My question is how do you handle women who want to constantly be texting before agreeing to come out on a date ("Get to know you better)? Should I just soft next them? Was my response in the example below decent or was there a better response?
Background: Seems like texting for logistics only with girls under about 22-23 don't seem to work well. For example, I set up a date and time, cut contact and once I tried to confirm the date (the day of) she shit tested me with, "I'm old school and like to get to know you more before going out on a date." I responded with that we'd make up for it by getting to know each other in person. I didn't want to bend over backwards and lose my frame to her.
[deleted] 6y ago
"I'm old school and like to get to know you more before going out on a date."
That's what a date is.
She's a timewaster. She wants your attention and time without any commitment on her end. Fuck that.
C-grij 6y ago
Exactly. Don't have time to throw a ton of attention her way. Thanks.
askmrcia 6y ago
So many of these types of whores exist on tinder. They will use that line or say they won't be free until 7 days from now but then claim that we can still text.
Fuck that.
SkrttttSkrttt 6y ago
Text game is important as a younger man it’s extremely common I don’t think the older TRP users understand that. Just don’t overdo it and text yourself into the Sahara desert of pussy. A few exchanges holding frame, negging, and joking around works wonders. The whole text only for logistics is given as advice because morons start texting every second of the day making themselves look like complete asshats with nothing better to do. It’s just as bad as being 150% stoic alpha pussywizard lord who has no personality.
[deleted] 6y ago
You don't perform like a dancing monkey for her.
You are the prize, remember?
Think us older folks didn't have phones with cords? Same rules.
If you consider yourself an awesome man, why do you feel the need to be her puppy and trot out all your favourite toys? See how that puts her in the position of dominance if you're ALREADY validation seeking from her?
No such thing as text game. You can't display frame over text. Text doesn't turn women on, at best you'll get a laugh (dance monkey). So everything you write is either neutral (so why) or she can misconstrue as negative. (Text won't make them wet but you sure can shoot yourself in the dick and disqualify yourself by texting the wrong thing. Negging can backfire spectactularly because there's no context.)
Don't play a game where your top score can only be zero or less.
[deleted] 6y ago
It was different back then. Now this is how young people communicate a lot of the time. All he was saying is that there’s nothing wrong with a convo here and there as long as you don’t look needy. You can hold frame over text. Easily. Now stfu because you don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s the guys like you that overthink the shit out of everything.
corsega 6y ago
Text game does exist, and this is one of the axioms that TRP gets wrong.
If you disagree, feel free to post all the 18-22 year old you're fucking with your zero texting.
[deleted] 6y ago
This.
I_STOMP_YOU 6y ago
Exactly, so much bullshit. The twenty year olds are probably 3s and 4s at best.
I_STOMP_YOU 6y ago
That's fucking stupid. No rationale guy is going to perform like a monkey just by texting. If you've never met someone and three dozens dudes are actively gaming them they will easily drop the guy with zero personality and making zero effort. You can trade a few texts to build a little something that makes meeting up smoother.
Women who just straight meet up with men using the logistics only bullshit are typically lower to way lower SMV and don't have many other options. If you're going to play the game, don't settle.
[deleted] 6y ago
Step above the three dozen dudes. Make yourself stand out by NOT doing exactly what three dozen dudes do.
Kind of what TRP stands for.
Or, become her BFF so you can braid your tampon strings together when your periods match up. Texting is blue.
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[deleted] 6y ago
You’re right. But I don’t think that was his point.
DebonairD 6y ago
I don’t see how you can’t understand that if an “alpha” talks to a girl, regardless of the medium, she’ll gain attraction to him.
[deleted] 6y ago
So educate me.
How exactly do you let a girl know you're alpha through a text?
Think about what you're saying. Using words to logic your way into her panties doesn't work.
DebonairD 6y ago
I don’t why you even made that last statement because I didn’t say any shit like that.
My point is, if you truly are alpha, it doesn’t matter whether you’re texting, talking otp, facetime, in person, hell even an email; a bitch will pick on those dominant attributes you possess.
Don’t misunderstand me, at no point have I advocated texting a girl 24/7 with constant validation and putting her on a pedestal.
But, if you talk/treat her the exact same way in person, she absolutely can build attraction to you. Presenting your dominance through giving her instructions, showing how great of a leader you are, giving her small, mysterious hints on how great of a live you live: these are all things that can build attraction.
If what I’m saying isn’t true, I wouldn’t have had over a hundred bitches facetiming me with full sex shows. I wouldn’t have girls who’ve never even been blessed with the opportunity to hear my voice sending me money and gifts.
If this long dissertation doesn’t at least halfway make you understand, I don’t know what will.
[deleted] 6y ago
My bad.
I thought we were talking about fucking women in real life. You sure have seen a lot of boobies on a screen.
Money and gifts? Wow. What are you doing that women feel you need money? Doesn’t sound very alpha.
You can’t build attraction over text. Period.
Are you fucking 12? Someday you’ll understand.
DebonairD 6y ago
You honestly think after what I said I don’t fuck these women in person? You’ve got to be smarter than that, you got to be.
If you can’t understand what I’m telling you, it’s because you don’t want to.
[deleted] 6y ago
I really don’t believe you. When you grow up your bullshit detector gets better... and I call bullshit.
You’ve talked your way into 100 video “sex” sessions? No.
People don’t lead their stories with an intermediate step. i.e. - you wouldnt even have mentioned the camgirl sessions if you actually fucked evey one of them. You would have led with that fact.
So, again, bullshit.
You have an Ncount of 100 while still spouting bluepill horseshit? Yet again, bullshit. You said in a prior post you first had sex at 16. So you're saying you fucked 33 women per year for the last three years straight? That's a new girl every 11 days for 3 years. Bullfuckingshit.
Done with you. You're 19. Not even an adult. Stop trying to give advice.
DebonairD 6y ago
I don’t give a damn if you believe anything that I say. You asked a question and I answered it. I know it may be hard for you to think that your theory could’ve been wrong, but that’s what it is.
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
She says this AFTER agreeing to a date, when you confirm? Fuck that shit.
She means "not attracted".
C-grij 6y ago
Correct. She agreed to the time and place. Later on during the week made a comment that she's looking forward to it but then day of she was acting in the example above.
I ended up nexting her. IThanks for your response.
throwawaysarenotok 6y ago
Maybe next time throw a few maintenance texts leading up to the date instead of going no contact. Find the middle ground between texting for logistics only and texting too frequently.
C-grij 6y ago
Ya that probably wouldn't hurt to have sent a few.
I just find that even when I text beyond logistics and am texting towards being sexual /escalating it eventually devolves into small talk or things I'd rather talk about in person. The other scenario, the girl doesn't add to the conversation which is equally unhelpful.
redpill_quest 6y ago
r/ihavesex