It is very nice to read that there are women out there who acknowledge and accept that men see things differently! I must share my personal experiences with you, they are funny and bitter the same time. Although not about relationships, it still speaks about female-male differences.

I have difficulty helping and cooperating with female family members. Any time my mom or granny asks me for help I start to stress on it. It begins with a discussion about solving the problem at hand. Usually she has no real idea how to solve it, so I figure it out and start to work, asking for help from her on the way. Things go south when the job is half way done. Usually she finds out at that point how we should have done it from the beginning. What makes me angry at this point is the fact (as women usually do), she asks me for this favor at least days before, like "Could you help me with this next Tuesday?". So there is plenty of time to think about the solution for both of us. I usually don't wait until the given date if I have figured out the solution. So we both have time to figure things out, yet when the job is almost done, I'm supposed to undo it to do it the way she figured it out mid flight. Even if her way of solving the problem is better, it is still waste of time, since the job is at midpoint, and she had time prior to the deeds to think about it.

Other thing bothering me is, when a woman asks a little favor which does not require planning and can be done right away. She usually asks to do it some time in the not so distant future. Yet when I decide to do it immediately, she starts to tell me that I don't need to do it now and she doesn't want me to get bothered with it. So she makes it look like I was offended and in anger decided to make the problem disappear as fast as possible. I am not bothered, I simply don't want forget about it, and it is easier to get it done as fast as possible.

The same goes with younger females. I hated helping both of my little sisters in learning. Every time I explained them something, I was at fault for them not understanding it, because the teacher explained in another way (which they obviously did not understand), so I'm mixing them up, thus making it more difficult for them to understand. So I was asked for help, and now despite my efforts and her barricading herself if excuses; I am the culprit for their failure. I have also observed that many times if they get stuck because they forgot something they previously knew, they get defensive or even offensive. Meaning, if they forget some algorithm which is part of the solution (which I thought them), I got similar statements, like "How the hell should I know this?!" or "You never taught me this!".

I get much better along with women who don't feel shame or guilt for asking help, are more relaxed, and don't take a kindly addressed explanation as an offense.

For me it is much easier to work with my dad. We discuss a plan in advance, share ideas and acknowledge if the other one's is better. Yes, we still recognize if something could have done better, but we don't redo the whole thing unless it is really necessary. Things simply click better. We don't need to look at each other when communicating, understand the other one from half words, give tools into the others hand in advance. Sadly I have very few female acquaintances with whom I can interact with in the same way.

Bottom line is, if a woman trusts the male's decision and lets him go along (sometimes even fail) and mentions her ideas as ideas, not as intended solutions, then there will be a better cooperation where the peers recognize where the other is better and he is worse.