Here's the deal.
I'm focused on my mission.
I have university, I have my business that just became profitable that I'm building, I have BJJ and rehab so I can get back to lifting. I'm trying to get an internship this summer, I have a shit ton of awesome books that I bought that are collecting dust because I'm too busy to read them all.
I barely even hang out with my friends or my family.
So i have this volunteering gig right now that I'm doing for the next couple months. This 19 year old and I hit it off over there.
She's pretty and has a fat ass.
I have not fucked her, only rag dolled, hugged, throwing her around and carrying her a few times when she wanted to see my BJJ in action. We also got coffee and it sort of became a habit to just flirt with her because she was the only doable female in the vicinity.
She's become increasingly overly friendly recently. She has bought me multiple small gifts, she has tried to invite herself to BJJ class, (I said "I dont think that's a good idea"), and today she convinced me to commit to seeing her on Sunday.
I don't even know how it happened, but I agreed and now I'm starting to regret it, because I think there's a good chance she's developing some feelings, and although I enjoy wielding power over hot girls, I don't like to hurt them.
This seems like she wants to position for LTR. Unless I'm totally blind and misreading this behavior and she's just really eager to be friends.
I want to let her down easy. She's a nice girl.
I'd like to just have an honest conversation about it but because this has been covert communication rather than her explicitly saying "I like you" this could become awkward.
What do yall think?
mrpthrowa 5y ago
Just act completely oblivious, friend zone yourself. It’s funny
BlkLeatherCouchActor 5y ago
I did this. It’s funny when they’re so frustrated.
GirTheRobot 5y ago
Dude what? Just have sex with her. You can have sex with girls and still focus on your mission. What are you gay?
lolurfucked 5y ago
you think she thinks so much every time she dumps someone? she's nice coz she has to, if you were the one sucking up to her, my guess you'd be turned down brutally. not saying to be brutal on purpose. say how you feel and be unapologetic about it.
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NikeSigma23 5y ago
Fair points, I won't dispute them.
I agree I should be unapologetic, but she hasn't explicitly stated "I have feelings blah blah blah". It's just implied to me because she's doing this extra nice shit that's a bit unusual.
So how do you be straightforward if it's not been explicitly stated?
lolurfucked 5y ago
good for u, nothing to worry about. just keep your distance and if she pushes too hard say that you're not up for it. on the other hand, if you'd like to keep it casual, let her engage and enjoy the ride, but along the way drop a hint that ur not gonna do any LTRs anyway, this is to keep her in check so she won't build false fantasies.
Brethren_Of_Man 5y ago
Drift bitch! I got man shit to do.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
ELI5?
Brethren_Of_Man 5y ago
Move your @$$. Get out of my face. Go away. Etc.....
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
LOL kinda mean
ultimatrev666 5y ago
LOL. Fat ass... Or phat ass? If the latter, might be worth exploring some NSA funzies.
But serious, if you're not into her then just tell her it's not going to work. Else she'll probably cling to hope that she has a chance, when in fact she doesn't.
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NikeSigma23 5y ago
It's phat as fuck.
How do I tell her that, when she's not overtly saying she's into me? It's all covert with the asking to hangout, and bringing gifts, and being nice and shit
ultimatrev666 5y ago
Call her out on her behavior and tell her she's making you uncomfortable.
Mojorisin5150 5y ago
Just tell her you want to be friends. Friend zoning women is always fun.
whiffofass 5y ago
"You are ugly"
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
No need to be mean to her. That's uncalled for.
whiffofass 5y ago
It was a joke... I only read the subject. That's the nicest way to reject a girl that I could come up with.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
Just ghost.
alittletoosmooth 5y ago
Why? If you think she's attractive and she is into you, why not just make a move. You're not responsible for her feelings. If you don't want to feel guilty about it just be honest with her that you're not looking for anything serious "right now". That last part is key. It leaves the slightest glimmer of hope that one day maybe, just maybe, you'll change your mind. That's all a girl needs to rationalize (hamster) in her mind why it's ok to fuck you with no strings attached (NSA) for the next few months to maybe a few years.
I was like you when I was younger. Overly concerned with girls "feeeeelings". So much so that I DIDN'T fuck this one girl who was practically begging me for it- because she was so "NICE". Well, she got PISSED, and had no problem making me feel like shit over it. Even going so far as calling me a faggot/pussy/etc. So much for her being "nice", huh? Moral of the story, do whatever you want, and don't be ashamed of it. If you want NSA, go for it. If you don't want to see her ever again, don't. Doesn't matter.
Cookingmustproceed 5y ago
To be honest, that was me a while ago. Didn‘t want to hurt girls, didnt wanted to tell them directly that I am not attracted but after reflecting a bit they would do exactly the same and if she wasn‘t attracted to you she wouldn‘t be as nice. Just imagine an „incel“ showing her attraction and how she would shut him down,etc.
Nowadays I just lead them on, or show complete lack or interest/ignore messages til they get the message.
CharlesChadworth 5y ago
"Its not you, its me"
BrodinsOats 5y ago
Bro you haven’t even fucked her. Why are you worried about this
NikeSigma23 5y ago
Correct, you don't think this behavior is unusual from girls you aren't fucking?
Kabuki431 5y ago
"I am really flattered, but i am just not ready to date yet" with a huge smile
asktrp4433 5y ago
sounds like humblebragging. if serious just say you're busy af now and not looking for a relationship.
NikeSigma23 5y ago
Nah bro I'm dead serious.
That's why I'm saying, what if she's literally just being super friendly?
asktrp4433 5y ago
if she's being friendly and YOU don't want to fuck enjoy the free shit and attention.
yettymonkey 5y ago
This \^