Without making this post too long here is what happened. And to clarify I don't have oneitis if she leaves she leaves.
This girl that DMd me had been trying to hang out with me for a couple of weeks. I was always busy so I couldn't until last Friday night, I drove to her town (yeah i know). We grabbed a beer, watched a movie, got some food, and fucked. This was the first girl I hung out with that rarely gave me any shit tests, very feminine, and submissive. One issue, it was hard for me to get it up that night so maybe her experience wasn't as great.
She hasn't contacted me except for a snap she sent me the following morning. She usually is the one blowing up my phone which she hasn't at all recently. My guess, despite having a great time, maybe the sex was disappointing. Should I reach out or let her reach out to me? If she doesn't oh well I have options but she was higher in quality so it would be nice to have a plate like her.
Demographic_ 5y ago
I suggest moving on to your other girls, and since she doesn’t matter you could shoot your shot and send her a text to see if she’s down again. If not, on to the next one.
TheRealIsBack1 5y ago
You’re right I’ll try later in the week.
Zech4riah 5y ago
If you want to see her again, act like the sex was good and just pitch a new meeting. Don't make it a problem to yourself or be apologetic about it.
I've had trouble getting hard when I'm drunk or exhausted because of work/gym etc and as result of that, the sex has been sloppy but as long as you don't care and act like nothing bad happened, most of the girls don't care.
Believe me, there is a way more guys than you think failing to get hard when having sex for the first time with a new girl. Of course, when you read a forum like this, every dude is a godlike fuckrobot so that twists reality.
JerryLawlerPigFace 5y ago
Seriously. The power of frame.
Act like it’s not a big deal at all and she won’t care.
xgozax 5y ago
I would say refer to abundance mentality. Your last sentence makes me infer that you are kind of putting her on a pedestal in your own mind because you find her of higher quality than you are used to. Hold your frame. If she’s not responding to playful snaps like she used to and especially if u texted already and she didn’t reply ice her.
TheRealIsBack1 5y ago
I see what you’re saying and I haven’t tried contacting.
TheRealIsBack1 5y ago
Thanks brah. How do you suppose I handle the situation when I can’t get a full hard on? We did foreplay for a while fucked for a bit (without a full erection) but saw it pointless at the end. I was trying to play it cool and went it “well that’s embarrassing” with a playful tone. Didn’t really seem to bother her as much but I’m pretty sure I set the bar high so she was disappointed haha.
Btw I’m handling my ED with supps.
FirstLastMan 5y ago
This happened to me with an ONS. I had been drinking all afternoon/night and was exhausted. Couldn't stay hard. So I finger fucked her until she came, ate her out, and we fell asleep. She woke me up a couple hours later begging me to do the exact same thing. At this point I recovered a bit and could get it up so I got off later.
My point is, yeah it sucks, but it happens, and you damn well better have a backup plan to get her off. If you're relying on your dick it's going to bite you in the ass one day.