I'll go first I am a homemaker SAHM I believe in gender roles I believe in women being in touch with their femininity and men with their masculinity
This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man.
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VioletSongjatShariff 4y ago
I don't know if I would call myself so but I share some values with this community like living and liking the traditional gender roles. I don't think they should be forced on people who choose a different life style because deviation from a social norm is as much a part of it as the norm itself but I think the modern feministic urge to destroy these norms is highly critical and won't make the majority of women and men happier.
Also I think it's important to accept and embrace femininity because femininity and masculinity complement each other and are both very important. Women shouldn't want to be or feel they have to be the new men but just the authentic versions of herselves.
Besides I'm a very liberal person who thinks people have to find their own best way to live and get happy.
Jikira 4y ago
I don’t identify with RP anymore. I used too, but I realize that a lot of people on this sub are just projecting their inabilities onto other. I am the antithesis of RP, I am the breadwinner, I don’t want kids, I believe in equality. I am not conservative.
I feel RP has good relationships advice though. I am glad that I found it at a young age. Hence why I come back from time to time. As I get older I see that it becomes less and less relevant for my life.
I find myself exhausted with the constant projection saying that women need A,B,C to be happy in this sub and in my everyday life. Just because you feel purpose being a mom doesn’t mean all women feel the same way and vice versa. Just because you are incapable of handling a career doesn’t mean, so are other women. I care nothing for mother hood, but I understand that for some people that is what they want to dedicate there life too. I respect that.
My fiancé and I have the best relationship for us. He sees me as an equal partner working to make the best life possible. I am the current breadwinner as he is in school right now to increase his lifetime earnings. We have a plan to be financially independent as soon as possible. Why only have one income, when we can get there at half the time if we both work. We take on roles and responsibilities as needed to build a life together. We have goals and we work together to meet them.
I believe as social animals, nurturing one another is apart of both genders. It just a human thing.
I feel I am very lucky to have such a supportive partner and I personally think using the vetting advice I got from here helped a lot.
PippeliPaavo 4y ago
Red pill woman for me would be comfortable being lead by a man and specifically be below a man. If that's true then I can teach everything there's no need for the woman to have experience in red pill.
Arguing is the best indicator that immediately shows if a woman is masculine or feminine. If she has to be right that will most likely make her a masculine female. Can you exchange ideas in a civilized manner or do you just reject ideas. Having an argument over perspective will pretty quickly tell if the woman is fit for a relationship. If she can't even entertain an idea she is definitely not going to grow into anything or learn from you. Are you trying to be right or be in a relationship? Pick one.
As an example some fractionary basic principle of Red Pill such as who do you think is the leader in a relationship. Usual answer will be something about equality and both being leaders. Trying to talk of the red pill as a subject would be a bad idea. Both from the associations people have but also from the perspective of do you have your own ideas or are you just repeating something someone else said.
HappilyMrs 4y ago
I don't. I don't think of myself as blue pill either.
I like a traditional gender dynamic between me and my husband. For society as a whole, my views are very mixed. I dont 100% buy in to many of the RP views on things. I am generally very liberal, and think that we should be progressing towards everyone living happier lives better in keeping with treating the planet well.
RP to me should be a toolbox where you can utilise what works for making your relationship (and in turn, your life) happier. Aside from that, I'm not committed to it as an identity.
fuwafuwarachel 4y ago
I'm the same. Traditional relationship, mostly liberal values, and liberal friends that eschew traditionalism. I don't really care whether red pill truths are learned or innate, I just know that quite a few of the tricks work and I'm content leaving what I don't like. I've seen this said on the men's subs too, but considering the red pill a part of your identity is quite sad.
kingston121 4y ago
so why are you here
pearlsandstilettos 4y ago
I agree with u/happilymrs last paragraph and have pushed that very idea on the sub. The mod team agrees with her. Would you like to ask us why we are here?
HappilyMrs 4y ago
Because it gives me helpful tips for how to keep my relationship running well, because I find it interesting, and it makes me think
[deleted] 4y ago
Not sure if I am but, I believe everyone is responsible for their own happiness.
I'm here because traditional gender roles fit me nicely and it's nice to find people who feel the same. (Doesn't mean I believe that's what's best for everyone tho.) Also discussions here are mostly pleasant and polite.
BlueCandyGumdrop 4y ago
Agreed!
chowchowfluff 4y ago
I believe in the biological differences of men and women and what those entail when it comes to relationships.
I believe we should be true to our nature as women and embrace our femininity.
I believe we should respect men and masculinity.
I believe my man should be the captain of our life and I will gladly stand by and support his lead as his first mate. While at the same time make sure I am intellectually and emotionally equipped to assist and manage whatever is required of me as a feminine woman in our relationship.
You could say I’m a homemaker in the sense that I am the primary person that does the homemaking tasks. I find great satisfaction serving my man by cooking, cleaning, taking care of myself as a way of showing respect for him, and in general taking care of his needs as a whole.
However, I also serve my SO by playing an integral role in his business and entrepreneurial ventures. As an individual, I need to be stimulated intellectually or I will get bored so I’m grateful that my SO also values my willingness to provide the support I do with his business. He takes great pride in knowing that I have the capacity to manage challenges with dignity and respect and in client facing situations he gets a lot of “wow, she’s great to work with!” feedback so that always gives a good boost to his ego.
In particular, being a red pill women as a means of optimizing a harmonious long term partnership within the confines of a heterosexual relationship is what I value from it most. But also in society, I think both women and men have biological advantages and differences that should be celebrated and cherished respectively and I subscribe to the aspect of the red pill that does that.
Drazer_Pride 4y ago
I am antifeminist.
I regard that men's emotions matter.
I believe in stable trustful romance.
Chivalry and healthy patriarchy are blessing.
Dominance and authority of my boyfriend excite me and thrill me.
I am surprisingly submissive to my boyfriend and have an urge to serve him selflessly. I love being his slave.
I hate when custody are granted to women that don't deserve. And I think that their parental rights should be restricted.
I hate arrogance in general.
Two genders are created for partnership and union and teamwork, not toxic race, war and fighting.
Modesty beautifies a person. (Balkan moral. I am from East Europe)
Dominance and submission relationships are sturdy and strong.
Beginning_Proof_2160 4y ago
"Chivalry and healthy patriarchy are blessing"
I like this quote, women should fear weak men, those are the men that abuse women because they find them weaker, strong men or defined by feminists "toxic masculine" actually know that they are physically stronger than women and don't abuse that power, instead they use it to protect their women
Drazer_Pride 4y ago
Well, those weak men must be incarcerated.
mannfan9292 4y ago
My manifesto has two parts:
The Practical: homemaking skills like cooking, cleaning, decorating, laundry. Frugal choices that benefit my household: gardening, couponing, composting, making things from scratch, etc. Wanting to take a supportive role in my man’s life. The desire to help my partner grow and realize his dreams. The desire to be involved in our community and make it better. Which segues into the second part:
The Philosophy: I have chosen to see the world as it is. I’m not trying to fool myself into thinking it’s something is not. I accept the nature of men. I do not change the nature of my partner. I choose accountability for my actions. I can only change myself. I conserve the energy I would’ve spent controlling others for changing myself for the better. And also, changing things in my community for the better.
wallis_irl 4y ago
This is great! Can you expound more on what you mean about accepting the nature of men? I feel like I can learn a lot from you :)
mannfan9292 4y ago
Oh god don’t learn from me, I’m also a 2/10 obese monster and substitute community work and my job for seeking intimacy haha.
wallis_irl 4y ago
Lol definitely not a monster and I doubt a 2/10! And there are definitely worse things you could be substituting!
refrigerador82 4y ago
This is great! Thanks for sharing your manifesto.
Throwaway230306 4y ago
I think the red pill accurately (more or less) describes gender and sexual dynamics.
SunshineSundress 4y ago
This is my reasoning too. I don’t need to make it into a lifestyle or an ideology.
It’s just a good tool that I can refer back to when dealing with men. Kind of a cheat code when all’s fair in love and war. In my experience, a lot of the strategies work. If I try one and it doesn’t, then I can just move on and not use that one
Throwaway230306 4y ago
Yeah, I think it's easy to get way off track about the red pill if you start assigning a specific lifestyle to the rpw (although I do recognize that a lot of women here are aiming for the sahm life with a traditional-ish man).
A woman who's a childfree tattoo artist, for example, can use the tools we talk about here in her relationship just as well as anyone else. And I also think that all successful, sexually charged hetero relationships are red pilled to some extent, even if the people in them would be quite horrified to be called red pilled!
SunshineSundress 4y ago
Totally agree with all your points!
My friends would faint from disbelief and horror if I started talking about “submission as strategy,” but when I rebrand it using less edgy words, they completely agree with the overall idea
growingstronk 4y ago
Yea I think framing it as submission was a bit of a bad PR move when it could have easily been labeled something like “the supportive role,” or just following his lead. But this was an offshoot of the main sub so you already know they were gonna bring those kinds of terms in
KombuchaEnema 4y ago
Honestly I sometimes question if I am.
I believe, genuinely, that the vast majority of women are happier in traditional gender roles. I believe the whole “I’m a queen I don’t need no man” mentality is destroying women’s mental health.
I fundamentally believe that women need men (just as men need women). I think in general, humility is the road to happiness. This is the opposite of what modern women are being told.
We’re told not to “give a fuck” what anyone thinks. We’re told we don’t need anyone but ourselves. We’re told to prioritize ourselves always.
That sort of attitude is not the way to handle close intimate relationships (especially your relationship with your significant other). You should care what your significant other thinks. You should admit to needing them. You should sometimes prioritize them over yourself.
I think the breakdown of the nuclear family is a massive problem. I think it’s why so many people are mentally ill and dysfunctional. I think single motherhood is destroying young men and women, and I’m sick of people blaming men for being deadbeats while coddling the women who chose to sleep with a deadbeat.
I can’t say I’m 100% redpill in the sense that I’m not okay with my husband cheating on me. I don’t always support his goals - for example, if his goal was to take two months between jobs and just enjoy playing video games during that time, I would have to step in and tell him we can’t afford that. Obviously that’s an exaggerated example, but sometimes we do need to have those conversations.
Transhuman-7893 4y ago
Im a little late but what you are saying is right. Your husband has responsibility towards you. Everything you support should be reasonable.
The_InfernalExplorer 4y ago
Well said
PippeliPaavo 4y ago
The relationship is more important for a woman. So no in that sense a man doesn't need a woman in the same sense a woman needs a man.
BlueCandyGumdrop 4y ago
I like what you’re saying here, I’m also super new to redpill and was curious as I haven’t seen much from the male side- does redpill say they can cheat on their wives? That’s no bueno for me lol
WhatIsThisAccountFor 4y ago
No, especially not here.
But if you ask men of the redpill sub they’d probably Reply something along the lines of “marriage isn’t for men”. Those men aren’t the men that the women of this sub seek though. Whether the man literally/verbally identifies as redpill means nothing (or might even be a negative) to the women of this sub. The women of this sub seek men who are most likely to be successful economically, and possess leadership qualities. Men who are strong from a socioeconomic and mental standpoint, not necessarily some Dan Bilzerian wannabe.
BlueCandyGumdrop 4y ago
Yeah this sounds more along the lines of what I was thinking thank you!
Flypaste 4y ago
The idea is that womens' biological imperative is to branch swing from man to man until they get the best man they can find, while the man's biological imperative is to have sex with as many women as he can.
The logic goes that if the woman participates in serial monogamy (as her biology dictates) then the man is allowed to participate in casual sex (as his biology dictates).
If you want to have a redpill man commit to you without wanting to pursue casual sex on the side, then you'll need to prove to him that you don't participate in serial monogamy. Otherwise he won't agree to the terms of the relationship that you want because those terms will be a raw deal from his perspective - why should he suppress his urges for a girl that can't suppress her own?
So the idea is less that "redpill men are allowed to cheat", it's more that most women deserve to be cheated on, and redpill men will gladly give them what they deserve.
BlueCandyGumdrop 4y ago
Well that’s fun lol thank you for taking the time to respond!
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
Why is it the woman's job to warn him? If he wants to take months off to chill that is his business.
It used to be that the man of the family was fed the first portions at dinner.
As far as I am concerned our role is to keep providing no judgement support. When money runs out, cook until the cupboards are bare , making sure that his caloric needs are satisfied first. When or if he asks why there's nothing more to eat, just reply simply that the food is gone and no more money to buy more. By now, the lights or heat are off. At any rate, he will eventually discover the way of things for himself.
I don't see the point of mothering and intervening and undermining him.
His resources are his to dispose of and manage as he prefers.
Our duty is to follow the orders of our captain, even if he's running the ship ashore.
Nagging and interfering will ultimately not be much more useful. I say serve with humility and love Let your husband struggle against his fate and his God without your meddling.
Don't win the battle while you lose the war.
Pinktoes10 4y ago
This makes perfect sense. I often hear men say that the reason their relationship or marriage didn’t work was because the woman acted like his “mother” rather than a spouse. It wasn’t until this very moment that I completely understand what that meant.
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
Mothering nurturing is an intrinsic element of femininity. The key is to provide all of the comfort and support of The Mother without ever making him feel like a child.
To be female is a beautiful opportunity to suffer selflessly for something greater than oneself.
KombuchaEnema 4y ago
My reply is late, but I refuse to allow my future children to live in a home without lights or heat in the middle of winter because I chose a man who would let us starve.
I think there’s a healthy balance between nagging and being a complete doormat.
I pray to God you would not allow your children to starve while you feed a man who refuses to provide.
I allowed my husband to read your responses and he laughed and told me he would leave me if I was that much of a doormat.
Maybe he’s not “redpilled” enough.
chowchowfluff 4y ago
This is an interesting perspective that I’ve never really thought through to the extent that you just extrapolated, thank you!
In my case, I’ve been in situations where SO took time “off” to play video games (we’re business owners though so, slightly different than someone with a 40 hr work week). However, we have more than enough of what we need to support ourselves so it’s never been an issue. In times like those I am supportive of his need to “decompress” in the way that works best for him and I’m happy one of his (many) hobbies brings him so much joy. He jumps right back in and gets down to business.
However, what about in situations where you’re solely dependent on his 9-5 salary? As a SAHM or homemaker? Would the answer be the women goes out and gets a job in that scenario? Or still sit back and let the captain steer?
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
Let him steer.
The hard part is to watch the children suffer
Try to remember that they are his children to deal with as he prefers.
Modern laws and feminist poison interferes with the sanctity of the man's castle. This undermines all of society in profound and catastrophic ways.
I think it's better for women to be focused on the idea that a beautiful and loving woman will inspire men to greatness. When the urge to nag arrises, she will perhaps do better to consider how she might be more inspiring in terms of beautiful feminity.
chowchowfluff 4y ago
Hmm, could you explain more what you mean by “a beautiful and loving women will inspire a man to greatness”? In this context based on the OP comment, the man previously had a job (assuming it’s a 9-5 where he has a boss) but assumingly decided to play video games instead of taking care of family needs. I’m concerned that the poetic “inspire a man to greatness through femininity” gets lost in application in a scenario like this one.
I’d only advocate that the women not take some sort of proactive measure if the home life situation was not in danger and the needs of the family were still able to be met. I’m talking about survival needs like food, shelter, electricity, car fuel, etc. I guess maybe I’m thinking of it in an extreme way - if the man just decided to “give up” one day on his role as captain.
I’m 100% on board with allowing the man to lead and captain, and I highly discourage nagging behavior and any outspoken corrections of a man’s decisions. I guess I am just trying to understand what happens when your captain had driven you into an iceberg Titanic style - go down with the ship? Take the kids to live with relatives until he gets himself together? Obviously this is assuming the women is still supportive of the man in a feminine way too but at what point does it become “I need to take action before my family is homeless”?
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
I think everything you say is true.
But it's based on the idea that the hopes, dreams, and existential experiences of women are equal to those of men.
Women who prevail succeed only in securing their own immediate, fleeting comfort. Men who achieve build empires. They land on the moon. They compose odes that convey the glory of such an achievement.
A society that equates in importance the immediate temporal comfort of women with the genuinely profound striving of men is at best a mediocre morass.
What good is it for a woman to nag, undermine, defy her man if she merely provides temporary comfort for her progeny in a world that regularly enables such usurpation?
Point is, the best a woman can do for her progeny in the long run is to sacrifice with living femininity for a society that rewards masculine achievement.
Our greatest weapon is feminity. We have to inspire then hope for the best.
girlwithasidecar 4y ago
Is this all the reality of your marriage or is it your guiding aspiration?
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
I'm a cautionary example. I undermined my man and I'm now suffering the consequences in my old age.
I should have loved more and striven harder to serve with the appropriate attitude of gratitude.
I'm now engaged full time in making myself as useful to men as possible, with what dwindling attributes I still possess.
girlwithasidecar 4y ago
When u/rubywootoo wrote about coming late to the red pill, she talked about women who swing between extremes after a failed relationship. That is what your attitude reminds me of.
Now obviously there will be variety from man to man as to his preferences. That said, taking such a backseat in your own life that you allow someone else to run it into the ground, that's not RPW, that's something else.
Men strive to be more to a large degree because of women. Look at how a bachelor will live and then look at what a married man puts money and effort into building when he has a wife and family. It's one thing to support a guy who takes time off after losing a job and another to not participate in your own life as it goes down hill. A first mate/officer has to step in sometimes when a captain can't do his job.
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
You make valid points!
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
I'm sure that my ideas aren't quite what is intended.
I believe that females exist to assist and nurture males.
Men build empires, explore, conquer, create...they also produce the art and philosophy that expresses all of the meaning of these endeavours.
Women assist in this mission. We are biologically constructed to gestate and lactate. We are made physically weaker - significantly so - for a reason. We are not the equal of men. Instead we are reliant on their provision and protection.
All we can do is to choose the man most likely to provide well and then assist him unreservedly with every ounce of our beings.
fogfall 4y ago
Hi! I occasionally lurk in RPW because I'm fascinated by traditional gender roles. I'm definitely not very RP myself as a young, leftist queer woman lol but I am curious.
When you say
is this not unfair to the women who have built empires, and explored, and conquered, and produced art and philosophy? I mean, there was a fair number of those even in the times when it was much harder for them to break free from gender roles that might have stifled them.
I mean, think of Cleopatra, of Dido, Eleanor of Aquitaine and Catherine the Great, of Boudicca.
And what about Marie Curie who won her Nobel Prize as her husband's equal, not his assistant? Or Rosalind Franklin, who was tragically over-shadowed by her male colleagues. Think about Sally Ride and Simone de Beauvoir.
Mary Shelley, who practically invented science fiction.
Jane Austen and Agatha Christie who will still be read in centuries to come.
I don't know. We might be physically weaker, but we are incredible, and wonderful. We are the masters of our fate, and the captains of our souls, as W. E. Henley said. I don't believe we deserve to be relegated to the role of Santa's Little Helper.
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
Women do not build empires. They can help. Or stay out of the way
Women are biologically designed to gestate and lactate. Can we be of use otherwise? Of course we can!
But the fact remains that we have 2 sexes for a reason.
Only-Ad-1442 4y ago
Well empires require people to live in them. Women are the only people who can birth other people. So, I guess, it takes men and women to build an empire.
MuttonDressedAsGoose 4y ago
Yes men need women
fogfall 4y ago
Agree to disagree, I guess.
Beginning_Proof_2160 4y ago
makes sense, by choosing the strongest man and helping him achieve success your off-springs are more likely to have better time as well
bdaydragon32 4y ago
-First, I believe in the basic concept of the red pill, accepting life as is, not as everyone pretends it is, avoid sugarcoated lies. I change what I can change in my life, I believe there are solutions to problems but I am very much aware that reallity can't be vent according to our perceptions and desires, and thus, I protect and work on my individuality.
-I planned all my life since I started highschool so I could have a traditional life and get married young.
-I focused on getting better as a woman, taking care of my physical apperance and attitude, values, etc to be a high value female in every way possible and deserve respect and love.
-I also believe in gender roles.
-I don't believe in feminism (in any way, not the first wave, not the second, nothing).
-I will always put my partner's goals as my priority and help him achieve them without feeling any resentment.
chowchowfluff 4y ago
First wave feminism had a lot to do with equal human rights for women. Although it did lead into women’s right to vote and own property as well, a lot of the underlying framework of the first wave was actually just women advocating for being recognized as humans rather than just men’s property. Property can’t vote or own anything because property isn’t “a person”. As a women, I like being considered a person lol.
Blood-on-the-Blade 4y ago
not really, even back then it was an anti biology anti human movement.
chowchowfluff 4y ago
Could you explain how it was anti biology and anti human?
barmitzvahmoney 4y ago
You don’t think women should be able to own property or have their own bank accounts?
bdaydragon32 4y ago
If they are married they are supposed to be sharing that with their husbands I guess.
If they are single, yeah...?
Now that you point it out, the USCIS and thus the US goverment thinks that marriage is a financial union, they would rarely consider a marriage as bonafide if the girl doesn't share her assets with her man. So I think I'm not the only one who thinks so.
Unlikely-Ordinary653 4y ago
“High value female”
bdaydragon32 4y ago
What's so funny? :/ you know it doesn't apply just to men don't you?
Unlikely-Ordinary653 4y ago
Every person is valuable. At least every pre-born life?? So alll lives must be as well right??
bdaydragon32 4y ago
In the dating context has a different meaning...not that you lose your basic humans or something ://
Unlikely-Ordinary653 4y ago
Disagree
bdaydragon32 4y ago
How? Haha, it makes absolutely no sense to think that your position in the sexual market has something to do with your worth as a human being or that there aren't sexual market values because of that
Blood-on-the-Blade 4y ago
you disagree because you don't have a man and you're in your fifties. Elvis....
Unlikely-Ordinary653 4y ago
That’s actually not the case, but I do not need a man to define myself. Lol
[deleted] 4y ago
Do you not think women should be able to vote?
SilverAndAlgorand 4y ago
No.
bdaydragon32 4y ago
Honestly, no
cheez_Ina_pan 4y ago
Lol why? That’s absurd.
Vinegar88 4y ago
Women's decisions are based more on emotion, and are highly manipulable as well. Women tend to default their political and societal views to whatever is the generally accepted views in society. Hence our current predicament and why "red pill women" is even a thing. That being said, with as many feminized men as there are now, and the absolute joke that democracy is (two party system - CorpoLiberal and CorpoLiberal Lite, easy to falsify votes/foreign & dual citizenship voters) voting is an absolute joke anyways.
bdaydragon32 4y ago
Voting comes with a bunch of other responsabilities (militar ones specially, but many others too) and women aren't fullfiling, and if we were, we would be doing them incorrectly due to our physical and mental differences. So we don't deserve to vote.
Debatable, and it may be a weak argument without the proper research about it (which I haven't done to respond to your comment), my second reason is that women are more likely to make irrational decisions and reason around the same problem instead of looking into the future, it is said that women are protectors so we have a circular mentality while men have a linear mentality.
Currently I can't vote, but when I am able to, I'll make sure to duplicate my husband's vote so it doesn't go to waste and offset in some way the vote of another female.
If you have an argument that contradicts this, let me know but I won't be replying to your comment since this looks like a purple pill debate which isn't allowed in the sub, you can DM me if you want of course.
Amongtheruins88 4y ago
I’m very surprised you’re getting downvoted for this on a red pill sub. I just goes to show, even women who claim to be against feminism still succumb to its influence without realizing it. Being emotional rather than logical creatures, women are easily manipulated by propaganda. Most women just vote according to what the most popular view is.
And it’s not just women, the majority of people shouldn’t be able to vote. The idea that someone who can’t even read can cancel out a scholar’s vote just goes to show that it’s not in the best interest of society for everyone to vote. The vast majority of people lack the intelligence and agency to be qualified in deciding how to run a country. I would happily give away my voting rights if it meant that only the most intelligent, qualified people could make important decisions for the best interest of society.
PippeliPaavo 4y ago
Yes. How many people actually understand enough about geopolitics to have an understanding of foreign affairs decision making? It's less than 0.1%. And even domestic decision making is complex and usually people have this first level understanding of some basic aspect of an issue but not even 1% of what is needed to have an opinion on the matter. Like raising prices of gas for greenhouse but then not understanding the cascade effects of that.
But I don't really agree with taking women's right to vote away. Doesn't make much sense. It's not as if the average male is somehow a beacon of political knowledge. I have many male friends in leadership roles but I don't think one of them could describe Russia's ambitions in Ukraine or why Taiwan is so important to China. It's not because of historical reasons as is usually thought. Taiwan's industries have unexpected strategic importance.
bdaydragon32 4y ago
Absolutely absolutely right. Yes, this "whatever the herd says is correct" system is quite a problem, and sadly, I'm not surprised I got angry and defensive answers, it does go to show what you said. And I also agree that most people aren't qualified to decide what's best for their country or state, this is all a televised charisma contest after all.
katx_x 4y ago
what are the physical and mental differences that make women vote incorrectly?
bdaydragon32 4y ago
I said to fullfill the responsabilities that come with voting. Very easy example, reduced physical and emotional strenght to be a functional part of the army.
katx_x 4y ago
is the army the most important thing for any given country? is there nothing else of importance? is the only metric for a person being able to fulfill a voting responsibility the ability to function in the army?
bdaydragon32 4y ago
I said for example. And yeah, if you can't be a full citizen, you can't get the benefits but not the responsabilities of being one. That's what I mean.
Like I said to the other girl (I think she was a girl), I don't want this to break the rules, so I won't be replying if you do but my DMs are open whenever you want.
Jazzlike-Emu-9235 4y ago
My question to you is what about the women in the army? I get it's just an example you gave but to me that's being a wonderful citizen similar to I feel like to be a good citizen you should also help your community such as through volunteering or certain jobs like working in a nursing home. I'm genuinely curious as to what you see as a fit citizen
bdaydragon32 4y ago
You're right in the volunteering part. My point is that you are not risking your life or there is no obligation for you to do it, and if you do, you're not very useful, yes, it is harsh but I don't think women are very useful in the army, sorry. Yes, I've met women who were part of it and they are nothing compared to what men are in that context.
Jazzlike-Emu-9235 4y ago
Ah I see what you're saying. I think women have roles they can do in the army but I do agree with you though they are not going to be as good at it due to simple biological differences especially in a combat sense
submissivehousewife1 4y ago
I’m a homemaker, soon to be stay at home mom, I also believe in gender roles, I believe men should lead, I really hate the whole feminism thing, especially now because it’s not even equality for all, it’s turned into how women are superior, and I just don’t like it. My husband makes all the final decisions, I’m just here for support and to make his home life easier. I’m submissive, I don’t nag, I try to be sexually available at all times (even though being pregnant has taken a toll on it but we’re getting back into the swing of things.) I try to make sure I’m always presentable, (ex; the house is clean if anyone were to stop by, I watch my weight, even while pregnant. I never talk over my husband, especially in front of other people, I make it known he’s in charge, especially when I’m with other women who talk shit about their husbands/boyfriends.)
Now, I’m all for people living how they want, I have no say in what anyone else does and I don’t care. But this is how I want my household. And I love it
Only-Ad-1442 4y ago
Would you say your life is easy or that you enjoy your life? Does he make an effort to make sure that your life is enjoyable or is it all about him?
submissivehousewife1 4y ago
I would say I have the easiest life and I’m the happiest I could’ve ever imagined I’d be. I don’t have to worry about money, I don’t have to worry about bills. Obviously once this baby comes and we have more children I’ll be busier, but I’d 100% rather be stressed about my kids than a job I hate for little pay. Even with kids causing stress and being tired I’ll get more reward out of taking care of them than I’d ever get at a job. I won’t miss my babies first steps, or their first words. These are the most important things to me. I’m extremely happy and everyday I wake up with no worries, that’s the best feeling ever. My biggest worry is getting down the stairs with my belly getting bigger and carrying the laundry, which he does for me if I need it. He’s the most caring man ever, he is understanding, especially now that I am pregnant I was sick for the first 6 months, throwing up and staying in bed most of the time and he never complained once. I swear not once. He tells me how beautiful I am, he tells me how much he appreciates everything I do for him, just being his wife is the most rewarding thing. I grew up watching my mother go to work everyday, come home late and just be so stressed, same with my dad, they are still married but I always wished my mom could be home with me, and I always wanted to be a stay at home parent, but I never thought it would be possible, I never thought I get to live my dream, and then I met my husband. He does more for me than I do for him I think. Yes I serve him, but he truly takes care of me in every way. He really makes an effort to keep me happy, we go out on dates, he brings me food if I want it, I’m not big on gifts but I love cards, he makes sure to get me a card every holiday and he writes the sweetest things in them. He does everything I need him to do and then some. Which is why I’m happy to do whatever he wants me to.
Only-Ad-1442 4y ago
This is a great response. I think most women fear submission to men because they feel it will be one sided. And you first post sounded extremely one sided. I’m glad to hear that he’s also taking care of you. And congrats on your growing family.
SplenduhP0py 4y ago
I have a question, how do you straggle the line of eating enough/watching your weight while pregnant?
raddikicks 4y ago
i'm actually a socialist but the onlyfans normalization in 2018 radicalized me about gender politics, and every experience i have socializing with other women in real life makes me feel further and further disconnected from the current social role i was expected to assume as an 18 year old zoomer middle class girl. i'd rather die that go to four year and guzzle a cocktail of birth control and zoloft downed with binge drinking at parties and casual sex that will leave me as emotionally numb when i graduate as i'd be physically if i spent the whole time death gripping myself 2 hours a day.
the same thing that makes me not consider myself part of the right - scientific facts like social psychology and biology, are the things that make me want to completely avoid the culturally pornsick lifestyle offered to me and my female peers just because we were born with vaginas. i know how much the commodification of my body, autonomy and humanity would hurt me emotionally, let alone the degree of damage it does to the other women i'm dragging down.
there's also a reactionary tinge to it as well. people (specifically my white middle class female peers going to college to pursue a "career,,) seem to get superfluously and bafflingly pissy over stay at home wives and moms. i'm assuming it's some kind of subconscious envy or resentment but i love starting debates with people i know i can walk circles around with my actual arguments and prepared debunking off all their preprogrammed responses lmaooo
katx_x 4y ago
what are you planning to do in the future? are you going to/in college? what do you mean by "career,, ?
raddikicks 4y ago
i'm like halfway to a bachelor's degree in sociology right now, i started pretty early though and i'm probably just gonna stay a full-time student until i get a bored or my life-partner gets his law degree and we adopt kids, whichever comes first.
i would consider a 'career' to be a specific position in a field that someone studied for a limited amount of time to work specifically as that position (marketing, nursing etc) whereas i'm only really in school because i really enjoy learning and academics, and i'm totally not going to pass on the privilege of a mostly-paid for education just to sit at home and watch tv until i'm old enough to get married
growingstronk 4y ago
Do you not want your own kids?
raddikicks 4y ago
i'm probably gonna have one biological kid young because i want to be able to experience the whole pregnancy and motherhood process but besides that, why would i not adopt?
if i have the resources it would just feel selfish for me to only have my own while there's so many babies and kids without a home and family who would be just as valid and deserve love as much as my own biological ones would...
thepretendchristian 4y ago
I’ve accepted some cold truths of life.
Sex and reproduction are the apex to our existence.
Men and women are different and that’s ok.
The family unit is the strongest foundation to build on.
People aren’t necessarily inherently evil, they just look after themselves and their people first.
If it isn’t broke, don’t fix it and don’t find reasons to break it for the sake of fixing it.
Just because a majority of people are doing something or believes in something, doesn’t mean it’s good.
Most of your problems are your own fault and only you can fix them.
SilverAndAlgorand 4y ago
I believe in biological differences between men and women and biblical roles for men and women.
XxPorcelainDollxX 4y ago
I am anti feminist that also believes in traditional gender roles. I think being a housewife is better than career. I’m planning to work less hours so I can have more time looking after kids and the home when I get married (I already have a bachelors degree)
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