2y ago TheRedPill
@hustlerbear81 thanks for that sir, I needed to hear it. lessons learned indeed. and what a good one with quite a few packed in.
regarding the hotel, what would've been an appropriate response then? surely had both our situations been flexible I would've noped out of that option.
2y ago TheRedPill
what's up everyone. I'm new to this, only had my eyes opened a few months ago and I'm really confused. this is a bit of a lengthy read so heads up.
so, i met this girl at work about a year ago. our jobs are such that we only really get to see each other and talk during certain periods of a day, if at all. and it is usually short bursts. relationships of any kind at our job is a huge No no. we've chatted here and there nothing really major until recently (coincidentally, around when i started becoming aware of trp). to me, this girl was just a chick i would be happy to fuck and didnt put any real action to it since she is 15 years younger than me. but i think maybe she noticed a change in my demeanor or me embracing my male role, combination, whatever it was but the little chats got more straight up flirty. so i asked her out and she had actually said yea, with no hesitation. we meet up one day shorlty after, presumably to fuck (which i was right) and it was a complete disaster. i tried to set up another "date" with her, but she has a kid and supposedly hardly any time but I did get a "maybe i can be free x day". (are most younger chicks in their late 20 like this?)
so the night before x day, i call her to see if she was going to be free and she tells me no she wont be. i said something like oh i see, some other time then, and she asked if i was mad. i told her that I wasn't and we hung up. we saw each other a few times at work, talked some, but she never texted me again until about a month later (idk if that was a shit test?) saying she had an idea. i wait a bit to respond and ask her what, and she calls me. she tells me she wants to try this again, and that her idea is crazy. i asked what it entailed and she tells me ... that since she works super early, the only real time she has free is before work, like at 4am. so if i was interested, i could get a room, she could uber from her house, we could meet up and fuck and ill take her to work after. its rough for me to pull this off especially at 4am but im like fuck it, and agree. over the next few days its a few real sexy text messages about her wanting me and i respond equally sexual and then the day comes.
about an hour before i leave work she sent me a text asking if we were still on. i waited a bit and told her hell yea. later that evening she text me to remind me to send her the room info and i sent it a while later while she was asleep.
i got to the hotel and waited about 30 minutes or so for her to get up and she text me saying the hotel wasn't all that close to her, i asked her how far it was and about 20 min later she replied she was going to be running late. i responded to let me know when she was getting close so i could let her in the property. again like 30 min later she responds that she wasnt even ready yet. i told her alright, that i was just going to be leaving shortly then and she never responded. about 30 min later i left, rather bitter having spent the money and my time, plus it's been years since I been stood up.
she called me a few hours later, but i had ignored her call. the next day i sent her a text asking why she stood me up. she responded that it wasnt how she wanted things to go at all. i responded that it took a bit for me to be there and i didnt really apprecaite her wasting my time like that. she responded that she could tell me what happened but it wouldnt change anything and that she was sorry and she understood if i didnt want to talk to her anymore. my response was along the lines of "if youre interested in fucking me and showing up, then yea sure i would be. otherwise no hard feelings and i would see her around."
i left on a 9 day business trip and didnt hear from her or see her at work until 2 weeks later. and when we see saw me she simply said hi and kept walking, but it felt cold. when we were finally in a position to speak a bit more and after a few minutes of a kind of awkward silence, i was looking at her and she said what? you chose to keep things professional. (???when the fuck did i do that???) i told her no, that wasn't what I said nor what I wanted. but im not sure if she heard the end there, we work in a somewhat noisy environment. either way, a bit later that day i was walking back to my office and saw her and told her id like to just squash this. she told me there was nothing to squash. i said alright then and just walked away. saw her a few more times but we didnt say anything else to each other. now when we see each other it's just a hello and that's it. 2 weeks have gone by and still no texts or anything flirtatious or sexy.
so im really confused, is this a shit test? how do I pass it? im resolved to not give a fuck and let this hold me back, least of all around her and I do have other options I'm happy to explore. i would like to fuck her tho ain't even going to lie. should I just call her up and act like nothing? be straight up this is what I want? keep on ignoring? thanks
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