Due to some stomach issues, doctor said to stop with alcohol at least for 6 months. It's already been 2 weeks, that i realized how bad i am with pickup, without it.
It's not that much fear of anxiety, it's more of "not seeing myself doing it". For example, me and my friend were sitting in this bar, and there were two girls sitting across the room. Meaning i had to stand up, walk towards there, talk to them.
When tipsy, i can easily pull that off. I feel chatty and all. But when sober, i can do that, but i am not sure i will be able to maintain the conversation as playful and interesting, as if i could when tipsy.
I wanna improve my sober game. Please give me any kind of advice. Any videos to watch, any books to read.
ChesterRickman 5y ago
Being drunk is like having impecable Inner game for 2 hours. Do your best to achieve that state while sober.
SelfUnmadeMan 5y ago
Being drunk is like thinking you have impeccable inner game. Really though, you are fooling yourself if you believe that having alcohol in your body improves you in any meaningful way.
If you can do it drunk, you can do it better sober.
SimplyFishOil 5y ago
Keep doing it. Keep talking to people and keep approaching girls sober.
You're not going to magically get amazing social skills by watching videos and reading books, you get it through trial and error.
ProFriendZoner 5y ago
Dude seriously,
Your Doctor tells you to cut out drinking
I don't think your problem is improving game.
Get into a program to get off the alcohol and don't worry about anything else.
WiredT 5y ago
Its a placebo if anything man. If you can do it drunk, you can bring it out sober. You just need to build your self-esteem.
Startlivingfornow 5y ago
I used to think the same thing, as I mainly learned game on alcohol. Truth is, all alcohol does is give you freedom from outcome so you stop worrying about saying the right thing.
Every other aspect of game, especially your sharpness, is better sober.
Best way to sober game is to do a few approaches each day of the week (day game) so by the time the weekend rolls around, you’re already working with good momentum.
nross368 5y ago
No you realized you have a shitty coping mechanism. You use drinking as an excuse to act out. It's just like girl that use the excuse it just happened when justifying why she fucked you to her friends. But in this case its alcohol and you're the one getting fucked.