In a continuation of our Back to Basics Series, we decided that it was time to revisit some of the rules of the sub. The rules have grown and been redefined over the years but the core reason they exist is to keep RPW, RPW. 

Along with the wiki and theory posts, the rules exist to help us give solid, RPW advice to newcomers (and veterans). We want you all to have a firm understanding of both the what and the why. This will help us to help others achieve their goals. 

Let’s dive in: 

Rule Zero: Stay on Topic

RPW is for women to discuss sexual strategy. Content must serve to help women, any deviations from this are off topic. All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology or anti-feminist foundation. We focus on long term relationships, marriage and building families. There is no one true way to approach RPW, the discussion is open to all women wanting to improve themselves and their relationships. 

The takeaways from this rule are:

• We are here to help women

At its most basic, this means that we aren’t here for men’s benefit. When someone says, “I feel so bad for your boyfriend you harpy, he deserves better”, that is a clear violation of this rule. It can be messier than that though. Our goal on RPW is happy relationships with good men. Does the advice you are giving help the OP have a happy relationship with a good man? Then you are probably solid. Does it tell her to compromise her values to stay with a guy she’s been with for 6 months? Then you aren’t really helping her, you are helping him. Is there a grey middle ground? Absolutely. And we will discuss that in a post later on once we get a handle on the relevant rules. 

• We pull our ideas from many sources as long as they don’t contradict general RP ideas

  The core of RPW is a male-led relationship because we believe that respect and submission are linked and this makes both partners happier. RPW is a toolbox, not a lifestyle, and every woman is encouraged to use the tools that work best in her relationship. You can believe that you have a duty from God to submit to your husband but you should not assume that all women will approach RPW in the same manner. Likewise, you can believe that a truly submissive woman will defer to her partner in all matters including corporal punishment, but you must understand that this does not make good advice for the average RPW. While your personal perspective may be helpful, keep in mind to stick by the general framework of RP theory.

• We are open to any women who want to “be RPW”

  There is no one true way - let me repeat that for the kids in the back - there is no one true way to be an RPW. If you find yourself thinking, “You are not RP”, then you are at the start of giving bad advice. This is different from thinking: “You do not understand RPW”. We take the approach that RPW is a toolbox and anyone is welcome to ask for help picking up our tools. (We will get into the “No Feminism” caveat in a later post). RPW does not require you to be a stay at home mom, or a mom at all, or legally a wife, or wear a dress, or hand over your paycheck, etc etc etc. These are all ways that some women choose to be RPW but that does not mean that there is one path.