me a text to let me know she was gonna be late. I ended up just ignoring her at the restaurant, watched March Madness hoops, and gave her the check at the end. What should I have done in this situation?
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FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
If this is a well vetted LTR, you should of shown concern because something was wrong. Instead you probably pushed her away.
guyman3439 5y ago
Okay makes sense
WIA20XX 5y ago
That's open disrespect, surprised these trp boys are having you go easy on her.
guyman3439 5y ago
True. Gotta work on my dread game
WIA20XX 5y ago
I would be prepared for her to exit.
guyman3439 5y ago
Will do. Abundance is key
SimplyFishOil 5y ago
Did you ask her why she was late? Did you at least try to talk about it?
Communication is very important for everyone. Lack of communication is how wars are started.
guyman3439 5y ago
Yeah she said she forgot something at class or some bullshit. Was just upset she didn't let me know she was gonna be late so I wasn't waiting there. Could've been doing something productive instead of waiting if I knew
SimplyFishOil 5y ago
Did you tell her what you're telling us on here?
guyman3439 5y ago
Yeah I said that when she asked what's wrong cuz I wasn't really talking a lot. Tried not to seem pissed about it because then she would've known it affected me.
person8445 5y ago
Ignoring her is kind if a bitch move imo. You broke frame and acted like a butthurt child.
For an ltr, who is vetted, and nornally respectful - id give a bit of a chance if something came up. Shit happens you know; on the rare occasion everyone is late. I would of still called her out and enjoyed the evening "we arranged to meet at 8, if that doesn't work for you you should let me know". She should apologise at this point if the foundations are correct - and in the future she won't do it. Need to make expectations cleat.
guyman3439 5y ago
Okay I'll do that if I'm ever in the situation again thanks
caius100 5y ago
Applying some dread should do, read the ten levels of dread. You have indeed probably been showing beta traits. She disrespected you and your time.
guyman3439 5y ago
Thanks I'll read that
Rkingpin 5y ago
Soft next until she apologises and behaviour improves
Also, this "LTR" is on the ropes and you need to explore if you've been showing beta traits
guyman3439 5y ago
Okay thanks
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Geleemann 5y ago
...Ask her? Crazy idea I know
illumina_titty 5y ago
I would say try being more open with your thoughts and emotions--You should have used your words to tell her you felt neglected instead of giving her the silent treatment, because that probably made her feel neglected (same as you). Women can't read minds and sometimes everyone needs a little help with realizing what they did wrong.
BTW I dont agree with @Rkingpin about your LTR being "on the ropes" because unless Rkingpin is part of that relationship, a short post on reddit about NORMAL and COMMON couples disagreements/fights isn't enough to know if you need to break-up.
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caius100 5y ago
What the fuck is going on with this advice jesus christ? Dont fucking tell her you felt neglected, what are you, her fucking babyboy waiting for some titties to suck on? Punish her behaviour, be late 1 hour next time you guys go on a date. That should send a message.
guyman3439 5y ago
That seems like a much better move lol I'll do that