I have been seeing a high RMV male lately.

-Very attractive (beautiful smile and eyes). I also love his hair because he doesn't glue it in place with gel or anything stupid like that; it just kind of flows. I love the way he dresses. It's tasteful but not over-the-top/hipster/anything gay-looking. Very masculine. And he def. has the tall, dark and handsome thing going on. All of that topped with the sexiest southern accent I've ever heard in my life

-He's stable: seems happy and calm, loves his career as a petroleum engineer, older than me (and I know most of you already know about my hang-up with younger men)

-Not boring and highly intelligent, and direct: instead of the typical boyish "can I kiss you" "do you want to get ice cream" "can I walk you to your car" I normally get when seeing someone new he just does things without asking (I think it's sexy as anything). I am very quiet, shy, introverted and have a lot of trouble communicating with men. Either I get bored of them or they get bored of me, but with this one... we could talk, goof off, and play around all day

This post has a point. I'm not done bragging yet.

-Stays off social media and doesn't text me a zillion times a day because he is a grown up with responsibilities and not a little baby

-No beta traits: more of an alpha/sigma. He's very direct, does whatever he wants, and seems unafraid of truth-telling

-Amazing kisser. I could kiss him all day. A couple months ago I made a post about how much I hate kissing new men I'm dating because it makes me feel uncomfortable... but with him. Wow. I could kiss him forever!

Okay, so this has two points:

  1. At what point do you accept someone as "captain"? I'm falling for this person hard and it scares me. I haven't felt this way in years

  2. (out of curiosity) what is a high RMV male to you personally? what traits does he possess?

Thanks, Landry

***disclaimer: (edited for clarification) and for the purpose of staying on topic: my relationship status is mostly a joke and indicative for my love of sigmas. I am different from most RPW in that I have no desire for settling for a beta for I may be bored to death and feel unprotected. Yes, being with a man who is too alpha has its issues, but I'm not in love with Gammas like everyone else is. Sigmas are my thing. From personal experience, they're usually smarter. They're not necessarily always the relationship-type of guy but some of them are. It's a rare find and no, they aren't always serial killers

This is a good blog for helping you understand:

http://daxgray.com/what-is-a-sigma-male/

Sigmas are more independent than alphas. They are almost always in monk mode and don't usually let women into their lives but can be very good mates because of their honesty. Some are good. Some are bad. Some are monogamous romantics and others are plate-spinners. A good sigma (to me) is legitimate captain material. They enter monogamous relationships because they WANT to as opposed to societal or other outside pressures forcing it to happen.