Damn Arnold you don't mess around. That's a hot take.
I think my yellow fever friend fucks around often, white chicks, black chicks, Asian chicks, you name it. I don't think he has any issues with his own race, I think he just likes to fuck
I believe your take on my Marxist friend might be correct, he is fully indoctrinated and basically declaring me his enemy. God knows why. Perhaps due to my contrary views to his.
I've been friends with this guy since I was a kid, he always kind of had a stick up his arse to be honest. I apologized to him because it isn't worth losing a friend over a stupid joke, however if this behaviour continues that may end up happening, which is sad.
I can tolerate my friend being an indoctrinated asshole if that's what he wants to be. Would be nice if he could tolerate my slightly racist sense of humour in return!
Regarding my social skills, I feel burned but also inspired to be more intuitive in social situations so thanks bruh
Our live's are too short to needlessly endure suffering the stupid. It reads like you know your friends rather well and the Marxist one has always been a problem. One of the best lessons I was given regarding friendship as a child, I now share with you, is this, 'just because you may want to be someone's friend or want someone to be your friend, doesn't mean they have to be your friend'.
You've known that they haven't liked you for some time. Maybe you did something to them, maybe you haven't. I don't know, but it's only gotten more obvious to you that this Marxist "friend" of yours doesn't much like you as you've all gotten older. Why put yourself through that abuse? Find new acquaintances, make new friends, and diminish this one guy from your life. He likely won't miss you. If he sends you birthday and holiday well wishing, continue to return the favor, but don't bother putting yourself out there for a "friend" who treats you like an enemy if he's not going to tell you how you injured him and allow you to make amends.
As for whatever is burning you out mentally. You seem aware enough of yourself that I'm confident that you'll identify and isolate it if you haven't already. I can only pray that you develop a solid plan to excise it from your life.
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Damn Arnold you don't mess around. That's a hot take.
I think my yellow fever friend fucks around often, white chicks, black chicks, Asian chicks, you name it. I don't think he has any issues with his own race, I think he just likes to fuck
I believe your take on my Marxist friend might be correct, he is fully indoctrinated and basically declaring me his enemy. God knows why. Perhaps due to my contrary views to his.
I've been friends with this guy since I was a kid, he always kind of had a stick up his arse to be honest. I apologized to him because it isn't worth losing a friend over a stupid joke, however if this behaviour continues that may end up happening, which is sad.
I can tolerate my friend being an indoctrinated asshole if that's what he wants to be. Would be nice if he could tolerate my slightly racist sense of humour in return!
Regarding my social skills, I feel burned but also inspired to be more intuitive in social situations so thanks bruh
Read MoreWhat's up with my friend? Is he gaslighting me?
Hey guys
Talking with my friends from my home country whom I have not seen in ages. One of them is talking about girls and shows us a picture of this Asian girl he was with a while back. She was nice.
I like to joke, so I said "damn you got a case of the yellow fever. I think you're contagious because I think she looks good too"
A third friend immediately gets annoyed and calls me racist. I basically said "come on man, we are all friends here, it's a joke. I obviously have no problems with other people of any race"
He's like "that's a racist joke. Racism has no place in modern society. You are racist."
I said "okay man. I can see you aren't comfortable with these jokes, I won't make them around you anymore"
And he says "I think you are racist, you not saying racist things doesn't mean you aren't like that and I don't want to be around that"
I said back "bruh I think you are intolerant" which I think really triggered him because he left the conversation.
Personally, I think you should be able to joke about these things comfortably with your friends because your friends are supposed to know you, and I would expect one of my best friends to know that I'm joking and am not actually racist
I ended up apologizing later on, which I kind of regret because I know I'm not racist, I think he has a stick up his arse. He still seems very triggered despite the apology. I don't know if we are friends anymore.
If we hang out in the future I will know my audience better and will avoid jokes like this around him. HOWEVER, I will definitely continue to make other people laugh with jokes like this in the future because everything can be made fun of in the right context.
What do you guys think? Am I an asshole? Is this joke out of line? What should I do? Did I handle this correctly? Do you guys have any similar friends or stories?
Thanks gang
You've got interesting friends, prepare to get new ones. One dislikes his race so much he dates outsiders and you get called the racist by one who's been indoctrinated in Marxism for pointing this out in jest. Your Marxist indoctrinated friend has declared you his enemy. You don't understand this, because like most males your social and communication skills are woefully underdeveloped, so much so that you don't understand Marxist ideology. You need to use retrograde thinking when engaging the psychologically mal-adapted.
What you should've said when he called you a racist is, "Whoa, that's a hell of a damning accusation for someone to make, let alone a friend over a joke, but I'll bite. Let's assume I was a [make quotes with your hands] "racist", what's wrong with preferring my 'race' over others? It was my understanding that to be a "racist" I had to hate other 'races'."
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What's up with my friend? Is he gaslighting me?
Hey guys
Talking with my friends from my home country whom I have not seen in ages. One of them is talking about girls and shows us a picture of this Asian girl he was with a while back. She was nice.
I like to joke, so I said "damn you got a case of the yellow fever. I think you're contagious because I think she looks good too"
A third friend immediately gets annoyed and calls me racist. I basically said "come on man, we are all friends here, it's a joke. I obviously have no problems with other people of any race"
He's like "that's a racist joke. Racism has no place in modern society. You are racist."
I said "okay man. I can see you aren't comfortable with these jokes, I won't make them around you anymore"
And he says "I think you are racist, you not saying racist things doesn't mean you aren't like that and I don't want to be around that"
I said back "bruh I think you are intolerant" which I think really triggered him because he left the conversation.
Personally, I think you should be able to joke about these things comfortably with your friends because your friends are supposed to know you, and I would expect one of my best friends to know that I'm joking and am not actually racist
I ended up apologizing later on, which I kind of regret because I know I'm not racist, I think he has a stick up his arse. He still seems very triggered despite the apology. I don't know if we are friends anymore.
If we hang out in the future I will know my audience better and will avoid jokes like this around him. HOWEVER, I will definitely continue to make other people laugh with jokes like this in the future because everything can be made fun of in the right context.
What do you guys think? Am I an asshole? Is this joke out of line? What should I do? Did I handle this correctly? Do you guys have any similar friends or stories?
Thanks gang
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