I have been in love w a man for the past three years. We have always had a different power ranking in our relationship, and I have always been very submissive. After we didn’t speak for a week, I had an indiscretion that seems to have derailed our relationship. He now tends to look for validation through other woman in order to feel as if he has power over me after I made a mistake. I am new to this subreddit and am hoping to get some advice as to how to how to treat him well and reinstall in him that I feel as if he is the only man for me. Being new here, I am unfamiliar with how to be a red pill woman. Is there a way to rebuild something that I have broken, by showing him that I still view him at my superior?
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soldat21 3y ago
People don’t just “accidentally” sleep with people, it’s either in your character or not.
A high value man won’t tolerate cheating, because he knows there’s someone out there who won’t do that for him.
Honestly, I doubt he’ll be okay with it, I’d consider the relationship mostly done, and this is the final throws of it.
yogaknight66 3y ago
You can’t get over that type of “ mistake” with a partner.
rosesonthefloor 3y ago
How old are each of you, how long have you been in an exclusive relationship, and what was this “mistake/indiscretion” you made?
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I am 21 and he 22. We were exclusive for a year before this happened. I had a one night stand when I over drank and thought we were on a break. It is the second person I have slept with in college. I never had slept with someone casually before nor have I ever again.
Blackhawk2479 3y ago
Why did you not speak for a week?
Niki_Biryani 3y ago
You cheated on your partner. I doubt he will ever be able to respect you or this relationship. The only way he'll forgive you is by cheating on you just to get even.
pearlsandstilettos 3y ago
Please stick to the men's subs from now on.
MrHistoryLesson 3y ago
I don't think that getting "even" would fix anything.
Besides, the actions of OP shows that she neither wants nor deserves exclusive relationships - perhaps she should leave the poor guy alone.
CigarettesandAsh 3y ago
To be fair, it sounds like they're both young and immature and not ready for an adult relationship.
But OP seems to have deleted her account, so that's that.
bot123356678 3y ago
I think she was young and made a mistake. It sounds as if he hadn’t spoken to her for a week, and she had no idea they were together. Can a relationship not come back from a genuine mistake?
angelicasinensis 3y ago
I was in a relationship like this in my early twenties- I just want to say don’t beat yourself up too much but also realize that you had a one night stand because he wasn’t available for you emotionally , it’s a two way street. I did the whole back and forth thing with my partner for YEARS and it ended up such a mess, I wish I would have gotten out of it sooner.
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