In short, I was invited to a party this weekend thrown by a girl I was trying to game, and so I went. Tried flirting, applying light kino and all in all I had fun but she just wouldn't reciprocate, as in refusing to dance, refusing to isolate etc. So I toned it down. Thing is later on I got so bored as everybody just wanted to dance salsa (they had been doing this for 3 hours) so I started taking a nap. That's when she comes up to me and legit boots me out by saying that I look tired, and I should go home and sleep as she doesn't want to be responsible "for me passing out or something".
This is when I realise that the party;s been fun but gotten boring, and I have made absolutely zero progress with this chick and I don't want to dance salsa anymore. So I just say bye and go home. OK, she's not interested, so I next. She sends a message the next morning asking if I got home alright. I give that a "seen". She asks again that night, can't be bothered so I seen that too. Now she's having my sister tell me that she doesn't want "our friendship ruined" by her kicking me out, and she doesn't want any hard feelings between us. And her friends are also bugging me and asking me if I'm upset / mad on her.
A disclaimer, I don't want to be her pickle jar opener, "just friends" guy who secretly wants to fuck her and honestly this is becoming annoying, should I just completely ignore and avoid her?
atticusfinch1973 6y ago
You went to sleep at a party because you were butthurt about being ignored, got thrown out by the host and have obvious oneitis.
Yes, forget her and game other women, just do a better job of it.
TheDarkRanger 6y ago
Wasn't butthurt, literally needed a nap (it was 3AM)
juliusstreicher 6y ago
Pretty fucking rude to deliberately try to nap at a party; especially if you are trying to game the host.
Give her a "yeah, thanks" answer, and let it die.
TheDarkRanger 6y ago
wasn't the only one doing it and definitely didnt do it for attention but yeah, feels like shit...
I just... came to terms with the fact that I screwed up and she wasn't into me in the first place. Trying not to think too much about it now.
NabroleonBonaparte 6y ago
OP you thought you were slick
“Take a nap” at her party, then conveniently “wake up” once everyone left so you get your second chance gaming this chick.
Read up on Covert Contracts and stop doing them.
Accept that you were thirsty and got a mild case of oneitis, nothing was stopping you from gaming other chicks or leaving the party once you realized it was a bust
TheGreatLeveler 6y ago
Don't leave her on 'read'. That will just give off a passive aggressive vibe and is an immature way of handling these situations. If you have no interest in pursuing her anymore, just let her know you're fine and leave it at that. Keep your answers short and concise and don't initiate further contact.
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
You oneitis her too hard
You did the right thing gaming her
Game didn't stick
Move on and game other people
If she sees another girl into you watch her interest magically come back
FuckboyAWALT 6y ago
Tell her you are alright and end it there.
Game other girls and that bitch will probably come back and try to get your attention, since you are a man with options.
fnordsnord 6y ago
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Random_throwaway_000 6y ago
Was she dancing with anyone else? It's possible she just doesn't like dancing and didn't want to be isolated from everyone. Here's where I usually disagree with the standard next suggestions, you have nothing to lose by just texting here asking here out. Be direct. Anything but a yes = soft next, potentially hard next if she tries to friend-zone you with annoying texts.
TheDarkRanger 6y ago
Why should I bother? Most of the indicators she gave off were of disinterest. Is it really worth pursuing somebody that will just write me off as a friend? Please explain...
Ladykiller699 6y ago
If she wanted to be gamed she would have accepted your advances then; that ship has sailed already just ignore her and see other girls she’ll assume you’re either but hurt or that you’ve got better things to do.
So you can either send her a message saying you’re still pals n everything it’s great or just ignore her forever
Don’t act phased or buthurt tho
suxxos 6y ago
Well, she clearly has an interest in you. Don't get mistaken, girl wouldn't send a message like that to a guy she is trying to friendzone.
ChaddyMcChad 6y ago
The girl most likely knew that you were trying to get her attention by taking a nap at 3AM. So she ignored it.
Scénario 1 : you go to dance with them, minding only about your own fun, and takes everything that goes along with it. Scénario 2 : you go home with a « Had a cool night! I will see you soon » and you don’t actually ignore people for no absolute reason. Gosh you think that people don’t know about your tricks?
TheDarkRanger 6y ago
I'm sorry but I am absolutely sure I wasn't using any tricks on anybody.